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Jennifer Lehr, therapist and Attachment Theory expert, explains attachment styles and how your history can impact your current relationships. Damona covers headlines: is financial misalignment a deal-breaker and are you getting fauci-ed? Damona answers listener questions: what to do if your partner's love language makes you feel awkward and how do you stop the texting trap dead in its tracks?Check out Jennifer Lehr's upcoming project, WeConcile, and her relationship quiz: www.jenniferlehrmft.comTextNow.com/GOYNDates & Mates is presented by TextNow. The app solves many major challenges D's clients face in dating today:You can keep your main number private You can separate your personal and dating contacts Plus, It’s easy to use and FREE.We are proud to collaborate with an app that empowers modern daters to feel safe and secure. If you want more information, check out Damona's video on when & how to give out your number: textnow.com/goynSponsors:damonahoffman.com/okcupidOkCupid is FAMOUS for matching people on what MATTERS MOST to them, from food to the type of relationship they want...to politics. They ask you really thoughtful and provoking questions to get to the heart of who you are and what type of person you’re looking for.Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today!Patreon.com/datesandmatesAre you a fan of the show and want access to Damona's Weekly Facebook Live Q&A? Join Damona's Patreon FWBs - Friends with Benefits - at patreon.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Gary Lewandowski, psychology professor and author of "Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blindspots That Undermine Your Relationship", joins Damona to talk about big expectations in new relationships and the tiny pet peeves you want to change about your partner. Headlines for the week: the most popular relationship questions your state is googling and why Britney's super hot 27-year-old bf is the best kind of boyfriend. Plus in Dear Damona, D answers listener questions: What's up with the guys on Whatsapp and how to avoid the time-wasters in dating as a single mom. Don't forget your copy of Dr. Gary's book "Stronger Thank You Think": damonahoffman.com/contentclubTextNow.com/GOYNDates & Mates is presented by TextNow. The app solves many major challenges D's clients face in dating today:You can keep your main number private You can separate your personal and dating contacts Plus, It’s easy to use and FREE.We are proud to collaborate with an app that empowers modern daters to feel safe and secure. If you want more information, check out Damona's video on when & how to give out your number: textnow.com/goynSponsors:damonahoffman.com/okcupidOkCupid is FAMOUS for matching people on what MATTERS MOST to them, from food to the type of relationship they want...to politics. They ask you really thoughtful and provoking questions to get to the heart of who you are and what type of person you’re looking for.Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today!Patreon.com/datesandmatesAre you a fan of the show and want access to Damona's Weekly Facebook Live Q&A? Join Damona's Patreon FWBs - Friends with Benefits - at patreon.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

David Tutera, celebrity wedding planner, TV personality, and lifestyle influencer, joins Damona to talk about the current state of Valentine's celebrations and what couples in love need to know about the future of weddings. Damona covers headlines: what we can learn from celebrity couples therapy experiences and why the 13th of February is just as important as Valentine's Day. Damona answers listener questions: When to share important info about your identity to your matches and how to date if you're married to your job (yes it's possible!)You can find more of David at davidtutera.com or on IG @davidtutera!SPONSORS:TextNow.com/GOYNDates & Mates is sponsored by TextNow. The app solves many major challenges D's clients face in dating today: You can keep your main number private You can separate your personal and dating contacts Plus, It’s easy to use and FREE. We are proud to collaborate with an app that empowers modern daters to feel safe and secure. If you want more information, check out Damona's video on when & how to give out your number: textnow.com/goynDownload OkCupid today!OkCupid is FAMOUS for matching people on what MATTERS MOST to them, from food to the type of relationship they want...to politics. They ask you really thoughtful and provoking questions to get to the heart of who you are and what type of person you’re looking for. Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today!Letsroam.com/datesandmatesYou need an ADVENTURE - a socially distanced one. Get Damona's new scavanger hunt with Let's Roam at letsroam.com/datesandmatesPatreon.com/datesandmatesAre you a fan of the show and want access to Damona's Weekly Facebook Live Q&A? Join Damona's Patreon FWBs - Friends with Benefits!!! - at patreon.com/datesandmatesEVENTS:Dating for vegetarians, flexitarians, the veggie curious with OkCupid & Sweet Earthimaveggielover.comValentine's Day cooking, comedy, & love lessons with actress Mayim Bialik and comedianPamela Rae Schuller damonahoffman.com/cookingwithmA Lesson on How To Ace Your Virtual Date with Washington Post Date Lab Team damonahoffman.com/washpost Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jon Birger, author of Date-onomics and Make Your Move, joins Damona to talk about the science of why women are in charge of the dating scene today. Instead of the headlines, Damona brings back On Screen Romance with conversation with Joy C. Mitchell, writer on the hit Netflix series Bridgerton. Dear Damona questions: are common interests really important in a relationship and why your hopeless romanticism might be killing your relationships.Get Make Your Move: The New Science of Dating and Why Women are in Charge on Amazon! https://amzn.to/3cylqkQFind more from Joy on instagram @joyineuropeDates & Mates is sponsored by TextNow. The app solves many major challenges D's clients face in dating today: You can keep your main number private, You can separate your personal and dating contacts, Plus, It’s easy to use and FREE. We are proud to collaborate with an app that empowers modern daters to feel safe and secure. If you want more information, check out Damona's video on when & how to give out your number: textnow.com/goynOkCupid expects 25 million new matches to be made this January - a big increase from last year⁠. Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today!Get Better Help: real therapy, convenient and affordable. Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. BetterHelp.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rachel De Alto, Chief Dating Expert at Match, joins Damona to examine the relationships between social anxiety, alcohol, and dating. Damona covers headlines: stay away from creeps like Armie Hammer and join in on two big dating app trends this season. In Dear Damona, she answers listener questions: how to filter matches who don't want a long-term relationship and can you still be excited about dating in your 60s?Enter to win your own Virtual Date Kit to ensure their first dates go off without a hitch. The kit includes the new O’Doul’s cans, custom woven socks, a candle, dating convo cards, a smartphone stand and selfie light to set the vibes and ensure they’re camera ready. https://bit.ly/3sX77MpDates & Mates is sponsored by TextNow. The app solves many major challenges D's clients face in dating today: You can keep your main number private You can separate your personal and dating contacts Plus, It’s easy to use and FREE. We are proud to collaborate with an app that empowers modern daters to feel safe and secure. If you want more information, check out Damona's video on when & how to give out your number: textnow.com/goynOkCupid expects 25 million new matches to be made this January - a big increase from last year⁠. Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today!Try Magic Spoon: Take $5 off your first order of the healthy cereal that's too good to be true - Magicspoon.com/dates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carol Allen, astrologer of Love is In The Stars, returns to Dates & Mates to explain exactly how the stars impact your compatibility beyond just your zodiac sign. Damona covers headlines in the Dating Dish: Why is Lori Harvey getting so much hate over her new relationship with Michael B. Jordan and how to get a celebrity to breakup with your partner. Plus Damona answers listener questions such as how to deal with racism from your dates and can you keep up the chemistry if you can't meet a match online anytime soon.Get your Personal Success Calendar from Carol at damonahoffman.com/mycalendar!OkCupid expects 25 million new matches to be made this January - a big increase from last year⁠. Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today!Get Better Help: real therapy, convenient and affordable. Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. BetterHelp.com/datesandmatesGet The Dating Secret - Registration is open through January 20th at thedatingsecret.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. James Simmons of Ask the NP joins Damona to talk about how to stay healthy dating in the time of Covid, ways to reduce your risk of Super Gonorrhea, and de-stigmatizing mental health. Damona covers headlines: Behind the scenes advice on Drew Barrymore getting ghosted and 21 ways to get your flirt on in 2021. Then in Dear Damona she covers listener questions: Has everyone forgotten how to communicate these days and should you give him a third chance if he's cancelled twice before?Follow James at AsktheNPOk Cupid expects 25 million new matches to be made this January - a big increase from last year⁠. Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today!Try Magic Spoon: Take $5 off your first order of the healthy cereal that's too good to be true - Magicspoon.com/datesGet The Dating Secret - Registration is open through January 20th at thedatingsecret.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Groves of Create The Love and The Mark Groves Podcast joins Damona to talk about new beginnings and how to ditch dating rock bottom. Damona covers headlines: Is Ariana really tying the knot this time and do dating apps really want you to find love? 'Dear Damona' segment is back by popular demand: What to do with all these breadcrumb-y dudes and surely there are better pickup lines than "hey"?Find The Mark Groves Podcast on all your favorite podcast platforms and make sure to follow him on IG @createtheloveOk Cupid expects 25 million new matches to be made this January - a big increase from last year⁠. Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today!Get Better Help: Affordable, private online counseling. Anytime, anywhere. Start today and enjoy 10% off your first month - BetterHelp.com/datesandmatesGet The Dating Secret - Damona's live group coaching January Program. Early bird pricing closes in a few days: thedatingsecret.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona gives a lesson in vision boarding and goal setting so you can attract the love you want in the new year. New episodes dropping on TUESDAYS beginning January 5th, 2021.Get Damona's secret to dating in the new normal. Go to thedatingsecret.com to learn more.Ready to go deeper in love? Access to Damona's Patreon "Friends with Benefits" live streams starts at just $5 a month! Plus, you get access to a community of daters just like you AND you get to help support the show and keep us running for 8 more seasons. Patreon.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona gives advice on listener questions such as: Can your long-distance relationship go the distance? How do I find love if I don't feel like I fit the norm around me? Should you include a picture of yourself in a mask on your dating profile? Pandemic Dating Problems: Should you be physically exclusive before being romantically exclusive? How do I date now if I feel like my dating options are limited due to the pandemic? Get the Dating Secret, Damona's January Group Coaching Program at thedatingsecret.comDo you need Better Help? Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. Discount code “datesandmates" will be automatically applied. Go to betterhelp.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona welcomes a Bumble success story, Kyle and Olivia from Atlanta, who share their journey from signing onto the app to falling in love in a crazy time. Damona also covers headlines: Tinder's "Year in Swipe" dating trends report, how to tell if your virtual connection will translate IRL, and how linguistic cues can win someone over.Need more guidance in love? Join the Patreon "FWB" Group! Just $5 supports the show and you get access to Damona's weekly Facebook Live Q&As! Patreon.com/datesandates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tod Jacobs & Peter Lynn, authors of the new book Not A Partnership, join Damona to debate whether marriage is still necessary in today's society plus explain why marriage is hard work (but that's not a bad thing!). Damona covers headlines: a holiday gift guide according to your loved one's love language, a complete roundup of 2020's most noteworthy studies in love, plus what you can learn from Elliot Page, star of Juno.Learn more from Tod & Peter by reading their book Not A Partnership: Why We Keep Getting Marriage Wrong & Where We Can Get It RightReady for Better Help? Got to betterhelp.com/datesandmates for 10% off your first month!Want to go deeper in love? Join the Patreon FWB Program at Patreon.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Dear Damona episode dedicated to answering your dating questions: Will love actually happen when you "least expect it" as they say? What do you do when a guy wants to go slow? Am I limiting myself too much if I only swipe on guys with college degrees? How to navigate mental health challenges in a relationship? 24 and never been kissed. Do I tell the guys I'm dating? Should you be completely honest about your age? I'm in love with my best friend's little brother and I think he feels it too? Proper phone etiquette on a date? How do you date someone in the adult film industry? Plus Damona covers headlines: yay or nay - workplace romance, everything you need to know about the inner workings of each dating app, and does height really matter in dating?Get $100 off the 30 Day Dating Playbook today! Playbook.DamonaHoffman.comAre you interested in trying BetterHelp? Go to Betterhelp.com/datesandmates for 10% off your first month! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona’s husband, Seth Hoffman, joins to share his perspective on the challenges of online dating, relationship dynamics, and the realities of falling in love. Damona covers headlines: is No Shave November making men less dateable, pandemic safety questions you need to ask a potential date, and why being ghosted in a pandemic is so much more emotionally taxing.Are you ready to go deeper in love? Join the Patreon "Friends with Benefits" Program at patreon.com/datesandmates to support the show and participate in Damona's weekly private Q&As! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Monique Kelley, author and love expert behind "Confessions of a Serial Dater in LA", joins Damona to celebrate and embrace singledom. Damona covers headlines: the best way to show gratitude according to Darwin, some good news about marriage, and The Sadie Hawkins Effect.Preorder Monique's novel, Reality in Chaos, on Amazon! Find more from Monique on her website: confessionsofaserialdaterinla.comJoin the Patreon "Friends with Benefits" Group at patreon.com/datesandmates for just $5 to support the show + get access to Damona's weekly live Q&As! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Francesca Beauman, historian and author of Matrimony Inc, joins Damona for an in-depth analysis of the OG dating profiles - personal ads - and how the history of love has shaped dating today. Damona covers headlines: Relationship anarchy - the latest movement shaping the future of love, dating tips for the second Coronavirus wave lock down, and the latest list of pictures prohibited in your dating app.Get your copy of Matrimony, Inc here!Also, take a look at Damona's Content Club!Don't forget to join the Patreon "Friends with Benefits" if you're ready to go deeper in love and want more support from Damona + weekly Facebook Live Q&A! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona dedicates a whole episode to answering questions that listeners have sent in: can you date offline in a pandemic, is it a red flag if he doesn't want to share what he does for a living, why are my Tinder matches trying to sell me OnlyFans subscriptions, and more! Damona also covers this week's headlines including should you even bother with video dating app features, why it's suddenly LGBTQ+ wedding season, and how is love faring in the age of Trump?Ready to go deeper in love? Join the Patreon "Friends with Benefits" group at patreon.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's our favorite time of the year! Damona's annual Halloween episode where we hear your dating horror stories. Damona also covers headlines: The best couples halloween costumes, what to say to ghosts, and the definitive dating timeline in 2020.You can find a copy of Troy Devolld's book, One Hundred Poems about LA on Amazon!Are you ready to go deeper in love? Join the Friends with Benefits Patreon at patreon.com/datesandmates for laser focused dating advice and a weekly Q&A Facebook Live. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Laura Berman, sex & relationships expert and New York Times Best Seller, joins Damona to talk about the current state of relationships: skin hunger, the rise of infidelity, the trickiness of whether a woman should sleep with a man before they're monogamous, and a brief debate on whether soulmates exist. Damona also covers headlines: the ultimate cuffing season pressure is on, is it mask fishing or a political statement, why dating apps are ditching celebrities.Dates & Mates is trying a new show format! Let us know your thoughts by reaching out to Damona on all the socials @DamonaHoffmanFind Dr. Berman's book, Quantum Love, on Amazon!Are you ready to go deeper in love? Join Damona's Friends with Benefits Group at patreon.com/datesandmates for just $5 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brian Belefant, successful real estate agent and author, explains the surprising parallels between dating and house hunting. Damona covers headlines: What Reba McEntire and Kelly Clarkson have in common, what is Emophilia, and the official dating from Match’s Annual ‘Singles in America’ Study. Damona also answers questions: Do people have standards anymore and social distance date inspirations?Get your copy of Brian's book Spouse Hunting: Using The Rules of Real Estate To Find The Love of Your Life!Are you ready to go deeper in love? Join the Patreon: patreon.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices