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93 minutes | Jan 4, 2021
The Ability Series: Part 4 - I Ain't A Hoe Ass Nigga...I'm Just Hurt (feat. Brotha2DaKnight of The Drunken Knights)
We are here today with the last and final part of Account Ability, here on The Ability Series. Today we speak from the title of "I Ain't A Hoe Ass Nigga, I'm Just Hurt!'...which embodies the perspective of a black man being hurt at the hands of a woman. Very often, as men, we dont develop the proper responses to our pain. And in this case, because our women are dear to us...this pain stings the most. BJ, and today's guest, Brotha2DaKnight of The drunken Knights Podcast, discuss this in detail. You will be surprise at how much alike these two men are, though the delivery may be different. Listen as we discuss the coming of age with women, and how we develop tactics to navigate a pain that truly hurts to feel. But we also discuss how we create those circumstances unknowingly, while still taking our causes to the effects completely for granted. this is accountability from men, on a very high level. Listen and tell us what you thought about the final part of the series. What should be the next series of abilities to discuss??? Let me know your thoughts!!!
55 minutes | Dec 22, 2020
The Ability Series: Part 3 - The Bad Guy Vs. The Villain (feat. DJ Brainstorm of Drunk Mind Sober Thoughts Podcast)
Part 3 of The Ability Series is titled The Bad Guy Vs. The Villain. This is a space where your flaws become weaponized without your knowledge...or lack thereof. How do you maneuver through life and love with skills you don't have. BJ and today's guest, DJ Brainstorm of The DMSTBoyz, discuss how they adjusted to these difficult spaces in their manhood. We talk about accepting when you are at fault, without victimizing yourself. Accepting the things that you can't change about the past with healing and therapy. As well as steps to building the proper support system needed to implement the changes that need to be made. This is a conversation that most men don't have. And when we don't bring things to the forefront, villains are created. And emotional terror begins. Don't be that guy. Tune In and tell us what you think of this episode.
79 minutes | Dec 13, 2020
The Ability Series: Part 2 - When Nobody's Looking (feat. Jae of Just Say Words Podcast)
Welcome Back to the 2nd Part of The Ability Series. Today we are following up the first part, which was One Or The Other. That episode featured Shon Hyneman of It's Scary To Remarry. Previously, we discuss accountability in terms of discernment and decision making. This episode we discuss morals and integrity. But when we discuss this, it's not in the typical fashion that you are used to discussing those two issues. It's more personal to the man. giving a direct reflection of his character, without masking or covering up his truths. Today's episode, titled When Nobody's Looking, asks a serious question to our men: Who Are You, and what is your manhood like; Without Praise, Gratitude/Appreciation, or Spotlight? Without those things, is your morals and integrity the same? If not, how does it differ? We go into a very forbidden territory in a man's esteem to find out what makes him who he is. The guest on this episode, Jae of the Just Say Words Podcast, gave us a glimpse of what his manhood is currently. He gives a very interesting spin on the conversation BJ had prepared for him. But overall, you begin to see how two men deal with image, whether that be good or bad. Also, how do we apply integral behaviors to our flawed characteristics and character disapprovals of others. Between the two perspectives, you are gifted such a great and transparent conversation between two men. Both who tries to effect change through growth, education, and constructive life lesson application. We are not vowing to be perfect. But we are trying to become the best self we can possibly be. And we openly have this conversation in front of you. Join us along in this journey to positive manhood mental health. Listen to When Nobody's Looking and tell us what you think....
66 minutes | Dec 8, 2020
The Ability Series: Part 1 - One Or The Other (feat. Shon Hyneman of It's Scary To Remarry YouTube Series)
Welcome to the first part of what we will call The Ability Series. This is a project BJ decided to create to have some very hard discussions with men...in terms of account ability (the first ability we are touching). Here is where we have conversations with men about things we weren't fortunate enough to have as young boys...to correct the boyish behaviors some of us men are still displaying. But it's no judgement...simply because we all have it honestly. Today's conversation is titled One Or The Other. This is a discussing of discernment and critical thinking. We as men need to know how to adjust to the changes that effect our lives and decisions. And in order to do that, we need need to emphasize to one another the importance of family, partnership, and values. Today's guest is Shon Hyneman, a friend and brother who discusses these things regularly. He is an advocate of relationship redemption and development. Shon knows a thing or two about having to start over with residual responsibility to the previous spouse. How he conducted himself is prime example of how he manages a successful marriage, for a second time. We break down a few variables...such as picking your family over your hustle. Deciding when to become a family man along with being the family provider. How to integrate yourself back into a home you spend a lot of time away from, dealing with man issues BY YOURSELF. There is so much we have to unlearn about being society's version of a man. Our partner's and children need us. And based on Shon's experiences, he gives very important tips on how to include your family in your responsibilities...because in the end, which would you rather have: Money or A Family??? It comes a time where a man has to make a choice. Listen to Part 1 of The Ability Series...brought to you by Change The Subject!!!
