53 minutes | Mar 8, 2020

Suicide Prevention, Mental illness Awareness, Body Dysmorphia & so much more ft Bobby Temps #88

"Over 75% have developed mental illness by the age of 18" by Bobby Temps #88

A face to face conversation with one of today's, local mental health advocates who is making huge positive changes in the space. Delighted to welcome Bobby Temps, the host of the Podcast entitled: Mental - The Podcast to Destigmatise Mental Health on to Find Your Voice where I got to know the man himself. Always intrigued as to why people do what they do, I wanted to understand why Bobby does the work he does, for mental health and also to understand where these motivators came from.

This was an insightful and thought-provoking interview where we delved into many areas. We discussed the pressures society can place upon us. The pressures our parents can have on our own mental illness. Anxiety, Depression, Loneliness, Burnout and even body dysmorphia. All these can sometimes be very taboo like and we often navigate around them, rather than discussing them But keen to not just be another Mental Health hashtag episode we promised ourselves and each other we would be 100% open and transparent.

Realising that we can all internalise things with a different perspective it is always a goal of mine personally to bring on as many people as possible even within the same bracket of adversity that they often highlight shaped their lives. This will in my hope, help you as listeners gain a different method, or perspective of coping and managing your own life.

The beautiful thing with this interview, and something I learned midway through it was that a petition has now been signed with over 196,000 signatures, as I write this to help

Some Key Time stamps:

[04:45] Destigmatise Mental Health / Mental illness

[08:40] Family pressures - Bobby

[15:50] Family pressures - Aren

[23:40] The statistics around Mental illness

[30:30] Positive affirmations around Body Dysmorphia

[39:15] Mental illness & Trauma you have experienced

[45:00] Fun part of the show

I urge you all to follow his journey:

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Links to me:

Website: https://www.arendeu.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeu

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singh

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/

Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com

YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6y

Links to Bobby:

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/bobbytemps/

Website: https://www.mentalpodcast.co.uk/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/mental_podcast

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalpodcast/?hl=en

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/mental-the-podcast-to-destigmatise-mental-health/id1358920477

Some Mental recommendations:


Someone to talk to who really listens with someone always there to pick up the phone. They do not offer advise but a space to speak anonymously about what is on your mind and can signpost other organisations. There number is free and won’t show up on your phone bill. 

If you are a student Nightline offers a similar services tailored for you and run by student volunteers - https://nightline.ac.uk

Bias warning- Bobby used to volunteer here!

Counselling Services

There is no definitive route to finding the right service for you, so try googling for your local area. Remember you can always go in for a session and you don’t have to go back if you feel uncomfortable. The NHS also offers counselling but this is in part dependant on your personal situation and there is usually a waiting list.

The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy has a directory for support services on their website bacp.co.uk

Organisations with a wide range of services:

rethink.org - 'We help millions of people affected by mental illness by challenging attitudes and lives with information and practical advice.'

mind.org.uk - ‘We're Mind, the mental health charity. We're here to make sure no one has to face a mental health problem alone.’

time-to-change.org.uk - ‘We are a growing movement of people changing how we all think and act about mental health problems.’

Services relating to topics we cover

For a far broader list of services visit:



Petition :


Since starting this petition, we have received support from politicians across the political spectrum and it has reached over 195,000 signatures. Plus the Department of Education, Ofsted and the Welsh Assembly are already working to make these changes a reality.


When working to reduce stigma, I am continually concerned how a lack of education around mental health is contributing factor. This is something regularly raised as a mutual concern by guests on my mental health podcast plus several of them are actively working to fill this need by doing talks and workshops in schools. With one in four of us experiencing mental illness every year according to the charity Mind, this seems to be a real and very significant gap in our education system.


- One in ten children aged between 5 and 16 years has been diagnosed with/shows signs of a mental health problem, and many continue to have these problems into adulthood. (1)

- Over half of all mental ill health starts before the age of 14 years, and 75% of this has developed by the age of 18. (2)

- NHS England estimates that poor mental health costs the NHS and society £105 billion a year in England alone. (3)

The statistics are shocking, yet whilst there is a whole subject in the curriculum around our physical health in the form of PE, our young people are left without any knowledge of even the most common mental illnesses.

Not only does this leave them unprepared and vulnerable when it comes to looking out for their own mental health, but also sets the standard that Mental Health is not discussed. This plants a seed of stigma that many carry for their whole lives.

Upon further research, there generally seems very little in the way of guidelines currently. For example, if Romeo and Juliet is studied as part of the curriculum when the two title characters kill themselves, this is considered the end of the story or worse romanticised as an ideal form of love. The very serious topic of suicide is frequently not even mentioned as part of schooling, and yet according to the BBC, suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 49.

It’s time to make a change. Even if a law was passed so every child receives one class about mental health during their time at school, this would be more than the vast majority currently get. We are keen to hear back from those in power on a more extensive plan to better the lives of our nation’s young people.


- Mental Health education becoming mandatory teaching for all schools in the UK without the addition of any exams or homework on this subject.

- Every child having the ability to access a qualified counsellor through their school. This is something that many workplaces already offer.

- Every school offering Mental Health training for its staff.

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