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Deep Listening - Impact beyond words - Oscar Trimboli

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21 minutes | Mar 23, 2023
Deep Listening Ambassador Update and congratulations to our winners
Could you take a photo of yourself with the book and email it to podcast@oscartrimboli.com  with the Subject Line “Cover”?  I’ve set up a registration page for all these events so you can register for the rest of the year if you visit https://www.oscartrimboli.com/communityofpractice/  If you would like to provide feedback on the development of this course, you can visit https://www.oscartrimboli.com/coursefeedback Please send an email to podcast@oscartrimboli.com with the Subject Line “Book Club“, and a recommendation for a book you would like the group to explore. We’d love to add yours, send to podcast@oscartrimboli.com with the Subject Line “Hello World” Send an email to podcast@oscartrimboli.com and put in the Subject Line “Interview” if you’d like to be interviewed for the Deep Listening Podcast from the perspective of the Deep Listening Ambassador. If you’re interested in going deeper, then send me an email podcast@oscartrimboli.com with the Subject Line “Deeper” and what you took away from this next conversation.  
24 minutes | Mar 2, 2023
how to effectively listen to what employees mean rather than what they say with Bryan Adams
Bryan Adams is the CEO and founder of Ph.Creative, recognized as one of the leading employer brand agencies in the world with clients such as Apple, American Airlines, , and Blizzard Entertainment. Bryan is author of Give & Get Employer Branding: Repel the Many and Compel the Few with Impact, Purpose and Belonging https://giveandget.net/ He is global employer brand expert and his creative, unconventional and even controversial methodologies are said to regularly change the way people think about employer branding and Employee Value Proposition (EVP) I love Bryan’s three Cs – culture, career catalyst and citizenship https://www.ph-creative.com/   Listen for free  
27 minutes | Feb 15, 2023
how to listen to what boards and executives value in internal communications with Jenni Field
In this episode of Deep Listening – Impact beyond words, we listen to Jenni Field, an international business communications strategist. Jenni helps organisations to get teams to work together better and review how operations can work more effectively. Jenni worked as a Communications Director for a global pharmaceutical business and Global Head of Communications for a FTSE 250 hospitality business. It is this experience that contributed to the development of The Field Model™ and her book, Influential Internal Communication Learn the difference between what an executive says and means when they say value. How do you think about the frequency of listening and communicating your actions will be as an organisation? If you would like a copy of Jenni’s book Influential Internal Communication: Streamline Your Corporate Communication to Drive Efficiency and Engagement We are gifting 3 copies of the book, send an email to podcast at oscar trimboli dot com with the subject line The Field Model and what you took from this episode into your workplace. Listen for free
7 minutes | Feb 2, 2023
The Why, how, what and who of the Deep Listening Ambassador Community
Deep Listening Ambassadors 2023   The purpose of the Deep Listening Ambassadors Community is to create 100 Million Deep Listeners in the workplace. Be a listening role model in your community, not a perfect listener Being better than the last conversation Create a connection to useful listening resources Support other Deep Listening Ambassadors around the world The Deep Listening Ambassadors meet regularly across three time zones to understand, learn, and support each other to improve their listening.   Background Born in December 2019, the Deep Listening Ambassador Community was named through a listening process. We asked people who wanted more information about listening if they would like a place to practice and improve their listening. Through a survey of 426 people, they voted, and the community agreed to call themselves Deep Listening Ambassadors. The community has grown 2,448 members across 19 countries explored how to bring Deep Listening into their workplace discussed how to make progress with their workplace listening during 93 online workshops across 3 time zones made connections with other Ambassadors provided feedback on how to listen – the book including title, structure, stories, and weekly exercises prototyped how to listen – an online course – including feedback about assessments, course structures, and pricing. Requested and provided input into a Deep Listening Accreditation   The group has grown organically, and with 2,448 people who have joined the community, I wanted to invite you to let me know how you would like to shape the Ambassador community in the next 12 months. If you would like to have your say in the future of the community, I invite you to complete this  5 minute survey.   As a thank you for your time and commitment to the community and the process of listening, I will post a paperback copy of how to listen - discover the hidden key to better communication - the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace to you, just for completing the survey. The survey must be completed on Midnight February 15, 2023 United States Pacific Time For everyone who completes the quiz will go into a draw. One person will be randomly drawn from the group, and they will be the winner of a bonus prize. Bonus Prize You will receive 10 copies of the book and a 45-minute listening online workshop for up to 20 people in your workplace. If you work for yourself, I will run this workshop for one of your clients or suppliers for up to 20 people. This workshop will need to be completed by June 30, 2023. www.oscartrimboli.com/feedback
44 minutes | Jan 13, 2023
The Assumptions That Stop Us From Listening Well
Four Habits That Derail Listening, with Oscar Trimboli (episode 500) Dave's Interview interview notes in PDF format (free membership required)
14 minutes | Dec 1, 2022
Listening to you - a summary of your survey feedback and actions
Listening to you - a summary of your survey feedback and actions More Q&A episodes Shorter episodes Live episodes Actions Once a month continue with expert listener interviews Once a month your questions answered   https://www.oscartrimboli.com/howtolisten https://www.oscartrimboli.com/videoconference https://www.oscartrimboli.com/90days https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/106 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/104 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/103 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/102 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/099 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/097 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/096 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/095 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/093 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/090 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/084 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/082 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/074 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/068 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/064 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/054 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/052 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/035 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/024 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/007 https://www.oscartrimboli.com/survey
4 minutes | Nov 16, 2022
November 2022 Listener Survey - 3 prizes available to win
