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Did you know that men and women have different relationships to their needs? Not understanding this can really cause some problems in a marriage! Do you ever wonder how your man can fall asleep anytime - anywhere? What about when your man is hungry, what does he do? Finds food by chance? When you are tired what do you do? When you are hungry what do you do? The differences in our relationship to our needs are pretty much opposite! Men have an immediate and intense relationship with their needs. Women, don't have a relationship with their needs. This can make a woman feel like her man is being selfish because women will instinctively take care of others first. Which can cause problems as well. Understanding this difference can really help you out! You are able to let go of assumptions and stop comparing your man to a version of you. As well as learn how to get your needs met so you can give from a full well. It is a game changer!

I am a FIRM believer we are meant to enjoy this crazy thing called life. But being human means it opens us up to challenges that can prevent us from finding that joy! Have you ever felt your humanness hold you back? You are not alone. Today is part 2 of my conversation with therapist Bruce Boetcher on anxiety. I am so grateful for individuals that choose to help others create a better way to live. Today Bruce shares with us: -Self-care -Why is anxiety growing? -Does cognitive behavioral therapy help with anxiety? -Circumstantial anxiety -Helping kids with anxiety -Proactive approaches

My interview with therapist Bruce Boettcher opened my eyes to ways I can manage my life a little better. Over the next two weeks, Bruce will share with us ways to manage anxiety. This week he shares with us: -What is anxiety? -What does it do to the body, physically and mentally? -Is anxiety a chemical imbalance? -Productive anxiety vs unhealthy anxiety? -4 types of anxiety. -What are preventative measures we can take to help with anxiety? Once again tools to help us live a happier life. The chaos marriage and family life WILL bring are a given, so let's learn from a specialist on how we can handle that chaos a little better.

Today I chat with Lisa Brown, a Taming Jane Academy graduate. The first time I met Lisa was when she logged into week one webinar. She is an amazing woman, wife and mom. She shares with us her process of choosing to focus on her part of her marriage. She shares how it has affected her and her man. I really enjoyed chatting with Lisa. I feel so fortunate to rub shoulders with such amazing women!

We talk about good ways to communicate often but I feel like we don't give enough focus to listening. Being a good listener is not commonly a natural trait one has. We tend to be natural talkers, not listeners. So I give you 3 things to think about when you are listening to someone. I also share with you a TED Talk that is awesome. It is by Celeste Headlee and is called 10 Ways to Have Better Conversation. This is the link: https://www.ted.com/talks/celesteheadlee10waystohaveabetterconversation?language=en

This is a must listen to ladies! Jennifer continues our conversation and we spend this entire podcast talking about intimacy in marriage. Why it is important. Why women have the capability of having a deeper, greater capacity to feel pleasure than men. A whole woman is integrated with her sexuality, what does this mean and what does it look like? Husband and wife are equals who have the capacity to enrich one another's lives. Sex is choice, treat it with care. We need to be more open about teaching healthy sexuality. How to get past the embarrassment of feeling equal in the realm of intimacy. The best part of life! A rich source of freedom and joy. I learned so much from visiting with her. She is amazing and has such powerful insights.

In my quest to want to be a Whole Woman, I found that Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife teachings really resonated with me. For the next two weeks, we have the privilege to learn from Jennifer, a licensed psychotherapist with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology. This week Jennifer talks to us about the importance of self-growth. She shares with us what can often be roadblocks for us to find the desire to push ourselves. We talk about women and receiving and why it can be difficult and what to do about it. She also teaches us that femininity and sexuality are essential in us being a whole woman, Jennifer touches on this and will finish it up next week.

This past week my sweet father-in-law was reunited with his sweet wife. She passed away a year ago. At a time like this many thoughts go through your head. We were blessed to have this beautiful couple be an example of everlasting love. A true love story. It has made me ask myself what will my love story be? What legacy will I leave behind? I invite you to join me in pondering these quesitons.

It was such a pleasure to interview Shaunti Feldhahn. I hope you will enjoy learning from her as much as I did! When I discovered her book For Women Only, I found a treasure. Every woman needs to read this book! Her research is phenomenal. And as she put it, "it isn't rocket science" but it is often an area we don't talk about enough; the differences between men and women. Ladies, empower yourself-listen to this podcast and consider doing the exercise she shares at the end.

This is part 2 of my interview with Jeff Ford, LMFT. He shares with us what some women do wrong that causes men to seek acceptance elsewhere. We discuss the natural DNA of a man and then Jeff dives into pornography and the challenge it is for men. He steps us through the process of how to help a husband who views pornography as well as how a wife can find help for her. We end with how we as wives can encourage our husbands to be our Knights in Shining Armor. I learned so much from Jeff and appreciate the work he does. I don't claim this interview has all the answers for pornography struggles in a marriage but I do believe it is a good base to start from. Thank you for listening!

