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This episode might sound a little like we are giving a play-by-play on what to do to start your divorce.  We are here to let you know that it is not.  It is more of our personal playbooks of what we did to start and continue our respective divorces.  It is an outline of our journey of mostly our pre-stage of divorce.  If you are going to be in it or presently in it, we stress that you do your homework and seek professional counsel to initiate or further your process.  With that out of the way, as usual, the conversation was again all over the place.  Rachel, just back and funky fresh from a Gwyneth Paltrow-type ski accident on the spring break slopes of Colorado, braves all her aches and pains to come to the studio and help me drop some knowledge on our show. Topics of: Do your homework Find free legal advice Punch buggy is East Coast One step at a time We can only tell you what we did Court can be intimidating Letting stuff go Boundaries Who gets the trailer hitch Not seeing your kids all the time Journaling Rachel on Court TV Take yourself out of the space and don’t be sh!tty The 5 minute Lance podcast The most important thing is to love yourself Fear of the unknown can be a desolate place to be in your divorce journey.  Lean into the fact that others have made and are making the journey before you and are paving the way for your eventual divorce recovery.  Patience grasshopper! Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

Divorce Recovery - Why wait until after the divorce is over to start to heal?  Welcome to the new and improved Divorce Devil Podcast 2.0.  Now, we are advocating the healing process to start as soon as the pre-divorce process starts.  There is no time like the present and don’t put that sh!t off!  Launching off our new content is episode #119 with discussions of: Situationships Communication is important in all the phases of divorce Last Train to Brooklyn Abuse, childhood stuff, sickness and neglect Selfish not selfless Be kind to yourself Brady Bunch Where do you start? Laugh without guilt Happiness is totally worth it Don’t be a full a$$hole Fresh new content Never stay for the kids Accept the emotions Stop and just breathe Decrease the drama factor Asking others for help Focus on yourself We hope to reach out to more divorced and divorcing people through our new format and content.  Like we always say, if we can just help one person, then it is totally worth us podcasting every week!!! Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

This is a subject we have not heard on any other divorce recovery podcast.  Being a unique subject, we feel there is no right or wrong here.  It is what it is.  Whatever you are eating or ate to get you to healing then so be it.  Topics of: Vegetables are overrated Ice cream, cookie dough, mint chocolate chip Not in the mood to cook Protein shakes with Frosted Flakes or Captain Crunch Can oral sex be a comfort food? Harry met Sally Just the tip Jameson and Ginger Sushi Fruit Loops on a string Smell it or spell it Peanut butter and KY Jelly Penis butter Ring Pops gummies This podcast went a little off-script, but that is what we specialize in.  Enjoy the crazy ride as much fun as we had creating it!  Get your comfort food and be happy! Music: The Chase, Take It Easy, Artlist.io Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

In July 2022, we did a podcast about the top 10 traits and/or qualities not to carry over from your divorce to new friendships or relationships.  This is an extension of that show.  Since Rachel feels that we are both in a better place, we decided to visit the subject again and see how our advice and/or views are different.  Topics of: Assimilation Settling Soccer moms True friends Don’t use kids as pawns Find your place Trim your toenails It takes time to find your happy One step forward and eighteen steps back, that’s ok, less steps back at a time goes on Self-love Trust Rachel is intentional We both agree that we both were in a better healing position to tackle the subject again.  Make a note of how you may change or heal over time, the results may surprise you! Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

How do we introduce this podcast?  Divorce is one of the most devastating things a person can go through - but are there funny moments?  Hell yeah, there are!  Listen as Rachel and I come clean about our funny moments and some funny moments we are not so proud of.  But, in the big scheme of things, it’s all about what helps you heal in the end.  Discussions of: I love you, but you gotta go Laugh to keep from crying 3 miles of gas Skittles dating, taste the rainbow Give or receive the penis Lizzo Assholery Boundaries Try to find the funny Pissed off-ness People still use kids as pawns Sarcastic funny - two for one Give yourself grace Funny times and moments Find your funny in your recovery.  Try to laugh today!  Go and get your funny, you deserve it.  Once again, laughter is part of the recovery process. Music: Guesthouse, Got it Like That, Artlist.io Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

Where do we start on this one?  Well, first of all, pardon the dust and technical difficulties.  The audio is not the best out of Columbia, MO but it’s all about the content, right?  LOL!  And second, how do we tackle a long-assed topic like the one above?  Well, here is our attempt.  Topics of: Own your shit and your position in it Marriage mullet Party in the front and business in the back Give yourself grace Financial changes with 27 dollars in the bank I wasn’t an adult until after my divorce Be patient with yourself Be communicative instead of reactive Healing is the most positive thing you can do Hairpiece for divorce recovery Stop blaming the other person in order to heal Own it, accept it, and move on from there This short podcast encompassed quite a bit of material.  We are back in the studio next week and will do away with the technical difficulties.  Have a great week. Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