G’day it’s Oscar, and I am in the middle of my listening season The difference between surveying and listening is taking action Based on your previous feedback, we have made the following changes to the Deep Listening podcast content and format Created the Deep Listening Ambassador Community of Practice Created the ultimate guide to listening during a video conference zoom edition Interviews + short tips and technique episodes including How to listen when you want to solve How to listen for actions during meetings How to listen in planning meetings Note-taking during the meeting Created YouTube videos as another way to find, search and access the podcast Shared Listener's questions and answers during podcast episodes www.oscartrimboli.com/survey is the always-on listening tool to catch what you think about the podcast Every episode of the podcast is available on 18 platforms including Amazon Alexa, Spotify, and YouTube which are just 3 of the 18 platforms which are available to listeners in 186 countries and territories globally Each episode includes a transcript that has been created and reviewed by a human.  As a thank you when you complete the survey, you will go into the draw which will be drawn randomly on November 24, 2022, at 12:00noon Australian Eastern Daylight Saving Time. 1st prize - 10 paperback copies of how to listen - discover the hidden key to better communication - the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace + a complimentary 45-minute webinar for you and 9 of your work colleagues about how to listen in the workplace
26 minutes | Nov 11, 2022
The sophisticated and paradoxical power of deciding if and when to listen
Oscar Trimboli: The sophisticated and paradoxical power of deciding if and when to listen. G'day, It's Oscar, and today we have a question from a Deep Listening Ambassador in Japan. Shaney: Hi Oscar. This is Shaney from Tsukuba Ibaraki, Japan, and my question is about listening as a leader. Do you have any suggestions about how to continue to listen deeply as a leader when you tend to receive comments, suggestions, and ideas from so many people all day every day. It can be quite surprising for people who are new to leadership positions to realize just how much time leaders spend listening to people and how tiring it can be when the fourth or the eighth person in a day asks you if you have a minute and then launches into a rant or a criticism or a suggestion of how to improve something. Listening is so very important to leadership, but it can also be really, really hard to listen to comments and suggestions all day long, especially because you feel a personal obligation to fix the problems that people bring to you.   Oscar Trimboli: Thanks, Shaney. This is a wonderful paradoxical and universal question independent of organization, culture, location, or country. My favorite kind of question, if you like Shaney, have a question about listening in the workplace, email  podcast@oscartrimboli.com This question, it's a question about choice and timing. It could be about when to listen and when NOT to listen. It's also a question about attention and your listening batteries. When it comes to your listening batteries throughout the day, you need to check and notice what's your battery level right now is a green, yellow, red. You need to check what color your listening battery is before you start listening. Something I learned from James Clear in episode 67, advice is often context dependent. Shaney, I'm going to avoid giving you advice here as James points out questions can help you navigate beyond the context. Let's listen to how James explained it.   James Clear: And one of the women that as a reader of mine and I talked to as I was working on the book, she lost a lot of weight, and she had this really great question that she carried around with her. Questions are often more useful than advice in the sense that advice is very context dependent. It's like, "Oh, it works in this situation, but what if you find yourself in a different situation now it doesn't apply as much." And the question that she carried around with her was what would a healthy person do? And so she could go from context to context and sort of have that question to reinforce the identity. That's actually in many ways, more useful than having a good workout program or a good diet plan because that you can only do once. But no matter where you're at, you can ask what would a healthy person do?   Oscar Trimboli: Shaney, I'll share with you four types of questions, four categories of questions for groups of questions that have helped my other clients. It's important to understand that the question you are asked is very, very common and it's amplified when you're in a leadership role. The categories of the four questions are what, when, how, and who. Let's start with WHAT. What would make this a good conversation? What would make this a great conversation? What would make this an effective conversation? What do you want from this conversation? In the book, how to listen, we cover off the use of this question throughout the book, creating a listening compass for you and the other participants. It's a great way to hack the conversation to make it much shorter for you and for them. The reason we want to ask a WHAT question right up front is you want to understand the context for them and for you, because shortly I'm going to invite you to make a choice about when you should think about answering this question, Shaney. So let's move to WHEN Here's a group of questions to think about. When is the best time to discuss this with you? When is the best time for us to discuss it? And finally, although I'd love to discuss it right now and listen to you, I don't think I can effectively listen to what you want to achieve in this conversation. Can we discuss this at another time? Professor Cal Newport is very particular about the value he places on his time. And rather than dealing with each individual and their specific question, request feedback experiment, he encourages each of his students or peers to attend a regular weekly meeting. In that meeting, everybody can bring their request or their question along. He does this for three very specific reasons. 1. he has a defined time and more importantly, a defined process for dealing with these random rants, as you call them, Shaney, or the feedback or any of the other issues he's dealing with. He's placing them in space, time, and context where he can arrive with his listening batteries fully charged. 2. he creates the environment where others can participate. Others can listen to the range of questions that Professor Newport is asked, as well as listening to the way he thinks about answering these questions. 3. he thinks about his time being multiplied in a group context with many of the participants either self-solving when hearing others' answers, resolving their question with other participants, helping them in doing so. Newport is building a culture of mutual support. He's making himself independent of the process, and ultimately Newport explains how he would approach thinking about the issue rather than his recommendation to the other person or group about how to solve the issue. Shaney, one of the things I invite you to think about is if you feel like you need to fix, give them a simple framework to think it through rather than giving them an answer. In adopting this approach, Newport creates a sustainable listening process ensuring his listening batteries are fully charged before arriving at this regular meeting, whether it's face to face or virtual. Shaney, back in episode 61, when I discussed this issue with Professor Stefan Van der Stigchel from Utrecht University, he's written multiple books on the importance of attention. He reflected on his more direct approach when students or peers approached him with a question.   Stefan Van der Stigchel: People come into my room when I'm on my work quite often to ask me questions or to talk about a certain experiment. And of course, when you're in your working environment, they're things are not always positive, right? What I've tried to learn is that communicate to, if people enter my room to say, this is not the right moment. I cannot listen to you. My mind is not open, my working memory is full, I'm worrying about something. And I've started to realize that people actually appreciate that if you say it in the past, there are too many occasions in which I was claiming to be listening and they ask me questions and I just noticed my mind is somewhere else. My mind wandering about the meeting before, and then I simply have to admit that I have no idea what they're talking about. And that's quite embarrassing and it's frustrating what I've learned from my peers that there are people who can acknowledge that they can acknowledge if somebody walks into the room, ask them a scientific question, please, not now. It's good to have a culture and in a work environment when you can admit that although I might be looking at you right now, I am honestly not listening. And this is not due to you. You're very interesting and you're probably a very interesting question. But what's happening to me right now is that my mind is wandering, and I'm not ready to receive your information. Again, my environment, people have to learn that's a possibility and that they can come back at a later time, but it's not something personal. Previously what happened to me is that I was sort of almost afraid to tell the other person because I was afraid that they were going to take it personally, right? That you are not interesting to me. And I try to make sure that it's not about them, but it's simply that the current situation is for some reason not appropriate.   