28 minutes | Feb 9, 2023

Staying Curious and Managing Differences Within Friendships

I feel like everybody wants the easy button to friendship.

And while there isn’t an easy button, I do think managing friendship dynamics is something you can get better at. I also think a lot of us are making it harder than it needs to be.

A lot of people tell me they want friends who are in the same place as them. Maybe that means they want friends who are parents. Friends who have the same interests. Friends who are in similar financial situations. Couple friends.

It makes sense; managing differences is difficult. It’s easier to be friends with people doing the same things as us. But even if you make friends with people who are in the same life moment as you, at some point, if this is a lasting friendship, you will have to manage differences with these friends.

So that’s what today’s episode is about: managing differences with new and established friends, and how staying open and curious can actually SUPERCHARGE our friendships.

In this episode you’ll hear about:

  • How friends are some of the only people we don’t necessarily factor into big life choices – which means we’re constantly making different life choices than our friends
  • Putting your best foot forward – i.e., morphing ourselves to become desirable friends – and how this is inauthentic and takes more energy in the long run
  • Managing differences within friendships that already exist – and why it can be more difficult with these friends than with new ones
  • The importance of staying curious and seeing our friends’ lives as windows into other ways of living, which can help alleviate problems and SUPERCHARGE friendships

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