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Tonya Leigh has set a goal to assist 5,000 women in creating their "after" and documenting the process. She considers the reviews left by listeners on iTunes as a form of "after" because they share how the podcast has impacted their lives. The host expresses gratitude towards the listeners who have left a review and encourages others who have benefited from the podcast to do the same. In this episode, the concept of be actions versus outcome actions is discussed in detail. Tonya explains that most people struggle to achieve their goals because they focus solely on the outcome they want, rather than the person they need to become to achieve that goal. She emphasizes the importance of focusing on one's identity or "being" rather than just the outcome or "getting." The host gives examples from her own life, such as struggling with weight loss and money, where she would take outcome actions such as going on a diet or trying to work out, but would ultimately sabotage herself and go back to her old state of being. She realized she needed to focus on becoming the person she wanted to become, rather than just achieving the outcome.  By focusing on 'be actions', the outcome will become effortless, and once the outcome is achieved, it will be easier to sustain because the person's identity has already changed to match what they want. By focusing on creating small wins and little bits of evidence every day that she is a fit woman, the host is able to shift her focus from the outcome to her self-image. She creates new neural pathways that confirm her new identity, and as a result, her outcomes change. Tonya emphasizes that changing one's identity is the key to achieving desired outcomes, not the other way around. [00:02:25] Be actions vs. outcome actions. [00:05:02] Overcoming limiting beliefs. [00:08:45] Changing identity for effortless outcome.   Quotes:  When I think about myself having a fit body, then who is she? How does she identify? What is her self-image? We create our extraordinary goal, which is the outcome that we want. But then we look at who do we need to become to achieve that goal, to achieve that outcome. The reason why the majority of people struggle in achieving their goals is because they are taking action for an outcome versus taking action for a new state of being. We focus on changing our identity so that the outcome literally becomes effortless. Useful Resources:      Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join       FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/       Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south     Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:       Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com       Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh         Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial       TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh          YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, Tonta Leigh discusses the "dos and don'ts" of living a charmed life, inspired by a quote from Neil Donald Walsh. She encourages listeners to be the source of charm in the lives of others and to make everyone they touch feel lucky for crossing paths with them. Tanya also shares some anecdotes from her personal life, including hosting family and training for her first pickleball tournament. Finally, she reminds listeners that it's the little things in everyday life that can bring the most joy.   [00:03:35] Living a charmed life. [00:04:33] The meaning of 'charm'.  [00:06:20] SOSI South.  [00:13:01] Being a Giver, not a taker.   [00:16:51] Impress yourself.   [00:21:13] Stop focusing on the unattractive.   [00:25:03] Don't sweat the small stuff.    [00:29:29] Slowing down for a charmed life.   Quotes:  Charm means the power of giving delight or arousing admiration to achieve something as if by magic. Life gives to the giver and takes from the taker. Live to impress yourself. Another thing to do if you want to live a charmed life is to unplug from the unattractive. Charm and complaining don't go together. But the other beautiful thing about slowing down is that you begin to realize that life can only be as beautiful as you make this moment."   Useful Resources:    Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join     FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/     Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com     Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh       YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Thinking on Your Life: The Importance of Planning Your Future In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh talks about the importance of setting aside time to think about your life. She emphasizes that planning your life on purpose is necessary in order to bear the fruits of a well-planned life. Tonya encourages listeners to take time to think about their life direction and make plans to change it if necessary. She reflects on the impact of COVID on the world's pace and how it forced people to slow down and be with their own thoughts, which can be scary at times. The episode ends with an invitation for listeners to take time to reflect on their life and make it a priority. [00:02:05] Time to think during COVID. [00:07:11] Deep thinking for a better life. [00:11:00] Creativity and fulfillment. [00:14:01] Creating thinking time.   Useful Resources:      Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join       FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/       Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:       Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com       Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh         Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial       TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh          YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial      

The Impact of Travel on Self-Image: A Conversation with Solo Travel Expert Alessia Tenebruso In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, life coach Tonya Leigh interviews her first video podcast guest, Alessia Tenebruso, owner of "One Girl Travel," a solo travel-focused life coaching company. Alessia shares her experience of how solo travel has changed her self-image and how it can empower women. Tonya and Alessia also discuss the benefits of travel for personal development and creating a positive self-image. [00:03:18] Travel and self-image impact. [00:04:07] Solo travel as personal growth. [00:08:05] Traveling alone safety tips. [00:11:22] What thoughts you're telling yourself. [00:15:23] Living life like a vacation. [00:20:25] Fashion and identity while traveling. [00:23:46] I am my future self. [00:27:41] Solo travel forces decisiveness. [00:29:38] Solo traveling guide.   Quotes:   Even if it's just a weekend away, at a nearby resort or hotel just to give yourself that experience. When you begin this journey, it's going to be uncomfortable like I'm telling you upfront It will be uncomfortable knowing that going into it and do it anyway. When I'm traveling that's like when I get to dream and think of what I want and what I don't want. It's a very Reflective time.   Useful Resources:    One Girl Travel: https://onegirltravel.com/      Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join       FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/       Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:       Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com       Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh         Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial       TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh          YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