This interview with Jeff Ford changed me as a mom of 4 son's. It empowered me to be an advocate for my son's and my husband. Jeff talks to us about how the world is emasculating men and how it affects them. We discuss boys and their true DNA and bullying at school. Jeff educates us about ADHD and ADD, and how schools do population control. I had never learned about this before! We also discuss the importance of boys and men - being boys and men. I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did!

First, we should never wait for our marriage to start struggling before we start to work on it! And I don't believe we can afford to just wing it anymore. Most of us weren't taught all we needed to know when we said yes to this union. We need tools and skills to maneuver through this messy thing called marriage and life. It is really quite amazing how simple new knowledge can enhance our lives. It doesn't take that much time, but it does take us choosing to be intentional.

I had the privilege to interview Joree Rose LMFT, mindful educator, author, and speaker about the power of mindfulness in our daily lives, relationships and families. She has so many insights and takeaways you can start using right away to create mindfulness in your life. Learn the ABCs of mindfulness "Awareness", "Breath", and "Choice". She teaches mindfulness is the practice of living your life with greater awareness, attention, and intention. It is a practice in which we can become centered in each present moment, anchored in your breath and body, and respond with curiosity to whatever is arising. When practicing mindfulness, we also cultivate gratitude, compassion, and loving-kindness towards ourselves and others, allowing us to go through life with a greater understanding of how to live authentically and in alignment with our intentions. Joree Rose LMFT Contact Info: http://joreerose.com http://www.mindfulnessandtherapycenter.com

Today I discuss how our reactions are often habitual. Habits we have created from our Attachment Style and our Blueprints. But we do not have to be a victim of our habitual reactions. We can learn a better way!! YAY! Our goal in life is to increase our happiness, we can do this by choosing to learn new ways of being that help us become a better version of ourselves! In this podcast, I share with you doable steps to help you learn how to not allow surface emotions to dictate how you will react. Empower yourself!

My husband Jeff has been my greatest supporter! He has been my guinea pig through this entire process, and still continues to be! As I went on my journey to discover more happiness in my life and marriage, I discovered The Intense Woman! She had stolen my life away! Not to mention made Jeff walk on eggshells. (no one should live that way) Jeff and I chat about how The Intense Woman affected him. We then discuss how it has changed us as I have kicked her to the curb! We also discuss the influence my journey has been on him.

Geoff Steurer is trained in EFT couples therapy. (Emotional Focused Therapy) This therapy is based on Dr. Sue Johnson's research. Every individual has their own attachment style which is influenced by their upbringing. Geoff gives a short explanation of these attachments styles, but then we move right into how we can choose to create a secure bond with our spouse. A secure attachment style is ideal. And if we do not have a secure attachment style we can actually work towards it. We do not have to be a victim of our blueprints! We can learn an emotionally healthier way of being which will help us become more secure! A secure bond is based on the answer to this question, "Are you there for me?". The answer must be yes to have a secure bond. Geoff explains the details of this and more! Geoff Steurer, LMFT Office: 435-652-4366 Text Him: 435-319-0804 LovingMarriage.com

Has your spouse ever come home in a bad mood and all of a sudden now you are in a bad mood? Would you like to stop catching other's negative emotions? It is totally possible - you can learn a fairly simple way to process other's emotions without catching them! There is a space between the trigger and our reaction that most of us do not recognize. Empower yourself by learning a better way - I share it with you in this podcast!

I continue my conversation with Laura M. Brotherson LMFT, CST, on intimacy in marriage. I am so grateful for her work. Our conversation is very open and is not meant for younger ears. Laura talks about that marriage is all about self-development. None of us were taught everything we needed to know to have a successful marriage. Intimacy is part of that development. We also discuss the importance of educating our children and our young adults who are getting married. Let's teach our kids and young adults in a way that we are setting them up for success!

I learned so much from interviewing Laura M. Brotherson LMFT, CST. I love her energy and determination to educate women about intimacy in marriage and the importance of embracing our sexual being. We have a very candid conversation that may not be meant for younger ears. Sex is a big part of marriage, and rarely are we set up for success. I am so grateful for the work Laura has done, I know she continues to bless the lives of women everywhere. I hope you too find this information helpful!

Sexual intimacy is a big part of marriage, but very few of us are set up for success in this area. We often struggle to talk about the positive aspects of sex. Did you know that we all are sexual beings? This is not a negative or bad thing. But because society has perverted what sex really is, we struggle to find a healthy balance. It is imperative for women to learn and understand that they are a sexual being and God made them that way. We are meant as husband and wife to enjoy intimacy within the bonds of marriage. But in order to do this we need to be connected to our sexual being. This week I discuss the importance of connecting to our sexual being in preparation of sharing my interview with Laura M. Brothers, LMFT Sex Therapist, the next two weeks.