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46 minutes | 4 days ago
The Island of Pure Fire | Date Your Wife 2021 | EP 010
"This week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast is filled with a smorgasbord of topics, including the top two things that can fuck up a relationship, the one thing guys really love to hear from their woman, the three things women want to receive from their man, the dangers of dancing on the line, and sizzling details of the White’s recent Mexico adventure." QUOTES OF THE WEEK “That’s probably why Mexico was so great because I actually relished in your power. It turns me on!” —Garrett J White “As I rise in power, you better fucking keep up with me.” —Danielle K White DATE NIGHT TOPIC 👉 If you are not dating your spouse, you’ve got to get off the couch and make it happen. What are you currently holding back on in conversation with your spouse? What are you not talking about that can ultimately brew into you dong and thinking stupid shit? Talk about it! FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.
17 minutes | 11 days ago
Stop Dancing On The F*cking Line | Date Your Wife 2021 | EP 009
QUOTES OF THE WEEK “So… if I cut my hair, shave my face, and put a suit on, all you want to do is get me naked?” —Garrett J White “What do women want? They want to feel safe, secure and have a commitment. That’s all they want.” —Danielle K White FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.
54 minutes | 18 days ago
Baby, You've Always Been Good | Date Your Wife 2021 | Ep 008
"In this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Carlos Alvarez Roque leads Danielle and Garrett on an adventure down memory lane where the details of their extraordinary life are revealed. We discover how they went from nine breakups during their dating years to ultimately becoming each other’s ride or die, and how they created multi-million dollar empires that are impacting men, women, and families today and for generations to come." QUOTES OF THE WEEK “I was so intimidated because of how beautiful she was and felt so *not* worthy to be with her that I would find a way to be emotionally unstable and then break up with her.” –Garrett J White “Now that we have kids, I was thinking, why didn’t we have sex all over the house all the time before we had them? We had so much freedom, but we didn’t even know!” –Danielle K White FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.
37 minutes | a month ago
Sex, Passion & Communication | Date Your Wife 2021 | EP 007
"Welcome to a blush-worthy, sizzling, and nugget-filled episode of the Date Your Wife podcast where nothing is off-limits, and the sexual tension is off the charts and at an all-time high between mega-producers and married co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White." QUOTES OF THE WEEK “Who are you going to have to become to be able to pull this off where the things that you say you want are normal and natural?” –Garrett J White “I was a cute eighteen-year-old. Everything on paper looked bad and said no, this guy is not for you!” –Danielle K White NON-NEGOTIABLES 1. Get clear about what you want. 2. What are you wiling to sacrifice? 3. Inside of that sacrifice, who must you become to get what you want? FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.
41 minutes | a month ago
You Can Look Healthy But Not Be Healthy | Date Your Wife | EP 006
"Do you find yourself judging others about their workout routine, all the while downing gallons of diet coke? What about the picture-perfect couple who, in public, seem to have it all...yet behind the scenes are filing for divorce? This week's episode has some plain talk about health in our bodies and in our marriages, becoming better versions of ourselves, and a conversation about how aligning their lives with God has shifted the Whites' life in the past few months. Welcome to another episode of the Date Your Wife podcast with co-hosts Garrett J and Danielle K White." “Even as hot and on fire as we are right now as individuals and as a couple, the version of us ten years from now will look at us right now and say, ‘You have no idea…'" —Garrett J White “Growing is not just about you. Yes, it’s so very fulfilling and rewarding for you; however, you impact and are an example to so many other people by becoming a better version of you.” —Danielle K White *To watch this episode, Click Here.
37 minutes | a month ago
Caught In A Web of Lies | Date Your Wife 2021 | EP 005
"In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Garrett and Danielle share how a recent discovery of a tangled web of lies woven by their teenage daughter exposes them as parents. Their conversation leads to possible causes and solutions, as well as realizations about their parenting strategy or lack thereof. The reality is, your kids are always hiding something from you, and it's your job to find out what it is." QUOTES OF THE WEEK “I’m finding out I may be like the good cop, meaning the silent, stoic guy who doesn’t yell; he just states the facts and convicts people.” –Garrett J White “I realize I gave her too much freedom. That’s my fault. And now I’m trying to course-correct to get back on track.” —Danielle K White PARENTING CHALLENGE What is your parenting strategy? FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.