On this episode of the School of Self-Image Podcast with host and Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, she breaks down her top lessons from growing up in the South. Tonya is back in the South after being away for many years and reflects upon the importance of environment in personal development. With deep gratitude for being back home, she admires the beauty of the trees in Charlotte, North Carolina, and the lessons that served her well growing up in the South. [00:00:00] Growing Up in the South. [00:06:33] Don't get too big. [00:11:20] Never be too busy. [00:12:54] Balancing goals and relationships. [00:19:56] Slowing down and being present. [00:21:44] Living life in a rush.   Quotes: When I think about my future self she always makes time for her family and friends. My mom did the best with what she had and she really taught me a beautiful lesson that I didn't realize was so important until later when I noticed that a lot of people around me had a lot of fear around using their best and for me I was like this is just what we do. There was a level of expectation as to how you treated each other and now I realize it's one of the things that I appreciate about the French culture.  I didn't realize it at the time but ma'am and sir come from the French madame and monsieur.  There is a level of civility and respect for one another and how you communicate and how you address people, how you talk and I think that is a beautiful thing. Quite honestly, it's missing in a large portion of our society today.   Useful Resources:      Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join       FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/       Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:       Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com       Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh         Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial       TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh          YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh talks about the importance of being sold on oneself and emotional fluency. She challenges the listener to believe in their own value, worth, and capabilities. Tonya emphasizes the need to appreciate where we are now and not fight against it. She also shares about her current workshop, the Royal Treatment Workshop, and the positive feedback she has received from participants. The episode ends with a reminder to focus on where we can reach from where we are now.   [03:13] Self-image and weight loss. [00:08:04] The Slim Self-Image. [00:10:13] Emotional fluency. [00:14:18] Primary emotional language. [00:17:35] Back to harmony with  your self-image. [00:22:08] Emotional language keeping  you stuck. [00:26:37] Transitional emotions.   Quotes:  One of the most important aspects of self-image is understanding our emotions. In order to become emotionally fluent, we must practice our new language. We must be willing to feel the discomfort of change and the discomfort of letting go of familiar emotions. We must believe in ourselves and our abilities to succeed. We must be sold on ourselves.   Useful Resources:      Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join       FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/       Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:       Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com       Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh         Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial       TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh          YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial      

In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses the value of personal opinions. She starts by encouraging listeners to join the School of Self-Image membership program. She then mentions her own obsessions, including pickleball and the world of style. Tonya talks about how many of us struggle with valuing our own opinions and conforming to society's expectations. She shares tips for building confidence and believing in our own opinions, including understanding our values and setting boundaries. Tonya reminds listeners that their opinions matter and encourages them to speak up and share their unique perspectives with the world. [00:02:06] Lessons from building a house. [00:03:48] Valuing our own opinions. [00:04:38] Women wanting to be saved. [00:09:28] Being mentally lazy. [00:13:39] Do this one thing right now.  [00:16:59] Your opinion matters the most.   Quotes:    I am loving learning all the things about color and scale. And it's very similar to styling yourself. It's just taking a lot of those same principles and applying them to your home. I was thinking about why is it that we don't value our own opinion. Why is it that we ask other people their opinion and value it over our own? And I'm really curious about what you think. What is your opinion about this? And we began to just be a sponge for everybody else's opinions without being encouraged to come up with our own. And that is exactly why when clients come to me and they'll ask me a question, I will be like, I don't know, you tell me, what do you think?   Useful Resources:     FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/       Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/       Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/       Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/...       Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOf...       TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

