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63 minutes | Aug 11, 2022
“I feel like the people who are loyal to us are about to throw us away,” Ms. Von manages to say while nearly crying with laughter, “I apologize in advance.” No apology is necessary for the hilarity that ensues. The episode opens with the term “boomerang baby,” which Fleming thinks he coined to describe an unexpected pregnancy resulting from a one-night stand. Ms. Von is quick to correct him explaining it actually refers to a grown child who returns home to live with his or her parents. This leads to discussions about how expensive it is to raise children, the baffling clothing and hygiene choices of teenagers, and why all of Ms. Von’s girlfriends insist having kids is a scam.
54 minutes | Aug 4, 2022
“You two should lead seminars,” Fleming tells Virginia (Rita) and her ex-husband Victor of how they maintain a strong family unit and exemplary co-parenting since their divorce. And it’s a relationship that’s had perhaps more than its fair share of challenges. Having had their first son Victor at the end of high school, they credit both of their parents for helping them raise a new baby while just becoming adults themselves. Though they’d eventually realize they were better off as good friends, they continued to prioritize their sons above all, and now each socializes, attends family functions and even vacations with the other’s new spouses. Their foundation of respect is evident even in the way that Rita alternately turns to prompt Victor’s opinion on a topic, after she’s given her own. Join the conversation to hear Victor Sr.’s ambivalence toward protests against gun violence, the strength of his and Rita’s faith, and the one issue he and Rita ever argued about as co-parents.
62 minutes | Jul 28, 2022
“You only get one body,” Ms. Von reminds us on this episode of FatherShould, “Most people don’t realize it until it’s too late, until it's literally too late.” A large part of keeping our bodies in optimal health is knowing our genetic risks and predispositions. Both agree on the importance of self-advocacy, which includes knowing your body and paying attention to those changes. Besides genetics, our family influences our health by the habits they instill in us, habits we shouldn’t be afraid to change, especially as we get older. We naturally grow out of certain tastes, or otherwise suddenly develop allergies to foods we’ve always eaten. Once you begin to upgrade your eating habits, Ms. Von explains, foods you once couldn’t live without just cease to be appealing. Fleming and Ms. Von weigh in on the great peanut butter debate, the popular and/or traditional foods they don’t like and which foods are worth a trip to the hospital.
60 minutes | Jul 14, 2022
Adventures in Kid Listening
“Self-care is about consistency, doing things routinely,” says Shanta Hayes, therapist and licensed clinical social worker. Structure and routine are the foundation of raising a successful child who practices their own self care. Creating structure doesn’t just make life easier for parent and child, it also builds bonds. This can be challenging particularly when co-parenting, but it’s vital to consistency. Shanta explains that parents shouldn’t be afraid to walk the child through the reasons, consequences and benefits of the rules they have to follow, letting them know how certain behaviors are connected. It's vital that parents mirror the behavior they wish to see, and teach children the "how" of things, rather than demand "why" when the child can't produce what they haven't learned. They also need to be taught the vocabulary to be able to express their specific feelings. On this week's episode Shanta, Von and Fleming reiterate the importance of your body language matching your verbiage, the importance of finding a therapist with the right fit, and why anger in adolescence is often a sign of depression.
69 minutes | Jul 7, 2022
Kids Say The Darndest Things
What starts off as a conversation about the quirky yet honest things children say, transitions into observations about how closely children pay attention to their parents. This means they know when adults are fighting, and need adults to confide in, whether it be a therapist, mentor or older family member. Fleming and Von are baffled by the clothing choices and hygiene practices of the young people in their life. Other challenges with children include how protective and territorial they get when introducing new family members into the family dynamic. In turn, the adults have to adjust and learn to let go as the children grow up, gain independence and prefer the company of their peers. Join the conversation to learn about the power of Cinnamon Toast Crunch, whether Fleming’s greatest fear with his son was ever realized and vital warning in the song “Cat’s in the Cradle” by Harry Chapin.
99 minutes | Jun 30, 2022
Co - Parenting In A Blended Life
Today’s guests, Tarasha and Ryan Bell, discuss the joys and challenges of raising a blended family, including their two daughters from previous relationships who are the same age. They highlight the importance of recognizing all the children as theirs, and making sure the kids are aware that no one is being replaced even as they adjust to having to share parents and living spaces. The same goes for the adults, who have to recognize that there are now other parents in the children’s lives who have similar standing. Parents must be willing to learn their personalities and discipline– and accommodate– accordingly. It’s also important to receive feedback from people with the opposite parenting styles, so that you don’t fall into a parenting echo chamber and can continue to grow. Today’s episode includes a spirited debate about the equivalent of a push present for fathers, the importance of taking the time before responding emotionally, and finding the humor in it all.
60 minutes | Jun 23, 2022
Dads Like Spa Days Too!
On this episode of FatherShould, Fleming and Ms. Von discuss how more Dads have been vocal this year about how they want to be properly celebrated and what they want to receive for gifts. Men are beginning to embrace the tradition that some usually would have shied away from – or been shy about vocalizing it. They also discuss why children need to have a healthy fear of adults and why you should always remember that however a relationship ends, the children involved are innocent.