Oscar Trimboli: Shaney, when thinking about the WHEN of listening, the most generous thing, the most sustainable outcome for you, and the person asking the question, the rant, the person wanting to bounce something off you. The most generous thing I think you can do is NOT listen. When you're listening, batteries are drained when they're moving from yellow to red or from red to black. It doesn't help them, you or the organization you lead by listening, transactionally, listening superficially, bouncing between level one and maybe level two, listening for symptoms rather than moving between level two, three and four and listening for systemic implications. Listening is a skill, it's a practice, it's a process and ultimately a way to impact systemic change in a sustainable way for the organization you'd lead. As I mentioned earlier on, Shaney, the question you pose is a universal leadership issue. It's a common question my clients ask me. This is an interview with Katie Burke, who is the leader of people and culture at HubSpot, an organization where she's responsible for 6,000 employees globally. In this interview with Shane Metcalf, Chief People Officer for 15Five an employee engagement software company from June 21, it was called Reviving the Art of Listening with HubSpot's Katie Burke. Listen carefully as Katie describes how she manages her energy to make a bigger impact with her listening. Notice how she conserves her listening batteries and shares the difficult and draining parts of listening with other leaders and members of her team.   Katie Burke: In my own journey on this front, I think a few things that have really worked for me, I got some really tough feedback my first few years as CPO that I was distracted and I was, and it was because I was trying to be everywhere at once and be all things to all people. And so the biggest tack for listening that I know is I say NO to almost everything, including I don't get a ton of energy from doing one-on-one coffee chats with people. I've just learned over the years. I
4 minutes | Nov 1, 2022
2022 Listener Survey - 3 prizes available to win
G’day it’s Oscar, and I am in the middle of my listening season The difference between surveying and listening is taking action Based on your previous feedback, we have made the following changes to the Deep Listening podcast content and format Created the Deep Listening Ambassador Community of Practice Created the ultimate guide to listening during a video conference zoom edition Interviews + short tips and technique episodes including How to listen when you want to solve How to listen for actions during meetings How to listen in planning meetings Note-taking during the meeting Created YouTube videos as another way to find, search and access the podcast Shared Listener's questions and answers during podcast episodes www.oscartrimboli.com/survey is the always-on listening tool to catch what you think about the podcast Every episode of the podcast is available on 18 platforms including Amazon Alexa, Spotify, and YouTube which are just 3 of the 18 platforms which are available to listeners in 186 countries and territories globally Each episode includes a transcript that has been created and reviewed by a human.  As a thank you when you complete the survey, you will go into the draw which will be drawn randomly on November 24, 2022, at 12:00noon Australian Eastern Daylight Saving Time. 1st prize - 10 paperback copies of how to listen - discover the hidden key to better communication - the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace + a complimentary 45-minute webinar for you and 9 of your work colleagues about how to listen in the workplace 2nd prize - 10 paperback copies of how to listen - discover the hidden key to better communication - the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace 3rd prize - 2 paperback copies of how to listen - discover the hidden key to better communication - the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace A quick reminder, oscartrimboli.com/survey to shape the future of your Deep Listening podcast and go into the draw to win one of three prizes Thanks for listening
32 minutes | Oct 28, 2022
the importance of noticing when to listen for difference, not for the familiar - Aubrey Blanche
Aubrey Blanche: Always ask how it could be more equitable. This is really core to the practice in what I teach. My theory of change is called equitable design, and it's really based in these beliefs that every decision, every action, or for every event, experience, program, system, product can either create greater or less equity. And I believe that the most powerful thing each of us can do is do the next slightly more right thing.   Oscar Trimboli: Deep listening, impact beyond words. Good day. I'm Oscar Trimboli and this is the Apple award-winning podcast, Deep Listening, designed to move you from a distracted listener to a deep and impactful leader. Did you know you spend 55% of your day listening, yet only 2% of people have ever been taught how? In each episode we explore the five levels of listening. Communication is 50% speaking and 50% listening. Yet, as a leader, you are taught only the importance of communication from the perspective of how to speak. It's critical you start to build some muscles for the next phase in how to listen. The cost of not listening, it's confusion, it's conflict, it's projects running over schedule. It's lost customers, it's great employees that leave before they want to. When you implement the strategies, the tips and tactics that you'll hear, you'll get four hours a week back in your schedule. I wonder what you could do with an extra four hours or a week. Aubrey Blanche is a math nerd and an empath who helps organizations build equitable processes, products and experiences. Her work combines an empathetic and intersectional approach with social scientific methods to create meaningful and sustainable change From fair talent processes and bias resistant product design to equitable algorithmic design and communication strategy. She helps organizations to think holistically about evolving to meet the needs of a rapidly diversifying and globalizing world. Aubrey and I explore listening for differences, practical steps you can implement in your organization to listen for the data of performance and equity while being conscious of change over time. That's the performance implication of listening for velocity. Aubrey changed my mind about my choice of where to spend my time in our deep listening quest and the consequences of choosing who and where I place my attention. Let's listen to Aubrey. What's the cost of not listening?   Aubrey Blanche: In the worst case scenarios, it's that you do actual harm to another person. In the work that I do, I'm so often talking to people, working with people, trying to support people who are very different from me. If I'm not able to listen deeply, there is a big chance that I contribute to them still not feeling heard. I work with marginalized people who are often unheard in the world, and so I can do harm by exacerbating that. Or if I'm not listening deeply, I can develop a solution that doesn't actually meet the need that's being articulated and could actually be harmful in some way. Listening is the first thing that we do when we want to support other people, when you scale it out, really, it's how we build a better world when we listen and we build a worse world when we don't.   