34 minutes | 2 months ago
Become A Little Less Sh*tty | Date Your Wife 2021 | EP 004
QUOTES OF THE WEEK “I’m thinking we look like a badass Olympic surf team and the rest of the people are thinking, look at that cute gay couple going on their anniversary!” --Garrett J White "If you have the power to stay consistent for a long period of time, you’re going to have success." —Danielle K White HIGHLIGHTS How taking trips by yourself helps create your own persona outside of the relationship Connect deeply with your spouse before one or the other leaves on trips or getaways. It’s the moments that keep your marriage together. People want short-term instant gratification vs long-term investment. There is no short-term fix. You don’t understand the snowball effect of you playing small and settling. Get clear about what vision you want as a couple. What would have to be true, and who would we have to become? What would have to be true about our life for the reality that we saw in the future to become possible? To watch this episode click here: dateyourwifenow.com COMMUNICATION CHALLENGE You take one step forward to being just a little less shitty as a partner by going on Date Night this week. FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com
28 minutes | 2 months ago
Tequila, Tithing, & Framing Money Like You Want to Get Laid | Date Your Wife 2021 | EP 003
"This week’s episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast is about making financial decisions, particularly when it comes to the ‘big’ ones. This is typically a hot topic for most couples, and the Whites are no exception. Their back-and-forth duel ultimately comes down to learning how to submit to the other’s insanity and accepting it as part of the equation." QUOTE OF THE WEEK: “Yes, we are fallible. Yes, we fuck a lot of things up. But the cool this is, we keep winning. Why? Because we keep submitting." --Garrett J White “If I expect a man to show up as a man and be masculine, then I have to show up as a woman… and let him be the man.” —Danielle K White COMMUNICATION CHALLENGE: Choose a topic and then ask yourself the question, "How can I pre-frame this in a way that will allow for us to have a rational conversation? THE 5 STAGES OF MARRIAGE: divorceyourwife.com WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE: This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com CLICK HERE TO WATCH THE EPISODE ON YOUTUBE
33 minutes | 2 months ago
Sex With the Lights On | Date Your Wife 2021 | EP 002
Always entertaining and willing to go where most won’t, Garrett and Danielle are keeping it real and raw in this week’s spicy episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, where they pull back the curtain on all things sex & relationships. What’s the difference between sex and intimate sex? What is vaginal masturbation? How much power do women have with the sex card? How does the Stack fit into all of this? What about Danielle’s fitness competition journey? How do you date your spouse? And...what was the last piece of the puzzle that ultimately set their marriage and sex life on fire? Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast! —————— CLICK HERE TO WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE —————— DATE NIGHT CHALLENGE: If you have something you want to do on Date Night, then schedule it. —————— QUOTES OF THE WEEK “You’ve become the sexual monster that I’ve wanted to be dominated by; the woman who tells me, ‘I conquered you!”’—Garrett J White “When you have sex without intimacy, I’m a personal vibrator.”—Garrett J White “If I’m not connecting with you, we’ll have sex to have sex. But I hold my emotions and vulnerability, and I don’t let myself even enjoy it or have fun.”—Danielle K White “I hated the idea of having somebody tell me, "You can spend money on this, but you can’t spend money on that." I wanted to keep my independence.”—Danielle K White —————— Divorceyourwife.com - Video series that walks you through the 5 Stages of Relationships. Wake Up Warrior Challenge - The Art & Science of Having It All.
34 minutes | 3 months ago
The 5 Stages of Divorce | Date Your Wife | EP 111
"After a semi-brief hiatus, Garrett J & Danielle K White, dynamic, charismatic, entertaining, and powerful mega-producers, are back! In this highly-anticipated 'welcome back' episode, the couple brings us up to speed about their family life and businesses. They also touch on the five stages of divorce, and what ultimately re-ignited what is now their ride-or-die relationship. Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast." Quote of the Week: “You have to jump the gap, divorce the marriage as you know it as, divorce yourself as the way you see yourself, divorce the game in your family the way it’s been…you have to let go. Divorce is mandatory.“ —Garrett J White “You have to look at what you want the end result to be and then you have to reverse engineer and figure out what those steps are in between to get you what you want.“ —Danielle K White
32 minutes | a year ago
Processing Guilt | Date Your Wife | Ep 110
*Repeat from February 2019.* “In today’s episode, we learn about Danielle’s epic dream that may or may not include Matthew McConaughey; we discover how men and women process guilt (and where that guilt stems from), and how the life-altering seasons of ultramarathon running and Kokoro training profoundly influenced and affected Garrett…and ultimately their marriage.” Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…. Communication Point #1: Guilt: The Enemy Danielle hates feeling guilty. “I think guilt is the enemy, and that nothing can pull you into a downward spiral faster than guilt. When I feel guilt, I ask myself why I’m feeling this way. Can I fix it? What can I do NOT to feel this?” Women feel all kinds of guilt, whether it be mommy guilt, business guilt, sex guilt, or even food guilt. When she’s making decisions, Danielle asks herself if this will set her up to have a shitty day the next day. If so, “I have self-control and self-discipline. QUESTION As a woman, how do you process guilt? Point #2: Attack With the Stack null Guilt plagues guys in a massive way, and they, too, experience all kinds of guilt inside of marriage, family, and business. If they work long hours to provide for their family, they feel guilty for being away from them so much. And then, if they’re away and DON’T produce, they feel guilty about that, with an extra dose of shame and worthlessness thrown in. Garrett deals with guilt by using a powerful tool called the Stack. “I ask myself a series of questions that help me flip my guilt. I do this through an app on my cell phone, Attack with the Stack, where I’m able to deal with and process my thoughts and stories.” QUESTION As a man, how do you process guilt? Point #3: The Dream Danielle’s recent dream was like a blockbuster adventure, mystery, and horror movie rolled into one. Garrett & Danielle explore it and the possible meanings it could hold, and he reminds her, “You have dreams, and your dreams mean something.” Danielle: I think this dream came because I have been anxious about work. This year, I have taken on the role of CEO in addition to being a salon owner, an education director, launching my new ISLA hairline, and having a baby. I’ve snapped back strong from this baby, and mentally I feel strong, but I think I was scared that it was going to be too overwhelming. I think I was just scared of the unknown. QUESTION Do you or your spouse have dreams that carry timely messages? Point #4: Running From Life null During an especially difficult three year period for the White’s, Garrett became an ultra-marathon runner, often running up to twenty miles a day. Danielle claims he was running from life. Garrett: Being an ultra-marathon runner was deeply powerful for me. Do you know what it did for me? I learned how to physically hurt for days and days and days on end with no complaint at all. It just fucking hurt. It’s almost like you learn how to hurt and be ok with hurting. QUESTION What do you do to run away from your problems? Point #5: Every Mom Has a Different Path Garrett & Danielle have a conversation about the different choices women make today as either working-outside-the-home moms, stay-at-home moms, CEO moms, or a combination of these. Garrett feels that many women are miserable, depressed, and selling themselves short when they are stay-at-home moms, although he fully supports any choice women make. Danielle: I love being a mom. I love everything about it. But I also know I love doing stuff for myself. I think a lot of women pursue things outside of being a mom, but they look at it as a hobby. And I did that in the beginning, but then I was faced with a situation where I didn’t know if I was going to stay married. This is what ultimately birthed NBR, DKW Salon, her education company, and the ISLA hairline. QUESTION How do you both feel about the choices you have made up to this point? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about this phrase, “I wish I could just be a stay-at-home mom.” Does this trigger you? What does it actually mean to you? Date Night Topic: Who are your superheroes? Why? Quote of the Week: “I’ll be hurting and suffering in business with so much shit to do, so I’ll take a deep breath and say, ‘There is no finish line, this will not end quickly, this is going to fucking hurt badly, and… it is what it is.” —Garrett J White “I’m super logical, and I flip things because I hate that feeling of guilt. I know if I take the feeling out of it and logically look at something – even if I’m in the wrong – I can understand it, let go, and try to do better.” —Danielle K White
36 minutes | a year ago
Date Night | Date Your Wife | EP 109
Garrett and Danielle are proponents of dating your spouse AT LEAST once a week. They understand that adding young children to the mix can sometimes present a challenge but know that your relationship MUST come first if you want it to last. In this week’s episode, the White’s share tips for what has worked for them, as well as what hasn’t worked for them, in their quest to find babysitters and nannies. Where they ultimately hit the jackpot might actually surprise you. “Encore presentation from January 2019.” Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Routines & Consistency Both Garrett and Danielle feel like this podcast has been so good for their marriage. It’s as if the listening audience has become their sounding board and allows them to be better communicators with each other without completely flipping their lids and going off on each other. Danielle: In life, once you get out of your routine it’s so easy to lose your momentum. It’s in doing the small things consistently that keep us on track to build the large things; it’s the small and consistent things in marriage that keep a relationship stable and progressing. QUESTION What are you doing consistently inside of your relationship that is noticeably making a difference in the way you feel about and communciate with each other? Point #2: Baby Talk In the land of pregnancy and babies, when a woman is overdue it is a common understanding that having sex helps induce labor. Danielle’s experience with their two previous babies was that within an hour of having sex, the contractions began. Garrett attributes it to his “very aggressive sperm.” Danielle’s well thought out plans for the gender reveal went sideways as the waves washed out the pink and blue smoke bombs she had carefully buried in the sand. Garrett accidentally reveals the gender of the baby during the podcast. QUESTION Did your gender reveal turn out as planned? Point #3: Family Affair? A lot of times, people think they can only trust their family to watch their kids. Danielle has discovered that having someone other than family members might actually be better for you and your kids. From her personal experience, she would rather hire someone to follow her structure and routine instead of having free help from family who want to do their own thing. QUESTION What has been your experience with family members watching your children? Point #4: On-Demand Babysitter Gone Awry Garrett wanted to have an on-demand babysitter who was always available. He paid her a salary and got her an apartment close by their home so they would have someone ready to care for the kids whenever he and Danielle wanted to go out. It evolved into a sense of entitlement and a situation where Danielle was having to dance around the babysitter’s schedule. Danielle: Finding a babysitter is like building a business. You assume that people you hire will know what to do, but you should never assume. Find someone that you like and then be clear about the outcome you expect while they’re there. Always keep them in check. People want to know how to win whether it’s a nanny or an employee and will start to retreat when they don’t know how to please you. QUESTION Have you set clear outcomes and expectations for your babysitters? Point #5: “Care.com: Your Shit is Legit” By far the best decision Garrett & Danielle have made when it comes to finding a babysitter or nanny for their children is going through care.com. Garrett advises, “Request your babysitters driven by a dollar value, and when they turn in their application, make sure they send you a video.” “You’re investing in the guardianship of your children. If you’re paying a lot of money, set clear outcomes and expectations. If you look at the overall investment on a monthly basis, you’re investing in your marriage. 1-What’s your marriage worth? 