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12 minutes | Feb 8, 2017
Last week I talked about perspective. Hand in hand with perspective is perception. Perception is a process of attaining an awareness or understanding of sensory information. When our senses go off, our perception can be fight, flight, or prejudice. The kind of perception I want to talk about today is about how we view people we encounter in a certain way because of our own past experiences we’ve had with a similar personality. Often we will believe someone is a certain way because our perception is dictated by this past experience. But because of this, sometimes the perception we have of an individual or situation can be false. I want to challenge you to be aware of this in your own life. Perception can be deceiving. Being unaware of this can damage relationships and opportunities. Don’t let your life experiences dictate what you believe someone else is doing or give you a false interpretation of their behavior. Challenge the perception you have of everything around you. ACTION CHALLENGE: Be open to changing your perception and interpretation of your life. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: One Thing by Gary Keller
10 minutes | Jan 30, 2017
The problem with New Year’s Resolutions is that people often look at them in a short term perspective rather than considering them in the long term. People hope to accomplish something by a certain point and it doesn’t happen. So when they see things aren’t working out their way, they abandon the idea altogether. Perspective is extremely underrated, but it is key to your mindset. Your mindset can be as strong as an ox, yet the perspective you maintain in how you approach individuals, tasks, business, etc. can be filled with false expectations. Our perspective cannot always be true because of confirmation biases we have in our lives. We can become self-sabotaging if we hold onto the wrong perspective. It is a little late, but I want to catch you while you’re considering giving up on your New Year’s Resolution. Forget the resolution! What I want you to do instead is change the perspective you have on what you’re trying to get done this year. ACTION CHALLENGE: Challenge your perspective this New Year and don’t set false or unrealistic expectations for yourself. Challenge how you see things, individuals, and even how you see yourself – because how you see yourself is critical to success in any area of your life. When you challenge your perspective you will face resistance, but you will also gain muscle and grow. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman Shirts are now available for sale! & Get your free Culture of Action S
9 minutes | Dec 13, 2016
Being thankful on a daily basis is not easy. When things are going well, of course it is easy to be thankful. But when the world is a weight on your shoulders, it can be difficult to maintain that perspective. It is important to practice thankfulness and express gratitude. By doing so, even your harder days will be a little bit brighter. I want to encourage, empower, and motivate you to create greatness in your life by saying thank you and by appreciating the people around you. Yet even in our most grateful state of mind, we can take for granted some of the smaller things that we should be thankful for. It is important to recognize that while we may not be exactly where we want to be, we are still better off than many. There are so many ways to practice thankfulness on a daily basis. It’s not about faking it until you make it. It is about authenticity. So I want to encourage you guys to try it out – speak out loud seven things you are grateful for daily, write it in lipstick on the mirror, or cover your house with Post-It notes. ACTION CHALLENGE: Find whatever system works for you to practice thankfulness and gratitude daily – not just on Thanksgiving. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway:
15 minutes | Dec 6, 2016
Pick Your Poison
PICK YOUR POISON - This idiom is sabotaging people’s lives. When it comes to choosing a career, some people have a “pick your poison” mentality. They falsely believe that they can either do something they are passionate about, or that they can choose a career that will make good money – as if passion and money are mutually exclusive. So when they are faced with making this decision, they ultimately rationalize that while they cannot live without money, they can live without passion. None of those options work. It drives me crazy to find that people with this dilemma think there are no other options. When someone has to pick their poison they are not able to be who they really are. They believe they have to choose between the lesser of the two evils. They believe they can’t have their cake and eat it too. I don’t know why people fall victim to this mindset. We have accepted picking our poison and not eating our cake. But I will be damned if I won’t be eating my cake, and I’ll be damned that if I am faced with the choice of two poisons that I won’t find another way! I believe you are like that too. I do not have to pick a poison and neither do you. To accept that you have to do this is to accept defeat before the battle begins and it is committing mental suicide. It is a rare societal acceptance of defeat and it allows negativity into your life and prevents you from reaching your full potential. You can choose water instead of poison and you can eat your cake too. ACTION CHALLENGE: Whatever area you are taking action in your life, do not accept defeat before the battle even begins. You’re a fighter. Don’t accept the lies you are being told, stand for what you believe in and keep taking action. SHOW US SOME LOVE &
13 minutes | Nov 29, 2016
People talk - doesn't mean you can't act.