67 minutes | Dec 6, 2020
Episode 40: Are & Be (feat. Queen PoIIson)
Episode 40 is called Are & Be. Differentiating the differences between where you are from where you aspire to be. In most cases, we think the words are parallel to one another. but if you really dig deep enough, you will find that there is a chance that you get these two confused. Which in turn derails your progress in concerns to commitment and relationship. BJ and today's guest, Queen Poiison, discuss the differences and misconceptions of a person using where they are, as an excuse to why they aren't where they would like to be...which at times, have nothing to do with your progression. IT"S JUST AN EXCUSE. We also discuss how where you are in life will inspire false realities that you turn into standards and requirements of a partner. Not owning that thus far, you have been maneuvering with no compass or sense of direction. but will indict someone to have leadership skills. Is that your standard?...or your weakness? How do you tell the difference. As you can see...this is very analytical conversation. But it's also very necessary to have. We have to break barriers in our understanding and communication with one another. So this is the way in which decided to start this process. Talk this thing out. Listen to this episode and tell us what you think. What have your own personal Are & Be sounded like for the year 2020? What will it sound like next year?
92 minutes | Nov 22, 2020
Bonus Episode: I Ain't Had A Crush In Years (feat. Kira of MomsAndMartinis Podcast)
Thank you guys and girls for tuning in to the latest episode of Change The Subject. Today we have a bonus episode for you to get into. And such a great conversation this is. Today we are discussing crushes at our adult ages. Titled 'I Ain't Had A Crush In Years", we talk about the differences in how men and women behave NOW when they discover they have interest in someone. There isn't a long lasting interest in the opposite sex nowadays. And as we progress in life, and other areas...we begin to realize that love is slowly passing us by. What has changed about interest and attraction so much, that men and women become disposable so quickly? Today we discuss this... This episode is featuring Kira from MomsAndMartinis Podcast. She is a returning guest that really is heating things up in the podcast world. She has a extremely transparent and entertaining platform that BJ enjoys. She is currently looking for love in this process of self discovery as well. How does she navigate throughout the process that she coins "Operation Stepdad" to find a true and compatible love interest? And is having a crush of any kind likely to anyone who has had traumatic and very realistic experiences that have knocked you off cloud 9? Kira discussed what's it like as a woman in her prime looking for a boo in these city streets. In this conversation, we discuss the maturity of what a crush once was...and how it was known as the very first boundary some of us had with the opposite sex. We also discuss why we don't respond the same to crushes as adults in this day and age. There are so many changes men and women are facing today that were influenced by our childhood. We discuss the way boys and girls interpret their experiences with crushes. which makes our behaviors as adults seem a bit dysfunctional. This is a great conversation that I'm sure you will enjoy. Tune in to this episode and tell us what you think!!!
87 minutes | Oct 30, 2020
Episode 39: For Better No Worse ( feat. Stefanie The Life Architect and Denny Blanco (also known as R.B.C.))
