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Welcome to the seventh episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us. Due to the unprecedented onslaught of anti-trans legislation and the steep rise in anti-trans and anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric in the United States of America, we’re re-releasing our last episode in the hopes that it will spread some much needed truth about trans youth and the support they require.  In this episode we speak to the incredible Joshua Jernigan, a trans rights activist and philanthropist based in Charlotte, North Carolina. Josh started the GEN (Gender Education Network) organization which helps transgender and gender diverse kids aged 12 and younger. As you’ll hear in the episode, Josh is a born educator and is deeply passionate about ensuring every child has a safe and loving home to nurture their growing identities.In this episode, we’re breaking down myths about the experiences of trans youth: What does gender affirming care REALLY look like for kids 12 and younger? What can adults actually do to actively support trans youth? Josh also dives into where he sees parents of gender diverse kids get tripped up or stuck when trying to educate themselves and support their kids as well as giving advice to parents and family members of gender diverse kids in order to help them survive and thrive.  We talk about the importance of trans kids having a consistent affirming, loving adult presence in their lives and how we all have it in us to be that person. With the rise of anti-trans policies being brought forward in the United States, the UK, and around the world, Josh shares his hopes for the future: That we all be cycle breakers for our children and parent our children in ways which are right for them, ignoring what doesn't fit or is outdated and dangerous. We hope this educational episode sparks your activism - trans and gender diverse kids need your voice!How you can find Josh & GEN: Gender Education Network website (donation link at the top of the page!) GEN on Facebook  - Josh mentions the Gender Spectrum website during our conversation which is a fabulous resource for parents, educators, therapists, WHOEVER, to learn more about how to support the health & wellbeing of gender diverse children & teens.-  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) World International orders North American orders - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the sixth episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us. In this week’s episode, we’re hosting the incredible Joshua Jernigan, a trans rights activist and philanthropist living in Charlotte, North Carolina. Josh started the GEN (Gender Education Network) organization which helps transgender and gender diverse kids aged 12 and younger. Josh is a born educator and is deeply passionate about ensuring every child has a safe and loving home to nurture their growing identities.In this episode, we cover big topics: What does gender affirming care look like for kids 12 and younger? What do parents of gender diverse kids get tripped up by or stuck on when trying to educate themselves and support their kids? Josh expertly breaks these topics down and gives advice to parents and family members of gender diverse kids and also what gender diverse kids need in order to survive and thrive. We talked about the importance of trans kids having a consistent affirming, loving adult presence in their lives and how we all have it in us to be that person. With the rise of anti-trans policies being brought forward in the United States, the UK, and around the world, Josh shares his hopes for the future: That we all be cycle breakers for our children and parent our children in ways which are right for them, ignoring what doesn't fit or is outdated and dangerous. We hope this educational episode sparks your activism - trans and gender diverse kids need your voice!How you can find Josh & GEN: Gender Education Network website (donation link at the top of the page!) GEN on Facebook  - Josh mentions the Gender Spectrum website during our conversation which is a fabulous resource for parents, educators, therapists, WHOEVER, to learn more about how to support the health & wellbeing of gender diverse children & teens.-  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) World International orders North American orders -  Check out our website AND our new feminist merch collection Dear Patriarchy Podcast Website - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the fifth episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us. In this week’s episode, we’re hosting Jessica Olzak and Shannon Collins, creators and co-hosts of Rainbow Connections from the Abington library, a program designed to give youngsters a safe space in which to discuss LGBTQ+ themed books and topics.We started our love fest by chatting with them about the origins of their ground-breaking youth program: How & why they set it up, the challenges they faced, and how you, too, could get a program going in your community. We spoke with Shannon about their Youthphoria program and how they use photography as activism. We discussed how they keep their cups full while doing their important work, the statistics for LGBTQ+ youth & how just one affirming adult in the life of an LGBTQ+ child is a game changer. We hope you love the episode as much as we do: It’s an emotional & gratitude-filled journey.  