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Black lives matter. This is the finale for Season 3! Heather sits down with the boys to talk about favorite episodes, share some updates from some of the women we have heard from over the years, and get real about Covid life. We have loved sharing this season with you. Keep it tuned to the instagram and we will have info on Season 4 coming up! THANK YOU FOR LISTENING! The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa. We have MERCH! Go to teepublic.com and go craaaaaazy!! And our brand spankin’ new website dirtygirlpodcast.com is good to go, so go check it out!

Black lives matter. GO VOTE! The last episode of Dirty Girl Season 3 comes out next week!

Black lives matter. There are no rules in gender. As our guest this week Lauren Ludwig points out, you do not need to check how SOCIETY wants YOU to build something new! And in this case we are speaking about building "the androgynous superfuture we are all aiming for". Heather heard Lauren speak about gender identity on another great podcast, Coming Out with Lauren and Nicole (link below), and sought out to speak with Lauren as well. Before this conversation, when it came to gender, Heather would always feel uncomfortable being asked about identity. It is not something that exists in one singular box. Sometimes the answer is different depending on the day. And all of that is ok! Heather's own experience dealt with feeling like it had to be a choice between presenting feminine, or embracing the fluidity of the unknown, both options bringing their own challenges. This experience was amplified by Heather's head shaving, and inspired the spoken word piece "Leave", which is also linked below. There are no rules in gender. Taylor Mac uses the pronoun 'judy', as judy should. You may feel safer to share your pronouns in some spaces over others. And remember theydees and gentlethems, you never even HAVE to use a pronoun at all! You can always just refer to a person by name. Also in this episode: a great life-hack for clothes shopping! The last ten percent is a mystery. Thank you Lauren Ludwig!! And thank YOU for listening! The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa. We have MERCH! Go to teepublic.com and go craaaaaazy!! And our brand spankin’ new website dirtygirlpodcast.com is good to go, so go check it out! Heather's spoken word piece: https://www.instagram.com/tv/B240EQ-grvE/?igshid=bnj8j4d2w3y3 Lauren on Coming Out with Lauren and Nicole: https://comingoutpod.libsyn.com/episode-9-lauren-ludwig

Black lives matter. The sh*t is out there. Everyday, women have to decide how to handle it in ways men just don't. What to wear, going to a party, responding to catcalls: these choices all have consequences. And there is a reason most animals in the wild avoid predators by playing dead. This episode is a conversation between Heather and Tennile Marie (@tennilemarie). Tennile brings up the lack of proper sex education she had growing up, and the questions about her own body she had to figure out for herself: How does the vagina work? Is there any way a tampon can even fit up there? Is discharge supposed to happen, or is it bad? And speaking of discharge, this episode also includes Heather asking our producer Alex to report everything he knows about discharge. Or crotch snot, as Tennile refers to it. As the conversation progresses, the focus becomes the constant state of awareness that women must adopt all the time when interacting with the world. From an early age, it is just ingrained that any decision could possibly lead to violence, and that a woman can be a target just by being a woman. Which decision will lead to the least amount of violence? Is this a situation that can be fought? Or is it better to just let predatory behavior happen, and try to move past it without really talking about it? It is important to have space to talk about topics like these. It is important to have representation in all parts of society. And it is also important to make sure you have some extra tampons in the bathroom. Whether you are a gender that needs to use them or not, never hurts to have a few extra tampons available. Thank you so much to Tennile, and thank YOU for listening! The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa. We have MERCH! Go to teepublic.com and go craaaaaazy!! And our brand spankin’ new website dirtygirlpodcast.com is good to go, so go check it out!

