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Queer friendships and love can be a really beautiful thing.  From the butterflies you feel in your stomach to the anxiety of a new crush no two loves are alike.  There are many ways to love and make friends though and in the queer community that line can get a bit blurred depending on who you ask.  In this episode we will discuss the intricacies of queer love and friendships and how you might be able to navigate them better! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Follow us on instagram @comingoutlesbian Background music composed by RezzRockyt specifically for this podcast!  Thanks so much Rezz!

We are back for the second half of Season 3!  Thank you so much for your patience with the small break.  This weeks episode is all about finding out your sexuality, the journey to figuring things out, and how you can work through things to get a better understanding of yourself! Sexuality is a broad and difficult topic.  There is so much to learn and even more to discover.  It can be a journey that spans your entire life and may changed multiple times through the years.  Regardless of where you are at on YOUR journey this episode is sure to be a good reminder that you are not alone. Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Follow us on instagram @comingoutlesbian For more general LGBTQ support and content outside of the podcast follow me on TikTok @asapphonamedraz

We are back for the second half of Season 3!  Thank you so much for your patience with the small break.  This weeks episode is all about getting over this first date jitters, some important things to remind yourself if you are going to going to have sexy time with a new partner, and more!  While this episode has a lesbian focus (of course!) there are so many points that really can pertain to all relationships, new and old! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Follow us on instagram @comingoutlesbian For more general LGBTQ support and content outside of the podcast follow me on TikTok @asapphonamedraz

Pride is now upon us and that means tons of events and get togethers with friends.  So in this episode we discuss all the ways we can collectively make pride a better place for everyone!  So if you are going as a guest or are a member of the community there are so many ways we can all chip in to make our local prides the best they can possibly be! So whether you are an ally, a member of the community, or something in between, come sit down, relax, and enjoy the next episode of the Coming Out Lesbian podcast! I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

Pride is now upon us and that means tons of events and get togethers with friends.  So in this episode we discuss common questions and tips for attending your very first pride!  However if you have attended many already these points may still be of interest to you too!  So whether you just came out, have been out for a while or are planning to come out, sit down, relax, and enjoy the next episode of the Coming Out Lesbian podcast! I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

Change can be incredibly difficult for many people.  However it is inevitable.  For many LGBTQ+ people change is something we must deal with on a daily basis.  Often times our changes can be severe and difficult to deal with.  This week we discuss how change can be used to benefit us even when the change is not always as nice as we would like. I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

Hostility can happen in many ways.  For butches and masc folks there seems to be a disdain from men for existing without the need for the male gaze.  Why do so many men (and women sometimes) react with such anger towards people that are just trying to live their lives?  In todays episode we discuss why some members of society may struggle with the idea of these lesbians existing in a space that is completely free of the male gaze and creating a space that tries to be totally free of straight, cis men. I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

This week we discuss how to get over speed bumps and obstacles you may face in life.  Whether it is in a romantic relationship, a hobby, or something different everyone has had to face an issue at some point in their lives.  Overcoming struggles can really break a person down if they are unsure of how to solve the issue.  When it comes to LGBTQ topics many are faced with dealing with homophobic families, discrimination in dating, and so much more.  Having strong coping skills when it comes to adapting can be key in improving your journey to self improvement rather than quitting when things get difficult. (I apologize in advance for the audio issues in this episode, I am currently moving and not recording in my usual soundproofed studio!) I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

In this weeks episode is all about the importance of having out LGBTQ educators in schools. For many young children they go all of their lives without a role model similar to them.  Often times educators are some of the best models for children and including educators from diverse walks of life can greatly benefit the health of all children.  In this episode we discuss a recent issue with a lesbian educator being fired and how growing up in a diverse, accepting environment can benefit children for their adult lives. I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

This week we discuss pronouns and the cis masculine identity.  Pronouns can be a confusing subject and can change from person to person.  Some folks reject pronouns and others embrace them.  In this episode we discuss one facet of that subject cis masculine lesbians and how they may or may not choose to use pronouns. I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

There are so many terms and identifications within the LGBTQ community.  Keeping up with them can be a struggle sometimes.  There are even times I cant keep terms straight! (No pun intended, ha!). However, there are even times where things take a negative term.  In this weeks episode we discuss the history of the terms Stud and Stem lesbian and the problems with appropriation surrounding the terms. I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

Breakups suck and the time it takes to heal from them can seem to last forever.  In this Second part of a two part episode series (Listen to the first one here!) I discuss 10 of the most common and important coping strategies for getting over a broken heart. I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Find more ComingOutLesbian here. While there are literally hundreds of ways to cope and heal I could only fit ten into this episode.  Not every strategy may work for you.  Additionally I have a bonus episode with 5 more coping strategies for LGBTQ breakups over on my Patreon that you can listen to! Along with extended episodes there is tons more content to binge over at the Coming Out Lesbian Patreon.  By signing up you could get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! 

