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Vasu Hancock joins the podcast again for another conversation on how our wounding impacts and distorts how we see the world and experience intimate (including sexual) relationships. Today's conversation pivots around the Mystified Child Wound, how we can move from the mystified to the mystical. Vasu outlines various mystified aspects -- hopeful, expectation, hopeless, mistrust, controlling; which are wound adaptations. Vasu first joined Dare to Listen to share about the Abandonment Wound. Vasu and Nameh explore.. the characteristics of communal versus individual focusing cultures how the shift to industrialization shifted us how our mystical self is our true nature how we can get lost in the suffering how the journey into our pain can bring us to wholeness how parents, when in their mystified adult self, unknowingly imprint their wounding to their children grieving what needs have not been met defining psychic space clarifying how we project parts of ourselves onto others Vasu shares her love of working in groups; specifically when groups come together there's a building of support and intimate depth that offers another way to know ourselves.  Show Resources: Vasu Hancock website David Richo's 5 A's via How to be an Adult in Relationships (see article)  John Welwood, the mood of grievance article Osho spiritual teacher Show audio: My Reflections by Adigold + Mind Voyage by AGsountrax 

Kristin Haluch is the Founder of Total Evolution Coaching, which she launched to support women-identified people to break through corporate politics & limiting beliefs to have successful and powerful careers. Kristin encourages us to consider that when we come to work we engage all of who we are. Kristin's a fierce mama bear with over 15 years of experience as a healthcare leader, with a passion for mentoring first time leaders. The conversation ranges from how to honor the trust that can come between leaders and their team, the importance of shifting from a scarcity to an abundance mindset, anchoring into the knowing that we have all that we need to be our best selves within us, and knowing our core values to help inform our choices.   resources: Kristin Haluch, Total Evolution Coaching  Total Evolution on Facebook Total Evolution on Instagram Path of Love   audio: Beautiful Earth by Clean Mind Sounds  

This episode has the groundedly, fierce Avery Kalapa (yoga practitioner, community weaver, and wellness organizer). This conversation was recorded days after Adam Toledo and Daunte Wright's murders and among harmful transphobic information & legislation continue to endanger those we love. Self-discernment (or viveka which is the Sanskrit for discernment) is a running theme as we talked about the dynamics of white supremacy, disrupting habits & systems of harm, sustaining action within activism, permission for our mystic selves to express our art.    Hear Avery explore how developing spiritual and/or movement practice(s) can support our discernment especially while navigating social locations. We talk about Resma Menakem's book, My Grandmother's Hands and Resma's discernment invitation relating the fight, flight, freeze and annihilate responses within our nervous systems, which could also be acting from our samskaras. Bonus, Dorothy (Nameh's neighbor donkey) makes her presence known during the conversation too.  ___ Avery is a community weaver, wellness organizer, and a Certified Iyengar Yoga Teacher, eRYT500, YACEP, BFA, with 20 years experience in yoga. Avery's approach is rooted in anti oppression: yoga for inner healing towards collective liberation. They love creating healing spaces that that don't require assimilation for queer & trans folks, outsiders and changmekers to often left out of mainstream yoga. Celebrated for their enthusiasm, accessibility, and depth of technique, their teaching reflects a deep gratitude for the Iyengar Lineage.     Avery is involved in various yoga equity projects, such as ABQ Queer Trans Community Yoga. They're also a gardener, and parent. Avery is a white, queer, nonbinary settler grateful to live on unceded Tiwa land, in Albuquerque NM.   Show Resources:  Avery's contacts - website newsletter instagram facebook  recent IGTV live hosted @susannabarkataki with Susanna Barkataki + many trans yoga enthusiasts Honor Native Land Tax  Albuquerque SURJ  White Supremacy Culture by Tema Okun My Grandmother's Hands by Resma Menakem  White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo  Ursula Le Guin, author quoted Lilla Watson, visual artist quoted  Details of the 80+ Anti-Trans bills  Audio by AGSoundtrax, Don't Look Back

