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Thought about just leaving the podcast as it was, but that woulda been wierd. Leaving without saying goodbye.  As a special thank you for listening, I thought I'd record a podcast where I taught everything I wish I'd learned the moment I hit 18. Inside... The difference between a steamy vs. platonic date How to stop being so outcome dependent The one thing you must avoid if you don't want dating to get harder over time The step by step on how to rewire your brain to become a fearless risk taker Why most recovering "nice guys" will still get horrible results with women, and what they're doing wrong And of course, a whole lot more...   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode: 1. The no. 1 reason you aren't getting better with women. 2. Why most men get stuck settling for less and how to stop the cycle. 3. How to know if you're thinking like a boy vs. thinking like a man. 4. The biggest thing you need to change today if you're still taking rejection personally. 5. Why self compassion is one of the most, if not THE most important skill you can learn on your dating journey. 6. Two little habits that will immediately improve your dating results. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode... She wants sex! We talk about how to create conversations and environments that help her have sex with YOU. What to do when sex starts to feel like WORK and STRESS Why your fear of rejection is running the show in the bedroom (in the worst possible way) and how to erase it How to create the kind of juicy emotional intimacy that women crave The ONLY mindset that will consistently give way to the kind of juicy sweaty ravishing sex that you both want Why you need to slow down during sex (95% of men get this wrong and women hate it) Sexual tension - what it is, and how to create it And obviously more... If you're looking to connect with Scott for coaching, find him at www.scottpagliaccio.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

You want to date out of your league? This is everything I've learned in the past month about attracting and dating gorgeous women. Once you've listened to this podcast you will understand... The optimal way to structure your profile Absolute dos and don'ts when writing your "about me" The types of women to absolutely avoid when you're swiping online How women assess men for dating and relationship worthiness How to cultivate the REQUIRED mindset to date someone very attractive The trick to stopping when you keep obsessing over a girl How to and why you need to build sexual tension Why ONLY using pro photos for your dating shots is a mistake One huge difference between online dating "game" vs. in-person "game" How to stop being your own worst enemy  And a sh*tton more. This is a solo episode. Scott will be rejoining us next week. If you want to connect with us, you hit up www.greatdateguy.com If you want to work with Scott, visit www.scottpagliaccio.com Don't forget to subscribe and rate us if you got something out of this ep. This podcast features profanity, strong opinions, and a male narrative. If you don't like it, GTFO. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Welcome to the horror show that is online dating. Today we cover off on why so many women seem to be so damned skittish and unavailable (there's actually a good reason for that. Surprised? I was, too). And maybe more importantly, what we can do about that. If you're tired of feeling rejected, unattractive, or just plain resigned about your online dating experience, dis one for you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

By now you've probably had it drilled into your skull that as a man you need to be more dominant in the bedroom, boardroom, and apparently everywhere else you're expected to show up. While dominance is an important thing, most experts never bother explaining that dominance is what naturally happens when someone is an effective leader. People surrender their power to you. Now there are MANY ways to take this on, but fair warning, many of them are about just trying to force your will on other people through fear and trickery. Fuck that noise. Not only is it unattractive, it will get you in some deep sh*t in the long run. In this ep, Scott and I walk you through what attractive leadership looks like, the skills it requires, how to train those specific skills, and how it looks like to apply them to dating life, business, and beyond. This is not a Buzzfeed article. This is about setting you up to win the long game, not give you a small fistful of "life hacks" / band-aid solutions that will fall apart at the first sign of challenge. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