Why do people think action is so difficult? Taking action is just doing something – from the smallest thing to the biggest. I believe a lot of small steps in the same direction towards the same goal makes success; small steps make success. There are people who want to take action, but then every time they say something like this: “BUT, OR, yeah THEY can do that – but I don’t think I can.” That’s a lie! YOU TOTALLY CAN! But people get angry when they hear this because they don’t believe in themselves. Regardless of what you’re doing or what you want to pursue – don’t let anybody tell you that you’re not good enough. Where you are at, who you are, what your plan is, where you are going – try to believe for a second and see the possibilities in taking small action steps. Believe it with me for one minute. If you can do that, then believe it for ten minutes. Make it 60 minutes; then make it a day. I believe in that one day you will believe in yourself for a week, a month, and so on. You will have days where you makes mistakes, but you will get back up and eventually your habit will become just making shit happen. Action is not that difficult. It is not a matter of the difficulty taking action will bring, it is a matter of heart and if you really want to do it. Many times this is based in fear and what others will think if you put yourself out there. What if you fail? Get back up, dust yourself off, and try again. So what? Let people laugh and make fun of you. They’re sitting at home. They’re not doing shit with their life. The ones that hate on you are jealous. The ones who don’t hate on you are doing something worth living for. You won’t find authentic people hating on you. Don’t be afraid to take action. Don’t let thoughts of what people think of you hinder you. I’ll keep telling you this in similar podcasts. Putting yourself out there in a positive way can be scary. People are going to talk and say you’re not good enough – they’ll do this especially when it wasn’t their idea. But you have to keep on pursuing what you believe in and surround yourself with people who are doing the same.
8 minutes | Nov 22, 2016
Don't You Dare!
Don’t you dare forget where you come from! Where you come from should make you stronger, not weaker. Where you come from should empower others, not disempower them. And who you are is where you come from. Forgetting where you come from is like forgetting yourself. But do not put where you come from on somebody else. We are a product of our own environment and the victim of our own demise. That is not an excuse as to why things are the way they are – you can take action today to change it. You can take action every day. If you don’t know where you came from then you can’t really know where you are going. It doesn’t make you any better than anyone else because you overcame where you come from, if anything, it makes you a role model. And as that role model, you need to encourage others to take action and get out of that hole they are in as a result of being a product of their own demise. Where you come from has made you into the strong man or woman you are today. No one can take that from you. Where you are going because of where you have been should be greatness. That’s the only option. It should bring greatness to the people around you, the culture that empowers you, and the culture that you’ve created – your family and friends – they too shall see the greatness in you and you shall build them up for greatness too. But don’t you dare forget where you came from, not even for a minute, because then you get sidetracked from where you’re going and you could do a full 360 and end up right back at the beginning before you started to take action. Don’t forget where you came from, and don’t expect others to be as strong as you or as good as you because you have gone through something they didn’t – or don’t expect someone not to be. Don’t judge a book by its cover. ACTION CHALLENGE: Don’t allow anybody that you care about go through what you went through. Make it better for them and encourage, empower, and be there for them. The world needs good friends.