Black lives matter. Like, this can't be news right? It just does not. And yet, confronting the taste of semen is a rite of passage for many sexual awakenings. At least, part of many sexual awakenings anyway. But we know there is far more to it than that. Heather's guest Natalie shares some wonderful stories about discovering sexuality on television at a very young age, yet feeling like she was much more of a late bloomer in terms of her own sexual activity. Even when you are too young to know what is happening on the screen, you still know it is something you want to watch, but that you need to lock the door for. She discusses different uses for the arm of a couch, the hotel that inspired Mambo Night in Dirty Dancing, and how she learned that a squirting orgasm is not just something that happens in porn. Did a documentary crew follow YOUR summer camp, right to the spot where you gave your first blow job? If you meet someone you watched in film or tv when you were younger, is it REALLY a good idea to sleep with them? And did MTV REALLY produce a soft core porn aimed at teenagers??? You can hear about all that and more in this episode! We have MERCH! Go to teepublic.com and go craaaaaazy!! And our brand spankin’ new website dirtygirlpodcast.com is good to go, so go check it out! Thank you Natalie for speaking with us! And thank YOU for listening! The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. Alcoholics focus on not drinking. Gambling addicts focus on not gambling. Even overeaters, who cannot simply avoid food, focus on stopping when they are full. But for sex and love addicts, the drug is people. In that case, finding a balance can be very difficult. Rivkah Reyes (@rivkah.reyes) is a comedian who has sought recovery for sex and love addiction for over two years. In this episode, Heather and Rivkah share stories of understanding, and the way their concept of love has evolved over time. If you blew right past the Netflix show “Love” when it first dropped, you might want to give it a second look. Also appearing in this episode: attempting to RomCom someone in your improv class, committing fraud during a tinder date, embracing sex positivitiy while seeking recovery for sex and love addiction, what NOT to do if your child appears in a major motion picture at the age of 10, and the experience of making your sexual debut (phrase courtesy of Amanda Seales). Remember, podcasts are cheaper than therapy. Come listen and get your nut on! Write that down, Alex. We have MERCH! Go to teepublic.com and go craaaaaazy!! And our brand spankin’ new website dirtygirlpodcast.com is good to go, so go check it out! Thank you so much Rivkah! And thank YOU for listening! The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. By the end of this, you’re just gonna want to go listen to another podcast, called Coming Out with Lauren and Nicole (@ComingOutPod). Because our guests this week are the hosts of that show! Lauren Flans (@lauren_flans) and Nicole Pacent (@nicolepacent) were part of a workshop at the Los Angeles LGBT Center about coming out, and when they could not find a podcast on the subject they started their own! You may recognize Nicole from our two part Poly Party episode, and rest assured this episode is just as badass. Lauren and Nicole go through both of their coming out stories, one of which resembles the complexity of a short film. This then reminds Heather of a pretty solid anecdote. Of course, when pod creators sit down with other pod creators, there’s always a good discussion about the impact the podcast has had on your life. But when they get to the GROSS stories, it involves a literally award-winning tale that takes the cake over any shitting-your-pants story we’ve ever heard...even though it did not happen to anybody appearing on this episode. Following this is one way to receive a sexy-looking vampire bite, and one reason never to travel to Germany. Don’t listen to this, Kyle. We have MERCH! Go to teepublic.com and go craaaaaazy!! And our brand spankin’ new website dirtygirlpodcast.com is good to go, so go check it out! Thank. You. Lauren. And. Nicole. Again, to reiterate, go listen to @ComingOutPod! And thank YOU for listening! The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. Lana Danielyan (@lanadanielyan) moved to the states from Russia when she was 12. She went all the way through law school and working as an attorney before upending everything and becoming an actor. Then there is also the experience of dating a woman for the first time after having only dated men up to that point. And of course, this delightful pandemic we all find ourselves in is another major change, to be sure, bringing with it unemployment for many freelancers. Being used to major transitions does not necessarily make them any easier though. Heather has a lovely chat with Lana about these life experiences, seeing what the pandemic has been like for her relatives in Russia, why Mexico City is more progressive than Los Angeles, and what on earth it means to describe a piece of art as “lesbianistic”. Also in this episode, Phantom Dick Energy. We have MERCH! Go to teepublic.com and go craaaaaazy!! And our brand spankin’ new website dirtygirlpodcast.com is good to go, so go check it out! A big thank you to Lana for speaking with us. And thank YOU for listening! The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