If you've ever wanted to talk to someone absolutely gorgeous only to choke and have the whole thing go down in flames moments later...this is for you. In this episode... Mary walks us through how to stop self sabotaging (and why it happens) when the stakes are high... A quick, 3 minute exercise to stop approach anxiety and other strong, unpleasant emotions... Why you should be paying more attention to your own body, especially when with someone you're interested in... Why women don't like being around men who feel "misaligned" (and what that means) And a whole lot more Who is Mary-Lucinda Palmieri? I am a licensed clinical social worker that works in private practice in Buffalo, NY. I am formally trained in evidence based practices: trauma focused cognitive behavioral therapy, aka TF-CBT, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, also known as DBT, and currently in the process of being trained in Eye movement desensitization reprocessing trauma model, also known as EMDR. You can reach her at... https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/mary-lucinda-palmieri-buffalo-ny/878987 Instagram.com/marylupalmieri Instagram.com/free2be_dancecommunity --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Today we talk about breaking up with honor. In a world of ghosting and silent resentment, this is how you show up as a goddamn warrior. This is how you break up without living to regret it - AND we'll show you how to do it with the utmost compassion and love for yourself, the other person, and the relationship you shared. Inside... What to do when things get too spicy and you're ready to snap? How to become emotionally bulletproof and non-reactive. The 5 minute practice anyone can learn to immediately begin quenching reactivity. How to fully close the door when you keep coming back and getting hurt again and again. The blueprint to breaking up with honor and examples of how it's done. For those of you who want a refresher on the VEVOOM method... VOLUME - how loud are my emotions. 1-10? EMOTION - what emotion am I feeling? VIBRATION - where do I feel this emotion? OKAY TO OBSERVE - can I give myself permission to experience this fully? METHOD - what can I use to recover? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode, we share the exact step by step method to become a conflict breaker. Someone who can halt big ugly fights and confrontation in their tracks - before they cross the point of no return. This is among one of the most attractive skills you can ever learn as a romantic partner. Today we share… 3 skills that will immediately de-escalate conflict The one thing you absolutely need to avoid during conflict if you want to keep your romantic partner Two practices you can start TODAY to become bulletproof when she starts to bring the heat. Scott’s VEVOOM system: VOLUME - how loud are my emotions. 1-10? EMOTION - what emotion am I feeling? VIBRATION - where do I feel this emotion? OKAY TO OBSERVE - can I give myself permission to experience this fully? METHOD - what can I use to recover? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

I think by now, most men have learned that being told they're *nice* is the kiss of death. It's almost worse than being told you aren't tall enough... But what does it actually mean to be a "nice guy" and is being a bad boy actually any better? As ye olde adage goes, "women love a**holes"...but is that actually even true? In this episode, we talk about the pros and cons of each approach, how to recover from being a nice guy without turning into an insufferable douche, and how to walk the secret third path of the Laughing Warrior to become instinctively and effortlessly attractive to women. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

This episode is for you if… Life feels like Groundhog Day. The problems and challenges won’t stop coming, and worst of all, it feels like they’re on repeat. You keep dating the same horrible people. You keep getting steamrolled or taken advantage of at work. You keep trying to start a business and they just keep on failing. By the time you finish, you’ll get… Two foolproof approaches to breaking the cycle of pain The fastest way to go from thinking like a boy to thinking like a man (and why it matters more than you think) The one and only true key to success (80% of people have got it completely wrong...) Why most people fail when they try to change their life circumstances And how to make yourself insanely attractive with the Warrior Mindset If you're interested in connecting more with Scott, you can find him at... https://www.scottpagliaccio.com/ https://www.instagram.com/scottpags/?hl=en --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

What's up baddies. Got a sizzling hot take from our guest today Ashley Cox. In this episode: What keeps nice guys trapped in a cycle of endless painful relationships? How this relationship dynamic forces women to occupy a masculine role (that they hate!) How to stop your partner from unconsciously manipulating you and ignoring your boundaries The easiest way to shed your nice guy tendencies and start showing up powerfully and attractively masculine in relationships... And more...  Ashley Cox helps "nice guys" from the bedroom to the boardroom. She uses neurolinguistic programming and her 10+ year background in trauma and teaching to help ‘nice guys’ find and have healthier love and more wealth. In addition to blowing womens' minds, her clients have gone from $40,000 - 100,000 and 3,000,000 - 10,000,0000 in a few months after tackling subconscious blocks of fear, doubt, shame, guilt, anger, self-love deficit disorder and pain with her. Instagram: www.instagram.com/niceguyreformschool Facebook: www.facebook.com/theniceguyreformschool TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@niceguyreformschool Youtube Channel: www.youtube.com/c/AshleyCoxCoaching Private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/1521917324634479 Schedule a Consultation: https://go.oncehub.com/privateassessmentforme --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Welcome to the sh*tty part of dating. Where we've built up this story in our head of how things are ending happily ever after, only to be greeted by silence, loss of communication, and pain. One moment they're in love with us. The next, they won't call us back. In this episode we discuss exactly what to do.. How to stop the pain.. What causes this behavior.. And what to expect if you continue. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode, Scott gets interviewed on exactly how he gets so many dates just by talking with strangers. This is a skill that mystifies me, too - so we've got almost an hour of content here for you today on the step by step, how to cultivate the proper mindset, and a few examples of how a good approach would look. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