It's been a minute...I KNOW. Apologies for my absence. But I'm back with a treat for your ears. BJ has been holding on to this episode for a month now. A great conversation was had on a getaway to SEVERN, MD for a recharge. Only a small few were in attendance. And two of which had a conversation with me over dinner that spawned an idea. And if you know BJ, he always has equipment on hand. So he decided to discuss an adage that we vow before God unnecessarily, with the idea that it truly benefits your relationship. When in fact, it may actually hinder it. Yes...we discuss For Better or For Worse. With two amazing people who have seen both of those things with each other. And have stood the test of time facing both advantage and adversity...WITHOUT EVEN MENTIONING THAT IN THEIR VOWS. Today we return with the dynamic duo known as RBC (Respect Boundaries Communication)...known individually as Stefanie The Life Architect and Denny Blanco. We shared a great conversation with each about acceptance and allowances in relationships. So many thoughts were shared. One in particular was how For Better or For Worse is detrimental to anyone who may feel, at any time, that another person's better or worse may not be sufficient enough for their fulfillment. In this case...do you settle just because you committed to that vow? There is a chance that without fully understanding the responsibility of the words, you may have signed up for the demise of your relationship health. To us, For Better or Worse is very critical to say to anyone who isn't committed to the betterment of self and spouse. If things get worse, then we as adults deal with those consequences. But in a spiritual realm, this has evolved our matrimony into settling, bondage, abuse, and a loss of love for your relationship. We decided to talk from the title of For Better No Worse. This simply means that with Respect, Boundaries, and Communication in your relationship...you are prepared for the worse that can happen. And it won't break or bind you to an emotionally challenged clause in your relationship contract. We talk about how women desire marriage, when you haven't seen or supported him at his worse. Why do you feel he should marry you, when he hasn't experienced anything in terms of support in his worse case scenarios? As well as how women will say "I only do that for my husband" though she has never been married to know if a husband will appreciate it. We talk about women being strict in terms of standards and requirements of men...due to the world's mistreatments of women...especially Black Women. Is a high standard of man fair, if you are responsible for loving him in much lesser conditions (based on your vows before God)? This is a great conversation with great minds who have a great idea of marriage. Don't say shit you don't mean. Even in marriage. Because if worse comes to worse, better may just be the exit. You never know.
70 minutes | Sep 17, 2020
Episode 38: Tough Cookie (feat Hype Williamz of Denny Talks IGTV Series)
Today is a very special episode of Change The Subject. We use one of BJ's personal favorite personalities as the catalyst for a protection conversation about women. Hype Williamz is the guest today on Change The Subject. She is often misunderstood for aggressive, assertive, and "over the top"...and even mean if you don't understand how to deal with a woman who is fearless of truth or consequence. But if you knew what she been through, your opinion would most definitely shift. As well as help you understand women like her. Tough Cookie, which is my perspective of her (and today's topic title) deals with the women that we tend to overlook as men. the woman who is naturally tough skinned. The woman who protects everybody, including herself...BY HERSELF. We assume a lot of women's strength, and take for granted that there is still a need there for you to fulfill...even though she appears to be handling things very well. We talked about how she grew up in the Bronx, and how the church steered her in the direction of the streets. Because yes...the church fails to protect our women as well. From there, we adapt to how she developed into the woman she is today. Her everyday existence is a learning lesson. Something as simple as taking the train will teach you life lessons. All of which she discussed here. She tackles the disconnection with men, in terms of strong alpha women. Why it seems that strong women make men feel emasculated or inferior. We talk about how she parents, submit, and dominate in all the spaces of her life. She explains the struggle of knowing when to take off her superhero cape and just be...because being Hype is hard. Lastly, she tells me the unapologetic truth about how we can make women's lives easier, without feeling intimidated or unsure of yourself. You can learn something here. We can learn to love our strong women a lot better. Tune In an tell me what you think.
93 minutes | Sep 6, 2020
Episode 37: The Broom (feat. Jayomega of The Officially Street Podcast)
Episode 37 is a very dope conversation, brought to you by BJ and Change The Subject. We are discussing how we as men sweep women off of their feet in year 2020. Titled, The Broom, BJ and today's special guest discuss the importance of trying, in terms of women, to emphasizes our queens worth and importance as men. As well as the genuine concern we have to our reputation of giving our best to them, without expectations of reward. Today's guest is a long time coming, but we finally got him here. Jayomega, 1/3 of The Officially Street Podcast, completes the cypher of guest spots on Change The Subject. His co-Host, Syer and Cherry Poppins, have each made appearances on the show. But today we have The Washed Ambassador here to talk about the importance of the effort he puts into his marriage. We discuss very important topics from three specific angles.... . •Kicking Her Feet Up - The way you relax and relieve her from the pressures of the relationship and her own individual responsibilities. •Keeping Her Feet Done - Maintenance and Upkeep of her feet •Not Giving Her The Run Around- This should be self explanatory!!!. This conversation is packed with useful information that all men and women can use to their own relationship benefit. Jay is young, but shared some true OG married wisdom that can work for the young and old lovers in the world. It is important for us as men to do some detailed sweeping away of inconsistent intentions and gestures. We need to practice how to use our brooms affectively to keep our ladies happy. Press play on The Broom and see what two men discussed that can really help relationships return to a level that love has been missing for some time now.