Oscar Trimboli: Jennifer, a retired primary school teacher is a stay at home mom and her son, Christopher at the age of three, comes home from school. Jennifer says to Christopher, "What did you learn at school today, honey?" He said, "Mommy, mommy, I'm so excited. I learned the three is half of eight." Now Jennifer's a little confused. And as a former primary school teacher says, "Could you say that again, honey?" And he said, "Yeah, mommy, I learned that three is half of eight." Well, Jennifer puts her hands in her face and kind of shakes her head and she goes to the cupboard and she gets eight M&Ms out of the cupboard and lines them up on the kitchen table. She puts four M&M soldiers in one line and four M&M soldiers in another. She picks Christopher up and puts him on the kitchen table and says, "Honey, how many M&M soldiers in this row?" And he goes, "One, two, three, four, Mommy." And she goes, "How many on the other side?" He goes, "Mum, I don't need to count, there's four. They're all facing each other." And she says, "You see, honey, three is not half of eight, four is half of eight." With that, Christopher jumped off the table, went and grabbed a piece of paper, drew the figure eight, altered it in half, tore it in half vertically and showed it to his mum and said, "Mommy, see three is half of eight." In that moment in time, Jennifer realized that her son was neuro-diverse, non-neuro-typical. I'm curious, Aubrey, as you hear that story and you are in workplaces where people are obsessed with telling everybody else that four is half of eight and they're wrong because of their culture, their background, their professional experience, what do you take from the story?   Aubrey Blanche: I love that story. I think in math a lot of times, and I was like, "Oh, she's thinking in arithmetic and he's thinking in geometry almost, right? And shapes." In so many organizations, there's this homogenization that happens and I come from the tech industry where innovation is the thing, and often when you start from the premise that you don't know anything, you're actually able to better see that there's an assumption that like, "Oh, you're speaking in arithmetics, that four is half of eight," but Christopher didn't say that. He didn't say how. And so I see it as there was an assumption that led to a misunderstanding or I guess to put it in your language, an assumption that led to an inability to hear, an inability to listen. When I approach something like that, because I try, and I say try because I am certainly imperfect and fail at this at times, but if I hear something that's surprising or that doesn't align with my experience or what I know, the first thing I try to say is, "Can you tell me more about that?" Because what I've found is when I just ask someone for more but don't put constraints on what more means, they will take me down the path that they came from and it's usually not one I would've found or walked on my own. And often when you open it up for someone to continue sharing with you, you get that context. And so you have that realization that in the situation is, "Oh three is half of eight. How amazing." And I think that's true of neuro-diverse people in general, but maybe a spicy idea. I'm starting to believe that there's no such thing as neuro-diversity. Not that there aren't people with different ways of thinking, but it seems like every day there's someone new that I meet that identifies as neuro-diverse to the point where I'm like, "I think we might all just be different, and we might have been living in this collected delusion that there was something called neuro-typically in the first place." Speaking as someone who is neuro-diverse herself, I'm bipolar type one. Yeah, I really believe that we should start with the assumption that other people have lived and walked different paths and have entirely different ways of thinking and perceiving than we do. And if that is the first and only assumption that we make, I think we hear better, we listen better, but we also learn more and grow more as people.   Oscar Trimboli: One of the phrases I loved hearing from another conversation you had is "diversify your inputs". For me, the way I make that practical is on the weekend when I'm gardening and mowing the lawn, I am listening to podcasts from presenters that I absolutely fiercely disagree with. And for me it's a really humbling process that I've been doing for seven years now to make sure that I'm diversifying my inputs. What advice would you give for leaders out there to diversify their inputs in the workplace and outside so they can start to build muscles where they're listening not just for similarities, four is half of eight, but also to listen for difference where three is half of eight and zero is half of eight as well?   Aubrey Blanche: I think for me in my line of work, this might not be surprising, but I would start because difference can mean a lot of things. Some of the most impactful and important listening that we do is across lines of difference that have to do with privilege. When I think about I'm someone who has a big combination of privileged and marginalized identities, and I have absolutely learned the most when I have thought. As an example, I grew up in a middle, upper middle class household. And so for me, listening across that line of privilege, listening to someone who grew up poor or working class, I have learned more about the world and about humanity from thoughtfully and intentionally creating space in my listening diet for those types of perspectives. The advice that I would give to folks if you're non-disabled, listen to disabled experiences. If you're a man, listen to the experiences of people from marginalized genders. If you're a white listen to people of color. I am a very funny mix of identities. I'm white assumed, but I'm Latina and mixed race, but so I have this weird experience of both being a white person and being a non-white person in the American context. I was in a program in graduate school, so I pursued a PhD that I didn't finish, and I was putting on a program called Enhancing Diversity and Graduate Education, and it was for Black and Latinx students in the social sciences, and I was very intimidated to be in this room. You have to understand the people I was with were just so intellectually impressive. I did not feel like I had much to say in that room, but it was in that room listening to the experiences of the Black students in particular who experience a level of racism that I will never personally understand, that I began to actually understand racism as a system and as a social concept rather than as an individual problem because... So growing up for me, I had been teased by kids at school who would slam my locker and tell me, "Oh, you're the Mexican and that's why we do this." But I always thought that was an Aubrey problem. And listening to these incredibly brilliant students talk a
60 minutes | Oct 21, 2022
how to listen - discover the hidden key to better communication - the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace
25 minutes | Oct 14, 2022
The Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference Part III of III
G'day - I'm Oscar Trimboli, and this is the Apple award-winning podcast, Deep Listening: Impact Beyond Words. Good listeners focus on what's said and deep listeners notice what's not said. Each episode is designed to help you learn from hundreds of the world's most diverse workplace listening professionals, including anthropologists, air traffic controllers, acoustic engineers and actors, behavioral scientists and business executives, community organizers, conductors, deaf and blind leaders, foreign language interpreters and body language experts, judges, journalists, market researchers, medical professionals, memory champions, military leaders, movie makers and musicians. You'll learn from neurotypical and neurodiverse listeners, as well as neuroscientists and negotiators, palliative care nurses and suicide counsellors. Whether you're in pairs, teams, groups or listening across systems, whether you're face to face, on the phone or via video conference, you'll learn the art and science of listening and understand the importance of the neuroscience and these three critical numbers: 125, 400 and 900. You'll also learn three is half of eight, zero is half of eight, and four is half of eight when you listen across the five levels of listening, conscious of the four most common barriers that get in your way. Each episode will provide you with practical, pragmatic and actionable techniques to reduce the number of meetings you attend and shorten the meetings you participate in. The Deep Listening Podcast is the most comprehensive resource for workplace listeners. Along with the deep listening ambassadors, we're on a quest to create a hundred million deep listeners in the workplace one conversation at a time. The Ultimate Guide for Listening on a Video Conference, Host Edition This episode is the last of three in a series about how to listen as host during a video conference. If you haven't had a chance to listen to the overview, Episode 101, it outlines three things: 1. sequence before, during and after the meeting. 