This is a big one for me. Any time I suspect someone might be upset at me it fucks me up in a big way. I’m talking about staying up late, not getting enough sleep, being distracted all day. So in this ep, I’ll be talking about how I got through caring too much what other people think – and by that, I mean everything I learned from having my TEDx talk launch and suddenly start getting hundreds of comments from the internet. Scott & I will be breaking down what’s going on, and the best ways to approach and nullify this pattern in your mind. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

And this podcast we run through one very simple exercise that will help you stop reacting with anger, hurt, or feelings of rejection when things go wrong. If you've noticed that you've been getting into arguments or very weird head spaces more often than you like, this is the one for you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Clean your space. Look at the areas in your home and in your life you have been consciously or unconsciously avoiding. And start feeling everything that comes up. An important distinction here. What do we mean by feel your feelings? Emotions always come with a sensation in the body. That's why we call em feelings. If you want to have emotional mastery, the first place to look is... Can I just observe the physical sensations of this emotion? Can I feel them fully without rejecting them? Once you get good at this skill (doesn't take very long - a few days max), you can begin to deal with some of the reactiveness you experience in life. Theory: The more bottled up emotions we have, the more triggered we get. Most people tend to be defined by 2-3 unpleasant emotions - for me it's guilt or anger. We keep storing up these emotions and putting them under more and more pressure and control, in order to keep them at bay... Until eventually they start to leak out - that is where the self sabotage happens. (Think of anytime you got into a fight with your significant other over something idiotic. Odds are, the process above is exactly what happened) In order to escape this endless cycle of pain... It's important to identify which emotions are showing up on repeat, and begin to empty your cup by feeling them without engaging in the thought patterns around them. Stick with how it feels in your body. Mastering this skill means you get to reach a level bulletproof that most people don't get access to. And when you have this resilience, it means you stop being afraid of rejection. It means you stop worrying about whether or not you made the right choice. It means you stop *needing* that next success, because you're capable of feeling good no matter what happens. Other important notes: Most businesses without huge overhead costs fail because the founders simply gave up. About 50% of businesses fail in 2 years. About 70-80% fail in 5. This is largely the reason why - hustle culture tells us to toughen up and just soldier on. This is a surefire recipe for burnout - it is not sustainable. High level success requires your ability to effectively manage your emotions - OR they will manage you. That goes for business, dating, and any other high stakes venture you can think of. It's also really important to find a way to make each step of whatever you're up to, enjoyable. If you cannot find the joy in what you're doing, if you do not know how to source your own happiness, you will quit and fail because the task in front of you is too punishing. Whether you succeed or fail, your emotions are one of the biggest deciding factors. So clean your f***ing room. Start sorting through all the muck and sludge that you've been trying to avoid. You can thank us in 2022. If you're interested in connecting with Scott, you can find him at: www.scottpagliaccio.com For general inquiries, find us at: www.greatdateguy.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode... How to rapidly advance your social skills with attractive women What pitfalls to avoid if you want to learn to be good as quickly as possible The secret to minimizing your discomfort while maximizing your growth What I do with my eye contact to completely avoid coming across creepy And of course, there's more...   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

How come it's so hard to talk to women I'm really attracted to? How do I stop coming across weird and nervous? How can I get her to chase me, instead of spending all my time trying to convince her that I'm the right choice? How do I stop needing so much social validation from women? In this bonus episode, I answer all these questions and more. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode… What mindsets increase your worth? What mindsets are secretly setting you back? Increasing your earning potential through non-neediness and a step by step on how that’s done How to self diagnose (and fix) your money wounds. How much happier does money make us anyway? The real reason why you aren’t making more… --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support