Well, today’s podcast discusses David’s favorite word - no.  With a generally negative connotation, the word no is very interesting in its use and misuse.  Saying no can actually say that you care about yourself.  Discussions of: Sassy sarcasm Getting control back A piece of respect Self-realization and self-worth Numbing the pain Be patient with your yes’s and no’s You can’t please everybody Feel all the feels No can be a blessing Know your no’s Say no to the key party Make your excuses plausible Little white lies Lean into your no’s No can be healthy Internal monologue Rolls off my tongue like butter Constructively say no Saying no is a way of setting boundaries Embrace your right to say no.  Even if it makes no sense at first.  You will start to hone your skill of no and incorporate it into your divorce recovery.   Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

Divorce recovery, Valentine’s Day, and love - what a trifecta.  How have your love or loving ways changed during and after your divorce?  Or has it changed at all?  Listen as we explore the two aforementioned questions.  Topics of: Love is not enough Songs of love Love has to evolve Overcompensating The four types of love The Handi Wipe treatment In the dairy case The Captains were cousins Treat yourself on Valentine’s Day Your oxygen mask first Get some thicker skin Set boundaries inside and outside the home Respect and sacrifice Frosted Flakes Love and the Hoe Phase Putting up walls to actually love better If you have no one to spend Valentine's Day with, treat yourself and love yourself. You have to love yourself first in order to start and continue the healing process.   Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

Well, as usual, this podcast did not disappoint.  Rachel was all over the sores/scabs/scars trifecta.  It definitely ties into divorce - during and after.  The quicker you get control of the trifecta, the easier and quicker you can heal from that devastating event.  Topics of: Rachel’s biggest sore Picking at the scab Divorce battle scars The scab and open sore podcast Fake it till you make it for the kids Kid’s weddings Moving on is the healer of everything Girl's bikes should not have a middle bar Evel Knievel How divorce is like a UTI Keloids and divorce You can retake a test I can feel the knife in my back, but I can’t see the scar I give no fucks And we have to apologize for the opening of the show.  Hyping ourselves up in the preshow gets a little out of control sometimes.   Maybe one day we’ll tape a preshow and let you listen to how crazy ‘Rachel’ can get!  It usually involves things going on in general and our personal lives.  Recognize, accept, and start to heal your open sores.  It’s a great way to move on after your divorce.  Enjoy. Music: Guesthouse, Got It Like That, Artlist.io Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

How are a liquor hangover and a divorce hangover alike and different?  We explore both sides of the equation.  Starting off with some of our drinking histories, we dive into the topic of divorce hangovers.  Realizing it was an actual thing - a discussion about how to combat it came up in the podcast.  Other debated subjects: Divorce is the alcohol Fireball hangover Jagermeister hangover Two Motrins and a greasy cheeseburger Kirkland is the devil Boundaries Our favorite word Learn from each hangover Eat a Scrub Daddy Never go back to the hair of the dog that bit you in a divorce hangover It’s a personal road Look at these pictures! Divorce hangovers don’t have a schedule Throwing up is releasing your emotions White Castle You can eat Ben and Jerry’s in a divorce hangover Divorce hangover cure - time Gut punch, the empty feeling in your stomach You will find, after listening to the podcast, we make a good argument for the similarities between the two hangovers.  They do happen and most of the time you have no clue what it is.  Realize it and embrace it to start the process of healing.  Enjoy.Music: Guesthouse, Got It Like That, Artlist.io Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

First of all, we didn’t make this podcast to make light of COVID.   We realize it is a very vicious virus that has maimed and killed millions of people.  This is our surfacy take on comparing COVID to divorce and divorce recovery.  It is by no means making fun of or disrespecting the brutality COVID has inflicted on our world today.  Topics of: Rachel has COVID Take care of yourself You can’t heal from divorce in one day Don’t feel guilty if you are sick and you are supposed to spend time with your kids… it’s better for you to get well, so you can take care of your kids Oxygen masks on the plane Your immune system is shocked in divorce too Positive self-speak Columbo episode Set boundaries Podcasting with no voice - damn sexy Divorce hangover COVID and divorce long haulers Divorce lightheaded vs COVID lightheaded There is light at the end of the tunnel Take a nap FOMO back in the day Have a mental health day Who gets the silver? You need a great tribe The ‘just be’ focus Don’t get it twisted, we empathize and sympathize with everyone who has been affected by COVID.  This podcast is just our small attempt to relate divorce through it.  Take a listen. Music: Guesthouse, Got It Like That, Artlist.io Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

