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Recently I walked a group of people through the process of creating a vision board.  Following a similar process yourself can give you clarity and focus as you move towards your own chosen Legacy.  On this episode we discuss: How things on my vision board resulted in an RV adventure with my daughter Taking time to reflect Identifying where you want to be Giving yourself a vision board challenge How a vision board creates clarity The process is where the joy is found The four steps to creating a vision Shatterproof Yourself Video: 7 ACTIONS to START Building Your Legacy Resources:How to Organize Your Thoughts (Episode 56) Clarifying a Vision for your Future Vision ActivityTake some time to create a healthy personal and professional vision for your future. Read the articles How to Find Clarity in Life & Clarifying a Vision for Your Future. Then complete this 3 - 5 Year Vision Worksheet. Jot down anything that comes to mind. Speaking in action clips Don’t Play it Safe (YouTube) by Adam Gragg Don’t Play it Safe (TikTok) by Adam Gragg Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

You’ve heard it before, but journaling is a powerful way to gain clarity and organize your thoughts without being overwhelmed.  This week I’m joined by Nick Bertram to discuss how journaling has transformed his life. On this episode we discuss: Why Adam burned a bunch of journals The different types of journals What to write about How journaling helps organize your thoughts What happens when you physically write by hand Don’t overcomplicate things Being kind to yourself Seeing progress over time And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources: How to Journal for Self-Improvement 50 Best Journaling Prompts Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

Do you struggle with being critical of yourself and others?  Do you find yourself in a daily battle with negativity?  On this episode we dive into what causes us to be negative and how it impacts our lives.  Then we explore three ways to overcome that negativity to be more fulfilled, engaged and satisfied.  On this episode: Adam answers listener questions How Adam has struggled with negativity and how it has cost him What the ego is doing in causing us to be critical Three strategies to overcome negativity Identifying the critical inner voice Achieving relentless optimism Taking action and putting faith in the outcome Adam also gives tactical tips for each of these strategies and explains how you can implement Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in your own life. And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources: Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

The world will always come at us with stressful situations, but it’s the ability to manage and regulate our emotional responses that will allow us to live intentionally.  With these strategies you can improve your emotional reactions and live more intentionally. On this episode we discuss: The importance of managing stress well How addictive habits form How intentional self-regulation can provide confidence Increase and focus on the positives Prepare in advance Grow in your mastery Engage your brain to think forward And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources: Episode #52: Pain is the Price of Freedom Episode #47: Being Assertive with Difficult People / Situations Dealing with Your Past (article) Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

As we close in on the end of the year, it’s the perfect time to do some self-reflection on what has happened so you can launch into the new year with clarity.  I’m joined by my friends Bryan and Gavin and together we explore some of the reflections they’ve had about their own year. On this episode we discuss: Why self-reflection is so valuable Ways to have a mini-retreat to facilitate reflection Discovering things that surprised you, both successes and challenges Identifying things that energize and drain you Using your life purpose statement to propel yourself forward Maintaining flexibility while you brainstorm And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources: Episode #14: Clarify Your Life Purpose Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

Some mental health professionals say you need to "move on" from past pain and trauma.  But I think the only way to experience true freedom in your life is to face this pain, and today we will cover a process to help you through that. On this episode we discuss: The trauma I experienced in my own life and the scars I carried You need to have the ability to face depression and anxiety in your life Beginning with a life timeline Write about the details Talk with those you can trust Move towards acceptance And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Why You MUST Deal with Your Past  Episode #11: Why You Should Deal with Your PastEpisode #27: Dealing with Trauma w/ Jenny HelmsEpisode #43: Working Through Grief or Trauma Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

Growing up I had a bully that always bothered me.  One day, I found out firsthand how taking decisive and consistent action can be transformational.  And I want you to have that same victory in your life. On this episode we discuss: How the act of spitting energized me What is that one thing you are procrastinating on? Defining the perfection trap Getting out of your head Focusing on how action will help others Identifying how action will benefit yourself Eliminating excuses by having an answer for them Identifying how you will feel afterward And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Take Risks FrequentlyScary Actions You Can Take TodayEpisode 50: A Big Mistake Most People Make Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