"Overcome the Fear of Being Seen: A Guide to Embodying Your Queen Energy".   SUMMARY    Tonya Leigh is a master life coach and the host of the School of Self-Image podcast. In this episode, she is discussing the importance of having the courage to be seen.    Courage is an important quality to cultivate in order to be successful in life. This is why self-image work is so important. It involves seeing yourself as worthy, capable and deserving, and then having the courage to back this up with action. This is why the School of Self-Image is offering a five day workshop, where participants will learn valuable things and will be taught in a new way. It's a great opportunity to bring friends, family and confidants along. During the episode, Ambrose Red Moon's quote about courage is discussed, which states that courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear. This is a useful reminder when it comes to overcoming the fear of being seen, which is a common fear for many people.   In this conversation, Tonya discusses the fear of being seen and the reasons why people may be afraid of this. The fear of judgement, rejection, and failure, as well as cultural norms and trauma that may have been experienced when being seen. Tonya also talks about how the majority of the world is actually rooting for people to be seen, and encourages them to take up space and express themselves. The key takeaway from this conversation is that although it may be scary to be seen, it is worth it to live a full, authentic and bold life.   What We Cover in This Episode:   0:00:00   Stepping Into Your Queen Energy    0:01:50   Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen   0:04:27   Self-Discovery and Awareness   0:06:12   Overcoming Fear and Embracing Your Authentic Self   0:13:23   Reflections on Courage and Self-Judgment   0:15:48   Fear of Being Judged: How to Embrace Courage and Reach Extraordinary Goals"   0:17:39   A Challenge for the Week   Quotes:   Would you rather be like the person who's on stage giving it their all or the person up in the stands criticizing?   Because, let's face it, if you've been fearing being seen for years, maybe even decades, it's not going to go away overnight.    A big life requires that you feel big emotions. So this means that the courage to be seen is not about not fearing it.   To me, the other reason why you may be afraid of being seen is because of cultural norms.   It's a lot of self discovery and awareness and overcoming fear. And one of the common fears that I see when women start to dress differently is that they're so afraid of getting attention because their entire lives, they've dressed to avoid that attention, because attention is scary.    I'm talking about being seen for who you are. Have you ever had that person in your life who just sees you? You know that they see who you really are, and there's so much love and celebration and acceptance of that. It's a beautiful thing.   Useful Resources:      FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto      Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here: http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/      Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:      Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/        Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/...        Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOf...        TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool      YouTube:    / @tonyaleighofficial 

  "Unleash Your Inner Queen: 3 Crown Jewels of Queen Energy"   SUMMARY    In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the three crown jewels of Queen Energy - ways of being and attitudes that create Queen energy. The first crown jewel is taking commitments to oneself seriously. The second crown jewel is self-care. The third crown jewel is that of an attitude of acceptance.    A queen is someone who takes their commitments to themselves seriously and does not shy away from the discomfort of making changes in order to become a powerful leader of their own life. A queen also has a 'red velvet rope'; they know how to set boundaries and limit access to their life. This can mean saying no to people and events they don't want to participate in. A queen is someone who sets high standards for themselves and respects their own needs and wants. They understand that in order to achieve their goals, they must make sacrifices and push through the discomfort of change. This conversation is about why it is important to set boundaries for yourself in order to be the queen of your life.    What we cover in this episode:   0:00:00   "The Three Crown Jewels of Queen Energy: Taking Your Commitments to Yourself Seriously"   0:04:05   Building Trust with Yourself   0:07:48   Becoming a Queen: Crown Jewels 1 & 2   0:10:09   "The Power of the Red Velvet Rope: Setting Boundaries and Becoming a Queen of Your Life"   0:14:54   Exploring Queen Energy: Accepting Yourself Fully to Create Results and Feel Better   0:17:12   Accepting Yourself: A Conversation on How to Embrace Your Humanness and Move Forward in Life   0:20:30   "The Three Jewels of Queen Energy: Taking Commitments to Yourself Seriously, Creating Boundaries, and Accepting Yourself Fully"   Quotes:   We have to be willing to have our own backs. And to me, that is the epitome of Queen Energy.    A queen takes her commitments to herself seriously.   Anything that you do that's unfamiliar is difficult. In the beginning, our brain wants to fight the unfamiliar because the brain doesn't trust it. And so part of being a queen, and this is not even one of the crown jewels, but it encompasses all of this, is that you must be willing to feel discomfort in order to change and step up and be the powerful leader of your own life. So that is crown jewel number one.   And every time you make a commitment to yourself and you don't show up for it, you are breaking trust with yourself.     Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here: http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/ Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ  

"Fostering a Positive Public Image Through Developing Self-Image"   SUMMARY    In this episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of self-image over public image. She is recording from a destination location she has dreamed of visiting for 15 years: The Maldives.    Between snorkeling in an aquarium-like environment every day and playing pickleball with her friends, Tonya is unplugging from technology to enjoy the moment and treat herself like a queen. Inspired and rested, Tonya will be hosting a five-day workshop soon called the Royal Treatment. Stay tuned for more information coming soon.     So what’s the difference between self-image and public image? Aligning the two can create extraordinary results. Self-image refers to how a person perceives and sees themselves, including their thoughts, appearance, personality, and capabilities. Public image, on the other hand, is related to how one is perceived by the external world and is shaped by one's self-image.    This conversation explores self-image, the mental picture you have of yourself, and includes your strengths, weaknesses, and personal characteristics. This is shaped by your experiences, beliefs, and values. Tonya also explores public image, how other people perceive you, and is shaped by your behaviors, actions, and interactions. Although both are important, without a strong self-image, true happiness, and well-being can't be achieved. When working on your public image, it is important to do it in service of who you are becoming, not just to impress others. Doing this work in service of yourself, focusing on your self-image first, will have a positive impact on your public image.   What we cover in this episode:   0:00:00  Guess where I am?   0:01:06   Dreaming of the Maldives and Experiencing the Royal Treatment   0:03:17   Exploring the Difference Between Self Image and Public Image   0:11:44   The Impact of Positive Self Image on Public Image   0:13:43   Aligning Your Self Image with Your Public Image   Quotes:   Without a positive self-image, you are going to suffer. It doesn't matter how great your public image is. If how you see yourself isn't compassionate and loving and kind and positive, it is going to impact your sense of well being, which is why we always have to bring it back to how we see ourselves.    It's so hard to keep up a positive public image when your self-image is so negative.    It's hard to create what you want unless you're willing to change your self-image to allow for that result. So I will always vote for self-image as being more important than public image.   Your public image, on the other hand, refers to how other people perceive you as an individual. It's the external representation that you want to present to others and it's the story that other people have about you and it is shaped by your behaviors, your actions, and the way you interact with other people.     Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here: http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