61 minutes | Sep 1, 2020
(#TMHTLYB) Lesson 14: Using Proper Protection (feat. NeoSoulCoko)
Teach Me How To Love You Better is back with Lesson 14. BJ is excited to present this really good conversation about protecting your hearts and bodies simultaneously. Today's lesson is called Using Proper Protection. This is a discussion that talks about the responsibilities we neglect when dealing with our adult urges and sexual needs while being single. Sometimes we experience needs before we find the person we would need to fulfill them. We also encourage our irresponsibility by proclaiming to be adults...as if we are capable to control the feelings and heartbreaks that come from other adults. This lesson was given to us by Coko, known as NeoSoulCoko of The NeoSoulCoko podcast. She gave us her personal experiences with dating and intimacy with several men. She kept it real. She told us how it benefits and hinders her. There are pieces of each that defined her actions NOW that she is ready to actually be committed to one person. Is it possible that because you don't have positive protection practices to use that a lot of us have lost our faith in love? This conversation really dug into that. We talked about how open we are with our friend with benefits. How we place restrictions on that friend, to save something for a relationship. And in doing so, it robs you of the fulfillment you are trying to get to by going around the relationship. We also discuss how much respect are you allowed to show someone you are just sleeping with. There is so much discussed in this lesson for men and women to get into. Press play and let me know what you think.
54 minutes | Aug 26, 2020
Episode 36: My Sentiments Exactly (feat. Denny Blanco of Denny Talks)
The good brother BJ returns with an unexpected release of Change The Subject. Episode 36 is called My Sentiments Exactly. This conversation is about women's favorite word of 2020: intentionality. As men, we can go throughout our lives battling to overcome our obstacles in life. And in those times, we communicate our intentions in a very indirect way. You can't blame us for being wishful thinkers. But all in all, BJ and today's guest decided to address why this level of communication is a setback to your manhood. Telling the truth should be permitted in all of the relationships you have. But in this case, we use sentiment to attain love that seems so hard to accomplish with honesty alone. Today's guest is Denny Blanco, a very entertaining and intellectual gentleman who has had his share of sentiments go wrong. And we found out in this conversation that a lot of men truly have good intentions, in the grand scheme of things. It's just that the setup, articulation, and action just doesn't measure up. These things are NOT completely his fault. Some of these deficiencies come from the women and men in his life.....the abuse he takes at the hands of selfish women who date....and so many other scenarios. Here, Denny and BJ share stories of how these things destroy the bonds built with our words. Men of all ages can learn from this very dope conversation between two men who mean what they say, with the actions to match. Tune in and tell us what you think. And tell a friend who you believe could afford this master class to come along for the audio excursion. This was a extremely dope conversation.
81 minutes | Aug 17, 2020
Episode 35: When Your Right Hand Man Goes Left: Part 2 (feat. Johnnie of Oversaturated Podcast)
Episode 35 is a great man to man conversation titled When Your Right Hand Man Goes Left. This is actually a follow up to a conversation BJ held earlier in his career with the Drunk Mind Sober Thoughts podcast in Cleveland Ohio. We follow up this conversation in attempts to improve our connections and concerns for our brothers, in terms of growing pains. Usually when a brother decides to go left, its assumed that he is straying away with negative intentions. But in this case, he may be straying to continue his growth process. And when we grow up, our immature friends will somehow weaponize that growth, and turn it into some sort of betrayal. So Johnnie and BJ have a very in depth conversation about how to approach these issues directly. We start with talking about the responsibilities of a brotherhood. Who is the leader of a very immature group of men? we also ask the question, "who is responsible for the wake up call of the entire crew"? These are questions that we often do not ask ourselves when we enter into our brotherhoods. As well as failing to establish codes and ethics to follow to make sure the bros all stay on an equally playing field for as long as they can. We also discuss our responsibilities to singleness, and how we have to be aware of the consequences of too much fun. We never set boundaries...so this was brought to our men's attention as well. Lastly we discussed the respect of the woman your brother had a baby with, and how important that is to the niece or nephew that calls you uncle. Why don't we assume full responsibility for the women our brothers procreate with? We challenge men to establish that integrity, and not just reduce her to just "a baby's mother"...she should be a sister as well. So this conversation is a rehash of how important it is for men to have standards. Everybody that goes left is not betraying the pack. Some of us are establishing a new way of thinking. And in order for us to grow as a immature crew of brothers, somebody has to step out...or away. This episode attempts to help you understand how to manage when things go left!!!