2. the role. Are you the host or the participant? And 3. the meeting size, intimate, interactive or broadcast. In episode 101, we dived deeply into sequence, how to think about before, during and after the video conference. In part two, episode 102, we explore your role as the host as well as a participant. Like all the episodes, you can revisit them based on their episode number. This one would be www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/103 And the first episode in this series would be 101, and the second, 102. If you haven't done so already, I strongly recommend you listen to these episodes in sequence starting at 101, 102 and then this one, 103. You can listen to 101 at www.oscartrimboli.com/podcast/101 In this episode, the final in the series, we explore listening and hosting tips based on meeting size. There are three meeting sizes. 1. The first one, the intimate meeting, you, maybe one or two others. It might be a catch up meeting with a peer. It might be a meeting with your manager. It might even be a job interview. A quick reminder, intimate meetings refer to the number of participants in the meeting, not the content being discussed. 2. Meeting size number two, interactive. You as the host are part of the Zoom meeting, which has between three and 15 people. Typically, it's a regular meeting. It's a team meeting. It's a work in progress meeting. It could be a group meeting. It could be an executive or an ex-co meeting. It could be a board meeting. It could be a kickoff meeting. These meetings have a deliberate purpose, agenda and one or many hosts and one or many agenda items. 3. Meeting three, this is the broadcast meeting. These meetings typically involve over 20 people, and some people say the opportunity for engagement is limited. In the 105 pages of The Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference, www.oscartrimboli.com/videoconference the primary navigational orientation is by meeting size. The first question you need to ask yourself is what type of meeting, and then you can use the navigation inside the document to move you around really quickly. If you visit oscartrimboli.com/videoconference, there's a 17-page preview guide. In the preview guide, this outlines the welcome, the introduction, who is this guide for and who is it not for? There's an explanation about how to use the guide, including the three key pages of navigational guidance. These are organized by the meeting size. Each meeting, intimate, interactive or broadcast, is organized into a three by three grid. Across the top from left to right, the context of the meeting, these three boxes, independent of the meeting, represent the host perspective, the participants' perspective and the meeting's outcome. From left to right, it goes host, participant, outcome. From top to bottom, it represents before, during and after the meeting. In each of these nine boxes, there's a hyperlink which will take you directly to the explanation of each term with actions, questions, techniques and tips to make you a great listening host. For the broadcast meeting, these boxes focus the host as follows: Before, ask three questions of the group to understand their current mindset. During, acknowledge the themes in response to your initial three questions. After, announce what was heard during the broadcast and when you communicate the actions accordingly. Before we jump into the guide, let's listen to Hugh Forrest, who serves as the chief programming officer for South by Southwest, held annually in Austin, Texas. This event brings together more than 70,000 industry creatives from across the United States and around the world. And I have to say I'm very excited that in 2023, South by Southwest comes to my hometown of Sydney and looking forward to catching up with Hugh. Next, Hugh will explain how South by Southwest prepare for thousands of broadcast presentations. Hugh Forrest: We spend what I'd like to say is an inordinate amount of time reading through user feedback from the previous year. There are many good reasons for doing that. You learn about the event from a completely different perspective than you had as an organizer. There are often things that you learned that were great that you had no knowledge of. There are often things that you learned that didn't go so well that you had no knowledge of, and that just reading this feedback gives you a much better perspective and much fuller perspective and much more nuanced perspective of what was good and what needs improvement. That process of reading feedback, of digesting feedback, of trying to understand feedback, of listening to what your users and what your community is saying can be mentally, emotionally, spiritually exhausting. It's often not easy reading sharp criticisms of what you've done, particularly if you think you've done something incredibly great, but I think you try to have a generally positive attitude here and understand it's all part of the learning process and helps you get better and throughout the most harsh criticisms and throughout the highest praise and the whatever objective truth is somewhere in the middle, but again, helps you do that by reading this feedback. So we'll spend six weeks reading feedback, trying to analyze that feedback, try to put that into some general themes and even more specific themes. And then by about late May, early June, we're beginning to plan for the next year. And one of the big pieces in terms of planning for the next year is this South by Southwest Panel Picker interface that we've been using for approximately a decade. This is an interface where anyone in the community, which basically means that anyone with a web connection can enter a speaking proposal. It allows us to listen to what the community wants to get new ideas and new speakers into the event. We'll get somewhere in the neighborhood of 5,000 total ideas, speaking proposals for South by Southwest, of which hopefully about a thousand of those will be accepted to the event. The other 4,000 are also, again, very, very useful in terms of trying to discern what our community wants to hear, what our community wants to learn about that our community is much more focused on learning the latest technologies. This Panel Picker system is ultimately a way for us to communicate with our audience, for us to learn from our audience, for us to listen to our audience, and I think it's one of the many things that has helped us continue to improve present event. Oscar Trimboli: Whether you're preparing for 70, 700, 7,000 or 70,000 as Hugh has just explained, when it comes to the broadcast format, the majority of effort is actually in the preparation. Let's jump to the guide now and understand how to prepare to listen before you commence the process of putting the content together for the broadcast meeting. If you were to click on the link for the host in the guide right now before the broadcast meeting, this is what you'd read. Before the meeting, many techniques available during intimate and interactive meetings are available in the broadcast meeting as well in the broadcast meeting. Especially the ability to ask participants questions before the broadcast, during the registration process. These questions signal that you want to listen. You want to make the session interactive. You want to signal to the audience that you want them to be part of the presentation. Whatever you collect before the meeting, please make sure you summarize and integrate the themes from registration into the content of your broadcast. This is where your effort will be. It will be in collection, categorization, summarization and ultimately, presentation back to the group. Be conscious that your questions in advance will influence and impact you, the participants, the group and the outcome. For the broadcast meeting, balance your questions and responses between open questions and questions that force the participants to rate or rank a value that you can deconstruct later on for the audience. In the guide, we provide a link on how to customize your meeting or webinar registration. If you are doing this via a Zoom meeting, the setting can be found via meeti
24 minutes | Oct 13, 2022
The Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference Part II of III