Your home is a reflection of the stage or even the state of mind you are in.     Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This is a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.   Do you agree that your home is a reflection of who you are? Because I strongly believe that your home represents and reveals so much about a person, even their personality. The way you decorate your home, the colors you choose, and the furnishings you choose based on your preferences, speak volumes about you.   The things you display such as photographs or mementos that connect to your values and beliefs show what is most important to you. And what about your experiences? Do you travel? Do you cherish those memories and places?  Anyone who enters your home will know this instantly depending on what they see.  Is your home calm, cluttered,  busy, or colorful? What does your home reveal about you?  Over the years of moving from one place to another, I've had so many where I have learned so much about someone just by living for a time in their space. Your home is part of your self-image, even without you knowing it. If you’re curious to know more about what your home reveals about you, head over and listen to this week’s episode!  What I Cover In This Episode: 0:00 - Intro 1:21 - Tips for getting things done 2:15 - What does ‘home mean to you’? 6:05 - How is Tonya Leigh living her life? 10:44 - What is your home saying about you? 14:14 - My top 4 values 15:38 - What is your version of your own ‘ideal wealthy home’? 21:44 - How to be a woman for the future? 23:23 - Reasons why your home is a great reflection of who you are Quotes:   “I often say your inner world creates your outer world. So, how you think and feel impacts the choices that you make, and those choices create results equal to your outer world. Everything that's around your environment, your home, the people you hang out with impact your inner world.”   “I'm a big advocate of changing your outer world to help you change your inner one. One of the ways that we can do that is to focus on elevating, transforming, and possibly even changing our home ~ the place that we live because our home reveals so much about us.”   “When we're looking at our homes, it tells a big meta-story about us. It can tell us our fears. It can tell us about our darkest secrets. It can tell us about our personality, and our dreams. Our house can reveal so much. It also offers us a snapshot of what's going on within us at this moment.”   “I look around at the things that I've chosen to have.  Over the next year as we live here, it's actually really telling. That's the beauty of a home. It will reveal to you what's important. It will reveal to you what your values are. It will reveal to you maybe even your dreams and your fears.”   “No matter the state of your home right now, you are an amazing, beautiful woman. So what your home is revealing about you is simply your thought and about your environment, because at the end of the day, that's our whole experience, what we think about everything.” Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

Overcome Superwoman Syndrome: Prioritize, Say No and Get Help   SUMMARY    This episode is dedicated to all the superwomen out there who are trying to do it all and be it all. Host Tonya Leigh explains how many women find themselves in the predicament of trying to fulfill multiple roles such as being a career woman, mother, wife, friend, daughter and more while also trying to maintain high standards in each role. This is referred to as the Superwoman Syndrome, a term coined in the 1980s by Dr. Marjorie Hansen Chavez in her book The Superwoman Syndrome. Women may feel guilty or ashamed if they cannot meet their own expectations and feel like they need to do and be everything to everyone. The Superwoman Syndrome is a condition which leads to burnout, stress, and other negative health outcomes. People afflicted with the syndrome are not prioritizing their self care, playing, or resting, as they are too busy trying to live up to the expectations of others. To get out of the toxic cycle of the Superwoman Syndrome, one must understand the root of the fear and deal with it. Additionally, they must be willing to say no to things that are not important to them in order to help them focus on their most important priorities. Finally, they must acknowledge that this may mean disappointing some people, but it is necessary in order to take control of one's life.   Here  is what we cover in this episode:    0:00:00   Exploring the Superwoman Syndrome: A Conversation with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh   0:02:54   Understanding the Causes and Consequences of Superwoman Syndrome   0:04:34   Facing the Fear of Not Being Good Enough   0:09:25   Prioritizing and Saying No   0:13:37   Self Care, Saying No, and Being Imperfect   0:15:38   Tips for Entrepreneurs   0:17:57   The Benefits of Hiring Help:  Taking Advantage of Available Resources   Quotes:    There's a thing where you can get a dog sitter. There are all these amazing apps with help at your fingertips, and yet a lot of you refuse to take advantage of it. Why? Why aren't you getting the help that you need?    To overcome superwoman syndrome, you're going to have to be willing to be imperfect and to realize that it's a beautiful thing. Because that means you've accepted yourself as you are. And you're showing up in your most expansive self. And expansive does not mean perfect. Expansive means true.    I'm not good enough, and I'm afraid of being found out. So let me put on this facade and pretend that I am perfect. This is what superwomen do.    Even when you make mistakes, even when you fail, even when it's not all buttoned up and buttoned up and tidy, you're still extraordinary. You're still amazing.   Let me tell you all, resentment is a telltale sign that you may be suffering from Superwoman Syndrome. So pay attention if you're feeling resentful or angry or frustrated on a daily basis. Those are three emotions that often indicate that you have this syndrome.    Stay connected!   FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ  