73 minutes | Jun 16, 2022
Growing In Fatherhood
Ms. Von's father, Albert Tompkins joins the conversation to talk about his journey of fatherhood. He discusses how his daughters and life softened his rigid edges, as he approached being the dad he never had himself. Father and daughter look back on situations ranging from uncomfortable to tragic. But every situation only inspired togetherness, communication, and evolution both individually and with each other. On this episode of FatherShould, hear Albert describe the special relationship he has with his grandson, what he is proud of and the many situations that can be explained with a car analogy.
67 minutes | Jun 9, 2022
Faith Vs. Fear
“I was staying up very late on Sunday nights, because I didn’t want to face Mondays,” says Steve E. Ballard explains on this episode of FatherShould. This was more than just that “dreary Monday” feeling. Mondays represented reality, having to face the business he had built and the mounting decisions that came with it, fear of dealing with himself and with life. He was unable to make even the most basic decisions, paralyzed, like so many people, by the worry of how others would judge him. It nearly drove him to have a breakdown. Only when he reconciled with his sexuality, enrolled in therapy and gave his life over to God, did he free himself. On this episode of FatherShould, learn why acknowledging your talents leads to recognizing your purpose, how fear plays into the evolving relationship between parent and child, and how to free yourself from worrying about what others think of you.
64 minutes | Jun 2, 2022
In Pursuit Of Emotional Intelligence
“Do you think there’s ever a time when emotions are not required in a situation?” Fleming asks in this conversation with Ms. Von. They discuss the myriad situations that require emotions and emotional restraint. Whether it’s being overly invested in the 24-hour news cycle during the pandemic, staying in relationships despite both parties no longer being emotionally invested, and having inappropriate emotional reactions at somber events. Part of emotional intelligence is knowing when to not let your needs supersede the other person’s. When a person doesn’t want to talk, leave them be. When they don’t have something to say, respect it. On this episode of FatherShould, the difference between a villain and a repeat offender, why it’s crucial for your body language to match your words, and which are the conversations worth having
57 minutes | May 19, 2022
Fighting For You And Yours (You Gotta Fight For Your Rights)
After finding out his divorce via publication, this week’s guest Stanley Thompson Jr. decided to make sure that the ending of his marriage would not negatively impact his children or well-being. He learned his rights, fought the court system and WON!! Tune into this week’s episode of FatherShould for an inspiring conversation on fighting for your rights.
74 minutes | May 12, 2022
Family Court Debunked
“The family court work is some of the most meaningful work that I've done in my time on the bench,” says guest Judge David Baker. For his first two years in the courtroom, Judge David was dedicated to family court, presiding over many child custody cases. With Fleming and Ms. Von, Judge David debunks false perceptions of family court and what goes into the process.
75 minutes | May 5, 2022
Loving With No Agenda Or Expectations
“My personal motto is to be there for the ones that you love. Show up and walk your talk,” explains Diane Del Conte, host Fleming’s surrogate aunt, and role model. Years ago, Diane met Fleming’s mother while at work and they immediately became friends. Since then, Diane has been an enormous part of Fleming’s life and positively influences everyone she knows. Tune into this week’s episode of FatherShould for a heartfelt conversation about mother figures.
76 minutes | Apr 28, 2022
Losing A Queen...Gaining A Princess
“There's no manual for this thing called life,” says returning guest Dr. Siah. When he became a new father, Dr. Siah also became a caretaker to his mother before she passed. With hosts Fleming and Ms. Von, Dr. Siah shares the highs and lows of that time and the complicated emotions of gaining and losing the most important people in your life.
76 minutes | Apr 20, 2022
Blame It On Your First Piece Of…
Whether it’s sex or food, anything can look good if you haven’t indulged in a while, according to Fleming and Gerald. Although they understand that it’s not right, men will do anything, even lie, to fulfill their “hunger.” However, Dr. LaShauna and Ms. Von recognize that once people become adults, it’s time to take responsibility, not just in their relationships but for themselves. With this in mind, all sides can agree that you should have the love life you want, regardless of social conditioning.
64 minutes | Apr 14, 2022
After experiencing the tremendous loss of their uncles, hosts Fleming and Ms. Von reflect on what it means to lose important father figures. By walking through their family dynamics, the hosts highlight how the people around us shape us.
94 minutes | Jul 23, 2021
You're Talking... But Are You Listening?
As humans we talk daily. However, how effectively are we communicating what our needs are...and hearing the needs of others? This week we talk with Life Coaches Terri Hase and Kenneth Mitchell on practical tools we can use to effectively communicate one’s needs.
56 minutes | Jul 15, 2021
Court: Collision Course...Vol. 1
Ryan Bell of The Bell Effect talks about his experience with the court system, fighting for his rights as a dad to be in his children's lives.
48 minutes | Jul 8, 2021
Trilogy of Change
Micheal Cristal discusses the importance of being spiritually grounded and how the absence of his father has influenced his relationship with his children.
70 minutes | Jul 1, 2021
Dear Dad - Fifth Anniversary
June 28th marked five years since the transition of Eugene Fleming Jr., father of co-host and Fathershould founder, Fleming, and the inspiration behind the podcast. This week he discusses the evolution of their relationship as father and son.
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