The Ultimate Guide for Listening on a Video Conference – Host Edition Part II of III G'day, I'm Oscar Trimboli and this is the Apple award winning podcast, Deep Listening, Impact Beyond Words. Good listeners focus on what's said and deep listeners notice what's not said. Each episode is designed to help you learn from hundreds of the world's most diverse workplace listening professionals, including anthropologists, air traffic controllers, acoustic engineers and actors, behavioral scientists and business executives, community organizers, conductors, deaf and blind leaders, foreign language interpreters and body language experts, judges, journalists, market researchers, medical professionals, memory champions, military leaders, movie makers, and musicians.   You'll learn from neurotypical and neuro diverse listeners as well as neuroscientists and negotiators, palliative care nurses and suicide counsellors.   Whether you're in pairs, teams, groups, or listening across systems, whether you're face to face, on the phone, or via video conference, you'll learn the art and science of listening and understand the importance of the neuroscience and these three critical numbers. 125, 400 and 900.   You'll also learn three is half of eight, zero is half of eight, and four is half of eight, when you listen across the five levels of listening, conscious of the foremost common barriers that get in your way.   Each episode will provide you with practical, pragmatic, and actionable techniques to reduce the number of meetings you attend and shorten the meetings you participate in.   The Deep Listening Podcast is the most comprehensive resource for workplace listeners. Along with the Deep Listening Ambassadors, we're on a quest to create 100 million deep listeners in the workplace, one conversation at a time.   How to listen on a video conference, a host perspective.   This episode is part of three in a series about how to listen in the context of a video conference. If you haven't had a chance to listen to the overview episode, episode 101, which outlines three distinct ways to approach a meeting through   sequence before, during, and after the video conference. The second, your role, host or participant, and the third is the size of the meeting, intimate, interactive, and broadcast. During episode 101, we did a deep dive into sequence. We explored before, during, and after the video conference. If you'd like to learn more, visit www.OscarTrimboli.com/podcast/101. The difference between hearing and listening is action, and the difference between reading and impact is action too. It was great to hear the impact the guide has already made for others. Let's listen to three people who took the time to send me a message to explain the impact of the ultimate guide on how to listen to a video conference. Lena:  Kia ora, Oscar, this is Lena from New Zealand. I wanted to thank you for a great suggestion I heard in the latest podcast on the Ultimate Guide to Hide My Own Video. I started doing it and I'm definitely tired and exhausted after a day spent catching up with various people. This was so life changing for me that I started sharing this step with others. Thank you. Jeff: Hi, Oscar. This is Jeff from St. Paul, Minnesota. I wanted to share with you what's changed in my approach to listening after reading and implementing the tips you provided in the Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference. First, you highlight that in a video conference, an attendee can only listen continuously for 12 seconds. That particular stat surprised me and it led me to think more about how you've actually modelled this particular change throughout meetings of the Deep Listening Ambassador community to keep us engaged. You changed which camera's showing you, you changed all video to all slides. You asked questions which can be looking for vocal responses, but sometimes you ask us to reply to your questions simply in chat. Which actually reminds me of my second application from the book. When a group meeting grows in size, consider seeking feedback during the meeting via chat. I seriously don't think many people consider this very often. It can help prevent collisions of multiple people trying to answer at the same time while it also gives the speaker a chance to highlight and ask more questions based on an interesting response from the audience. It gets people involved who might find it easier to type their thoughts rather than vocalising them. It also gives the host a chance to reinforce responses to important material from the meeting. And thirdly, I think about the speed at which most of us want to absorb and make changes that improve the impact of our listening in meetings that we host. The amount of time you recommend rolling out these changes from the book, it surprised me as well. I know there are small things we can do and probably should do in the very next meeting we perform, but I also think that some people are looking for an overnight change in becoming a better host. Encouraging them to take more time and make these bigger changes is going to seem counterintuitive, but it's probably good advice when making longer term changes. Some subtle updates can help us not shock our audience. Natasha: Hello, Oscar. It's Natasha from San Antonio, Texas. I wanted to share the impact of implementing some of the tips and techniques from The Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference. Some of the things I have been implementing are around preparation for when I facilitate workshops. I have a little sticky note on the side of my computer screen that says participants, and then under that it says, thinking, feeling, doing, and I've been making sure the agenda and objectives are all clear in advance. I've noticed that I get a lot more interaction throughout the session and my introverted teammates have reached out and said they really appreciate it. I've been making sure I can see as many participants as possible at once, and this has allowed me to see when people do the little unmute to speak, but then someone else jumps in before that person has started, so then I can circle back to them so they feel seen and heard. Overall, I've noticed three main things since I've brought this awareness and listening to my sessions. First, more interaction in the actual sessions. I think people feel empowered before and during and then they feel seen during, so they are speaking a lot more, which is great for a lot of reasons. We have so many great minds and when they share more, we get more ideas and more insights. Second, more people are staying after to continue the conversation with me and with each other. This has been really great and has helped our teammates connect across business units. Finally, more folks reach out in appreciation. While it's nice to be appreciated, the bigger thing here is that people are finding a deeper value in those sessions. Oscar Trimboli : Three great distinct perspectives from members of our Deep Listening Ambassador community. Thank you for sharing them, Lena, Jeff and Natasha. If you'd like to access the guide, visit ww.oscartrimboli.com/videoconference Today we're going to discuss the difference between listening as the host and as a participant. The Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference is the Host Edition, and it is designed to provide for the perspective of the host. And while there are many host specific tips and techniques, as Lena pointed out, a tip as simple as hide my own video that she mentioned are just as useful when you are in the role of a participant. Today, my recommendation for you as a host is, I'm going to outline a number of host and participant specific techniques. Please just pick one tip or one technique and apply it and practise it for at least 10 meetings until you try the next one. To ensure you do that, I've provided the tips in sequence with the most basic to the most advanced all the way throughout our conversation today. When you are successful at implementing these tips and techniques, you want to build a muscle that's sustainable in the way you develop these techniques. You want to be subtle about them too. You don't want to create a disjointed experience if you are used to working with the same group of people. The size of these changes are very small, and my wish for you is that your audience doesn't notice how small it is as they're coming along on the journey with you. These techniques are specific to help you as the host to listen, and equally to help the participants listen to each other. A good meeting host will get the active speaker to be listened to, but a great meeting host will have everybody listening to each other. As Jeff mentioned in his reflection, when he was part of the Deep Listening Ambassador Community, he didn't even realize I was using some of these techniques until he read about them in the guide.   We'll categorize today's tips into three distinct ways.   The first one is if you are new to hosting a Zoom meeting, if you are new to a role as a host in a Zoom meeting versus a participant, The next is, look, you're a regular host of meetings. Maybe it's team meetings and you want to take your host listening orientation to the next level. The third way is, if you spend the majority of your time as the host rather than a participant. If you'd consider yourself an advanced user of Zoom, that is, 80% of your meetings are as host rather than participant, then we'll provide tips specifically for you as well. Let's start by thinking about Zoom meetings if you are not an experienced host. These three tips I would recommend, choose the first one and work your way up. Make sure that you think about building these techniques and I provided the simplest one first and then build on top of that. If your role has recently adjusted to being a Zoom host, I would recommend just practizing this technique in smaller meetings, in the intimate meeting with one or two other participants. First, before the meeting, check with the other participant or participants what they want to achieve from the meeting. You can do that with an email, a phone call, a tex