Abington Library website  Rainbow Connections Next Event Rainbow Connections LGBTQ+ Resources Link to the Rainbow Connections Webinar via the PLA  Jessica Olzak contact - jolzak@mclinc.org Shannon Collins contact - shannon@shannoncollins.com  Youthphoria website  Rainbow Connections Guests include: 03/2022 - Vanessa & JR Ford, authors of Calvin 05/2022 - Lily Freeman, teen trans activist and creator of the IG campaign, @projectuncensored 07/2022 - Lindz Amer, CEO of Queer Kid Stuff IG:  @lindzamer Queer Kid Stuff website 08/2022 - Amy Schneider, 40-time Jeopardy champion and writer Twitter: @Jeopardamy 10/2022 - C.K. Malone, author of A Costume for Charly Twitter: @CKMalone2 11/2022--Kyle Lukoff, author Kyle's website 11/2022--Gavin Grimm, trans activist Twitter: @GavinGrimmVA  -  Pick up our new book here: International orders North American orders -  Check out our website to pick up our new book or via our IG: @dearpatriarchypod

Welcome to the fourth episode of series 4, where we’ve been focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us. However, because this week is Trans Awareness Week, we're taking a short break from hosting guests to focus on the trans community and how cis people can be better supporters and allies. We're using information from the excellent Schuyler Bailar, the Human Rights Campaign, and PFLAG to guide this conversation and we've linked back to all of these educators & organizations (and more) below. We start off by running through Schuyler Bailar's "cheat sheet" about how to re-frame the language you use when talking about, or interacting with, transgender people. We then move through a list of disinformation, anti-trans tropes and rhetoric that many people believe to be true, and dispel the myths around each item.  We discuss the importance of moving away from the patriarchal gender binary and how we can support each other, and the trans, non-binary and LGBTQ+ community in general by leaving behind harmful and false heteronormative gender expectations.If you learned something from this episode, please share with those you know and love who may need more education on this important topic. Have the hard conversations, spread love, and reach out to the communities that need your support. - Schuyler Bailar: Find Schuyler (and his Trans Awareness Week Cheat Sheet) on IG: @pinkmantaray Schuyler's website - Human Rights Campaign Myths & Facts: Battling Disinformation About Transgender Rights Be an Ally: Support Trans Equality - Trevor Project A Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender & Non-Binary Young People Additional Transgender, Non-Binary & LGBTQ+ Resources: PFLAG website Marsha P. Johnson Institute website We mentioned Alok V. Menon in the episode as well who is an excellent gender educator and author - find them on IG @alokvmenon -  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) World International orders North American orders -  Check out our website AND our new feminist merch collection Dear Patriarchy Podcast Website - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the third episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us. In this week’s episode, we’re hosting Shifra Nerenberg (she/ her), owner of Spiral Intuitive & a lifelong feminist based in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina. With more than 20 years experience as an Intuitive Advisor, she guides clients all over the world in connecting with their own powerful inner wisdom.  Shifra does her best to increase the kindness & hope in our world. Her work is centered around helping intuitive folk trust themselves & shine their individual lights, spreading more of the bright light needed in the world.  We talked with Shifra about the importance of connecting back to our bodies and grounding ourselves so that we can connect to our communities and work against capitalism and oppressive systems of control, which work best when we are isolated and alienated from each other. We discussed how knowing yourself and leaning into your intuition is an important tool to battle patriarchy, systemic racism, heteronormativity, ableism, and xenophobia.  We end by working through Shifra’s techniques and strategies to keep from getting stuck in heaviness while remaining rooted in your power and plugging back in to your community with love.AND - the best way to use that power and help your community is to VOTE!! We’re looking at you USA!! If you’re struggling with getting info on where to cast your vote, who to support and where you stand on measures, please check out the following resources:- You better vote b🐱tch: VoteSaveAmerica Website Ballot Ready Website  - All things Shifra: Find her on Instagram: @spiralintuitive Spiral Intuitive Website -  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) World International orders North American orders -  Check out our website AND our new feminist merch collection Dear Patriarchy Podcast Website - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the second episode of series 4 where we’re focusing on the educators, activists and influencers who inspire and guide us. In this week’s episode, we’re hosting Gonzy, the fabulous owner of sustainable, feminist British brand Sasspatch. Gonzy's designs uplift you while keeping you grounded, and she specialises in Sassy Positivity: Sweet designs mixed with savage honesty.  