In this episode Nameh explores how honest can we be in our conversations. Exploring: what stops you from being honest? do you (and your relationships) have the foundational skills needed for tough convos? do you find you're lonely in your relationship(s)?  A dynamic that can appear in our relationships is what Nameh's calling the 'Helper Continuum'. Within the continuum there's the 'fixer', the 'helper', the 'cheerleader', and the 'space holder'. At the heart of the various help continuum roles is the loving want to be a supportive presence. Supporting another with the various helper continuum energies has beautiful gifts, especially when consent is established.   The upcoming online course, Speaking Your Truth (begins March 28th), offers clarity + communication tools to build solid foundations within our relationships. We'll look at the language we use, watching for verbal bullets that can feel sharp or like a slap. These bullets might actually be our unconscious way of wanting to name a boundary or talk about need.    Resources:  Speaking Your Truth online course - sign up by March 25th!  Audio - Ambient Warmth by PhilLarson.net

Speaking Your Truth is the next online course, which begins March 28th.  Join Nameh and others as we dive in to gain more clarity as we speak what's true. Explore and practice speaking your truth while staying in your heart and grounded in your integrity. We'll use the 4 N's blue print (Notice. Name. Navigate. Nourish). Relationships are a prime space for self-learning and inner growth. Each person we engage with can be fertile educational ground.   The following questions point to what we'll explore in this 4-part online course. Do you want more authenticity in your relationships? Do you want to deepen your skills of naming + clearing when there are bumps along the way?  Do you want to understand why you feel lonely within relationships?  Do you want to expand your decision making abilities?  Do you want to better understand how you use your power?  Do you want to understand why asking, receiving or giving help can be hard?  Hear full logistics (March 28, April 11, April 25 and May 9th. 10a-1230p mdt) in this episode and via this link (https://bit.ly/3bR9qZQ). Resources:  Speaking Your Truth online course details - https://www.namehmarsin.com/speaktruth Audio: Romantic Guitar by Cinematic Alex

Our relationship with food and to our bodies can be a layered topic. For some navigating this relationship can lead to many ups and downs on and off the scale.  Today's conversation with Shayla Nygaard explores Bright Line Eating, an eating plan both she and Nameh have found great 'success' with. Dr. Susan Peirce Thompson designed Bright Line Eating and offers deeply personal, intellectually satisfying and a comprehensive plan to shift our relationship with food.  This conversation touches on food addiction, unpacked elements behind why one might over eat and the felt difference when one's food relationship is more balanced. The movie, To the Bone (2017) addresses individuals navigating eating disorders. Nameh found the movie deeply raw, intense and clarifying.   Resources: Bright Line Eating (eating plan) - https://brightlineeating.com/ Path of Love (spiritual retreat) - https://pathretreats.com/ The Gift (spiritual retreat) - http://shematrix.com/the-gift/ To the Bone (movie) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5541240/ Audio: Inspiring Acoustic Guitar by Victory Audio Pitter Patter Goes the Rain by Christy Nockels - https://bit.ly/2Kskbbg

Nameh offers a glimpse into the upcoming 4-part online workshop series, Unpacking Our Thoughts. Hear what participants will experience and logistics for the series. Meeting dates are Jan 24, Feb 7, Feb 21 and March 7, 2021 - US/mdt 10a-12p plus in between session offerings. Answering questions such as, do you want more clarity? Do you want to explore and understand why situations bring the thoughts they do?  The workshop series uses the 4 N's, Noticing, Naming, Nourishing, and Navigating to support our expanded clarity which can lead to making different choices.  Registration is live -- https://bit.ly/2JEMdjp Full details -- http://affirminghumanity.com/ Audio -- Ambient Background by StudioKomomna