Dating in the LGBTQ community is tough and breakups are even worse. On this episode of the Coming Out Lesbian podcast we discuss what its like navigating breakups, seeing exes in your friend group, and most important, healing. Get more ComingOutLesbian here: https://linktr.ee/Comingoutlesbian I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! You can support the show by pledging here: https://www.patreon.com/Comingoutlesbian 

In part with ace awareness day and week this episode is dedicated to those of the asexual identity.  There is a lot of confusion surrounding the label and where it fits in the community.  In this episode of the Coming Out Lesbian podcast we discuss and debunk a few myths and common questions surrounding the topic of Asexuality! I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! You can support the show by pledging here: https://www.patreon.com/Comingoutlesbian  If you enjoyed the episode be sure to check out more here: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Comingoutlesbian  Our website: https://comingoutlesbianpod.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingoutlesbian/ 

As much as people don't want to admit it, there is phobia in the community and lots of it.  Dating and even just making friends as a person who identifies as anything that isn't Lesbian or Gay can sometimes be met with prejudice, stigma, and more.  In this episode we discuss phobia within the community, with dating, why it sucks and how to deal with getting past these stigmas in the community.  In order to grow and become better as a whole we need the strength of the ENTIRE LGBTQ+ community, not just some of it.  So, yes, that means we need to stop gatekeeping the queer community!   I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsors, Shelby and Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah and Shelby! Do you want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! You can support the show by pledging here: https://www.patreon.com/Comingoutlesbian  If you enjoyed the episode be sure to check out more here: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Comingoutlesbian  Our website: https://comingoutlesbianpod.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingoutlesbian/ 

Comphet (or compulsive heterosexuality) is extremely tough.  We live in a world that caters to straight people.  Some of us grow up in environments where we are told being gay is wrong.  Years of being told we shouldn't exist can be damaging to ones mental health for sure!  In this episode I share my experience with Comphet and how I worked (and still work!) to overcome this tricky issue that plagues a lot of members of the LGBTQ+ community. I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsor, Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah! If you enjoyed the episode be sure to check out more here: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Comingoutlesbian  Our website: https://comingoutlesbianpod.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingoutlesbian/  Want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! You can support the show by pledging here: https://www.patreon.com/Comingoutlesbian 

We've all had it happen and if not, know someone it has happened to.  Falling for a straight girl is never easy and getting over the girl is even worse!  In this episode I discuss why we might fall for straight women (other than them just being stunners, ha!), how to handle unrequited love, moving on, and other ways to help avoid the straight girl crush trap! I also want to thank this weeks Patreon sponsor, Sarah for supporting the show.  It's wonderful people like you who help keep this podcast going and give me the opportunity to increase the support and reach the show has.  So, thanks so much, Sarah! If you enjoyed the episode be sure to check out more here: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Comingoutlesbian  Our website: https://comingoutlesbianpod.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingoutlesbian/  Want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! You can support the show by pledging here: https://www.patreon.com/Comingoutlesbian 

In this episode we dive more deeply into just how you can cultivate true self love in yourself.  For many LGBTQ people, the struggle to love and accept oneself is very real and hard to surmount.  In the second part of my two part "mini series" I share my tips and tricks that I used (and still use) to help learn to accept and love myself as an out lesbian! If you haven't yet, be sure to listen to the first part of this two part series so you get the full story on self love! If you enjoyed the episode be sure to check out more here: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Comingoutlesbian  Our website: https://comingoutlesbianpod.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingoutlesbian/  Want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! You can support the show by pledging here: https://www.patreon.com/Comingoutlesbian 

For years I struggled with accepting who I really was as a lesbian.  It wasn't until I fully accepted my gayness that I felt a significant improvement in my life.  I struggled with lack of confidence and acceptance.  It wasn't until I learned to love and care about myself that I saw my life and happiness increase. In this episode I share and discuss just what happened to me after I told myself, and I mean truly told myself, I was gay. So join in with me and see for yourself just how amazing self love and care can be! If you enjoyed the episode be sure to check out more here: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Comingoutlesbian  Our website: https://comingoutlesbianpod.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingoutlesbian/  Want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! You can support the show by pledging here: https://www.patreon.com/Comingoutlesbian 

Coming out is hard enough, let alone navigating every other aspect of queer life.  A interesting discussion surrounding marriage came up recently and I thought I would share my thoughts on it.  In this weeks episode we talk about why so many queer folks are so opposed to marriage...until they realize they can have a wife...or a husband...or something that isn't heterosexual! Come give a listen to this weeks episode all about why it is okay to marry as an out LGBTQ person...or not! If you enjoyed the episode be sure to check out more here: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Comingoutlesbian  Our website: https://comingoutlesbianpod.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingoutlesbian/  Want to support the show?  We have a Patreon!  Patreon supporters get access to exclusive behind the scenes content, a bonus podcast series, cool merch, and so much more! You can support the show by pledging here: https://www.patreon.com/Comingoutlesbian