“I Don’t Have to Give Anyone Else an Orgasm” Black lives matter. There are many ways to express sex positivity. This week we’re talking about celibacy, and the taboo of NOT having sex! Heather spoke with guest Allia about love languages, the practice of celibacy versus just the theory, boundaries, talking with your partner about testing, what she wants out of having sex with a man while being a lesbian, old patterns, being selfish, and being a libra. Are you registered to VOTE??? If not, oh BOY is it time to do just that! We have MERCH! Go to teepublic.com and go craaaaaazy!! And our brand spankin’ new website dirtygirlpodcast.com is good to go, so go check it out! A tremendous thank you to Allia for sharing with us. And thank YOU for listening! The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. Three words: Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. If you like you can abbreviate it to PCOS, but either way, let’s talk about it. Heather’s guest on this episode is Lianna LaBerge (@unsolicitedstyleadvice). She was diagnosed with PCOS five years ago. Upon learning this she felt relief, that there was some explanation for experiences she had dealt with for years. PCOS is an imbalance of hormones that causes cysts to grow on the ovaries. And it affects 1 in 10 people with ovaries, also known as ovarian humans. Maybe we just came up with that in this episode. One of the symptoms Lianna discusses with Heather is period irregularity, prompting them to compare first period stories. Another symptom is body hair that can grow where you might not ordinarily find it. You can imagine the effect that this kind of relationship with her body had on Lianna while growing up. Also in this episode, Lianna shares a piece she wrote about her anxiety. What you’re feeling is real. And also you. You are real. Thank you very much to Lianna for sharing with us. And thank YOU for listening. The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. Knowing your family history is very important. It makes a huge difference should you have a higher likelihood for lymphoma. Heather's friend Joy Mamey (@joymamey) was diagnosed at age 28 after finding a bump on her neck, followed by two more. "I think it hits when it wants to hit." Joy spoke with Heather about the effects of chemotherapy. It's not great for pooping, or for appetite. Fortunately, there is weed. And just like any hangover, it is essential to hydrate! The whole experience brings many unexpected feelings as well. The reactions she received after losing weight were surprising, and Heather is here for shaved head solidarity. Joy has a new podcast! It is called Terrified Together. It's available on the platforms AS WE SPEAK. Thank you very much to Joy for sharing with us. And thank YOU for listening. The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. What do white people need to be doing to change consciousness and truly support equality? Heather chats with Maury about protesting in Seattle's Capitol Hill Organized Protest, as well as quarantining with the first woman she has been in a relationship with...while at her parent's house. Along the way, Maury discusses attending her first pride parade as an openly gay woman, which was also a Black Lives Matter protest. Some of the pearls from this episode include: guilt is the least helpful place to put your energy into, and quarantine can take a toll on your sex life if you got roommates, ya dig? This episode was recorded while the CHOP was still in effect. Welcome to The Pink Umbrella Family.  Did we mention that today is just a PHENOMENAL day to arrest the cops who killed Breonna Taylor? You can send a message to the Attorney General of Kentucky on their website right here, and ask him to do just that. https://ag.ky.gov/Contact-Us/Pages/default.aspx  Thank you very much to Maury for chatting.  And thank YOU for listening. The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. Cody Heller is a baller who wrote for Wilfred, co-created Deadbeat, and co-executive produced Kidding. She just created Dummy (on Quibi) starring Anna Kendrick. And also she and Heather Ann are now best friends! No joke, if you have not seen this show yet, WATCH IT. Anna Kendrick plays a writer, named Cody Heller, who for real has adventures with her boyfriend's sex doll, played by Meredith Hagner. Heather Ann chats with Cody about the show, but also Cody's path as a writer and showrunner, sexual taboos, communication in relationships, discovering masturbation and orgasms, representation in Hollywood, being a better accomplice, and a VERY important examination of how a sound designer approaches the portrayal of a fart. And what's an episode of Dirty Girl without a good shitting of pants? THIS IS NOT A JOKE. If you want to check out Dummy (and why would you not?) but cannot afford Quibi, DM Cody on Instagram (@normalheller) and she will VENMO YOU A ONE-MONTH SUBSCRIPTION. So you have NO EXCUSE! Thank you to Cody for being a badass. And thank YOU for listening. The production is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaha.