77 minutes | Aug 11, 2020
(#TMHTLYB) Lesson 13: The N Word (feat. AJ a.k.a Bad Ass Jones of The Pum Pum Chronicles Podcast)
Lesson 13 of Teach Me is here. And this is not the usual conversation we have on this show. But its a talk point long overdue for discussion. Today's lesson deals with narcissism. We learn that this thing we are so critical of, when we encounter it in people, is actually considered a mental illness of sorts. And also bares so many merit based traits in all of humanity. But somehow it is weaponized against our women in some detrimental ways that BJ decided to discuss with today's instructor for this lesson. AJ Bad Ass Jones is the professor today, giving some very key flags that we often do not see in narcissists. Because they are known to be accomplished, charismatic, and extremely charming. These things can be overwhelming to a woman who does desire love and attention, while trying to focus on her improvements during the waiting process. AJ warns women of these tactics in typical Bad Ass Jones fashion: Honest, Raw, and Unapologetically. She held no punches. This lesson also introduced a new segment called The Love Language Barrier Breaker. This segment is created with the idea of finding creative ways within the other four languages, when the one in focus isn't working. We discussed Physical Touch, and how you accomplish this without using your hands. AJ gave tips on how men can step their intimacy game up without lifting a finger. She also gave a touch tip for women as well. This conversation was filled with great conversation, topic points, and takeaways that you will appreciate. Press Play and listen to us discuss these N Words reeking havoc on our women!!!!
67 minutes | Aug 3, 2020
Episode 34: The First "Nice Guy" (feat. Ralph of Oversaturated Podcast)
Welcome to episode 34 of Change The Subject...that we will call The First "Nice Guy'. This discusses the guy who comes in contact with a woman at the worst times in her life. Each of those times seem to destroy a good guy by nature...so BJ and his special guest discuss what this process feels like. today's guest is a homie by the name of Ralph of Oversaturated Podcast. its been a long time coming for these two cats to get on a show. And on this episode, it finally happened. We were able to discuss a not so fruitful pastime where the nice guy doesn't end up with the nice things he bargains for...by courting and counseling unavailable women. Listen as we discuss the full concepts of a nice fella in two different spectrums; The guy who loves to fix and mold women...and the guy who can weaponize his niceness overtime by being taken for granted. As well as describing the women these guys run into that changes the nice guy into a fuck boy (for a lack of better terminology). This was a really laid back conversation between two kings discussing the importance of our fellow brothers knowing their worth...as well as the worth and character of the women you are trying to impress. you don't always have to finish last as a nice guy....Just have to take your time finding nice women who deserve what you have to offer. But just know...it ain't always safe to fall for The First "Nice Guy" you meet either. Press Play and find out why!!!!
95 minutes | Jul 21, 2020
(#TMHTLYB) Lesson 12: Feels Like I'm Cheating (feat. Latrice Sampson Richards)
Lesson 12 of Teach Me How To Love You Better is titled Feels Like I'm Cheating. This conversation is about people who have yet to accept the darkness or disturbances they feel about their past. The attempts to mask it always seems to find a way to come forward when you least expect it to. And what tends to make these moments difficult to stomach are when the person you love is critical of a time they weren't even a part of. And they treat your story as if it makes a difference to their happiness. but whether you know it or not...they are telling you how they respond to their own issues with the past. And their intrusion may be the way to justify their own distaste with their past transgressions. Today's lesson was gifted to us from Latrice Sampson Richards, who is a mental and emotional wellness creative. She took the example issue BJ presented from a past account that came up in the beginning stages of dating...and made so much sense to the guilt we place upon innocent people we date after hurts of the past. And every defense we create to prevent our hurts seem to make people feel as though they aren't trusted. It's almost as if they are accused of cheating just like an individual from the past. And if they are perceived as cheaters, even in their honesty...it leads them to potentially do the wrong things. And its no one's fault but yours. You inspired the very thing that you are ultimately afraid of. Latrice gave us so many great pointers of why we feel so convicted by our pasts. How we don't respect a person's privacy in a relationship. How we romanticize our relationships so much that we falsely believe that your significant other should be the last to hurt you, when in fact they are most of the time the first. The idea that a person's humanity and past experiences are deemed unacceptable are the very reasons many feel like they are cheating. And it may be because you as a person don't know how to accept someone for who they are because you don't know how to accept yourself either. I hope you are ready for todays lesson. It bares so many truths about how we truthfully misunderstand what it truly means to love someone FLAWS AND ALL!!!