2-How much are your children worth?” QUESTION Are you being a cheap bastard when it comes to hiring someone to watch your children? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about Date Night, and the challenges you are currently facing that are stopping you from going out consistently with your spouse. Get clear about what you want from your marriage, and what you can do to begin making Date Night a top priority in your marriage. Date Night Topic: Have a brainstorming session about the things you and your spouse want to do on your Date Nights for the next couple of months. Quote of the Week: “If you care about your marriage and want things to work out, go on Date Nights. If you care about your communication and sex life, go on Date Nights. To pull that off, you’re going to have to go through some trial and error before you find what works for you.” —Garrett J White “Whether it’s family or someone you pay, there are really no excuses when it comes to creating Date Night and space for yourselves as a couple. It becomes a matter of making it a priority.” —Danielle K White
47 minutes | a year ago
Below the Surface | Date Your Wife | Ep 108
The dynamic duo of Garrett J and Danielle K White hold nothing back in this week’s Date Your Wife podcast where they tackle the topic of Communication while candidly exploring the pros and cons of alcohol use in their marriage, the seemingly magical power women have over men, and how wearing frumpy lulu sweat pants and 40 pounds of excess fat around your midsection sends a clear message to your spouse that you don’t give a shit. *This is an encore presentation from April 3, 2018.* The dynamic duo of Garrett J and Danielle K White hold nothing back in this week’s Date Your Wife podcast where they tackle the topic of Communication while candidly exploring the pros and cons of alcohol use in their marriage, the seemingly magical power women have over men, and how wearing frumpy lulu sweat pants and 40 pounds of excess fat around your midsection sends a clear message to your spouse that you don’t give a shit. *This is an encore presentation from April 3, 2018.* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Deep Communication Is Vital Communication is vital to your sanity and the health of your marriage. At the end of the day, it’s about getting to a place where you can have hard conversations. Garrett & Danielle used alcohol to support them down that path. It opened up space where they could go deeper, beyond “surface” conversation. It also created the opportunity for them to experience sexuality with each other, even when they were arguing and fighting, which is a part of what kept them going. QUESTION What tools do you use that help you and your spouse have deeper conversations without setting off fireworks? Point #2: When Alcohol Becomes a Problem In time, alcohol was no longer working for them. Garrett had become less patient and was quick to lose his temper with Danielle and their eldest daughter, causing him to decide to walk away from alcohol (at the time of recording this episode.) Danielle: On Date Nights, drinking was a treat and was fun for us. It allowed us to let go of the day and just relax. After work, I would come home and drink a glass of wine with dinner, but when that one glass turned into two or three, I realized I didn’t really want to be that person drinking a glass of wine every night. QUESTION What habits have you taken on in your marriage that are no longer serving you? What would it take for you to make the decision to walk away from them? Point #3: Dress the Part How you dress sends a non-verbal message of energy towards your spouse every single day. Date Night changed everything for Garrett. He was dressing in an old plaid shirt, but when he started dressing up, he knew that he looked good and sexy, which translated into energy and confidence. Danielle: I’m a fan of dressing to feel on point. What energy am I putting off? Like I don’t give a shit? Instead of putting on my “mom” outfit, I’m going to throw on some jeans and some cute shoes just to make me feel like I have put myself together for the day. I feel better doing it, and I have a more productive day. QUESTION What changes are you willing to make to your wardrobe to reflect a sexier, more confident you? Point #4: Straight Talk Garrett: There are a lot of women who only dress up once a week on Date Night. I’m not telling you you have to dress up like a princess every single day, all day long. What I am telling you is this: how you dress impacts the energy of what your husband sees when he comes home. If he comes home to the “frumpy sweatpant lulu lady in constant ponytails,” there’s going to be a lack of attraction. Garrett: A vast majority of the married men that I have met are in worse shape than their wives. Men, your body did not go to the shitshow bringing babies into this world. This is like pushing a pumpkin out of your penis. You’re carrying bullshit weight, and your wife’s not turned on about it either – not just because of your body, but because you don’t feel powerful about the way you look. QUESTION Take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself: Would I be turned on by my appearance? Point #5: Let Me Hear Your Body Talk Garrett: Let’s pretend that your body is a witness of your commitment to your wife, that what you’ve done to your body and how it looks is currently communicating more to your wife about your commitment to your marriage than anything you’re trying to tell her. It’s not about six-packs, bikini beach bodies, or being super shredded. At the end of the day, you’ve got to be on point about the way you feel about your body, and inside of that, you have to feel on point about how you package yourself. It’s all about energy and what makes you feel confident. QUESTION How do you feel about your body? Communication Challenge: What can you do in the way you are currently presenting yourself to your partner physically? Write down something in the way you dress that would start sending the message, “Hey, I actually care about myself!” Date Night Topic: Talk about what you can do inside of your marriage that would allow you to isolate and discuss one or two of your problems as a couple. Quote of the Week: “To all you men who let their bodies go and never have to carry the children, you haven’t had to get pregnant or carry the baby for nine months and then push a fucking baby out of your penis. You literally have no excuse. You want to get laid, you want to get connected, but what are you communicating to your wife when you come out of the shower in a towel with your extra 30-40 pounds? No matter what, your wife is not turned on by this. Your lights are getting turned down, and there’s no show going on because you’re not actually showing that you give a shit.” —Garrett J White “Ladies, if you’re in a good mood and your husband’s in a bad mood, don’t let him bring you down to that level. Understand it’s probably not even about you. Walk a little sexy, be flirty, go kiss his ear a little bit, smile, rub up against him, turn on your charm. Whatever they’re pissed about will go away – they just can’t help it!” —Danielle K White