We talk about the struggle to balance motherhood with paid (and unpaid) work, how all parents need to get therapy, preferably before becoming parents, and how important equity is in everything we do. Gonzy is a passionate intersectional feminist, proponent of slow fashion and speaks beautifully on how much both matter to her and to the company ethos of Sasspatch. Gonzy closes our short (but very sweet) conversation with the perfect words: The good stuff is always worth waiting for. - All things Sasspatch: Find her on Instagram: @sasspatchworld Sasspatch Website -  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) World International orders North American orders -  Check out our website AND our new feminist merch collection Dear Patriarchy Podcast Website - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the first episode of series 4 where we’re focusing on the educators, activists and influencers who inspire and guide us. In this week’s episode, we’re hosting the incredible writer Uju Asika. She’s based in London, runs the “Babes About Town” social media accounts and is the author of two incredible books: Bringing up Race: How to Raise a Kind Child in a Prejudiced World and A World for Me and You. We discuss creative processes, particularly writing processes, and how the fear of writing about charged topics (like systemic racism, patriarchy and other oppressive systems) can be debilitating. Uju talked us through how she keeps herself balanced, feeds her activism and connects with her work in pursuit of change. In her (beautiful) words: This work is more important than your discomfort. - All things Uju Asika: Find her on Instagram: @babesabouttown Website Bringing up Race: How to Raise a Kind Child in a Prejudiced World A World for Me and You - During our discussion, Uju recommended two  books by Natalie Goldberg: Wild Mind  Writing Down the Bones  -  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy : International orders North American orders - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to Episode 20, the finale of series 3! This is our series recap where we discuss which episodes were the most important to us and how we feel the series progressed. We talk about the short-sightedness of the term imposter syndrome, the differences between how both us prepare and gather information for new episodes (research vs. anecdotes), and whether we feel there is a shift taking place which is slowly moving us away from the entrenched patriarchy of societal structures.  We close the episode talking about how to pre-order our book (dropping October '22!) and exciting new things on the horizon in the Dear Patriarchy world. We hope you've enjoyed the journey of season 3 as much as we have & we look forward to bringing a new series of thought-provoking and conversation-starting topics to you very soon.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author!- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here

Welcome to episode 19(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown on eugenics and how it relates to reproductive healthcare, specifically forced sterilization. She starts by explaining what eugenics, and scientific racism, is at a high level, touching briefly on Margaret Sanger & Planned Parenthood as well as the inherent ableism of eugenics. She goes on to talk about how, in the wake of SCOTUS overturning Roe vs. Wade, many people are suggesting that boys & men (presumably cis-het) should be given vasectomies until they are “fit” to be a father and how this idea is on the slippery slope to eugenicist beliefs. She runs through the recent history of forced sterilization in the USA & Puerto Rico (including that it is still legal to forcibly sterilize disabled people in 34 states) and how allowing systemically racist, ableist government systems to determine who is “fit” to be a parent is taking a massive step backward. She closes with a reminder that being branded with the title of “wokeness” should not deter us from actively working to be on the right side of history. We need to continue to educate ourselves, try to always use inclusive language (because words & language matter), and put in the work every day to protect the civil rights of all those around us, not just the people who look like or identify the same way as we do. We hope you’ll continue on in this fight.These articles were used to inform this discussion:- Eugenics & Scientific Racism- Margaret Sanger's Connection to Eugenics- America's "Forgotten" History of Forced Sterilization  - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to series 3, episode 18 where we talking about the overturning of Roe vs. Wade by the US Supreme Court. We talk about how we got here, starting with the election of Donald Trump who was voted in overwhelmingly by White women. While the Democratic Party needs to clean their house, White women (us included) need to look at and accept the responsibility we carry because we have historically chosen not to have uncomfortable conversations with each other. We talk about the insidious stigma surrounding abortion and how there does not need to be sexual violence preceding an abortion in order to make it acceptable. We discuss the statistics behind who get abortions and how the intersection of heteropatriarchy, systemic racism and ableism meet and impact different groups of people who have marginalised within our social construct. We  must all change our mindset and our language when it comes to abortion to make sure we are viewing it as inclusively and intersectionally as possible. That means including trans men and non binary people into the definition of who needs access to abortion, that means appreciating that those at the intersection of heteropatriarchy, systemic racism and ableism are the voices that need to be loudest