82 minutes | Aug 25, 2022
The Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference
The Ultimate Guide for Listening on a Video Conference – Host Edition Being a Meeting Host is a unique responsibility. You are expected to create an environment where every participant is engaged and contributing throughout the Video Conference. As the Host, you are accountable for maximizing the impact of participants, the agenda, and the meeting outcome while juggling with limited connectivity, fragmented attention spans, and participants who might be holding back what they think because of the meeting format. If your video meetings are disjointed disengaged full of debate, with limited decisions and action repetitive run over time Over 100 pages, the guide provides specific tips and techniques The Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference is a comprehensive outline for three meeting formats 2 to 3 people – intimate meetings 3 to 10 people – interactive meetings 20 + people – broadcast meetings before, during and after the meeting Topics include The science of listening and video conferencing including the 5 elements of video fatigue. The opportunity created by video conferencing The Five Levels of Listening in a video environment How to effectively navigate the three dimensions of video conference listening – the host, participants and the outcome Techniques to reset the attention of the participants including proven tips and techniques for maintaining the energy, and decision making capacity of the participants.   https://www.oscartrimboli.com/product/the-ultimate-guide-to-listening-in-a-video-conference/?EP101
11 minutes | Jul 15, 2022
how to listen when you want to solve
David, it was great to speak to you on the phone and I hope that my referral to Joey helps you progress your question around the auditory processing issues that you encounter and how that shows up really differently in one-on-one conversations and how shows up in group discussions for you when you move from tuned-in to really fuzzy auditory processing in groups   Listening is a simultaneous equation between the speaker and the listener.    When auditory processing issues are present, make the implicit explicit.  Communicate about what effective communication means for you. One of my past managers, Tony, role modeled this well.  He had an issue with his left ear and he would explain his hearing difficulty to every group meeting he would participate in when he knew somebody new was in the meeting.  I discussed this with Tony on a long-haul flight across the Pacific, and he didn't enjoy repeating it, but he said to me, "It's better than creating the impression that you're ignoring people." And I've seen this myself working with an executive team and people were saying that the leader in the room, "She's ignoring us Oscar. She's always looking down at the ground when we're speaking." In that moment, I invited the leader to explain, she said to the group,  "I concentrate much better on what you're saying when I'm not visually distracted, I'm not ignoring you, I'm focusing all my efforts on making sure I'm hearing everything that you're saying." And that moment you could hear a very audible sigh in the room from every participant.    It was a breakthrough moment that happens if you communicate about how you communicate. We over-read body language and this is a perfect example of not asking that question Thanks to Rane who commented with her question? How can we encourage people to listen instead of concentrating on their comeback? Listening is a simultaneous equation and we give great listening that becomes an example for others to learn and improve from. Rane, I promise you a full deconstruction of how I'd approach a conversation where everybody's busy, reloading their arguments rather than, listening.   It makes listening really light and easy to sustain.   And my listening batteries, aren't drained by the intensity of juggling multiple layers in the conversation yesterday.    Marc asked Oscar, "I've got questions about the questions and Marc asked, would you share the questions?" I'm delighted to share, these are the questions, and we'll be sharing all these questions with everyone, that's the purpose of this listening challenge to share these questions with everybody out there. So thanks for your engagement there.  Please keep the comments and the questions coming.. Today's listening question, this question comes from Kerrie.  She asks Oscar; "What I struggle with in my listening is listening to the whole problem or the whole conversation, because you know, all I'm thinking about is how do I solve it?  I think this is a problem.  I don't help the speaker solve their own problems and this creates extra effort for me.  Typically, I jump in and give an answer, which Kerrie says exactly doesn't help me or them. "   Kerrie, here's my invitation for you   Ask this question at the beginning of the conversation. This will take the weight off your superhero-solving capacity.   What would make this a great conversation for you?    Or What outcome would you like to achieve at the end of our conversation?    They might not want a solution. They might just want to thinking partner. They might just want to express an idea.   Extroverts love to think by speaking, we don't give them the opportunity to do that. Allow them to express their thinking verbally, rather than jumping in to try and fix the issue.    When you agree the outcome of the conversation, you can use that as a navigational setting, like a compass setting and that'll help you progress and check-in. And ask yourself this question, Kerrie, given that compass setting, rather than solving the problem, ask yourself this question,  Does what I'm about to ask them next progress, the agreed outcome of the conversation?   When you get that really bursting to solve, just PAUSE and ask yourself "thinking about the purpose we agreed at the beginning is this aligned?"   2. This is often skipped and ignored step. Do so at your peril!   At the start of the conversation ask them, What have you already explored or thought about in regard to this issue?   You might be shocked they may have come up with many more alternatives that you haven't considered because you're hearing it for the first time. Now your role here is to help them expose all the thinking that I've done and you may help them to consider how do I prioritize this approach, or maybe between the two of you or in a group you can combine elements of different parts of the solution or something may simply emerge through the process of having a conversation.   3. You need to orientate your problem solving compass. Are you solving a symptom or are you addressing a cause?    Is what you're about to propose transactional or transformational, and which serves the agreed purpose of the conversation?  If you come back and always check in with, is this serving the agreed purpose of the conversation, then you'll make great progress    Kerrie this will make your listening much lighter.    Your problem-solving passion won't go away, but you will bring different approaches that they possibly haven't considered.  I'm curious if you've taken the www.listeningquiz.com Kerrie? If you like, Kerrie have got a question about listening in the workplace, just email podcast@oscartrimboli.com that's podcast@oscartrimboli.com Thanks for listening.