We were pressed for time today so we had to improvise.  The subject is kinda like a Disney movie.  Go back in time and listen to some podcasts about ourselves.  Interesting?  We were actually able to go back in time and talk about some of our favorite episodes so far.  Did we get to five each?  Probably not.  But if you know us by now, that’s our nature.  It’s a short one, so enjoy.  Have fun in Vegas this weekend Rachel! Episode #047 - Forgiveness, we agree on this one? Episode #046 - Either grow or just go through a divorce, me. Episode #095-098 - Peeling back the layers of divorce recovery, Rachel, so many topics here! Episode #093 - The Hoe phase, we also agree on this one! Episode #091 - The infamous Lisa Lane, laughter and divorce, me Episode #085 - Crap not to bring in the next relationship or friendship, me Topics of: Pepto Bismol Heartburn, indigestion, diarrhea Just the zombie phase with no brains to eat Blame it on the brains Leatherhead Surrey, England - lots of downloads Luke and Laura Like sand in the hourglass A mind is a terrible thang Be sure to check out our new podcast - The 15 Minutes of Giving No F*cks Podcast.  It was actually conceived out of DD Podcast Episode #047.  Take a listen.  It is a social podcast that deals with everyday life challenges.   The 15 Minutes of Giving No F*cks Podcast. Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

Welcome to the first podcast of 2023.  Spicy nice - the art of telling people ‘off’ and getting them to stay in their own lane in respect to their relationship with you.  Kelly is back on the mic with us again.  Becoming a regular, she lends her unique brand of thinking to the subject.  Discussions of: Just the tip The world today is too intolerant Spicy nice dial Everybody can’t take the 12 inches of spicy nice Chad is the male Karen Be careful buying a vibrator from Walmart Generational narcissism I have a Subaru Negative learning Always come from a place of kindness Children come from a place of looking for a connection Adults come from a place of looking for differences Snitches get stitches Fake-assed people Lisa Lane Older women are more internal than external When I’m quiet (Rachel) - WTF!! A level of assholery Spicy nice, a little edge, fucking honesty You got a ruler We all have something in us to help other people 2023 is your year to practice the spicy nice.  Start with the dial on low and go from there.  Take more control of your healing and your life this year!  What are you going to do differently this year?   Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

Now that Christmas is over - Rachel and I discuss what has, did and could possibly go right and/or wrong along with some sprinklings of new year’s resolutions.  This podcast was all over the place, but a blast as you will hear.  Dealings of: Old Black Santa Everyday is Christmas Judging people on their effort Let’s be more kind in 2023 There are stupid questions Hanging with Mr. Cooper at the Mining Exchange in Colorado Springs Do better Be more patient with yourself Holidate is a great movie Can’t see my feet Hoe phase and the family Christmas party Laugh at yourself and others Go to the gym and help the old guy off the bleachers Feel the feels Scrooge quotient Dickey doo Stab the Christmas tree Give yourself some grace and do some freaky shit! The asshole cousin and tide pods Sword Fighting at the Christmas party All the single ladies We realize that getting through the holidays can be difficult with divorce recovery, but we are here to tell you - it is not impossible.  Give yourself permission to feel sad, angry, hurt, and/or lonely.  It is all normal.  But, the sooner you start to make your own new holiday traditions, the sooner you start to feel better about the holidays.  Have a great New Year and thanks to you - all the listeners near and far.  We appreciate and love ya!!  Mark Curry Hotel Incident Colorado Springs, CO Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

It is the Christmas season and the season and reasons for divorce recovery.  Christmas and divorce, what a duo.  Rachel and I discuss our successes and failures during the divorce recovery / Christmas season.  Discussions of: Control G.I. Joe New and old traditions Every day is Christmas I lost Thanksgiving and Christmas Blending traditions KISS for the holidays and birthdays The more simple the less chaos Shoutout to all the places that listen to our podcast No lights above the first floor Christmas spirit and lofty expectations Sometimes you can’t make all the magic What does Christmas mean to me now We want to wish all our listeners and everyone out there a great Christmas season.  Enjoy yourself, your friends and your family.  Notice how I put ‘yourself’ first.  You know we practice self-care at Divorce Devil Podcast.  Love ya!! Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

Welcome to the mic Dawn Dais, her new book (coming out next month) deals with her personal struggles, wins, and failures throughout her divorce journey.  She has written a few other books dealing with the shit no one tells you.  (Her website is below)  We were excited to get Dawn on the podcast due to the fact we are all and have been on some of the same journeys. Our discussions of: The importance of journaling The importance of having a village or squad How to avoid becoming a Disneyland Parent Fuck you, you fucking fuck chapters Lean into the rage I don’t have a can opener Kids, when are you leaving? Need a warm body, put a sweater on The dating apps cluster Don’t marry the first person you date Once it’s on paper, it is no longer in my soul Zoom and drinking Chapters of just rage Everything is going to be fine Filling newfound silences Dawn seems to take the craziness and devastation of divorce and humanizes it into her book form.  We suggest getting it, if you need it, when it comes out.  Enjoy. https://www.dawndais.com/ Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