"Unlock Your Potential With A Pain Push - Your Guide To Personal Development Through Style & Self-Image" SUMMARY    In this episode of The School of Self-Image, the host Tonya Leigh talks about the concept of a pain push, which is a way of motivating yourself to take action and achieve your goals, even when you feel like you're sabotaging your own efforts. She explains that it's important to recognize what your pain points are, and use them as your motivators.    In this conversation, Tonya reflects on a moment in her life when she hit rock bottom and was fed up with her own behavior. She calls it a pain push and views it as a blessing in disguise that was the catalyst to make big changes in her life.    TIMESTAMPS    0:00:01   Episode #1: Harnessing the Power of a Pain Push to Take Action and Achieve Your Goals   0:02:15   "The Power of Being Fed Up: How Pain Can Be a Catalyst for Change"   0:06:03   Reflection on Rock Bottom Moment: A Catalyst for Change   0:08:26   Heading: Exploring the Concept of Pain Pushes Before the Pain   0:10:38   Using Pain as a Motivator: How to Get Moving Towards Your Goals   0:15:17   Exploring the Use of Pain as a Motivator for Change   0:17:05   "Using Pain to Push Yourself Towards Your Goals"   Quotes:   So maybe you want to visualize the pain. If you continue to do what you're currently doing, that's causing you to create results that are painful, that's causing you not to live the life that you know you're here to live and allow yourself to sit in that for a moment.   You have a brilliance within you and I'm simply here to help you figure out what that is.    You can think about something and the brain's like, oh, we're in trouble just from visualizing it and thinking about it. And so knowing this, how can you visualize pain in a way to inspire you to take action?   Sometimes, my friends, it takes a good old pain push to get you going.    Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ  

Summary:   What is your minimum style standard?  If you don’t know yet, this is the perfect episode ofor you. Setting a standard for yourself in so many areas of your life is important, including your style standard.  Maybe it is lip gloss and mascara before leaving the house, or never wearing sweats.  One of mine is, spoiler alert, hoodies.  Hoodies are great and many women can really rock a great hoodie.   But they just are not my style nor part of my style standard.     Style standards vary widely depending on a number of factors such as cultural norms, personal preferences, and current fashion trends. But your everyday style standard is focused on your expression of YOU. Styling what you wear helps boost confidence and a positive self-image. You want someone to see you, and your style, and know it expresses your unique authentic self.  This is the very reason why I emphasize style and I advocate it.    If you’re curious to know more about how you can start elevating your style standards, be sure to check out The Style Experience with me while you listen to this week’s episode!  What I Cover In This Episode: 0:00 - Intro 0:30 - Little things that count 1:25 - How do I decide what to wear  3:07 - What are my style standards? 3:57 - The importance of consistency 5:09 - The impact of your “I am” statements 6:11 - How to create your style standards 8:34 - How to raise your style standards 9:27 - How style is essential in boosting your confidence and self-respect 12:09 - Reasons why you should consider having your style standards 15:53 - How to define your purpose   Quotes:   “We can use our style and our environment to help us create new feelings. Which is why I'm an advocate of changing our environments. I'm an advocate of changing our style. I'm an advocate of taking action to shake things up. Because it gives you new perspectives. It allows you to access new thoughts. And it's a quick and easy way to shift the energy at the moment.”    “Do you have a set of operating principles that you live by that make it easy to make decisions in terms of how you dress, how you carry yourself, or how you communicate? These sets of operating principles also help you to see yourself in a way that serves you. They help you to elevate your self-image.”   “What my standard is may not be your standard. That's the point of style. Style is to be original to figure out who you want to be and to express that on purpose.”    “So stop being lazy, stop looking like a bum, let's get up, get dressed, and put our best self out to the world. But more importantly, put your best self out there for you.    “You can have one outfit, one pair of shoes, one statement necklace, one bold red lip, one haircut, one pantsuit, one pair of jeans, one jacket, but literally can change your life.” Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto Enroll now in The Style Experience with Tonya Leigh: https://schoolofselfimage.com/the-style-experience/   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

