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Caregivers’ Circle – Stephanie Erickson
29 minutes | 4 years ago
Caregivers’ Circle – Parenting Tips for those Raising a Child with a Mental Illness – part 2
I know that all parents probably hear their children, at one time or another, complain that their brother or sister are getting more attention or special treatment than he or she is. Hearing, “But it’s not fair!” is something to which all of us parents can relate. For me, this feeling of unfairness occurs not only in the typical situations, but also in unpredictable times. My son has anxiety and there are many times when his anxiety rises and he needs me. He needs me to leave the room with him, breathe slowly with him, lie down next to him before bed, or stay home from a planned family outing. I see the hurt in my daughter’s eyes when this happens and she has verbalized that she doesn’t have my attention in the same way my son does. What can I do? I want to meet the needs of both of my kids but at times, but if I’m honest, I prioritize my son’s needs when he in crisis, or in order to avoid a crisis. Is this wrong? I certainly feel guilty about it. How do I make up these moments to my daughter when she feels neglected? This week’s guest on Caregivers’ Circle is Ann Douglas, author of Parenting Through the Storm. On February 6, 2017 Ann discussed the challenges of raising a child with mental health needs and provided some nice tips on what parents can do to support their child. In this show, Ann and I focus on sibling relationships and the balancing act parents experience when raising a child, or even children, with mental health needs.
31 minutes | 4 years ago
Caregivers Circle – The Invisible Shackles of a Locked, Memory Care Floor
Once when I was driving on the highway I noticed a woman, who looked to be about 85 years old, walking on the side of the highway. I looked for a car that she possibly abandoned but didn’t see one. My first thought was that she had Alzheimer’s disease and was lost and wandering. I immediately called 911 to make sure she was okay. You’ve heard about these situations in which a person with memory loss is relocated, or to use a word I hate “placed” in a “secured” setting for their own safety. Most of the time the family tells me about how difficult the decision was for them but they felt they had no choice. Their loved one was no longer safe at home and they didn’t have the time, resources or skill set to manage the symptoms of Dementia. Soon after their loved one’s “admittance” I hear about the senior who is “acting out” or “angry” or “isolating” or “resistant” to being in this new environment. Sounds like a pretty normal and expected reaction. I know I wouldn’t want someone to “place” me. Are restricted or locked environments really necessary? Are they ethical? Are we not stripping someone of their human rights? Or, are we protecting them? This is a complex question and there is no easy answer when trying to balance someone’s basic human rights, freedom and safety. This week’s guest on Caregivers’ Circle , Dr. Allen Power, MD, is here to discuss the multitude of factors that has led to the development and growth of secured living environments. He and I discuss many considerations such as the ethics, benefits and risks to living in a secured setting. Dr. Power is a board certified internist and geriatrician, clinical associate professor of medicine at the University of Rochester, and an international educator on transformational models of care for older adults, and the author of Dementia Beyond Disease: Enhancing Well-Being and Dementia Beyond Drugs: Changing the Culture of Care
31 minutes | 4 years ago
Caregivers Circle – Caregiver Guilt can be Transformed to Caregiver Wellness!
I was raised in a family who used guilt as a motivation technique. I say that a bit in tongue and cheek but there are situations in which guilt is used or to drive us into action or as a form of manipulation. I’m not sure if it was my early introduction to guilt or if it is just my personality, but I feel guilty at least 10 times a day about something I have or have not done. Sometimes I can quickly let my guilt go and move forward and other times it keeps me awake at night and leads me to decisions with which I may not actually feel comfortable. Guilt can be used in healthy way, perhaps, to help us reflect on a situation, evaluate our options and to make a better choice. But, guilt can also destroy us emotionally and leave us feeling empty, devastated and not good enough. This week’s guest on Caregivers’ Circle, Dr. Eboni Green, discusses how to evaluate our guilt and to work through it in an effective and healthy way.
31 minutes | 4 years ago
Caregivers Circle – Parenting Tips for those Raising a Child with a Mental Illness – Part 1
Many of my listeners have heard me discuss my family and I think I’ve mentioned my son. When I was pregnant with him, I was sick a lot and I wonder if that was because he was feeling unsettled, even in utero. The moment he was born he needed me intensely, much more than my daughter. He always wanted to be in my arms and would cry and cry when not with me. In the first few years of his life he continued to be very attached to me and I noticed the difference with his behaviour and sensitivity in comparison to my daughter, but just assumed that this was just a usual variation in personalities. I heard many around me tell me I should “give him more space or let him cry”, but it didn’t feel right. If he wanted me why would I reject him? But was my attention to his needs creating this problem? I questioned myself all of the time. As time went on he had a lot of difficulty being independent. Daycare drop off’s were hard, even at 4 and 5 years old. He even went through a few periods when he refused to eat all day while at daycare. I had no idea what was happening and was torn between frustration, anger and compassion. It wasn’t until he was about 4 years old that it hit me. He had anxiety. From that point forward I looked at his behaviour and moods much differently and have tried to adjust my parenting to meet his needs. Trust me. I’m not perfect and I’m still left confused and defeated at times when he is struggling and I don’t seem to have the answers. Today’s guest, Ann Douglas, author of Parenting Through the Storm is here to talk about raising a child with a mental health challenge.