This podcast was way deeper than most.  First, we had to agree on the definition of discernment and further along, how to fix it.  This one was a doozy.  For the first time, we both came with actual notes!  Rachel’s definition of grasping or comprehending something that is obscure was pretty deep.  Discussions of: Peeling back the onion-like layers (DD095 - DD098) The four steps of discernment Carol Ann, come into the ‘no fucks’ light Hoe phase is not dating It all comes down to self-care Betty Boop and Daisy Duke were cousins Break the cycle and learn your red flags Hand jive Forgiveness = no fucks = discernment Don’t lay in the cynical coffin I just signed the papers, no what (DD087, DD088,  DD090, DD092) Top 10 traits not to carry over from your divorce (DD085) Speak it into existence So, if you are stuck, we’ve got a myriad of episodes for you to start to listen to and try to absorb with our quirky humor and views.  You could always start at 001, but we definitely don’t suggest that.  Things didn’t get really good until episode 040 and beyond.  Good luck! Kelly Manley - Pure Romance Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

This was an extremely hard podcast to stay on point.  The conversation went back and forth from getting married, being married, going through a divorce and post-divorce.  There are so many interconnections between all four.  So, we did the best we could to stay on point.  We think the central theme that turned up was communication.  Communication is the key for men and women to stay closer in whatever journey and/or space they may be in.   Topics of Single poles vs many poles Survival tactics Bee Gees Still friends and double date Man barometer Everybody is not like us Edge of the cliff and down to the bottom Surfacy enjoyment Lumberjack wrestling a bear Mug in the microwave We want to see David cry Mommy issues Learn from our flaws, mistakes are normal TikTok and Thanksgiving Effort is louder than words Grudges - Rachel! Both people need to give effort You can’t babysit your kids Ugly babies Be better as humans Customer service sucks Men have feelings  As we said, this podcast was kind of all over the place.   It was a difficult subject to ‘wrestle’.   But, whatever your struggles may be, you can come out the other side and heal - it just doesn’t happen overnight.  Be kind and give yourself some grace.  Love ya. Check out the new podcast:15 Minutes of Giving No Fucks Podcast!A podcast about getting your priorities in order and not letting all the extra fluff get in your way in your journey of life.  Enjoy Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

With Thanksgiving as of yesterday, Christmas is just around the corner.  Whether you are going through a divorce right now or are freshly out of your marriage currently - the holiday blues can come to the forefront.  We discuss ways to alleviate those blues and handle some of the holidays with intentionality and vigor.  No one says you have to be sad during the holidays - start creating your own memories.  You are in control of you.  Topics of: The family  is a different dynamic now Divorce training wheels Put up walls in order to survive What time is Christmas The main goal is to heal A turkey has two ends? Foot stuck in the chain Some Leave it to Beaver sh!t Bernie Mac rules Be the A$$hole first Perfect like us You can’t walk on eggshells with your kids Knocking out teeth from a lack of eye-hand coordination Pause and throat punch The beat down Don’t get us wrong, we don’t advocate beating your kids.  But don’t be afraid to raise them.  Just be consistent, fair, and just.   It's pretty much the same with family and friends, you can't beat them but you can give them boundaries.  The rest may take care of itself.   We haven't laughed this hard in a podcast in a long time.  Thanks Rachel!! Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.

These are the feelings you have about your past and the things that have happened to you, which often have a negative effect on your behavior and/or attitudes.  They may include but are not limited to: I failed I hate my life I’m going to die alone Nobody cares about me I’m so ashamed It won’t get any better than this Fear, pain, sadness, anger  Guilt, depression, shame, insecurities, grief, mistrust, paranoia, expectations, negativity, anxiety, resentment, jealousy We stressed speaking up and finding your purpose, voice, and value.  And, setting boundaries with people and situations doesn’t make you an a$$hole.  You have to take care of yourself - self-care.  This podcast turned out deeper than we both thought.  Discussions of: Hermes handbags Pull my hair but leave the follicle Divorce is more common and less shameful Look for ways to make your life better Mistrust and resentment tie into forgiveness (giving no f*cks) Cord cutting DDP#079 Thanks, Lisa Lane Say your thing and walk away Starting a new season with episode #101, we hope this finds all of our listeners in a better head space and more attuned with your divorce healing and/or situation.  Lots of love from both of us and best wishes to you all!!  Contact Divorce Devil Podcast-tweet us at @divorcedevilpodcast-Facebook us at @divorcedevil-Website: www.divorcedevil.netWant to talk to us, send us an audio message: PODINBOXWe'd love to hear from you.