Uncovering The ROI Of Style   In this episode of School of Self-Image, host and Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, shares insights about the return on investment (ROI) of style. She shares how she has noticed improvements in her physical and mental health since moving to a new environment and how her friend has seen a tenfold increase in her business as a result of investing in style.    Instead of spending a lot of money on expensive clothing to appear wealthy, the ROI of true style is emotional. It will make the wearer feel abundant, confident, powerful, and great in their own skin. The conversation also discusses how investing in designer items, such as a handbag, can help change the wearer's self-image. It can provide evidence for what they want to believe about themselves and be life-changing. The speaker suggests that action alone isn't enough and that the action needs to be taken with purpose in order to change thoughts about oneself. Finally, the conversation wraps up by discussing how feeling better, more confident, and more empowered will also have an emotional ROI.   What I cover in this episode: 0:00:01 "Exploring the ROI of Style: A Conversation with Tanya Lee" 0:06:32 Exploring the Impact of Style on Our Lives 0:09:44 "The Importance of Taking Care of Yourself: How Our Appearance Affects Our Perception" 0:11:25 The ROI of True Style: Leveraging the Brain to Get a Return and Make Our Lives Better 0:17:26 "The Power of Intentional Dressing: How Investing in Your Style Can Lead to Financial and Emotional Returns" 0:19:48 "The Power of Style: How to Use Attention to Your Advantage" 0:24:11 The Power of Professional Style: How to Elevate Your First Impression and Increase Your Net Worth 0:26:37 "The Power of Elevating Your Status Through Style" 0:28:45 "The Power of Style: How to Make Lasting Impressions and Transform Your Self-Image"   Quotes:  You are trying to increase your net worth. You're wanting to attract quality men. You're wanting to place yourself in quality environments. And therefore, it's important that you match the energy of that which you want. Style has the ability to help you do that. The ROI of style also impacts your first impressions and making a great first impression matters.  So the emotional return on not only discovering your style, because that is a sign that you've taken the time to get to know yourself, that you know what you love and what you don't love, but also how you feel when you put an effort.  A Gucci or Chanel handbag isn't going to change your life unless you change how you see yourself.  Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ  

  "Dress to Attract: Using Style to Influence Your Life Trajectory"   SUMMARY    In this episode of the School of Self Image, host Tonya Lee reports good news for those who have been following her moving drama. Her things arrived and she is grateful. She shares how her mind can work in funny ways, as she was worried she was scammed after reading forums about people who had been scammed by movers. She encourages her community to focus on what they want and not take on other people's stories to avoid being a mess. In the end, her things arrived, in their completeness.   Tonya Leigg recently took on a six-month no shopping challenge and it was inspired by her realization that often when people make more money, they spin out of control and fill their lives with more and more things. She found that what people are really after is a feeling and that buying things does not necessarily create those feelings. She created a Style Experience program to help women get clear on what they want and how they want to show up in the world. In the program, they will engage in virtual style days, coaching calls, and the Style Lounge where the speaker will provide feedback and inspiration. Tonya discusses the importance of clothing and the effect that it can have on how one views themselves and how others see them. Everything is energy, and one's clothes are no different. According to the Law of Attraction, people will be attracted to those with similar dress styles. The speaker used to dress in scrubs and sweatpants to hide her body, but she changed when she discovered the Style Experience, which is a luxurious experience that helps people discover their unique style and how to express it.    What we cover in the episode:    0:00:00   Exploring the Power of Self-Image and Style   0:02:45   Reflection on Moving Day: A Conversation with Fonz and My Mom   0:04:15   The Role of Shopping and Clothes in Our Lives   0:09:28   The Impact of Your Clothes on Your Energy and Attraction   0:11:53   Dressing on Purpose: How Clothing Can Impact Your Mental and Emotional Processes"   0:18:11   The Power of Professional Style: How Dressing for Success Can Impact Your Life   0:19:58   Attracting People and Opportunities Through Your Style   HIGHLIGHTS    I was recently on a podcast with my friend Stacey Bayman. She has a great podcast called Make Money as a Life Coach, and she brought me on to talk about the effective style in our lives. And she was sharing about when she needs to write copy for a sales page or for her programs. She will get dressed up to the nines, because the energy that she feels can be felt, in her words, because everything's energy, you all it's all connected.   There's a term called enclosed cognition, and basically it's a psychological phenomenon that looks at the effects of clothing on your mental and emotional processes. And they've done studies, one being that they put students in a lab coat and compared their grades with students who weren't in a lab coat. And the students in the lab coat scored higher on the test. And it's because the association of a lab coat symbolizes intelligence, power, confidence, and how that impacts how you think.   And the same goes for clothes. Your clothes have an energy that impacts how you see yourself. And so on one level, those clothes are calling forth an action from you. And at the same time, it's attracting opportunities and people that are attracted to that energy. So at the end of the day, the clothes impact your energy. They impact how you see yourself, but also it's impacting how other people see you.   So come and join us at the Style Experience. You can go to schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience and check out all of the details. So today I have a question for you. What are your clothes attracting? And I want you to sit with that question for a moment and really think about it. Because everything is energy. Everything is attracting certain things to it. It's why certain people gather in certain places. There is an energy there that calls like energy towards it.   We're going to be having virtual style days along with coaching calls. We're going to have the Style Lounge, where I'm giving feedback around style and sharing stylish inspiration. And so if you have not checked this out, it's going to be a very high end, luxurious experience where you are going to elevate how you show up in the world. And you are going to discover your unique style and how to express that, not only in how you dress, but in how you carry yourself and what you choose.   Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ  

