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“In empathic listening, you listen with your ears, but you also, and more important, listen with your eyes and with your heart.” This week I am talking about Habit 5 from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.  Habit 5 is to seek to understand then to be understood and I believe can really make a big difference with your family.  In this episode I share what Stephen R. Covey defines as empathic listening.  I also share a bit about his example of using our own autobiography as we listen and the helpful example of using the skills of rephrasing content as well as stating the feeling around the content. I also really love what this habit does to help give people psychological air.   Super grateful for this new skill to practice and have already been seeking to understand first before I begin to spew out my own thoughts about things.  It is great to be back after a little break and continue on with this 7 Habits series.   For more info you can also visit my website www.findingthefloor.com/ep102

“But win/win is nice… and tough.”  This episode I will be discussing Habit 4 - The Win-win principle from 7 habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey.  This principle involved the abundance mentality as well as integrity and maturity. I also go over the other different principles we see a lot in our lives, like win-lost.  The purpose of learning more about this is to help everyone learn to develop high trust with others and for everyone to realize that they can have success along with anyone else.   In this episode I go over some of the 5 dimensions of the Win-win principle and share a few stories along the way.  One hard part for me is making sure I have good agreements and systems in place to make it all work.  So join me to learn more about this new way to think about life.  For more info come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep101

 “I am still making my bed, well most days.”  Hooray!! This podcast has hit triple digits! Wahoo!!!  This episode I reflect  back and see how far this podcast has come from the early days.  I talk about the things that I have learned and how I have grown. Going back and looking at questions that I found from episode 21, Joy in the journey.  I also share some of the favorite things that I have learned over the past 100 episodes.  I also share the things I am still working on as well as the things I really have begun to get better with, like making my bed, my gratitude journal and keeping small commitments to myself.  Come celebrate with me as I look back on the life of this podcast and episode 100!!!! For for info see www.findinthefloor.com/ep100

 “... our most constant relationships - like marriage, require our most constant deposits.” This week we take a pause from learning more about another Habit from 7 habits of highly effective people as I share a concept that is important for the remaining 3 habits.  It is the metaphor of the emotional bank account.  We build trust with others as we make deposits like kindness, honesty, and keeping our promises to name a few and make withdrawals when we act unkindness, dishonestly or fail to keep our commitments and promises.  This episode share 6 major deposits that Stephen R. Covey lists in the book that can help us to build better relationships.  For more info see www.findingthefloor.com/ep099

“Manage from the left; lead from the right”  This week, I go over Habit 3 - put first things first from 7 Habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey.  Habit 3 really gets into how you can practically put your two other habits into practice.  This Habit is about self-management which is a lot easier when you have your own mission statement and philosophy to follow. There are a lot of very good practical tips to help organize and plan your week, especially thinking about your week in terms of your roles in life. Habit 3 really helps pull habit 1 and 2 together in a very applicable way. 

 “If you were at your own funeral, what would you want people to say?” Habit two, from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, is to begin with the end in mind.  Like picturing what your family or friend might say at your funeral. Stephen R. Covey helps to explain this concept by also explaining about everything having two creations, a mental and a physical.  I explain those two ideas and then get into the notion of writing your own mission statement.  With that concept there is a need to get to a deeper level to understand your center and what drives your security, guidance, wisdom and power.  As I try to share these concepts I also share a situation I had with my daughter this week in which I wished I had begun with the end in mind.  For more information come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep097

 “Response - ability” the ability to choose your response. This week I talk about habit 1 - to be proactive from the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.  Being proactive has many different facets.  First I cover the unique human capability to have self-awareness.  Then thanks to the work of Victor Frankl the idea that between stimulus and response we have the ability to choose.  I share this idea that to be proactive includes being responsible - the ability to choose our response.  Then there are lots of other little ideas and ways we can think of being proactive.  First I mention being aware of our language.  The other concept within this habit I discuss is our circle of influence versus our circle of concern.  Then I briefly share the idea of the have’s and the be’s as well as moving toward being more proactive by keeping commitments to ourselves and to others.  With this concept we can  learn to be led by our values and character rather than our moods.  Come and listen as I share some stories about my calendar, my mom circle of influence and a walk a thon.  For more info and sources see www.findingthefloor.com/ep096