25 minutes | Nov 15, 2016
A Fathers Role
Today is about fathers. I am not going to be gentle when it comes to the roles that fathers play in their children’s lives – especially in the lives of young men because young men become fathers, and how do we expect them to become good fathers without a father? How do we expect that little boy to become a man, let alone a father when he has kids? But the first thing that fathers need to know is that it is not about perfection, it is about presence – being there and loving and encouraging your kids. BEING THERE. When you meet someone, you can tell whether or not that person lacked a father in their life. When a person has been influenced positively by a father, you can recognize it by the confidence and strength they carry. Good or bad, fathers influence their children’s lives, and youth search for their approval. They get a mixed message when that positive father figure is not there to influence them and to give them approval. With a negative influence, young men can become susceptible to things like gangs, drug use, and domestic violence – and then they become an absent father – continuing the cycle just like their father because they think that because they survived it, their kids can too. Young women become just as susceptible because they become victims of the same types of things, with the addition of the violence being done toward them by these men who are lacking fathers. They then risk becoming a mother who is lacking a husband or a father who is not there. Imagine a child who has been able to reach greatness BECAUSE of the fact that his or her father wasn’t there. Imagine that the child becomes one of the greats. Now imagine that mindset and drive present in that child that led them to success and combine it with a strong and positive father or male influence who could have been there to offer support. The legacy and the greatness could have been that much stronger. Some people think “I grew up without a father and I turned out just fine…” I, myself, have believed that. But we reflect upon our child the experiences of our past. Just because you didn’t have that father and you turned out okay does not mean that your child will be fine or should go
32 minutes | Nov 1, 2016
Social Media Bullying (Action Must Be Taken)
A couple of days ago I watched a documentary available on Netflix called Audrie and Daisy. I encourage you to check it out. But as a result of watching it, I have had some sleepless nights. Steve Jobs said that “the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” And after seeing this documentary that is what I want to do, and what I want to encourage you to do. It is a sad and disturbing view into the fairly new issue of social media bullying that people need to be aware of and talking about. For those like myself who grew up without social media, this might be an area where very little is known. My goal today is to encourage and empower somebody that has been victimized by social media bullying and to raise awareness about this issue. Background: The documentary is called Audrey and Daisy. Audrey was an assault and bullying victim located in Southern California who decided to take her life before anyone knew her situation. Granted, all the people and kids at school did, but not her parents or someone who cared about her. She had no one to talk to or in whom she could confide in about how she felt about this situation. I believe that if she did, the outcome for her wouldn’t have been what it was. Charges in her case were dropped because she took her life and the only evidence of what had happened to her were the trails left behind on social media. But the story centers on Daisy’s story, which is slightly different because she is still alive. Daisy gets black out drunk and sexually assaulted by Matt while she and her friend, Paige, are at Matt’s house. Paige recalls the story to the sheriff, who is overly authoritative and dismissive of the event, even though the story is corroborated by Matt’s friend, Zack. Now my problem here is with the sheriff. While Matt’s friend is there to confirm the story that gives Daisy and Paige the credit of truth, Matt denies the whole thing. The sheriff, who essentially says that “the buck stops here,” wants to know why, if one party (the victimizers) can decide to get over the entire situation, why hasn’t the second party (the victims)? Let’s say we give Matt the benefit of the doubt – let me tell you one thing that says this guy is guilty – his actions. If he wasn’t guilty, then why did he drop her off in the front yard in the cold without much clothing on? The innocent man has no shame. That act alo
12 minutes | Oct 25, 2016