31 minutes | a year ago
The Divine Divorce | Date Your Wife | EP 107
Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn’t get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There’s a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it’s actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, “Am I with the wrong person?” QUESTION Is what you’re posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It’s Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don’t even know they’re surviving. The belief is, “This is just how it is.” If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it’s not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of “it’s just how it is?” Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don’t go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. “What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?” QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It’s a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there’s another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there’s a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other in the beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: “There’s a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it’s the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work.” —Garrett J White “People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now and again if he needs it.” —Danielle K White
23 minutes | a year ago
Toleration & Standards | Date Your Wife | EP 106
Previously Aired on April 30, 2019. In this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, co-hosts Garrett J and Danielle K White are coming to you from the 38th-floor inside a corner suite of the Four Seasons in Las Vegas where they are celebrating Danielle’s 36th birthday. This week’s conversation is about how the unification of your standards with your spouse builds the ultimate standard, and how you can’t pull that off unless you have actually connected with your own standard. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…COMMUNICATION Point #1: Standards One of the gifts of being married is that we each come into it with radically different standards for life. We have standards about sexuality, parenting, making money, how we spend our time, etc., based upon our past, how we were raised, and our mindsets. Danielle: I do have a high standard based upon how I was raised, but what I also notice is that I’m an extremely experience-based, detailed person who makes me hold things to a different level or standard than most people. QUESTION What are some standards you hold yourself to? Point #2: Tolerance We tolerate what our standards are. Where this ends up in collision is inside of marriage due to the different standards of each spouse. Garrett has a standard of emotional connection, which is leaving people better than when you first meet them, something that comes very naturally for him. Danielle, on the other hand, will tolerate almost no communication with other people. QUESTION What are some of the differing standards inside your marriage which have been a source for collision? Point #3: It Takes Two to Tango Garrett: Without my standards for communication, Danielle would have limited her communication. She would never have launched a podcast in the hair industry, nor would she have launched her own salon or training company. Danielle: I hold the standard of where we live and what we wear. When I push to get nicer things in life, we push more in business. And when we push more in business, it not only affects our family, but it also creates multiple job opportunities for multiple families. QUESTION What have your differing standards created inside of your world? Point #4: Own Your Standards Garrett: We take a stand for each individual to own their identity, where neither one is a doormat or a steamroller, but where we both come to terms with who we are. My standards say we do one thing, and Danielle’s standards say we do another. As you come to own your standards, it allows you actually to embrace the standards of other people. Together, you create this ultimate standard as a couple. You begin to be more committed to each other, and out of that is birthed something deeper than love, which is respect. QUESTION How has owning your individual standards created the ultimate standard inside your marriage? Point #5: Co-creation Garrett: The standards across both sides of co-creation have allowed for Danielle and I to build our brands, our businesses, and our family. The unique side about all of this is there are very few powerful couples taking a stand for marriage that works, which requires you to be clear in your standards. Danielle: I realize that in managing our own empires and managing a marriage – and managing it well – it’s kind of unheard of. We each have huge visions for our brands, and we’re proving that it can be done; that we can have those individual standards but also come together to create more as a couple. QUESTION What have you been able to co-create as a couple that you most likely never would have on your own? Communication Challenge: Where can you push in your relationship to become more together, to grow together, and unite as a couple? Date Night Topic: What can you create as a couple by uniting your individual standards? Quote of the Week: “The mix of standards between a married couple blend together to create the ultimate cocktail of creation.” —Garrett J White “I think we push each other in all the right ways. I think that’s what a relationship is supposed to be: pushing one another to a healthy place.” —Danielle K White
30 minutes | a year ago
Karmic Loop | Date Your Wife | EP 105