Nameh returns to an earlier Dare to Listen episode focusing on giving ourselves a Good Ending among life's changes. Given all that's been within 2020, life has drastically changed for so many of us.  As we each experience life and the often unanswered questions, perhaps in saying goodbye to a loved one who passed and/or left abruptly, a relationship change or a pandemic causing our lives to upend moving into what we notice and feel can be a way to bring ourselves a 'good ending.' This episode is with Nameh's dear friend Sahar. Nameh was unaware of the potent death of Sahar's childhood friend. Sahar vulnerably shares what was present for him. How numbing was a resource in navigating grief.  The 5Rhythms community introduced Nameh to the concept 'good ending,' as in how can we give ourselves a good ending. This episode includes questions that might assist in knowing what elements could support a Good Ending. Resources:  Chloe Goodwin - 5Rhythms teacher (https://bit.ly/3pf1yGu) Finding our Answers through the Body with Chloe Goodwin - Dare to Listen episode (https://apple.co/2WJPW28) Family Constellations, part 1 - Dare to Listen episode (https://apple.co/3roZkWN) Family Constellations, part 2 - Dare to Listen episode (https://apple.co/3aCzoRH) Nameh's upcoming workshop series - namehmarsin.com (join mailing list to see how to register) Songs:  Upsana - by Mose & Sam Garrett (https://bit.ly/2KsJeuS) inspiring Ukulele - by URMENLC

Land acknowledgements can be a way to speak the names and honor the known and unknown Being's experiences connected to a living place. Áine McCarthy, a non-profit founder, chaplin, and yoga instructor offers a Touching the Earth land acknowledgement practice that weaves in a Thich Nhat Hanh Buddhist teaching.   The conversation centers around the layers of information we each can access to better understand and heal known and unknown traumas. Teachers such as Thich Nhat Hanh, Dr. Vandana Shiva, Sobonfu Somé, Harriet Tubman, and John O'Donohue are among those named and referred to in this conversation.   Other topics such as past lives, family constellations, blood lineage, anti-racism, cultural appropriations, and the impacts of colonialism are among the threads woven within this conversation.    Resources: Chrysalis - Chrysalis instagram Áine McCarthy's yoga offerings Embodying Anti-Racism workshop The Five Earth Touchings from Thich Nhat Hanh Practices of the Zen Peacemakers Women Ancestors Document Church of Harriet Tubman Spring Washam visionary dream grew into the Church of Harriet 2020 Regenerate Conference keynote Dr. Vandana Shiva  Joanna Macy Dialogue with Dr. Vandana Shiva & Joanna Macy via Naropa University  Sobonfu Somé John Odonohue   Richard Rohr Grief and Gratitude with Rae Wynn-Grant - audio or written Audio:  theme song by Electronica by ENRIZE between segments - My Reflections by AGsoundtrax ending song - Beautiful Earth by ClearMindSounds  

This conversation explores bridging one's lived experience among many binary realities. Léon began bridging binary worlds growing up in Oaxaca, Mexico and visiting their white father in Texas. Léon now lives in Albuquerque, New Mexico which is where Léon transitioned and came to embrace their non-binary gender-self, Léon.    Léon shares their contemplative perspective around conflicts such as "land ownership," money and value, emotional labor and abundance. Léon shares such depth of wisdom on their process of moving with shame, humility, languages, race, fear, spiritual life, capitalism, vulnerability, gender, physical reality, and powerlessness to step into their true self. Léon embodies how consciousness grows through expanding one's consciousness. Léon names how as humans we have individually and collectively created our experiences.   Perhaps in engaging in this conversation listeners will find empowering threads to shift and move with your lived experiences. Invitation: are you able to make a donation to say an organization that supports the transgender community?    Resources:  Léon Mitchell Powell Brené Brown - Fitting in vs Belonging  Unlocking Us, Ask me Anything Episode    Kimberlé Crenshaw - originally defined Intersectionality    Podcast episode 'Roots of Healing' which explores psychedelic therapies and explores another perspective on identities. How we can get caught in our stories of who we are.    Want to share your financial abundance, consider contributing to Transgender Resource Center of New Mexico.   Music:  Happy Family by Yuarmusic    

Amina Re joins Nameh for a conversation about humanity and a project Amina launched, "I love you" box. This neighborhood interactive structure is a place for people to give and receive. Hear how this box has shifted Amina, what experiences she's witnessed through the box while watching what's needed versus imposing her white privilege. Hear what is Amina's big vision for the box.  Amina is an artist, psychotherapist, mother and activist. Amina's thoughtful and intentional projects embody a sense of being loved, seen and accepted for who we are.     Resources: Amina Re, LPCC, LMT  Amina Re art  Amina Re on Facebook Decolonizing Wealth by Edgar Villanueava Edgar Villanueava's podcast appearances   Audio: Deep Breathe by Mrm Team

Ashley joins Nameh for a conversation about embodiment. They dance among ideas circling the pressures and downfalls of individualism and reaching beyond our own self-confined boxes towards real, authentic expression. The conversation also touches on different embodied practices that invite play, vulnerability, and trusting the body's wisdom.    Ashley is offering a 90 day online program, Pathways to Embodiment, running from Fall Equinox, Sept 22 through Winter Solstice, Dec 22, 2020. This program is a mentorship for those who identify as women, regardless of being born with a physical womb body element. Ashley designed this program with three central themes: cultivating foundation, cultivating relaxation and compassion, plus cultivating expression. Pathways to Embodiment is an invitation to explore and reconnect with your intuitive wisdom; it's a community of support and accountability to follow your wild heart's calling; it's your permission slip to once and for all live in full authenticity and self-acceptance. Resources:  Pathways to Embodiment series    Ashley on Instagram    audio: Space Meditation By Manriquedelara

Erin Andrus, a Somatic Sex Educator, joins Nameh for a conversation about finding wholeness through exploring masculine and feminine, and our listening to our bodies communications and felt senses.     Movies and world icons were a big part of how Erin and Nameh learned their femininity. The conversation explores different feminine characteristics and the unfolding as we come to know ourselves more fully. Integrating both masculinity and femininity is key element for sovereign effectiveness however one embodies gender, if at all.   Resources: Erin Andrus website Erin Andrus Instagram and Facebook Video - "My story of discovering my own femininity" Radical Wholeness (book) by Phillip Shepherd Financial Traders Research  Melissa Urban makes clear distinction cultural appropriation versus cultural appreciation on her podcast, Do the Thing   Audio: Electronica by Enrize Studio

This episode features a conversation with Peter, a Swedish man, who has supported 100's of people as they move through the death journey. Peter returns to the show to share his wisdom and guiding presence as he shares his understanding of where we go and what happens as and after we die. How we are all One navigating to the Divine essence. How we can support our loved ones in the death journey. How to honor our individual experiences as living humans.  Listeners might remember Peter from the episode 3, season 1 - Living in the Present Moment.  Resources: Audio - Pure Emotional Ambient by Leon Felekyan Living in the Present Moment - https://spoti.fi/2E0fsKj

What are we Celebrating in the Fourth of July holiday? Nameh explores how to frame this holiday in what feels right - our ability to make changes, do what's right. What's your engagement with 'right' use of power. What is your awareness to your privilege. What's your definition of resilience. Included is a snippet from an upcoming show with guest, Becky Strauss. Becky is a Financial and Business Intuitive. Hear her clear message on stepping in and pursuing your right use of power.  Resources: Acoustic Background by BearStockMusic, show audio So You want to Talk about Race by Ijeoma Oluo, book https://bit.ly/3iuNoyn Resilience definition by Dignity and Power Now, organization http://dignityandpowernow.org/ Always Take Care of the Light by Dr. Bertice Berry video https://bit.ly/2ZA8inb India Arie and Beautiful Chorus sing I am Light video https://bit.ly/3e1CNYn

Nameh brings the listeners into a session she had with medium and energetic healer, Lynn D. Austin. Spirit Guides and loved ones, who were pivotal in Nameh's life, come through to offer abundant love and support. The conversation spanned from a recent scary health matter, unresolved grief, whether to remain in Santa Fe, and questions around where Nameh might invest her life. Nameh has a big vision for a center where people come as they near their end of life surrounded by nature and celebration. Hear how Nameh can now consciously link up and engage support from the Beyond.  Lynn's sessions offer clarities, body and energy healings to clear out and make space for more of who we are. Hear how Lynn identified the unique names of Nameh's transitioned loved ones.