Where is your energy going? Some time ago I heard a story about a successful CEO. When asked about how he became so successful, he replied that every day he makes a “to-do” list. He said that anything that comes up during the day that is not already on this list gets put aside and onto the next day’s list. This caught my attention because I do the same thing. I write my list and put it on the mirror. My brain processes it and I take my list with me and keep it where I will see it during the day. An employee of mine called recently, and he was upset with me and I got offended. I got involved in this phone call with him and it took all of my energy away from the work I had been in the middle of doing. Two and a half hours later I was still mad; that was when I had an “Ah ha!” moment where I realized what the CEO in that story was talking about. These unexpected conversations or engagements take away our focus and can really mess up one’s day. I am sure that every listener has had these kinds of experiences with someone where you get caught up in that cycle of conversation or something comes up and the wasted energy and distraction messes up the good flow you had. And you end up putting the blame on this person and think that they wasted your day or that it is their fault…but it isn’t really them, it’s you. Let me tell you how it’s you: I should have created a healthy boundary and asked to continue the conversation later when I wasn’t in the middle of something and unable to give my undivided attention as I would have liked to. Creating healthy boundaries by asking to continue the conversation another time (over coffee, or lunch, etc.) is not saying that that person or circumstance is not important, but it instead places your undivided attention on that one thing at a better time while you are not multitasking. But believe it or not, some people will get offended when you put up that boundary - so be prepared for it. But you control you, so don't get caught up or invested in their offense. These are the types of people who raise red flags and need to be weeded out of your culture of action. Where you invest or waste your energy throughout the day is very critical to the success of what you get accomplished in that day ACTION CHALLENGE: Be
18 minutes | Oct 20, 2016
Action Advice #7
Welcome to Action Advice Episode 7. As previously mentioned this is where I will answer questions and provide Action Advice in response to you, the listeners. In today’s episode I will offer advice on: Whether or not it is okay to keep found money. Struggling at 22 years old. Making half a million dollars as a 21 year old real estate agent. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Originals by Adam Grant Get your free Culture of Action Sticker! SMALL STEPS MAKE SUCCESS!
9 minutes | Oct 18, 2016
Short and to the point today. Stank breath. We all notice when someone has an attractive and clean smile with fresh breath – and unfortunately we have all been on the receiving end of someone with stank breath. Everybody has nasty breath at times, but today I am talking about those who neglect their oral hygiene. When someone disregards such small actions like brushing or flossing their teeth, the long term effect can be huge and outright offensive. Overlooking oral hygiene is common in our society. Not only is brushing a small act with a big impact, so is flossing. But people don’t do it because it takes so much time. But in reality it doesn’t. Not taking the time to do something as small as flossing each day could lead to a root canal ten years down the line. When we neglect small actions we don’t realize what a big of an impact it can have. My point today is that I want people to realize that small actions create big results. This goes in both the negative and positive direction. I want to encourage you that when you’re going to do something and want to put it off – don’t. Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. Don’t forget to brush your teeth and don’t forget to floss your teeth. Remember that small acts are huge. Don’t be that person that has offensive breath. Small actions will change your life in the long run for the better or worse. ACTION CHALLENGE: Be mindful of the small actions that you take daily. The decisions you decide to do or not to do have a large impact. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Originals by Adam Grant & Get your free Culture of Action Sticker! SMALL STEPS MAKE SUCCESS!
20 minutes | Oct 13, 2016
Action Advice #6
Welcome to Action Advice Episode 6. As previously mentioned this is where I will answer questions and provide Action Advice in response to you, the listeners. In today’s episode I will offer advice on: Creating a Culture of Action Unwanted 'Friend' Action, it a'int easy! Overcoming Fear ACTION CHALLENGE: Get your free sticker. #cultureofaction SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Originals By Adam Grant & Get your free Culture of Action Sticker! SMALL STEPS MAKE SUCCESS!