*Episode Replay from September of 2019.* The White’s are back and on fire in this new episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. Inarguably one of their spicier therapy sessions yet, in addition to today’s theme of the Karmic Loop, Garrett & Danielle delve into the topics of parenting, fitness, dating, the art of seduction, sex, and have a candid conversation about the loop Garrett has been stuck in for the past two weeks. Click here to watch this episode on YouTube Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…. Communication Point #1: The Hamster Wheel When artists inside of Danielle’s programs tell her they don’t have time to do the work required to make the changes they want to see inside of their business and life, she describes that as being on a hamster wheel. “You say you don’t have time and you’re extremely tired…but you’re not actually going anywhere, you’re literally just looping and looping. You can’t afford NOT to have time. When people say they don’t have enough time, it gives them an excuse not to try something new.” QUESTION Where in your world are you making excuses instead of making time? Point #2: False Lift When you’re going along in life, and you suddenly get triggered about something, you begin to drift into a series of feelings of anger, blame, guilt, and shame, aka the Pit. Once inside the Pit, you want to fix things, but you’re not sure how. You begin thinking, “If only I could go back to how things were before.” As you fall and drift down from the peak to the Pit, you find yourself inside a false lift that takes you back to the peak where you were before…but no change has actually taken place, and nothing is ever fixed. QUESTION What area of your life do you continuously have the same arguments over and over and over again? How is that working for you? Point #3: Collision The only way to change this is to identify that you’re in the loop. If you find yourself repeating the same arguments over and over again, arguing about the same shit, in the same way, that’s a telltale sign you are stuck inside the Karmic Loop or on the never-ending Hamster Wheel. Once you identify that you’re in the loop, you’ve got to collide. The first collision is with yourself, and the second collision is with your spouse. It’s about taking responsibility for where you are. QUESTION Inside your relationship, what are you afraid to have a conversation about with your spouse? Point #4: Shut Down Garrett is experiencing a loop where he has shut down sexually. He has the drive and yet lacks the hunt for Danielle. “I will sit and wait for Danielle to jump on me, which she literally does.” Garrett feels he created a pattern after years of rejection and trained himself not to go on the hunt. “I don’t do the weird thing, I don’t go pouty, I just do nothing. It’s shut off.” QUESTION Identify a loop you currently find yourself in. What is the first step you can take to begin changing that? Point #5: The Stack Using the Warrior tool called the Stack, Garrett takes himself through a series of questions and answers about this loop he currently finds himself in with regards to shutting himself down sexually, even though it is very clear Danielle is “open for business.” During the process of asking himself what it is that he wants, he reveals, “I want Garrett to become a sexual hunter again in his marriage like he was in the first year of his marriage. I want Garrett to break the chains of sexual dysfunction in the game he is playing.” QUESTION How willing are you to dive deep into questions of self-inquiry? Communication Challenge: Identify one area in your relationship where you have the same argument in the same way over and over and over. Using the art of collision, begin taking steps to move forward. Date Night Topic: Talk about things you like your spouse to do that turn you on. Quote of the Week: “If you don’t have a relationship with your spouse, and all your energy is poured into your kids, it’s gotta be a pretty depressing day when your kids leave.” —Garrett J White “I have to walk by damn near naked and be like, “We’re open for business!” —Danielle K White warriorgreens.com dkwstyling.com
44 minutes | a year ago
Money Matters | Date Your Wife | EP 105
*This is a previously aired episode from April 2018. Today’s conversation with Garrett and Danielle is about the topic of Money and the important role it plays in your relationship. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Men Must Produce When you make enough money to put your family into abundance, there’s a shift in the way that you see yourself as a man and a shift in the way you see your relationship. It also affects the way your wife sees you. Danielle: Generally, women want men to take care of them. Even if we can produce, we still want our man to ‘be the man’ and take care of us. A man is sexier to a woman when he’s the one producing. QUESTION How does this ring true for you as a couple? Point #2: Money is a Tool Garrett: Inside of our relationships, money sits at the core. We have friends who celebrate their success and use money as a tool to inspire other people to create more, and then we have other friends who simply hide it all and pretend like they’re broke. Danielle: There was a five year period where we were experiencing rapid growth, and we disconnected ourselves from people. I had surface relationships and felt like I was kind of guarding myself. What I’ve come to realize now is that I can have relationships with everyone – it’s just a matter of me being comfortable with me. QUESTION Are you living in a scarcity or abundant mindset while being surrounded by your wealth? Point #3: You Must Leap Garrett: In 2009, after I had lost everything, I was offered a job from a friend at a very crucial time for me when I didn’t have a lot of belief in myself. I was terrified as a husband and as a producer and had lost all confidence in myself. There came a pivotal moment when I realized my life was in the balance, and something in my soul said, “You must fucking leap!” Danielle: When we were dating, I saw Garrett for who he was and who he could become. I knew there were great things in store for him. So when I saw him selling out, I was so upset because I knew that he was capable of doing and becoming so much more. QUESTION Where in your life have you settled? Point #4: Don’t Settle Garrett: One of the greatest gifts my wife has given to me about money is that she rode my ass about it. As you get better and better at making money as a man inside of marriage, it forces you to become a new man. Danielle: I think that people play it safe in life in fear of failure. If I leap and I fall on my face, then there are consequences; but if I stay in the safe zone, then I can ride this out forever. If you’re listening to this and you’re feeling a stab in the heart to take action in your life, do it. QUESTION Where in your life are you feeling the call to take a leap of faith? Point #5: Team Work Garrett: There are a lot of you here who need to rise. Danielle and I work as a team to push each other. There are times she wants to settle into her little comfortable cocoon, and then I kick her straight out of the cocoon, I rip it open and throw her off the cliff. And she does the same for me. Danielle: You can produce way more as a couple if you can get on the same page of experiencing more growth together. If you can take those experiences of who you are as a couple and make them work, two is better than one, at least in my experience for us. We push each other in that way. QUESTION What is your dance as a couple in the way you support each other’s growth? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation as a couple, and allow yourself to collide and dream. Sit down and set a target of a game that you could create together. Who can you become as a couple economically? Who can you become as a producer individually or collectively? What would it require for you to become to pull that off? Date Night Topic: Give yourself some credit for where you are. Challenge yourself on your Date-Night to have a conversation about possibility or collision. Either one of these paths will lead you to a new position and possibility inside of your life. Quote of the Week: “My money is a reflection of my ability to produce and create value in the marketplace. So I produce, and I create more not for the target of having money, but rather we are in this place of a desire to become more, and inside of that, we use money production as a way to accelerate that.” —Garrett J White “Be you at every level.” —Danielle K White
30 minutes | a year ago
Parenting Challenges & Victories | Date Your Wife | Ep 104
Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Cell Phone Game Changer Cell phones have changed the game for kids, forcing kids today to grow up much faster, and at the same time, they’re NOT growing up. They’ve gotten really good at being able to communicate via text, but they haven’t learned how to commutate face-to-face. Danielle recalls waiting for boys to call her when she was in Junior High. She was nervous and sweating, hoping she wouldn’t sound like a dork or stutter. Today, it’s a matter of text, erase, edit, and send. QUESTION How has communication changed since you were a teen? Point #2: Bed Time Shenanigans The bed-time routine at the White household can sometimes look more like a shit show, with their seventh-grader going into psycho mode while Garrett takes away her cell phone. Unbeknownst to Garrett, who is in the middle of a yelling match in one room, Danielle is in another room consoling their seven-year-old who has a pillow over her ears saying, “I hate this part!” QUESTION What does your bedtime routine look like? Point #3: Old School Discipline When their oldest daughter back-talks Danielle, Garrett wonders if her mother would have tolerated that behavior. As a seventh-grader, Danielle remembers being backhanded by her mother while they were driving. As an eighth-grader, Garrett found himself wandering the streets of their new city for four hours after his mom kicked him out of the van for fighting with his siblings. That was before cell phones. QUESTION How do your disciplining methods differ from those of your parents? Point #4: Jump Through the Windows Danielle: When kids are little, they operate on your agenda; when they turn into teenagers, you operate on their agenda – that’s your window “in.” In order to gain that connection, I’m constantly looking for my windows. Garrett: We have some traction in her world. The key is being present with what her issues are and what’s going on in her world. Perhaps we actually do know what we’re doing. QUESTION What can you do to be more aware of those little windows of opportunity to connect with your children? Point #5: Navigating the Parental Waters of Divorce It was only a couple years ago that Garrett’s nineteen-year-old son wouldn’t talk to him. Today, he is an integral part of the Warrior landscape as he and Garrett forge a new relationship that has recently included bringing Garrett’s ex-wife and her family into the picture. A family intervention during the Warrior Woman event in the summer of 2018 proved not only healing but life-transforming. Garrett and his ex-wife were able to take radical responsibility, let go of stories, and come to a peaceful place, demonstrating that anything is possible. QUESTION How are you navigating the waters of parental divorce? Communication Challenge: Discuss the challenges cell phones have brought into your family. Date Night Topic: How can you better support each other in how you parent? Brainstorm different ideas and strategies and choose one or two to begin implementing. Quote of the Week: “The emotional fortitude of children isn’t what it used to be. Kids today are growing up intellectually very quickly, with great articulation and communication, but emotionally they’re going backward.” —Garrett J White “Because you are so mad and so bitter, and are not dealing with your own shit and your own stories, it is ultimately holding you back.” —Danielle K White
27 minutes | a year ago
Cross the Line | Date Your Wife | Ep 103
* This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode from May 2018. Being married can be a complete shit show AND amazing… all at the same time! While most marriages end up in sedation, disconnection and/or divorce, Garrett and Danielle have committed to creating something a little bit better than that and a bit more fun. Join them in this week’s podcast that doubles as their very own therapy session as they engage in a conversation about the all-important topic of communication. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Less Roommate, More Spark You can be comfortable with somebody and respect them, and maybe you don’t fight, and things are generally good, but there’s no spark. Your idea of a night out is coming home from a long day at work, throwing on your sweats and watching Netflix together…and then you wonder what happened to that spark you used to feel. Date Night is one of the ways the sparks continue to fly between Danielle and Garrett. Danielle loves getting all dressed up for Date Night and treats it like an actual date like she did during their pre-marriage days. She inspired Garrett to level up his game from his go-to flannel shirt to his now custom-tailored design jackets. QUESTION When was the last time the two of you dressed up and stepped out on the town together? How did it make you feel? Point #2: Sugar & Spice Garrett: Inside the communication game, people sometimes think that it’s the spice they’re trying to get rid of. When I define spice, I’m talking about arguments, disagreements, giggling, laughing, joking, having fun, getting angry at each other, fighting, battling, debating, having crucial conversations – it’s everything! Danielle: There’s a lot of spice in our marriage, and we collide a lot with our personalities – both in good ways and in ways where we piss each other off. Spice, for me, is “I fucking hate you,” which turns into “I fucking love you.” QUESTION How do you keep your marriage fresh and spicy? Point #3: Love Notes Making daily deposits into your family’s life is part of living the Warrior’s Way, which is part of something