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Dr. Jessica Higgins is the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, check it out here: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Dr. Jessica has a free resource available called "Shifting Criticism for Connected Communication" which you can access right here: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication Tracy Poizner also offers dad-specific advice for parenting through and around parental alienation and other problems of post-divorce family life via the UnDeletable Dad podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/undeletable-dad/id1592210062 You can find a range of courses and programs at https://undeletabledad.com Reach out to Tracy with comments or questions any time at info@essentialstepmom.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

If your partner is struggling to connect, or to re-connect with an alienated teenager, make sure he registers for LIONTAMER, my new 6-week intensive for dads. He'll learn to deftly guide his wandering teen back into their natural state of loving attachment and loyalty to him. Here's the link: https://essential-training.thrivecart.com/liontamer/ You can also learn more by emailing me at tracy@undeletabledad.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

OK, this is a bit of a weird episode - it's actually the audio from a livestream video I did in my Spectacular Stepmom Facebook group. I'm talking about how to get better at knowing exactly when to say your peace and when to hold back - when to act and when to wait. This is all about the shadow and power archetypes, and about the real difference between logic and magic. I offer a unique style of coaching for couples where you work with me individually on alternating weeks. Email me for more information at info@essentialstepmom.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Legacy Mastermind is exclusively for the divorced dad who feels helpless against the ongoing high-conflict that's drawing his children away from him. In this program he will be coded to strike the tone of fatherhood and develop the magnetic quality that will draw his kids back into his orbit and keep them there forever. It starts this week, Feb. 17th. There's still time to join - apply by email to info@essentialstepmom.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Join my Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom!  You can reach me any time at info@essentialstepmom.com.  Don't forget to check out the UnDeletable Dad podcast too! Here's a little free advice for you: 3 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL STEPMOMS! https://tracypoizner.lpages.co/3-secrets-of-successful-stepmoms --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Just two more days left to register! Restorative Parenting for Divorced Dads begins Wednesday November 2.  By Christmas, you could become that dad who knows the trick to following through on what he says without using heavy-handed parenting tactics, how to get rules made that your kids will actually follow (it's true!) and to make sure that your kids really feel safe, loved and seen with you, no matter what they hear from their mom! Go to bit.ly/dadcodes to register. Upgrade to the VIP package for unlimited 1:1 support from me over Voxer - I'll personally walk you through all the implementation so you don't fall through the cracks! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Want to learn how to get through to kids who are being brainwashed about you? Sign up for my FREE 3-part workshop October 27-29, 2021 called Reversing Parental Alienation. Go to bit.ly/alienationstrategy to register and don't forget to join the private Facebook group just for this event! You can always reach me at info@essentialstepmom.com. Limited 1:1 coaching spots are still available. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Welcome to Episode 1 of the Undeletable Dad Podcast! You can find it on Anchor.fm/undeletabledad and very soon it will be found on all your favorite platforms. Here's the link to sign up for Restorative Parenting: bit.ly/dadcodes You can reach me at tracy@undeletabledad.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Lori Sims runs the Nacho Kids Academy - sign up with this link and she'll send a portion of your fee right back here to support this podcast! Click here: https://nachokidsacademy.com/theessentialstepmom Sign up at bit.ly/tracysummit for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

"I thought David was a pretty good parent - until we got married!" Here's a link to the episode with Lori's husband David: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/episodes/ESP-6-3-David-Sims---Pulling-it-out-of-the-fire-elkg5g I do a livestream video every Monday in my Facebook group The Spectacular Stepmom. Tomorrow's session  (Monday Sept 13) at 1pm EDT is called Bouncing Back From Stepmom Burnout - Before It's Too Late. Join the group by sending a join request to facebook.com/groups/thespectacularstepmom or email me at info@essentialstepmom.com to ask for a link to the replay. Sign up for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit at bit.ly/tracysummit. It's FREE! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

It's a Nacho Role-play with Lori Sims, the original Nacho Mama! You can learn more at nachokids.com. Sign up for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit (Sept 15-17) at bit.ly/tracysummit Would you be so kind as to pop over to Apple podcasts and leave a quick review? If you screenshot it and send it to me at info@essentialstepmom.com, you can win a 60 minute coaching with me! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Here are some highlights of today's conversation with Seth Nelson: 1:10 - when Seth got divorced, the law required one parent was named the primary residential, the other was secondary. In the end, it’s all about your ego, it’s just a label. 5:25 - On frequency of visits, it's often better to have more visits for a shorter time, especially for younger kids. 7:25 - 95% of the time you have with your child is before they’re 18! You can find Seth's podcast at How To Split A Toaster - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405 and his website is https://nelsonkoster.com Register now for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit at bit.ly/tracysummit --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