in this fight. This is not just a White woman’s fight and we need to start addressing it as such. We end by sharing abortion resources and funds to donate to and use.We used the following sources to inform this conversation:- The Paradox of Disability in Abortion Debates- Access, Autonomy & Dignity- Who is Most Affected by US Abortion Changes- Meta Pixel Tracking Tool Links to Anti-Abortion Clinics- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 17 of series 3 where we’re talking about how to raise good kids, which involves educating them (and yourself) about diversity, inclusion and consent. Jenni shares an experience she had with her daughter and Lisa talks about raising White boys, who need a lot of education to ensure they are informed enough to reject the White supremacist, heteropatriarchal and ableist messaging they receive from our social construct. We share books and other great resources for parents and caregivers that can support this educational journey. The importance of raising kind, inclusive children who expect to see and exist within diverse communities can’t be overstated. The bottom line is that if you don’t educate your kids on diversity, inclusion and consent, someone else will undoubtedly show them something different and it will make your job of forming their path to being a good human much harder. Here are some of the educational resource that we use:- 'Let's Talk About Race' by Julius Lester- 'Anti-Racist Baby' by Ibram X. Kendi- 'All Are Welcome' by Alexandra Penfold- 'I am Enough' by Grace Byers- 'The Pronouns Book' by Chris Ayala-Kronos- 'Inclusive Ninja' by Mary Nhin- 'Roxy the Racoon' by Alice Reeves- ‘Raising Anti-Racist Children’ by Britt Hawthorne- The Black Curriculum is an excellent resource for people based in the UK - check out their Instagram account @theblackcurriculum as well as at The Black Curriculum- Upgrade Accessibility is a disability rights and justice platform which regularly hosts workshops and events based on disability awareness, as well as on the intersection of LGBTQ+ and disability rights - check out their Instagram account @upgradeaccessibility as well as at Upgrade Accessibility- Stonewall is a UK-based LGBTQ+ charity who provide excellent resources for educating and providing support to children, young adults and parents/caregivers  and can be found at Stonewall- The Trevor Project is based in America but is the world's largest crisis intervention organization for LGBTQ+ young people under the age of 25 and provides education and support to children, young adults and parents/caregivers. It can be found at The Trevor Project | For Young LGBTQ Lives- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 16(ish) of series 3 where Jenni does a mini-breakdown on social media allyship. She starts by running through how important an inclusive mindset is to have and how “un-learning” is the place we all need to start from and continue with as we amplify and share the work of other educators and activists. Jenni goes on to discuss how the systemic foundations of discrimination built around us work to keep us separated and that the right-wing denigration of “PC” and “wokeness” should not deter us from actively working to be on the right side of history. We need to learn more, speak up, and put in the work every day to protect the civil rights of all those around us, not just the people who look like or identify the same way as we do. We hope you’ll join the fight. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 15(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown on the connection between mass shootings and the Patriarchy. There is a clear link between toxic masculinity, misogyny and violence and this mini-sode focused on connecting the dots between them all. Instead of offering thoughts and prayers, we want you to come away from this episode with daily actions that can be applied to yourself, your children (if you have them), and your wider community.  If we want to stem the tide of systemic discrimination and the violence that results from it, we need to make it part of our every day lives. We hope you’ll join us.- Research sources backing the connection between domestic violence, misogyny and mass shootings can be found here, here, and here. There is much more out there, please take the time to look into this further. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to series 3, episode 14, where we’re talking about all things reproductive and social justice. We start by discussing the potential impact if Roe vs. Wade is overturned, particularly the impact on Black women and women of Color, which leads nicely into breaking down what reproductive justice is, where the term originated (Sister Song) and how we can work for it collectively. We talk about the weight and expectation of activism and how doing the work can sometimes feel like an un-winnable war. We close by exploring how education is the best foundation for activism and that we need to remember we are part of a greater community that is working to uphold and expand the freedoms of ourselves and those around us. Every little bit of work we do helps to unravel the inequity around us. Just keep pulling the thread.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