called the CORE 4. Men typically don’t know how to communicate their feelings and don’t send love messages to their wives, which Garrett believes many women would love receiving from their husbands. While Danielle acknowledges the daily texts from Garrett, her love language is found more in spending quality time together with him, like doing these podcasts or going on Date Nights. She sends texts of encouragement when she senses he’s having a stressful day, which messages Garrett loves receiving as part of his love language. QUESTION What are your thoughts about giving or receiving love notes? Point #4: Give and Take Garrett: In my world, I had to learn that it was ok to buy my wife shit. It was a very hard thing for me, and I questioned how buying gifts for her made me more valuable as a husband. Danielle: Because I can buy my own things, I felt like I had to submit and let Garrett buy me gifts, which is one of my love languages. I wanted him to be the man, yet at first, I wasn’t allowing space for him to do that. QUESTION Why are you stopping your spouse from giving you what you say you want to receive from them? Point #5: Dance With Me Garrett: As you can tell, we’re still working on this, which is the ability actually to communicate with and understand the language of our partner. Inside of that, we get to choose to do two things: 1- appreciate the love language they receive in, and 2-learn to give the love language that the people we’re married to want to receive. QUESTION What does your daily dance of communication look like? Communication Challenge: Danielle: Garrett needs to be told, “I love you,” but my communication style is different. How about you? Is your communication style verbal or silent? What about your spouse’s? Do you think one is wrong and one is right? Date Night Topic: For women, what is your husband’s love language, and how can you cross the line a little bit for him? For men, how can you cross the line a little bit for your wife? Quote of the Week: “I’m essentially making love to the ocean because she accepts me every morning.” —Garrett J White “We’ll argue about a topic, and one of us has to reach over to the other side and reciprocate eventually. You have to cross the line in order to make it a little more peaceful in your home.” —Danielle K White
59 minutes | a year ago
Being Raised With & Without Money | Date Your Wife | Ep 102
*Encore presentation from January 2018* Join co-hosts Danielle and Garrett J White with Week Two of the Date Your Wife Podcast, in which they share two VERY different views of how they were raised with money (or without) and how that has affected their relationship as a married couple. In This Week’s Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Having Expensive Tastes In Which Money Matters Money causes a ton of chaos within marriage, which will make or break the relationship, forcing you to deal with your spouse on a whole new level. Danielle was raised by entrepreneurs that focused on having a home that was up to date and something to have pride in, while to Garrett having a lot of money was unattainable unless you were a doctor with a swimming pool in your backyard, like a kid he remembers from school. QUESTION What kind of background were you raised in that has effected the way in which you approach your outlook on money within marriage? Point #2: The War of Spending Money Danielle spent money because she wanted to experience life, but for Garrett, money was about spending money on business, which he still struggles with, as they throw each other under the bus in how they spend money. According to Danielle is being a selective cheap bastard until her perspective of her role as a Stylist rather than a Hobbyist she was able to change. QUESTION If you could throw your spouse under the bus, what do you think they struggle with when it comes to spending money? Point #3: ATMs and Porn Stars Garrett felt like the only way he had value was if he made money, and therefore when he makes money Danielle should put out for sex any time he wants. Women want to feel safe and secure, so it becomes hard to have sex with him when he’s no longer attractive as the Producer, and the man in the relationship doesn’t feel like he’s providing value to the relationship because of this role as well, in which his balls get cut off mentally. QUESTION What does being a Producer do to bring out the sexual dynamic within marriage? Point #4: Learning from What Didn’t Work: The Cancun Contract With the Cancun Contract, it was 3 for 3: 3 Gifts for 3 sex sessions which led to feeling more like they were purchasing prostitution in an attempt to give their marriage a shot at what would work for them based off of their own love languages for 3 weeks, learning that using money as a manipulator didn’t work but ended to bigger breakthroughs later on. Garrett learned to invest because he wanted his wife to be happy, looking at money as a tool, not an asset by shifting his wife towards being the asset, showing that Danielle matters to him. QUESTION Where can you invest in your spouse with no strings attached, investing in experiences with your spouse and family? Where do you still need to give yourself permission to receive without guilt? Point #5: I Want You To Want To Hold yourself to a higher standard in order to push your spouse to become more, believing in them more than they believe in themselves. At one point, Garrett made a huge realization that sometimes the man is the ATM, and you need to be OK with it because it shows that she is worth the investment. Danielle is a producer on her own, but she wanted him to want to be a man in seeing the value of investing in her. Now, they have both surrendered and invested in each other. QUESTION How can a woman powerfully support and invest emotionally in her husband to encourage him to become a bigger producer? Date Night Topic: What improvements can be made in regards to the topic of money? Quote of the Week: “I was raised to feel that you could get whatever you wanted in life if you are willing to work, but no one was going to save you. I didn’t know that I could want anything more than what I had. I learned that I needed to demonstrate in my marriage that my wife is worth spending money on and worth the investment.” —Garrett J White “If you want to be treated like a Queen, you’ve got to treat your man like a King. Women need to own their part and let go of the guilt when your husband invests in you. Stop getting stuck in the stories that your man isn’t fulfilling you, and realize that you may not be fulfilling his needs. If he’s putting in effort, take the gifts he’s giving you and see how it feels to then harmonize in fulfilling his needs.” —Danielle White
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