Are you aware that the #1 reason why people shop is based on emotion?  Yes. Emotional shopping is a thing!   Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This is a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.   Style is my life, so obviously shopping was part of my idently. If you’re listening to this podcast, you know that I’m currently detoxing from shopping. I decided to challenge myself for 6 months. No shopping. Period.    4 months have passed and to tell you honestly, I’m still struggling. I have a bunch of pushback from myself and the people around me. I never really felt the "pressuer" before now. Is it culteral?  It is an addiction?  Is it a comfort or a way to fit in?  I am learning so much from saying no to shopping for six month and learning a lot about myself that I am excited to share. And today, I can finally say that shopping is not everything to me! Yes, you heard that right!  So if you’re up for this challenge and too curious about what it can do in your life, join me and listen to this week’s episode!  What I Cover In This Episode: 0:00 - Intro 0:35 - Life update! 2:30 - Reasons why you should focus on things you have control with 3:20 - What’s God's plan? 3:43 - SOSI: Figuring out what’s working and what’s not for you 7:53 - Takeaway #1: Some of your friends would think you’re crazy. 9:49 - Takeaway #2: Have a plan when you’re experiencing struggles to break a habit. 11:37 - Takeaway #3: Energy is everything. 12:34 - Takeaway #4: The bigger the challenge, the more likely you might fall along the way. 17:01 - Takeaway #5: Some of your spending decisions come from luck and scarcity. 18:31 - Takeaway #6: Keep your why in front of you. 19:38 - Takeaway #7: It feels good to honor your own words and commitment to the future. 21:56 - Takeaway #8: How to separate abundance from spending. 24:15 - Takeaway #9: It gives me time to realize what my future needs are. 25:38 - Takeaway #10: You learn to maximize the things you already have. 26:51 - Takeaway #11: A space for investing and appreciating assets more. Quotes:   “ … I've remained calm. I'm staying focused. I'm dealing with the things that I can manage and control and letting everything else go because there's nothing I can do about it.”   “When you're in a state of worry, when you're in a state of stress, one of the things that help me is I write everything down that I'm worried about, and I create two lists, on one side, it's my list, and I move things to that side that I can influence, manage, control with my actions.”   “Listen, you all know I love beautiful clothes. I love style. I think the style has the ability to transform your life. However, I also know that we can have excuses and sabotage ourselves in the name of certain things, in the name of style, in the name of money, in the name of whatever.”   “You have to keep your 'why' in front of you.”   “Everybody was shopping, some people were buying things. I was so happy to just look. I did not feel at all. I was missing out. In fact, I felt like I was getting so much because visually I was so just happy. I was also happy knowing, number one, that I was honoring my commitment, even though I saw beautiful things. I was like, ‘Ooh, that looks like me, but not today.’ That felt good just knowing I was honoring my word and my commitment. Then it also felt good to know that I was investing in my future. By not spending money mindlessly, that money is going to exist in my future. Therefore, I'm investing in my future. “   “I think the best way to create your goal is to appreciate where you are right now because that is the energy of your future. You need to be practicing it now. But for me, the abundance that I've been feeling from this no-shopping challenge is about appreciating what I already have.” Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ    

“Never underestimate the power of self-love, because loving yourself is an avenue to an extraordinary life.”   Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This is your go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.    A productivity hack is a tip, trick, or technique that can help you work more efficiently and effectively, often by streamlining or simplifying a process or task. These hacks can range from simple tools or apps that help you stay organized, to more complex strategies for managing your time and energy. The reason I’m telling you this is to answer one of the most asked questions I hear: ‘How do you get so much done in your life?’.     First, being productive is part of choosing to live an extraordinary life. Next, having an amazing support system and a schedule is essential. These are probably the obvious ones, but those are not my secret productivity hack.  Today I am revealing one secret productivity hack that really works for me. This is the foundation of how I can be extraordinary with all the things I do and all the tasks I juggle.   So if you’re ready to know what it is, be sure to listen to this week’s episode!    What I Cover In This Episode: 0:00: Intro 0:49 - How’s my life in North Carolina living in my suitcase 2:56 - LAST CALL to join The School of Self-Image 3:54 - What’s my secret productivity hack? 5:11 - How to love yourself 5:40 - Thought #1: ‘I am not good enough.’ 6:19 - Thought #2: ‘I am behind.’ 7:22 - Reasons why you should not turn yourself down 8:59 - The more you speak love with yourself, the more you will be productive 12:18 - How to make yourself a priority 17:26 - The importance of self-love Quotes:   “Today is your day. You get up and you go love yourself enough to honor your word. And to take care of you. And trust that everything's gonna fall into place.”   “When we treat ourselves lovingly and when we speak kindly to ourselves, then we can get on board with what we really want. That's when we can get so much more done. Let’s blow our minds with what we're capable of achieving, not through self-loathing, but through self-love, self-encouragement, and self-respect. That is how you achieve extraordinary things. That is how you become more productive. So self-love, is how you speak to yourself.”   “To take a step back and make yourself a priority by taking care of yourself.”   “Self-love, this is my secret productivity hack. It's my hack to an extraordinary life in general. I know it may sound woo-woo to say self-love is the answer, but it's true. It's the answer to everything.” Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto LAST CALL to join The School of Self-Image today!! Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