72 minutes | Jul 13, 2020
Episode 33: Bottled Up Black Boy Joy (feat. D Murph of Flagrant 2)
My dawg came through on Episode 33 of Change The Subject. And BJ is excited to chop it up with the homie. D Murph of Why Not Sports (as well as Flagrant 2) is a long time friend and brother who was present at the very beginning of Change The Subject. He was the person who poured into BJ the encouragement he needed to believe that his message would carry throughout this culture on Indy Podcasts. He was even present for the very first episode, Completion Of A Compliment. So 32 episodes later, he returns to catch up. This is a very busy and dedicated guy...who has continuously managed to keep grinding and create avenues for himself. So, we brought him through to talk inspiration, confidence and hard work. Todays topic is Bottled Up Black Boy Joy, which touches on the passions and feelings we keep inside to serve other purposes the world would deem to be more relevant for the time being. But Murph and BJ discuss how you only get one life to live. And with that life, you have to live it out to its fullest potential. So we discuss what it takes Murph, in order to live up to his personal mantra: "Keep Grinding and Keep The Faith"....as well as a few other things that can motivate you to press forward with your dreams and goals. We discussed the struggles of our world, environment, and families...and how even that can be a distraction to what God put you on this Earth for. How senseless it is to waste time worrying about things that you can't change. As well as your faith in God, and where it needs to be in times of doubt and uncertainty. Murph tells us about how something as common as a basketball was able to transcend all of his ideas for his life to much higher heights he couldn't imagine. also telling how basketball has influenced his love for speaking, mentorship, and interactions with the world. We had a great time catching up...and hope that you enjoy this conversation about being happy despite of. Tune in to episode 33 and tell me what you think.
86 minutes | Jul 7, 2020
(#TMHTLYB) Lesson 11: "H" For My Husband (feat. That Girl Podcast)
Today we have what is going to be called a Group Chat lesson. We have two women to hold a conversation with today on Teach Me How To Love You Better. The lesson, titled "H For My Husband" is another spiritual follow up to Sexy In The Eyes of God with Simply Sonja. We have special guests, Erika Monae and Ashley of That Girl Podcast to discuss a few things in a spiritual space and relationship. And trust me, it's not what you think. This isn't brow beating. Its a very relatable conversation about discipline, self control and respect, communication and celibacy for people who struggle with chemistry with other people. Practicing self control is a very useful tool for self preservation as well. So that the best of our years are not spent, or wasted, with meaningless people. H For My Husband is encouragement to believe in true love, and all it's potential. And we have a very unique way of getting you to this point in your adult life... We aren't solely speaking from how the church would communicate this lesson. this relatable and very transparent. We talk about how men fit in a spiritual space with a woman. the importance of knowing himself. We discuss the role of a captain, in a way you probable haven't discussed before. We talk about praying, and how you can actually go to god with your checklist of what you want from a companion. We also talked about sex. And how it pertains to two Christian women who practices celibacy, and the challenges of their humanity. I'm positive that you have never heard an episode like this. Press Play!!!!