 “We saw our natural role to affirm, enjoy, and value him.”  This summer I am going to be discussing the best selling book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey. In this first part of the 8 part series I share the beginning of the book, or part I.  Mr. Covey’s explanation of the need for understanding paradigms which he can refer to as a map.  How we see the world around us.  I share his story about his son who was struggling and how ultimately Stephen Covey and his wife had to look more at their motivations and perceptions instead of thinking that something needed to change with their son.  It is an explanation of the inside out approach.  I share a story of my own and a need to really think of what my motivations are as well.  So go check out or buy the book and read along with me this summer as we all learn to really apply these 7 Habits of Highly Effective peopleFor more info see www.findingthefloor.com/ep095

“It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody.”  This week I am exploring the idea or outlook of abundance.  I have loved learning more deeply about this topic.  So in the podcast I share a few different points on this outlook.  First is that God created this world with plenty and more to spare.  The second is to think about moving beyond gratitude to thoughts where you actually want the things, ideas or people that you are grateful for.  And I also share a few stories that relate to these ideas, about a Gecko and a yard sale.  Join me as I share what I have learned about this mindset.   For more info see www.findingthefloor.com/ep094

"At some point in a story our brain waves can connect together.”  Who doesn’t love a good story?  I gave a talk in church and spoke about gathering to tell stories and wanted to really figure out why storytelling can be so compelling. And what I found out related back to my episode about my singing group(ep.91), a good story can release the same hormones, oxytocin and dopamine plus add to that some endorphins.  I also share a couple of stories, both about dogs, as an example. So if you love stories as much as I do, listen and learn a little more as to why we can’t resist a good story.   For more information see www.findingthefloor.com/ep093

It's been a busy week especially as we welcomed my daughter home.  So this week I don't have a new episode but it is looking back to episode 20 all about Gratitude.  This is the episode that inspired me to keep a gratitude journal which I have now been doing ever since July of 2020.  So you will here about my favorite book which helped me think about Gratitude helping you get out of the blahs.  I also loved learning about the negativity bias and how gratitude can help you with that as well as a lot of other great benefits to this practice.  So enjoy this episode and I will be back to new episode next week!For more info go to www.findinthefloor.com/ep020

“Don’t tell them that they have lost their purpose.”  I am so excited my daughter is coming home from her 18 month mission.  She has been teaching and serving full time for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  This episode is really mostly advice for me to help prepare as we welcome her home. First I share a few of the things that I am worried about.  Then I tell you of a few warnings and advice that I learned this week that I think will be really helpful this summer. For example, a warning not to mirror her emotions.   Another admonition is that she hasn’t lost her purpose.  And a big tip is to make sure to be excited to listen to all of her mission experiences. I learned a lot of great ideas and am feeling confident and calm to welcome her back home. For more information see www.findingthefloor.com/ep092Sign up for my weekly email - FRIDGE NOTES

“Singing bonds you  more than any other group.  It acts as an ice breaker and somehow can connect you faster than other types of activity.” For this episode I share a little bit about my journey into getting into my acapella group in college and what that meant for really the rest of my life.  It was also delightful to discover that there was research behind the feelings of closeness and bonding that I felt with the group that is created by singing and making music together.  I have a few quotes from some of the studies that I found which basically reveal that singing can really create a great bond with a large amount of people quickly due to the hormones that are released when we are singing  So listen as I share my story and research about the impact singing has at being the best ice breaker.  For more info and sources come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep091Sign up for my email list FRIDGE NOTES to get a weekly (or bi weekly note) 

“Feel free to mishandle”  This message would be something you can put on a moving box of something that is antifragile.  In this episode I explore the term of antifragile.  I also share a few things I learned from the book named after the term Antifragile, things that gain from disorder by Nassim Nicholas Taleb.  I talk about things like nature and our muscles being antifragile.  There are a few other nuances to the term however I love thinking about this that we are designed to get stronger in the midst of chaos.  For more info and any sources and notes come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep090subscribe to FRIDGE NOTES - my weekly thoughtful email.