An extraordinary life belongs to those who create it!   Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.   I’m back living in my hometown, North Carolina. Known for its stunning Atlantic coastline and great Smoky Mountains, this is a place that brings me an internal sense of calm in my spirit.  This is an extraordinary place.  Self-image is so much more than an external, appearance focused goal or conversation.  It is about how we feel internally.  It is about our inner dialogue and taking time to nurture what makes us truly extraordinary.     No matter where you are on your self-image journey, there are five things you can  do to help guide you towards the end result you are committed to,  which is to become the very best version of yourself. In this week's episode I share the 5 things you should be thinking and doing to ensure you stay focused and intentional.     Enjoy!  Be sure to comment and let me know what you do to help you be the best version of yourself! What I Cover In This Episode:   0:20 - Reasons why you should join The School of Self-Image 2:24 - How’s waking up in our new home in Charlotte, North Carolina 4:32 - Let’s define the word ‘extraordinary’ 7:21 - 5 ways to create an extraordinary life 7:32 - Way #1: You must choose extraordinary goals. 11:54 - Way #2: You must think in extraordinary ways. 15:45 - Way #3: You must be willing to feel extraordinary emotions. 18:22 - Way #4: You must have extraordinary style. 20:41 - Way #5: You must place yourself in extraordinary surroundings. 23:29 - Perks of joining the community of extraordinary women Quotes:   “I decided to tap into my own extraordinaryity because at the end of the day, we're all just ordinary people who choose to be extraordinary or we choose not.” “...to be extraordinary, it's about constantly pushing the limit of your self-image. And therefore pushing the limit of what's possible for you.” “Let's decide that we're gonna choose extraordinary goals. Goals that demand a new version of us, goals that excite us and scare us all at the same time. Goals that are remarkable and out of the ordinary.”   “Style isn't just about what you wear. Style is how you communicate, how you treat other people, and how you express what is on the inside to the outside.” Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto The School of Self-Image Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

Are you gonna feed your past or feed your future? Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.   Let’s first define habits! Habits are the small actions you make and the actions you do every day. As we reflect on the past year and set goals for 2023, it works hand-in-hand with change like ~ How can you make yourself better? How can you achieve greater heights? How can you be the best possible you? Bottomline is, people try to crack bad habits and to be the better version of themselves.   In life, it’s actually part of nature. People are capable to make decisions and perform actions. Well, that’s a fact. And I admit, I had bad habits.  I can proudly say that I’m not away from all that. I’m not an exemption because it’s part of the process toward a better life. Until I helped myself to stand out and succeed. The very reason I created discovered my own self-image. The good news is, you can do it too by joining The School of Self-Image today! What I Cover In This Episode: 0:45 - LIFE UPDATE: I’m leaving Colorado for good! 1:50 - How can self-image work for you 6:01 - Habits define your life 7:48 - How to build good habits and break bad ones 11:31 - The Self-Image Habits 12:51 - Self-Image Habit #1: Speaking kindly to myself 16:57 - Self-Image Habit #2: Practicing the habit of eating until elegant satisfaction 22:20 - Self-Image Habit #3: Getting dressed on purpose every day 26:01 - Self-Image Habit #4: Investing money 29:03 - Self-Image Habit #5: Wearing well-fitted and beautiful lingerie  32:30 - Self-Image Habit #6: Having fresh flowers in my house at all times Quotes: “How you see yourself is determining how you show up, what opportunities you say yes to, and what opportunities you attract.” “Habits are creating your entire life… habits are reflecting your self-image back to you, and your self-image determines your habits.”   “So when you begin to practice habits with the purpose of changing your self-image, don't be shocked when other amazing things begin to happen in the rest of your life because you're gonna start working to prove yourself true.”   “... when you begin to see yourself as that version of you that's in the future, you'll begin to create that future with so much ease and fun and excitement.” Useful Resources: FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto The School of Self-Image   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