84 minutes | Jun 29, 2020
Episode 32: Lead and Background Vocals (feat Stefanie The Life Architect)
Ladies and Gentlemen!...welcome to episode 32 of Change the Subject. Today we bring to you an episode called Lead and background Vocals...which is a sophisticated way to address a few things. And because of such a sophisticated conversation, I needed someone who has wit, experience, and perspective to drive these points home for the listeners. So I called in today's co-host Stefanie The Life Architect to assist me in addressing today's topics at hand. First we set out to address accord, and the belief that that resembles or exemplifies unity. Stef and I discuss how accord can sometimes be mislead with ego and intentions. And how we as people need to really understand what it means to be an individual within a group. And to take the topic further, we were able to take our love for R&B music to bring out intricate pointers to help you understand the nuances of accord within our social groups. We then discussed the rise and fall of so many of our favorite groups in music. The politics of relationships. The lack of respect for each person's job in the group. We also discuss the position and responsibility of both the lead and background vocalist. And with each example, we are positive that you will find yourself within your group of friends and family. Are you a lead singer who carries a group of people to success or sustainability? Or are you a background singer who stays behind the scenes and only come forward when its time for praise or profits? The way this topic was created will discuss where we are in our lives, circles and our world. You will completely see yourself in this conversation. This is ear candy that will surely entertain, as well as get your thoughts running wildly within your mind. For some, it may go over heads. But the end result should be a conversation about how we should learn to appreciate those who carry the brunt of the work. Or who are responsible for the most minimal things that we take for granted. because accord does not mean we agree...it means how well we perform together despite the fact we are different!!!
68 minutes | Jun 22, 2020
(#TMHTLYB) Lesson 10: Sexy In The Eyes Of God (feat. Simply Sonja)
Today's lesson of Teach Me How To Love You Better is an invitation to what we call "Modernized Ministry"...where we talk about God and Sex in the same conversation in the most realistic way. This lesson, that we call "Sexy In The Eyes of God", tackles the fears of God and our sexuality abiding within the same space. most of us want to be desired, attractive, and accepted by someone else. But truthfully, we complicate this entire process by first not excepting ourselves for who we truly are. This Modern Body and Bible Study was conducted by Simply Sonja, a very sophisticated creative who has meshed the worlds of faith and fashion together to bring people closer to Christ and their confidence. She was an open book about how she got saved....Once was the complete opposite of who she is now...and what that transformation process was like. also, how her transformation created Transformation Tuesdays, which is a series she creates on YouTube for christian motivation and encouragement on the journey to finding greater self. She dropped gems on how a woman of god can embrace her sexuality without being overcome by it...and potentially disobedient to your savior. This conversation is packed with so many talk points. We discussed Body Positive adjustments being made in the church. As well as the open dialogue needed to save those who struggle with their humanity and sexuality. Sonja addressed the taboo topics that we all have dealt with one way or another. She also backed up every statement she made with personal experiences. We talked about what feeling sexy is to Christians...and how most times, feeling sexy has nothing to do with sex. Lastly, how women should begin practicing how to embrace the body God gave you. There was a ton of information in this lesson to create conversations within your personal friend circles and church membership. We need to encourage these conversation more often. There are a multitude of people who want to come to God. But his people are the barrier between the connection. Because when God commands that you come as you are, he means it. But His children have to adjust to the needs of the people showing up. But luckily for you, if this is you, Sonja and BJ created an alternative way to have a realistic conversation that will help you make gradual steps towards growth. You will love and relate to this lesson. Press Play and enjoy!!!!!
75 minutes | Jun 15, 2020
Episode 31: Keep Disturbing Our Peace, We Will Burn This B!#ch Down (feat. Christian of Dem Chakras Podcast)
It is truly unbelievable how a world can possess so much hate for Black, Brown, and Native American people. And as white supremacy and inequality continues to rise, we are seeing an uprising. People of Color have had it up to HERE with the system and its oppressors. We are outraged, angry, frustrated, hurt, wounded, persecuted, and abused at the hands of White America. And as a people, we are screaming that enough is enough. Listen as BJ and Christian of Dem Chakras Podcast catch up with each other on their mental health, their feelings about the race war, and the suddenly strong distrust of white america. We discuss how difficult it is to trust allies who have the same skin of our oppressor. And how it hurts to be black, with nowhere to go...mentally, spiritually, and culturally...to feel free. The frustrations that we are experiencing would make any sane person go crazy. And this could possibly be the breaking point. So we give fair warning, which to us should already be understood. But AGAIN...if you continue to disturb the peace and prosperity of people of color, you will see a side of us you will regret. We come in peace, but if you disturb that peace...WE WILL BURN THIS SHIT DOWN!!!
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