For how shall I go up to my father, and the lad be not with me?  Happy Good Friday.  In this episode I share a quick Easter Message about two things, both of which come from the Old Testament.  The first idea is from the quote which is from Genesis 44:34 where Judah is trying to take the place of Benjamin in the Story of Joseph in Egypt.  I also share a new term I learned about called Kinsman Redeemer which was an ancient near eastern term and tradition of the oldest male relative to care for those of his family.  All of these terms relate back to Jesus Christ and his atonement for us.  My hope is that these simple messages can help your thoughts this Easter Weekend and appreciate all our Savior has done for us. For more information see www.findingthefloor.com/ep089

 “If something can be changed, work to change it. If it cannot, why worry, be upset, and complain?”  Complaining has been especially easy this past two years with all of the hard things that have been happening in the world.  (I mean gas prices lately, ugh?!?!)  In this episode I take a look at the why behind the complaining.  Then explore a little bit of what that says about us. I will also talk about the detrimental effects of complaining on ourselves and others.  Finally I share a few ideas of what we can do to decrease our complaining.  For more information and sources go to www.findingthefloor.com/ep088Sign up for my weekly thought FRIDGE NOTES Here

“Go see the washing of the lions.”  Happy April Fools’ Day!  I am going to share a little bit of the history of where this tradition is thought to have originated.  I talk about some old stories from back in the 1500s and 1600s of what people used to do.  I am also going to give you a few ideas for the day.  Now I know this comes out on April Fools’ day but maybe you can squeeze in a few harmless pranks before the day is over. For more info see www.findingthefloor.com/ep087 Subscribe to my weekly thought - FRIDGE NOTESMake sure to subscribe or follow my podcast and I would love it if you might leave a review.I would also love to hear from you so send me an email Camille@findingthefloor.com or DM on Instagram or Facebook @findingthefloor

“By managing what we want instead of what we have, we give ourselves a chance to lead more satisfied lives.”  The reverse bucket list is a term that has at least two meanings, and in the episode I will explain both of them but mostly the one given by Arthur Brooks, who is an author and social scientist.  In the episode I share how learning to manage your wants can increase your sense of satisfaction and happiness.  I tell a story of me, HGTV shows and feeling a sense of dissatisfaction with my home.  I also share how Mr. Brooks suggests you look at a bucket list in an entirely different way.  An intriguing topic which hopefully gets you thinking about your own wants or bucket list items.  For more information  visit my website : www.findingthefloor.com/ep086

“ ... a pet peeve is an annoyance that’s nurtured like a pet — it's something someone can never resist complaining about.”  This week’s topic came from me noticing a pet peeve of my own, hand towels not getting hung back on their hook.  I wanted to figure out the reason behind these little but big annoyances.  I share some of the things I found.  I talk about a few of the reasons why we might have a pet peace in the first place.  I share one experience our family had with spills at dinner and being able to change that from a big annoyance to an expected and celebrated part of the meal.  I also then share a few other ideas to help in the ways to cope.   For more information and references www.findingthefloor.com/ep085Sign up for my weekly email - fridge notes here

“...at its core, procrastination is about emotions, not productivity.”  Procrastination is what I am talking about today and boy do I need to figure this out.  The most helpful thing I learned and shared in this episode is that procrastination is more about avoiding unpleasant emotions that come up when you think about doing a certain task.  I share how this relates to social anxiety, sometimes making things a bigger deal than they really are.  Plus I give a few tips to help you and myself on our emotional journey to less procrastination.  Because usually when you finally do the things you have been putting off it really isn’t that bad.  We can do this!! For more info and references: www.findingthefloor.com/ep084sign up to receive my weekly email FRIDGE NOTES HEREI finished the worksheets for Making Friends - to get a downloadable pdf click here.