Welcome to series 3, episode 13 where we’re discussing the toxicity of the girlboss mentality and how it sets out to use feminism as a cloak for capitalism. We talk about how prominent “girlboss” companies and figureheads successfully weaponised guilt and shame to force women deeper into hustle culture and dispensed advice from a place of privilege that is inaccessible to most women. Jenni dives into her experience of how the impact of the pandemic has pushed women and carers even further away from regularly accessing the resources and support needed to achieve “girlboss goals”. We explore the meaning behind the phrase “Gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss” and how it’s an intentional label intended to be un-intimidating and to uphold the corporate tradition of systemic racism and misogyny.- We used information taken from Alex Abad-Santos' June 2021 article for Vox entitled "The Death of the Girlboss" in our discussion. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

Welcome to episode 12 of series 3, where we’re discussing what success and achievement look like, particularly for people who identify as women. We break down what society says women need to have to "have it all" and discuss our experience of what having it all does to you on an individual basis. We talk about how the disproportionate care and domestic workload that women are expected to shoulder creates an environment that is incompatible for women to achieve substantive career goals and why continuing to hold us to this "traditional" standard is so damaging. Bodily and individual autonomy are at the core of this discussion and breaking free of historical expectations of what women are supposed to be is the only way to secure this for the girls and women who come after us.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 11 of series 3, where we’re breaking down internalized misogyny, often misnomered as “toxic femininity.” Before we started our main conversation, we discussed Debanhi Escobar and the global problem of femicide as well as the growing disappearance of girls and women not just in Mexico/Latin America but around the world as well. We then moved on to the hostility women and girls can often exhibit towards other women and girls and the patriarchal reasons behind it. We break down why toxic femininity is not a real thing as it is the internalising of systemic discrimination. We go on to share our personal experiences with internalised misogyny, how we have dealt with it in the past and how we attempt to deal with it now. It’s important to remember that the patriarchy wants you to view other women as competition, not as sisters, so choosing to love those who identify as women (and girls) is a revolutionary act.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 10(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown of Imposter Syndrome and why its use as a catch-all term is  problematic. Lisa discusses a tweet posted by @theconsciouslee from Juana Hollingsworth (@jewelsfromjuana) about how Dr. Amanda Tachine (@atachine) explained that the original concept of Imposter Syndrome was theorised in 1978 by two White women (psychologists Pauline Rose Clance & Suzanne Imes) to describe how a large majority of women, disproportionately Black women and women of Colour, are marginalised within the corporate environment. While the tenets of Imposter Syndrome may ring true for many women, for Black women and women of Colour, this term erases or, at the very least, minimises the impact of systemic racism and the many obstacles it presents them with in the workplace. It makes systemic issues the fault of each individual woman, forcing her to endure and try to resolve them each and every day that she shows up to work. The hope is that the information discussed today will help to inform how we look at the experiences of Black women and women of Colour in the corporate world and how the White-centric focus of academia, which influences the terminology we use in the workplace and wider world, can further marginalise those who exist outside of that focus.- The February 2021 Harvard Business Review article entitled "Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome" by Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey informed this episode - please read it!  - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 9 of series 3, where we’re closing out our "Get a Job Your Way" series. We open the discussion by breaking down the perception that setting out your requirements and coming from an empowered place where you know what you deserve, and won’t accept less, can be perceived as privilege. We move into the final stages of hiring, closing out negotiations, running through work contracts and how to spot (and respond to) red flags. We hope this series has given you the tools you need to get the job you want, for the pay you deserve. If you take one thing away from this series, let it be this: You're worthy of great things, never let the corporate world tell you otherwise.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 8(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown of White Feminism and why it’s so problematic. All the information used to inform this conversation is from @everydayracism_ on Instagram and we urge you to follow this account so you can learn from Naomi & Natalie as we have and jump on the pre-order for their upcoming book, The Mixed Race Experience. Check out our social media to find the original source material - we hope this mini-breakdown gives you extra perspective on why intersectional feminism is the ONLY way forward. Tune in to next week’s full episode - part 3 of The Reckoning: Get a Job Your Way. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author. - Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.