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Incredible Years-Parenting Class-L#1-#2-Season 2-SPECIAL TIME! The Importance of playing with children! Building self-worth, Independence, Social emotional competence, problem-solving, and language skills! Teaching the child that they have a voice and have control over themselves!! And that parents are there to support and encourage them. The foundation to a strong and healthy relationship between parent and child. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Incredible Years- L-#11-#12-NATURAL AND LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES! Let your child experience Natural and Logical Consequences as early as possible in life! This will teach them to be responsible and socially competent! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Incredible Years!-L#9-TimeOut Part 1: -It’s not the time out you know! It is recommended for aggressive behaviors and major non-compliance only! The whole purpose of that is to help a child regulate their anger with some breathing techniques and to learn to calm themselves completely before they could engage back to family activities! L #10- evaluate honestly how you manage your own emotions specially anger, before you discipline your child when they are aggressive. Avoid these parent traps. And make a good list of coping techniques and things that you are going to do to relax and destress when dealing with aggressive behaviors. And finally use the timeout wheel for compliance training and the step-by-step on a child refusing time out!And set yourself up for success! And avoid the long term grounding that leads to resentment and anger! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Incredible Years-L#8-Ignoring Misbehavior! Why do children misbehave? It is a sign that there are things they need to learn on how to effectively handle their feelings and emotions! What does selective ignoring means? How can we remain calm and patient when children become defiant! It is crucial that spouses or anyone living in or spending a lot of time with the children support the ignoring rules set in place. This will make it easier on the child learning to stop their behavior quickly! Being consistent on ignoring the miss behaviors and not giving into the children’s tantrums and defiance will pay off in the long run! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Incredible Years- L#7- Clear and Respectful, Limit Setting! How many commands do you think we should give a child in a given 30 minute period? The answer is going to shock you! The commencement of a child should be clear, respectful-starting with the word please! Stay away from chain commands! Soft commands like let’s go to bed now! Etc. etc. and consistent and following through with the commands. This is key to success! We cannot give a command that we cannot follow through with! If a child rebels and protests recommend or request don’t take it personal! They are trying to establish their independence! But be empathetic first, patient, and state the rule clearly And stick to it no matter what! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Incredible Years- L #6 Rules, Responsibilities, and Routines!  What is the purpose of setting Rules, Responsibilities, and Routines? Because children thrive in this environment, feel safe, and feel important and loved! Children begin to practice independence and to problem solve as they learn consequences.  And the best part is that it reduces the power struggle between parent and child! Never set more than 4-5 Rules at one time!  Because you need to effectively monitor, give rewards or follow through with consequences!  Start with the most challenging behaviors, set rules in place, involve the child in the process, be consistent, and follow through!  Once the children master those rules move on to others.  Explain everyone's roles in the household and how everyone contributes to having a safe, happy, clean home etc....Describe in detail and practice how they are to do the chores assigned.  And go over the rewards and consequences.  Post the Rules, charts on a highly visible site so the children are reminded by looking at them instead of hearing what to do from parents all the time! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Incredible Years – L #5- Tangible Rewards-Part 2. Tangible rewards part 2. Making a list of tangible rewards in three sections. No cost rewards, very little cost rewards, and long-term rewards. Planning on presenting the behavior rewards plan and involving the children on choosing their own rewards and consequences from the lists you’ve created. Making sure both spouses are on the same page and that you both work as a team on implementing the plan. Doing the “I, we, you” concept. Where you role model to the child what they need to do, you show the tools needed to make it work. And you follow through with a reward. Consistency in monitoring the rewards is key for success. When a child has a voice in implementing the rewards and consequences then they are more invested in obeying! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Incredible years-parenting class Lesson #5-part 1– tangible rewards! Tackling a specific behavior with the child by rewarding with a tangible reward temporarily until they master the behavior that you are after. Making a list of no monetary rewards, very little cost rewards, and long-term rewards. Planning how to present the behaviors you’ll be working on and the rewards for the children. Involve the children and telling you the kind of rewards that they would like to earn for working on certain behaviors. Get leverage and they will work harder to earn those rewards. make this age-appropriate. Do not mix rewards with punishment! And remember the difference between a reward and a bribe. A reward is given after the child has successfully completed the behavior. A bribe is given to them before they completed the behavior. Help yourself avoid this by giving “if and” then” statements! Do the “I, we, you” concept. Praise the effort! Consistently monitor the reward program! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Effective praise and positive encouragement part two focused on praising very specifically and encouraging positively. Praise children in front of others as much as possible. Resisting the urge to tell a child how they need to do it better right away. The “I do,” “we do”, “you do" concept! The last two steps can be interchanged but they still understand and it's clear how it should be done!  This means I the parent will role model how I want things done, we will practice together! Then you the child will do it on your own.  This will embed what they are supposed to do in a clear effective way.  It is setting them up for success!  Monitoring or being present is key!  Reasons why we should praise flyer.  Sometimes cultural differences make it harder to praise without someone being critical of all the praising!  You will always have positive consequences on praising a child then if you hold back! It will feel awkward if you haven't been the praising kind before.  You must plan and practice finding the words, phrases that feel natural to you!  Talk to the children about what you are doing and why! So enlist the children to help you do it! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