6 minutes | Jul 6, 2022
how to listen for actions during meetings
G'day, It's Oscar Trimboli I've set myself a little challenge and I was wondering if you might be able to assist. Over the time I've been working with people around their listening, whether it's the deep listening quiz, the 90 day challenge, our webinars, our workshops, people who've bought the book or the playing cards or people who are interacting with our deep listening online masterclass for managers - questions, keep coming up about listening. I've realized that by writing down all these questions over time, I'm well over a thousand questions. Now don't worry., they fall into themes and I've set myself a challenge to answer these questions between now and the end of the year. I'll be posting regularly here with my reply, to the questions that people are asking. These questions come in the context of one on one conversations, , around group conversations, how to have effective listening face to faces. , as well as how to do it on video conferencing. There's also a number of questions that come about, not just which levels are people listening at. How do you listen through the context of different cultures? How do you listen through the context of conflict? How do you listen through the lens of complexity? How do you listen to it through the lens of collaboration? When people say to me, Oscar, , this listening is, very specialized. I've come to realize this impacts people across many professions, whether that's sales, whether that's technology, whether that's human resources, whether that's manufacturing, whether that's engineering, whether that's leading an organization. Listening has a pretty big impact on all of those. So here's how you can help with this challenge. If you've got a question about listening. Just put it in an email podcast@oscartrimboli.com that's podcast@oscartrimboli.com and. I might even come back and clarify that with you, but I will definitely answer it.       How to listen in meetings for actions. This question comes from Sophie and she says, Oscar, what I struggle with the most when it comes to listening is turning what I hear into appropriate actions. Well, thanks Sophie. Three things for you to consider is 1 who takes the notes in the meeting. 2., how do you define what was actually agreed? 3, what would be different, if the agreed action was actually taken Now Sophie,, I sense you might be asking the question in the context of a group meeting, in a group meeting, gained the agreement from the host. if you're not the host at the very beginning of the meeting. Who's taking the notes. If you are the host, then explain to the group how actions will be captured during the meeting. It's really critical for this process to be exposed right at the beginning of the conversation. Now, by the way, Sophie, if you're in a discussion with just one other person, just agree with them as part of the dialog, who's going to take that action. Now in a group meeting, the second element of actions is to confirm what was actually agreed. This is the biggest misstep I see people taking. And as a result, it's a common area where when you come back, on the follow up for this meeting, a lot of people are confused because they delivered what they thought they heard rather than what the group agreed to.   So when it comes to agreeing to the action, when it's delegated to the person responsible in the meeting. And by the way, you can only delegate to the person in the meeting. You can't delegate an action to someone outside the meeting. You can delegate it to somebody else or explain it to the person outside the meeting, but again, a critical thing when it comes to group actions is you can only delegate it to the person who was listening to the context. Now you need to ask the person that's delegated to, to verbally confirm what they're agreeing to not by saying yes or no, I agree to that, but to confirm what they actually heard and to confirm the specific action they're going to take now, when this happens, it surfaces any misunderstanding really, really quickly. It does so in the moment, rather than after the fact when it's way too late and there's wasted effort on everybody's part., Finally, we're appropriate ask what would be different as a result of taking this action, particularly in a group meeting, this helps people to understand the value of what they've decided and helps the group to prioritize its important. So Sophie, thanks for the question, and a quick reminder, remember who is taking the action in a group meeting ensure during the meeting, what is agreed is verbalized, and then finally, what will be different as a result of taking this action? If you are like Sophie and got a question about workplace listening, just put it in an email podcast@oscartrimboli.com that's podcast@oscartrimboli.com . I'm Oscar Trimboli and along with the Deep Listening Ambassadors, we're on a quest to create a hundred million deep listeners in the world. And you've given us the greatest gift of all. You've listened to us. Thanks for listening.
44 minutes | Jun 24, 2022
Five ways to listen better at work
Today is going to be a little different - some adjustments. In Episode 100 -  you'll get to deconstruct how I listen to the guests. I've interviewed over the past 100 episodes. If time allows after the interview has formally concluded, I have a simple and consistent habit where I ask the guests, just one question - What did you notice about my listening? Now, this is a Level Four listening technique. It's designed as a way for me to make incremental improvements in each conversation. When I hear what people notice in the way I listen, I am making some very simple notes in my mind, that's a very important listening signal, make sure I continue to do it the next time.   Occasionally people will highlight things that surprise me. They highlight things that wow, I didn't realize that was a listening signal for the person speaking.   It's critical to understand that when you listen deeply, gently, thoroughly, carefully, you will change the way the speaker communicates.   Not just what they say, not just what they think, but also what they make of the conversation, what it means for them. What can you expect today? You'll hear reflections of 11 people and their perspectives on how I was listening to them. You'll notice some very, very consistent themes. And yet you'll notice some subtle variations as well. You'll hear from six females, five males from deaf and blind people you'll hear from people whose first language is English and you'll hear from people whose home language isn't English. You'll hear from authors, musicians, professors, former military leaders, researchers, psychotherapists, and a range of many others. As you listen to them, deconstruct my listening, please keep these points in mind. This is just the way I listen. My listening context is very specific.   Listening is situational. It's relational and contextual. The way I listen during an interview is with a listening orientation for the audience, for you. There are many questions I would love to ask the people that I interview yet, they're only appropriate for me. They're not going to help you and I play with this duality while I'm listening.   How do I stay in the moment long enough - not to listen, but to listen on behalf of you.   In chapter one of the upcoming book - how to listen and at the end of every chapter in the book, we have a series of three invitations, they're practices that we invite the reader or the audiobook listener to explore, we invite them to explore something to practice because we recommend that you read the book one chapter per week while practicing a technique during that week. So at the end of chapter one, we pose these three invitations and.   Who's the best listener, you know, and what's one thing they do well? When was the last time somebody fully and deeply listened to you? and what did they do well during that conversation? When you think about that conversation where you were deeply listen to, how did you think speak and feel differently as a result? I'm delighted to be engaging with a range of the Deep Listening Ambassador community as they provide Advanced Reader Copy feedback on this and Bailey was kind enough to send me a photo of the exercise that I just mentioned from chapter one of the book where she very thoughtfully, thoroughly and deeply considered those three invitations, and came to some interesting insights, all of her own. It gives me a lot of joy to be celebrating episode 100 with you and I want to thank you   Listen for free
11 minutes | May 9, 2022
Chapter 5 - Explore the backstory
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41 minutes | Apr 22, 2022
Why it's worth listening to people you are in conflict with
I am delighted to introduce Christopher Mills, a psychotherapist, a family consultant, a supervisor, and a trainer. Christopher began his work alongside family lawyers, helping them to develop skills to help them collaborate across divorce teams. In 2009, he made "Deadlock to dialogue". It was a film, an unrehearsed role-play combining the skills of mediation and psychotherapy when working with separating couples. His interest in mediation around childcare disputes led him to write "The complete guide to divorced parenting", a strong advocate of the need for lawyers to receive more support in their work with family trauma. He became the UK's first professional to offer specific regular supervision for family lawyers and QCs. About six months ago, I was lucky enough to work with this community in Australia as well. And they bear a huge burden when they act on behalf of their clients in these cases. Deep listening podcast listeners have asked if I could do an episode on how to listen in conflict through the lens of relationships.
4 minutes | Apr 13, 2022
What Versus How
Are you listening to the content or the context? Are you discussing the system and process or details?
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