Black lives matter. Get ready to feel the God presence folks. This episode finds Heather chatting with Tamara Perry (@t2thetam), Curator of Love and Purveyor of Magic. You may notice that a child never has to remind themselves that they are enough. They just go about their life knowing that they are. This observation, and several others, are part of the Magic purveyed by Tamara in this episode. She shares her experience of being biracial, understanding her sexuality, and finding her identity at 35. There is even a bona fide mic drop moment. Let's talk about sex, and how many folks may get the wrong ideas about it from the porn industry, when really it is a truly spiritual experience. Let's talk about our personal trauma, and our societal trauma, both of which need healing. Let's talk about moments of confusion, and moments of beautiful, beautiful clarity. A tremendous thank you to Tamara for sharing with us. And thank YOU for listening. The show is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. On this episode Heather listens to Diona. Diona shares some of her experience understanding the full reaches of white supremacism in mainstream culture. Why, as a young black woman, would she feel afraid of black men? To what extent have beauty standards and self-esteem been distorted by a white dominated media? Why was Damon Lindelof (and the talented writing staff of HBO’s Watchmen) responsible for the first time that so many people ever even heard about the tragic events in Tulsa, Oklahoma in 1921? Let’s continue doing the work of anti-racism, shall we? Diona is kind enough to remind us, that this has nothing to do with posting on social media just so you can say that you did it. “We can’t go back to normal. Because normal is shit.” If you missed it last week, a helpful resource is antiracismforbeginners.com Thank you Diona for the talk. And thank YOU for listening. The show is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter.   Let’s take a bird’s eye view. This episode is a conversation Heather had with Elena Muslar. A few weeks ago, Elena wrote an automatic out of office email reply, stating she would be taking the day off to “rest and recharge from the extra work [she] continue[s] to put in as a Black employee … trying to dismantle issues of systemic racism from within the walls of a predominantly white institution.”   At the same time, she blocked off the entire day of Juneteenth in her work calendar, a virtual calendar that co-workers had access to, and wrote that she would be required to use vacation time in order to take Juneteenth off. Why is this the case, she asked, when Juneteenth is the oldest celebration that commemorates the end of slavery in America, and should simply be a national holiday?   During this conversation, Heather asks Elena about something that happened when they were co-workers five years ago. Instead, Elena invites Heather to unpack it herself.   So. What have you done to help black lives today?   A helpful resource to look at is right here: antiracismforbeginners.com Thank you very much to Elena Muslar for taking the time and sharing. Elena is a Creative Career & Mindset Coach and Community Arts Consultant. She’s an educator for creatives looking to level up their personal development to enhance their professional ROI (return on investment), and confidant for entities who want to better connect with the communities they aim to serve.    @lelemariecreates www.elenamuslar.com   And thank YOU for listening. The show is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. Do you ever think about a goldfish’s last memory? At the beginning of this episode, Chelsea London Lloyd  (@_chelswhoelse_) asks Heather what her goldfish moment was. The moment when she first became aware of death. Today marks ten years since the death of Heather’s mom. Heather was 17 at the time. A while back, Heather sat down with Chelsea for her podcast Dying of Laughter (@dyingoflaughter_podcast), where Chelsea talks to comedians who have lost a parent or sibling. Heather talks about her mom and her experience, and today we wanted to share that talk with you here as well. But go check out Dying of Laughter for the full-length version. That version includes bloopers. Please look at al-anon.org if you are experiencing something similar. You are not alone. Your pain is valid. Thank you to Chelsea London Lloyd for producing and editing this interview. And thank YOU for listening. The show is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. WOW. You folks are in for a very insightful conclusion to our awesome panel of ethically non-monogamous badasses. In part two, Monica, Nicole, and Lauren offer more stories and experiences that involve in-depth self-reflection. And pay attention to how being honest about their feelings, as well as specific, is crucial to both understanding, and dealing with potential challenges. One of the primary topics in this episode includes undoing various types of cultural programming. In this discussion, that programming is in relation to preconceived notions about relationships and commitment. But we sincerely hope that right now, every white person reading this is on their own journey of self-reflection and undoing the programming of systemic racism. Other topics in this episode are family dynamics, hierachical and non-hierarchical non-monogamy, and the j-word. (You Gin Blossoms fans know what we're talking about.) A big thank you again to these three ladies for showing up and sharing. Just a reminder, Nicole's podcast is called Coming Out with Lauren & Nicole. And we hope to have our panel back again, possibly to discuss a different topic altogether! We would still love to hear a voice memo or audio recording about the dirtier parts of your quarantine experience. We hope you are doing alright. Email your stories to dirtygirlpodcast@gmail.com. Thanks to everyone who has sent one in so far! And thank YOU for listening. The show is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The theme song vocals are vocalized by Natalie Sharp. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Black lives matter. Hello you beautiful and dirty people. This week Heather sits down with The Poly Panel: three married people who are in poly relationships, and they're super interesting. There is a lot of good discussion here, so we split it into two parts. That way you can take your time with it, enjoy at your own pace, etc. Part two will arrive next week. Topics this week include coming out to your family and co-workers as poly, resources for research, agreements and boundaries, and there MAY be what we in the biz like to call...a big scoop! We would like to sincerely thank Monica, Nicole, and Lauren for sharing with us. Nicole's podcast is called Coming Out with Lauren & Nicole (different Lauren), and is available on all of ze platforms. We would still love to hear a voice memo or audio recording about the dirtier parts of your quarantine experience! We hope you are doing alright. Email your stories to dirtygirlpodcast@gmail.com. Thanks to everyone who has sent one in so far!   Thank you for listening. The show is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The artwork is worked by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is distributed by WhoHaHa.

Hello all you beautiful dirty people! We need to catch up! Today, Heather sits down with them 3 boy-dudes what help her make the show. They start by talking about how depression gets in the way of productivity, and ask about Heather's experience with therapy (If you're listening Talkspace...we're here for you). Also, it turns out that Heather's boyfriend's mom is a fan of the show! Hooray! We did it! Boy is it good to be back...  We would still love to hear a voice memo or audio recording about the dirtier parts of your quarantine experience! We hope you are doing alright. Email your stories to dirtygirlpodcast@gmail.com.  Thanks to everyone who has sent one in so far!   The show is produced by Heather Ann Gottlieb, Cameron Tagge, Alex Salem, and Tristen Bankston. The artwork is by Kevin Laughlin. The distribution is by WhoHaHa. Thank you for listening! We'll see you in two weeks.