The Incredible years-lesson 4-Part two praising and positive encouragement– Praising is so detrimental to relationships and in decreasing bad behaviors. Praise specifically, stay away from just saying "good job, nice job, way to go," etc...  Praise the effort, praise the child behaving the best, self-praise, praise with body language, eye contact, and enthusiasm!  And stay away from praising sarcastically, and Do not take the praise away by criticizing something else or using ‘but...’ And label how a child feels when they’re being praised! Catch children doing Good instead of just reacting when they behave badly!! Do not give any attention to the bad behavior or it will continue happening! Redirect the negative behavior by focusing on what you want to have happened instead of being critical.  Stay away from saying "NO" because it gets a negative reaction right away and it will take a greater effort to neutralize that and focus back on the original problem.  You are making deposits to the parent-child relationship when you praise and give positive encouragement! Use "repair statements" because it shows we are not perfect parents! It's okay to apologize to a child!  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Incredible year’s Lesson 4-finishing up on social-emotional coaching and moving on to praise and encouragement! Help children not to quit on what they do.  Guide them to persist, take breaks and problem solve!  Reflect where you are in describing your own feelings and emotions by doing two 1 minute exercises.  Keep expanding the vocabulary in social, emotional, and persistence area.  And set up an area in the home where you can send the children to feel better.  Put a chart showing faces of different feelings and emotions.  And help the child identify that when they are feeling better!  This will become one of the most important things you do as a parent.  We will learn to praise very specifically! And to focus on the positive behaviors, and stay away from taking away the praise by saying the word ‘but’ or by being sarcastic! Catch children doing good and positively encourage them to keep doing more of that through specific praising!  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Model what it means to be in control in these areas and model how to say things and do things! Social, Emotional, Persistence, Academic Coaching! Think what a coach does? And take that approach and describe play by play what is going on so they learn the vocabulary for feelings, emotions,  social, academic, and persistence language skills. Descriptive commenting-Become the sports announcer! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

The importance of parental attention and special time. The value of descriptive commenting, modeling, longer-term projects or activities, activities that include traditions.  Balancing power between parents and children by allowing them to direct the activity.  Complete undivided attention by the parent with the child! Allow the child to direct the play but do give suggestions for play if the child doesn't seem to know where to start. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Special time with children! It must be undivided attention and child-directed play. This is the foundation of your relationship with your child! 10-15 minutes of undivided attention will decrease behaviors! Tell the child you want to spend special time daily, be consistent and the child will start trusting your word, and will start developing self-esteem and emotional confidence!  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

What is Incredible Years about? It's all-encompassing parenting course that is 12 weeks long.  You go over the material, role play, share experiences, and watch videos of parents putting into action what was taught.  You get many handouts and links to supplemental materials that you can implement or look into in your own time.  You get the Incredible Years Book that goes with the lessons. And you go home and practice what was learned in the classroom.  You will be asked to keep written track record on the forms handed to you weekly so that you can look back and learn from it! You will get all the materials needed to implement things at home!  It is the best Parenting Course out there! So tell everyone to find out who offers it in your community and supplement that with these podcasts.   --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

What is positivity? Part one. And let’s start learning to gather -parenting tips start Tuesday. And new marketing ways to improve your businesses! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Reflecting and focusing on what to learn this year! 2 great videos that have shifted my direction! Count Down-The Incredibles Years Parenting class starts Feb 4th in Davis County for those that want to take it and learn to be a better parent with us. Also, I’m excited to announce the Spanish Incredible Years class starting at the end of February. Go to www.dbhprevention.org and look for class your interested in and register. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Happy New Year 2020! Recap of All the Goodness experienced this year. Looking ahead to greater Learning! Most grateful for Family, Country and Religion! Look forward to Serving and Learning from many of you! I’m excited to invite great people to teach more ways to enrich our lives! Prepare to expand your mind! To enlarge your heart with kindness! And to share the Goodness received with others! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

”Fight for things you care about but do it in a way that will lead others to join you!” Justice Ginsburg-Part 1- Venturing into Social Media vía Click Funnels yo share what has changed my life for the better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support

Reflecting on the importance of the relationships in our lives, with our children, family, friends, neighbors. And what kind of relationship or legacy we want to live or leave with the people in our lives.Plus announcing the beginning of parenting 101 and social media -tech learning-Click Funnels 101!Starting the week of September 17, 2019. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rosa-garcia3/support