This is part 2 of my 3-part conversation with Florida-based family law attorney Seth Nelson. Listen at 2:20 to hear Seth describe the  the 3 worlds in which he lives as a divorce attorney, at 5:25 to learn about the many categories that courts consider (Factors A, B, C....all the way to Factor T!) and 10:10 to hear his take on why 60/40 might be better for you, even if you're getting the short end of the stick. Seth's podcast is How To Split A Toaster - you can find it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405 His website is https://nelsonkoster.com/ Sign up for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit at https://bit.ly/tracysummit This is episode 99 of the Essential Stepmom podcast! In honour of reaching our 100th episode tomorrow, I'm hosting a contest! Give this podcast a review on Apple podcasts and win a chance for a free 60-minute coaching with me - alone, or with your partner! Just find us on Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/essential-stepmom-podcast/id1466706524, write a brief review, screenshot it and email it to me at info@essentialstepmom.com. Can't wait to see yours there! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

"Live your life, not your divorce!" Seth's podcast is called "How To Split A Toaster: A divorce podcast about saving your relationships". Here's a link to the show on Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405 You can contact Seth's office in Tampa, Florida via his website, https://nelsonkoster.com Sign up for The Ultimate Stepmfamily Summit with my link to get my special registration bonus, access to over 50 of my stepmom video tutorials! Click here: https://bit.ly/tracysummit My gift is crafting ingenious parenting/custody/life strategies for the divorced dad. Contact me at info@essentialstepmom.com for more information about my comprehensive 6-month 1:1 Undeletable Dad coaching offer. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Visit Anna's website at https://annadeacosta.com. The Ultimate Stepfamily Summit is happening from September 15-17. It's FREE! Sign up now at bit.ly/tracysummit to get my special bonus offer of lifetime access to my library of over 50 Livestream stepmom tutorial videos! You'll never be at a loss for something to listen to again! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Loyalty is one of the most misunderstood topics in the stepfamily world. I believe it's something much more fundamental than wondering which parent to believe, or visit, or like. This episode has been pulled from a live video I did a while back into my two Facebook groups - The Spectacular Stepmom and One For The Dads. If you'd like to belong to a positive, bash-free community, I invite you to join us there. Just send a join request to either group. With apologies for the gendered group names, same sex families are very welcome in both places. To register for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit coming up from Sept 15-17, use this link to qualify for my special bonus! bit.ly/tracysummit If you'd like to apply for Undeletable Dad, my 6-month 1:1 coaching program for divorced dads, send a message to my private email address - info@essentialstepmom.com for more details. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Does my advice on stepfamily life conflict with what you're hearing from your counsellor or therapist? I'm not surprised, LOL! That's because they're not trained in the area of step-families and they still believe that all families follow the same kind of natural law.  Family Constellation Therapy was created by Bert Hellinger. My favourite book on this topic is by Jakob Schneider - it seems to be out of print but the Kindle edition is available here: https://www.amazon.com/Family-Constellations-Basic-Principles-Procedures-ebook/dp/B08LVN84JX Reach out to me for a link to watch my video on some specifics of how to start making a new family. You can reach me at info@essentialstepmom.com or just click on this link to watch: https://vimeo.com/582244288/50e57d5d98 I'd love to chat with you about my 1:1 coaching for dads. Email me at info@essentialstepmom.com or visit my calendar to book a call at bit.ly/CALLTRACY --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Want to know more about exactly how to make those boundaries you wish you had? Here are my top 5 tools for making better boundaries with your ex, your kids, even your spouse. I love hearing from you - let me know what you think about this, or just reach out to me any time at info@essentialstepmom.com If you're a divorced dad wanting to rescue your relationship with your kids, or to learn how to parent in this upside-down family dynamic where the kids have way too much power, or to be ready to totally slay any attempt to reduce your custody or visitation, or to protect your personal finances from being shredded over the next 10-15 years, talk to me about my 6-month 1:1 coaching experience for dads. It's a significant investment, but your ROI will be absolutely spectacular!  Set up a complimentary chat at bit.ly/CALLTRACY --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Everything comes down to boundaries. I'll break this apart and show you why yours aren't doing the job.  Do you know a divorced dad who wants to protect his relationship with his kids and maximize his ability to raise them the way he wants? Maybe he'd also like to keep his finances from getting shredded over the long haul of a high conflict "co-parenting" environment?  Invite him to book a time on my calendar at bit.ly/CALLTRACY and we can talk about my 6-month comprehensive 1:1 coaching offer for Undeletable Dads! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

You can contact Dr. Sonia via her webiste, http://renewedbeliefs.com Her research paper about autism and stepfamilies can be accessed via Google Scholar or with this link: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0192513X20959109p You can reach me on my private email at info@essentialstepmom.com. If your husband/boyfriend/partner is looking for help to get his high-conflict custody or parenting situation under control, he might be interested in my premium 6-month coaching offer that includes 1:1 sessions, unlimited Voxer support and my signature tool for establishing himself as an engaged and competent parent before the courts. Set up a no-obligation call to learn more and see if we'd be a good fit to tackle this project together!  http://bit.ly/CALLTRACY --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message