20 minutes | Oct 11, 2016
Be True To Yourself
Today I am going to share with you something I’ve been thinking about. I want to encourage you to be who you really are. The idea of being true to yourself often gets challenged by society, culture, or even by self. So to let you know how to be true to yourself, I am going to talk about how people can neglect or deny who they really are. Being true to who you are is to act in accordance to who you really are and what you believe in. It is rare and difficult to do this. To be true to yourself in a world like this is to go against the grain. We are influenced by so much: social media, television, peers, family, how we observe the world, and even praise. All this makes it rare and difficult to do. So it takes a lot of one ingredient: self-awareness. You can’t fake who you are. You may be able to fake it and make things look good for a while, but the more you deny yourself, the longer it will take to master self. I know it is easier said than done, but it’s ok to be who you are. It takes a lot of self-awareness and discipline to accomplish this. To be true to yourself is to know and love yourself. One area that a lot of us are not true to ourselves is in relationships. We deny who we are to gain love and acceptance from those around us. We may do this because we have a void from the love that we are not giving ourselves. Our relationships should be something where someone accepts us for who we are. Many of us are also not true to ourselves in our careers. A lot of people will settle for a job and say “I just need the money” or “I’ll just do this” because they don’t feel they are worthy of what they want. There are many reasons a person stays with a job, but there are those who have other goals in mind and settle out of fear. Those people are not being true to themselves and are not looking at the long term. So how do you get back to being true to yourself? First, know that where you are currently at is okay. You should not have anxiety about being true to yourself. ACCEPT and VIEW where you are and either realize where you are at is where you want to be, OR realize you can’t be where you are and start to take those steps to be who you really are and need to be. This is going to take self-awareness. ACTION CHALLENGE: Start taking conscious steps to becoming self-aware. Know this is a slow process and the steps can be small. Focus on those “ah
18 minutes | Oct 6, 2016
Action Advice #5
Welcome to Action Advice Episode 5. As previously mentioned this is where I will answer questions and provide Action Advice in response to you, the listeners. In today’s episode I will offer advice on: Weight loss. Failing in taking action. Anxiety and what I do to address my own Negative thoughts & self-help. ACTION CHALLENGE: Overcome or Accomplish a goal, and take a picture of you doing it and #cultureofaction. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Originals By Adam Grant & Get your free Culture of Action Sticker! SMALL STEPS MAKE SUCCESS!
18 minutes | Oct 4, 2016
Settle The Score
I would like to talk about something that goes hand in hand with last week’s No Alphabet Planning. Today I am talking about SETTLING. When we have a plan and do not pursue it, we are settling for less. We stop pursuing Plan A and settle for many reasons: pressure, self-doubt, what others make us believe about ourselves, etc. But the biggest reason – we settle because we are afraid. People underestimate the power of fear. For example, those who are tight with their money are fearful they might not have enough. Hoarders are fearful because one day there might be a need for that one item they throw away. We underestimate the power of fear. Then there are those who have opportunity, but instead decide to settle because it is comfortable. Don’t settle because it is the comfortable thing to do. Many people do this because they are afraid of stepping out of that comfort zone to take a chance. Granted, there is always going to be risk, but risk – or action – is either gainful or educational. It might seem easier at first to settle, but this causes a person to deteriorate from the inside. You know you are settling when that red flag comes up: There is a gut feeling to not go through with it. If something deep down doesn’t feel right and you pursue it anyway, you are settling. But just because you may have settled before, it does not mean that you are stuck. You can take action to make things different. Do not confuse settling with being stuck at an end. You have just temporarily stopped pursuing what it is you want. Where there are those should pursue what they want and end up settling, there is also another side. On the other side you can see people who do not know how to settle. These people want to be champion or top dog. It’s a complex balance that has two sides. If Plan A is your vision, don’t make room for a Plan B, C, or Z. Don’t settle instead of putting in the work or the persistence and end up asking “am I settling for this?” ACTION CHALLENGE: Be aware of when you are settling. Think of instances in the past when you settled and remember that feeling so when you face the chance of settling in the future – you can recognize it. Remember, action is either gainful or educational.
25 minutes | Sep 29, 2016
Action Advice #4
Welcome to Action Advice Episode 4. As previously mentioned this is where I will answer questions and provide Action Advice in response to you, the listeners. In today’s episode I will offer advice on: Friendship. A man going through a devastating break-up. How to finish writing a book while also having a career. How to become a better person. ACTION CHALLENGE: Overcome or Accomplish a goal, and take a picture of you doing it and #cultureofaction. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D & Get your free Culture of Action Sticker! SMALL STEPS MAKE SUCCESS!