Humanity is calling all of us to engage with the realities that Black Lives, Native Lives, LGBTQI+ Lives are not honored and respected equally. White supremacy and white privilege has formed this country and policies. Now is the time to engage.  Nameh offers a context to invite and bring yourself to engage and learn more. Find how you can get involved through your explorations. Listening to what you learn and bringing yourself into action.  Resources: Audio - Chill Out Background Music by Plastic3 Tools to Educate - https://bit.ly/2Ne5KW2 A Time to Kill (movie) scene - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKN1K2He8yg Equal Justice Initiative / Just Mercy (movie) - https://justmercy.eji.org/ Trevor Noah Social Contract video - https://bit.ly/3hRBcav Dear White People, This is What We Want You to Do https://insidethekandidish.wordpress.com/2020/05/30/dear-white-people-this-is-what-we-want-you-to-do/ Justice Collaborative https://thejusticecollaborative.com/team/josie-duffy-rice/ We the Protestors http://www.wetheprotesters.org/ The End of Policing, Alex Vitale https://www.versobooks.com/books/2426-the-end-of-policing

Today's conversation focuses on the complexities of the abandonment wound. Vasumati (Vasu) Hancock has spent 40 years understanding emotions and sexuality, working with individuals and couples. Her passion for clarity and the empowerment that comes through knowing ourselves is palpable. She's a therapist and tantra teacher with a great depth of wisdom.    Vasu defines the types of abandonment and how these wounds play out in our relationships. Within relationships we might see the duality of a dependent or an anti-dependent. How these two approaches translate in meeting our needs. How fear can be a doorway to deepen intimacy. Relationships can be the deep place of healing.   Editing this episode, I realized a truth. Society have abandoned marginalized communities. I include myself here. The lived Black, Indigenous, people of color, and LGBTQI experiences have not been acknowledged and given the needed care. I offer this framing so you can tune into the truth of this additional abandonment. Trevor Noah expanded my awareness in his May 29, 2020 18 min piece. How the contract between society and black Americans is repeatedly broken.  Resources: Vasumati Hancock  John Bradshaw Trevor Noah May 29, 2020 piece   Audio - Trust your Heart by Basspartout

Guillermo ("G") Tilley joins today's episode to offer his perspective on event planning, marketing and digital clutter. He has over 30 years experience supporting people to find their path, developing their marketing plans gracefully and putting on successful events.     The conversation touches on the age old story of who wins the race, the turtle or the hare? G finds taking a methodical, slow - human pace approach exploring the 'why's' helps clarify and bring others along into the plan.    What G offers in his wisdom and expertise is the luscious space to include others and enjoy the process. Identifying where there are fears and addressing them consciously. Especially given the current state of life, quarantining and business 're-booting' the need for clarity might be the exact best next step.    Resources:  Guillermo Tilley - https://www.guillermo-me.io/ Audio - Looking for Adventure by Tim McMorris

A mother's love is a unique and life giving. In this episode, Nameh explores how we known maternal nourishment. What loving structures were you offered to expand, explore and know yourself. Plus, the ways of giving maternal support to another. Perhaps through giving birth to a human, an idea, sustaining a vision into form.  How do you give yourself maternal life?  Happy Mother's Day to all beings. Regardless of your form, we all know how to love and nourish ourselves and each other. Audio: Free Spirit by Mrm Team