People are always asking me how they can have better, more vibrant relationships.  But often, there is one big mistake that most people make in their relationships.  We're going to dive into that mistake and 10 strategies for countering it. On this episode we discuss: The big mistake of invalidating others How invalidation drives wedges Strategies for being more validating of others Avoid being critical Keep the focus off yourself Use someone's first name Show interest in them and their interests Validate their feelings Apologize with no excuses Name their emotions Ask more questions Love how they want to be loved Paraphrase and summarize And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Rekindling Relationships (Episode 49)How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard25 Gratitude Building Questions My 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients  One Big Relationship Mistake Most People Make The Daily 5 & 5Read these articles below about the Daily 5 & 5. How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard. Start your own Daily 5 & 5 on your phone, in a journal, or using this Daily 5 & 5 Worksheet. After a few days, reflect on how this activity impacts your mindset. Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

As we approach the holidays this year you may be thinking about relationships that have gone stale, or people you don't talk to often or have the level of closeness or intimacy you would like to have.  But with the change in schedules you will have the opportunity to use the strategies in this conversation to rekindle and strengthen those connections. On this episode we discuss: The value of relationships on our mental health What makes someone a true friend Loving yourself first My 30-day challenge to you Valuing honesty, even when it's uncomfortable Viewing conflict as an opportunity Helping other people succeed Share your personal goals with others Be more curious Be yourself And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Getting to Know Yourself (Episode 48)Repairing Relationships Over the Holidays (Episode 29)A Transformational Self-Confidence Building Activity The Daily 5 & 5Read these articles below about the Daily 5 & 5. How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard. Start your own Daily 5 & 5 on your phone, in a journal, or using this Daily 5 & 5 Worksheet. After a few days, reflect on how this activity impacts your mindset. Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

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As we deal with the challenges of pleasing others and overcoming past trauma, it can sometimes be hard to know what we truly want in life.  Today we are going to break down some actionable strategies you can use to understand yourself in a deeper and more authentic way. On this episode we discuss: Why I invite people to take risks Knowing yourself as the key to long-term happiness Laughing and having fun What codependency does to us Journaling regularly to externalize your thoughts Creating a plan to overcome negative core beliefs Taking emotional risks Radical acceptance of reality Getting professional help And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Being Assertive (Episode 47)How to Journal for Self-Improvement50 Best Journaling Prompts30 Damaging Core Beliefs What is Acceptance Acceptance is Not Take Emotional Risks Frequently! How to Select a Great Life Coach (or Counselor) Self-Care ActivityTake the time to get to know yourself. Complete the Know Thyself Worksheet and use those answer to help you complete the Radical Self Care Worksheet. Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

The themes in our lives where we avoid confrontation reveal where we give our power away to others.  But to get the best possible outcome we must avoid assuming the end result and become assertive enough to enter those difficult situations.  The result can be life-giving.  On this episode we discuss: What it means to give your power away How being more assertive can energize your life Staying committed and following through Taking consistent risks The DEAR MAN framework for dealing with difficult situations / people Illustrations of how my clients have applied the DEAR MAN framework to their lives Taking a reasonable negotiation strategy And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Staying Motivated to Reach Your Goals (Episode 46)Secret Communication Skills (Episode 44)DEAR MAN Assertiveness Tool (worksheet) Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

We know what it feels like to be motivated right after hearing or reading something inspiring.  But what happens on day five, or day 50?  How do you maintain that energy level to achieve your goals?  On this episode we break down several practical strategies you can engage to stay motivated for the long haul.  On this episode we discuss: Making things stick Not moving forward is actually a step back Avoiding the leak, writing it down Identifying the expected obstacles Focusing on a vision The biggest obstacle is yourself Negativity bias is all about feeding our insecurities Focusing on the potential outcomes and opportunity Get some accountability and put a little skin in the game Measure it to get more of it Focus on the intrinsic And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:How to be Happier (Episode 45)Identifying Core Values (Episode 23)Perfectionism v. Procrastination Trap (video) Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

It's written right there in the Constitution of the United States of America: we have the right to pursue happiness.  But what is it that will make us happy?  We get down to the practical this week on how you can cultivate happiness in your own life.  On this episode we discuss: All the risks I'm taking (I'm doing it a lot lately) Why happiness is important to us Avoiding Facebook happiness How I found myself on a beautiful beach, but ultimately was miserable The cost of misery in our lives Focusing on a clear vision for your future Enjoying the journey instead of focusing on the destination Do the hard work first Reframing the negative experiences in our lives Standing up for yourself Meaningfully connecting with others. And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Secret Communication Skills (Episode 44) Core Beliefs ActivityMost people have 3 - 10 deeply rooted negative core beliefs. Become aware of them and replace them with a healthier perspective so they no longer drive you. Identify your top 3 - 5 negative core beliefs using this 30 Damaging Core Beliefs Worksheet. You never know when something might go wrong. Seeing that there are lots of option.. Then complete a Be Truth Oriented Worksheet for each one. Enter the negative core belief in step 1 on the Be Truth Oriented worksheet and follow each step. Save on your desktop, completed, and email the completed worksheets back to me before our next visit. Here's an article article to read that will be helpful How to Change Negative Core Beliefs. Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