17 minutes | Sep 27, 2016
Remember we've been talking about Old Man – about how he breeds failure and encourages procrastination and hinders you from making decisions. Today I am going to wrap all of that up and discuss how we should only have one plan that we are passionate about, Plan A. There should NOT be a plan B or C UNLESS these options complement and help you to achieve your original goal, Plan A. I’ll share with you my own personal Plan A and how, for me, there is no alphabet planning. Each decision I make is in an effort to fortify and strengthen that ultimate goal to make it a reality. I will also emphasize that you must do whatever it takes to make your Plan A your reality. Now some things are beyond our control, so when things don’t work out, people tend to give up on Plan A and say, “if this doesn’t work, then I will do this.” At times you will fail to make the best decision, but that can be used as a lesson to alter how you get to your Plan A. It should NOT be used as a scapegoat or an excuse to go for something lesser than what you want out of Plan A. We remember the people who overcome Old Man Failure and Indecision and Fear, and their growth becomes the stories that we look up to. They plant a seed that becomes a tree, and everything that occurs in the process of obtaining their goal is just a branch on that tree that goes into making it fruitful. Every other plan just enhances the life and growth of that tree. But some people don’t water their tree, and instead decide to plant other seeds and never see any fruit that comes from investing in it. They substitute a different plan, one they are not as passionate about. Do not settle for the plan you are not passionate about. “You have results or excuses, not both.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger ACTION CHALLENGE: Don’t find excuses. Find improvements. Find a new way to obtain Plan A – with all other plans used to complement getting to Plan A. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for:
17 minutes | Sep 22, 2016
Action Advice #3
Welcome to Action Advice Episode 3. As previously mentioned this is where I will answer questions and provide Action Advice in response to you, the listeners. In today’s episode I will: Lack of motivation The use of marijuana and alcohol. Starting your business while having a full time job. An 8 year marriage. ACTION CHALLENGE: Share this episode with a friend who can benefit from Action Advice. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D & Get your free Culture of Action Sticker! SMALL STEPS MAKE SUCCESS!
17 minutes | Sep 20, 2016
Old Man, Make a Decision!
We have been discussing Old Man. So far we have talked about how he encourages procrastination and often whispers failure in our ear. We continue the conversation today and talk about Old Man’s involvement when we make decisions. I will discuss three different areas when it comes to our ability or inability to make a decision: Fear Fear of the unknown or of making the wrong choice can keep a person from making any decision at all. Some suffer from having to make the smallest decisions, but I talk about those who have so many options to choose from that the fear of the unknown becomes overwhelming. This causes a person to give up and make no decision or their decision is made out of stress and is not beneficial. Crutch The person who uses a crutch can make decisions but is often unwilling to take responsibility for them. They may say that a decision was made “because of…” This person will use the past or issues they have as an excuse and act like they don’t have a choice in the direction their life is going. Lesson If you have had crutches and fear and can turn it into a lesson – you can make it a testimony. You can use this testimony to empower and help other people. As you climb, someone will reach out to help you – but you have to start the climb by making a decision instead of digging yourself further into your hole. ACTION CHALLENGE: Whatever decision you are currently faced with, big, small, relationship, stressful - Make a decision! And don’t let fear of failure, the unknown, or your crutches prevent you from gaining a lesson! SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D & Get your free Culture of Action Sticker! SMALL STEPS MAKE SUCCESS!
17 minutes | Sep 15, 2016
Action Advice #2
Welcome to Action Advice Episode 2. As previously mentioned this is where I will answer questions and provide Action Advice in response to you, the listeners. In today’s episode I will: Provide advice on how to make that first step to take action Offer my stance on Colin Kaepernick and Ryan Lochte Discuss how to pursue a career in the midst of injury Offer guidance for a 19 year old man setting out a career path ACTION CHALLENGE: Share this episode with a friend who can benefit from Action Advice. SHOW US SOME LOVE & SPREAD THE WORD! Don’t forget to check out www.cultureofaction.com for: This month’s Acknowledging Authors of Action giveaway: Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D & Get your free Culture of Action Sticker! SMALL STEPS MAKE SUCCESS!
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