We regularly talk about the basics of communication and how to improve them, but I want to go beyond the basics today.  I'm going to share several secret skills that will take your communication to a deeper and stronger level with those around you.  On this episode we discuss: All the risks I'm taking (I'm doing it a lot lately) Problems that can arise from poor communication A fly-over of a few of the communication skills we usually talk about Never giving your power away How to not give up in communication with others Sharing your story in a vulnerable way How to dig deeper in conversation with others And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Conflict Resolution (Episode #41)New Orleans Surprise Prank 2022If by Rudyard Kipling - Read by Sir Michael CaineDo it Anyway by Mother TeresaHow Did You Die by Edmund Vance CookeMy 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients20 Questions to Ignite Meaningful Conversations Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

On this special BONUS episode of the Decide Your Legacy Podcast Adam walks you through a guided serenity mediation exercise.  Come back to this episode anytime you need some meditation practice. Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   NEW FREE GUIDE!  5 Days to overpowering anxiety!   Get 50 free relationship building questions and a free e-book on life balance!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

One of the things we most desperately want to avoid is dealing with grief and trauma in our lives.  In this episode, we break down the grief process and several actions you can take to help move through it.   And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life!  On this episode we discuss: One of the most procrastinated items is facing grief or trauma The 5 stages of grief Finding a process for healing Feeling your feelings The danger of emotional constipation Understanding the impact of loss Talking about your loss with others Facing your trauma Creating a dookie list Having a bigger purpose And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Why You Should Deal with Your PastEpisode 41: Stop Procrastination Now!How to Fix a Broken Heart: Poop List (TED Talk)YouTube Short: Plan Exciting Things Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

Most people actually have goals and aspirations for their lives.  But despite knowing what they want, they find themselves spinning their wheels (present company included) because of procrastination.  In this episode we review 9 strategies you can implement now to stop procrastinating!   And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life!  On this episode we discuss: The four (4) risks I took recently Why we procrastinate The emotional component of procrastination How many people can identify their goals Delayed gratification Harvard goals study and what it says about the influence goals have on our life What delegation can do for you The 10 Strategies: Identifying your ideal weekly schedule Clarifying the quadrants of important / urgent Planning your top tasks regularly Creating a written schedule Writing down your goals Counting the cost of procrastination Asking others for help Dealing with your perfectionism Creating a life purpose statement And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:If by Rudyard Kipling Stop Procrastinating & Get Things Done Stephen Covey's Time Management Matrix Explained 3 Ways to Eliminate Mental Clutter How to Reach Your Goals (Part 1)How to Reach Your Goals (Part 2)How to Reach Your Goals (Part 3) Dealing With Conflict (Episode 41)Clip: Do the Hardest Thing First Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

One of the things holding us back from true connection and intimacy with others is our inability to engage conflict in a healthy way.  I ran away from it myself for years.  But today I'm going to break down six essentials to engage conflict resolution.   And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life!  On this episode we discuss: The kind of conflict we are talking about Why conflict is so important for intimacy How fear causes us to be passive and not engage Abraham Lincoln's approach to engaging conflict Stay away from all-or-nothing thinking Following rules or guidelines for conflict Don't take the bait! The soft startup Living in the middle Listening and zoning in on others Erring on the side of addressing things with others And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Resources:Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln by Dorris Kearns Goodwin10 Conflict Resolution Rules & Guidelines Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

Not long ago I went through a serious struggle with anxiety and depression that left me sleepless for 5 straight nights.  I wasn't focusing on the steps I could implement to manage my own stress.  Here we break down six different ways you can make yourself shatterproof from the stress that will inevitably come.   And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life!  On this episode we discuss: My struggle with anxiety and depression What a lack of sleep did to my perspective Engaging positive relationships consistently Consistent exercise to move your body Rest and relaxation Practicing gratitude How to write effective affirmations Engaging in self-care, finding those things that fill you up and energize you Taking risks in your everyday life. And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST! Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Thanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!   Get personalized coaching from Adam!   Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!