30 minutes | 4 years ago
Caregivers Circle – Finding Life’s “Sweet Spots”
Most of the time when I speak to my friends, family or colleagues and ask them how they are doing, there is a standard and quick “Good, thanks.” But when we take a moment to really talk about life, I hear about the challenges of finding balance with work, family, caregiving, health, and many other aspects of our day to day experience. But every once and awhile, I hear stories of passion and excitement for new projects at work or at home, a sport or an activity that brings pleasure, or a connection with a loved one that is filled with meaning. Truthfully I think many of us have things or people in our life that bring us happiness but due to the day to day grind of life stressors our blessings and gratitude can blur and be difficult to find. For me, there are many things that bring me pure joy, and what I consider, as my guest says, my “sweet spots” in life. We hear that term used in sports, like for example in baseball, when we hit the ball on the sweet spot, that precise moment when the bat and ball connect in perfect harmony and the ball sails over the fence. But what does finding the sweet spot in life mean? That moment when you and your external or internal experiences bring you bliss and pleasure? Today’s guest on Caregivers’ Circle, Sue Kelly, author of the upcoming book Still Sexy at 60 plus will help us define and find our own sweet spots.
31 minutes | 4 years ago
Caregivers Circle – This stress is killing me! How to Achieve Health and Wellness for Your Own Sake
My friend was just telling me a story about how the commute to her job is killing her. She’s spending 10 hours in the car each week and she has no time to decompress. Her nights are spent rushing through homework and domestic tasks while her kids feel like she’s only half-there. Due to her guilt and fatigue, her sleep patterns are compromised and so when she is at work she’s only half-performing. This causes more stress and fear that her boss will find her ineffective and eventually she’ll lose her job. My friend is not alone. Stress-related illnesses are a real thing and are costing individuals, like my friend, quality of life. So what can we do to understand the sources of our stress clearly, whether at work or at home, and do something about it before it kills us? This week’s guest on Caregivers’ Circle, Ken Keis, author of 4 books including The Quest For Purpose How to Find It and Live It; Deliberate Leadership Creating Success Through Personal Style ; Why Aren’t You More Like Me?; and The Source discusses how to identify your stress patterns and what to do about it. Listen in to avoid stress getting the best of you!
31 minutes | 4 years ago
Caregivers Circle – Follow these 4 steps to achieve success in your personal and professional life!
There are many moments in each day when many of us question what we’re doing. Am I really a good mother? A good father? A good wife or husband? Am I a good employee doing what I can to move up the corporate ladder? So many of us walk around filled with doubt and afraid and discouraged that what we do not only doesn’t matter, but has not even been successful. Our society uses “success” as a driver for so many things and particularly to define our happiness. But what is success and how do we achieve it? Is success really correlated with happiness? This week’s guest on Caregivers’ Circle, Janice Quigg, shares her 4 steps to achieve success in our personal and professional life.
30 minutes | 4 years ago
Caregivers Circle – My colleague is crazy! Understanding and destigmatizing mental illness
You arrive at work on a Thursday morning as usual to find your colleagues standing around talking. When you approach and ask what’s going on you are shocked to learn that your supervisor has just asked to take an extended leave. He was diagnosed with Stage 3 lung cancer. You and your colleagues commiserate on how awful and scary this must be for him and his family. You quickly set up a collection of funds to send him a get well soon card and some gift baskets. Over the next several weeks your colleagues continue to discuss your supervisor’s horrific circumstances and try to find ways to support him and his family. The next week you arrive at work to find your colleagues speaking in hushed tones. When you approach the silence weighs heavy and you wonder what has happened to your supervisor. What you come to find out is that another one of your colleagues has been hospitalized, but this time because of a psychotic episode. You can sense the discomfort of your co-workers and notice how different the words, tones and behaviours are. People didn’t know that this woman was “crazy” and everyone starts to share stories of how “odd” and “weird” she was. No collections are taking for a get well card or gift basket, no one proposes how to support her family, and soon she is only discussed in terms of her “serious mental illness” instead of her as a person. Despite all of our knowledge of mental health and its prevalence in the general population, we as a society continue to stigmatize those who have mental health challenges and speak of them as if they are “causing” their problems instead of it being just a case of “circumstance” or something beyond our control as we do in other health situations. Why is this? And how is the workplace being impacted by the stigma of mental health? This week’s guest on Caregivers’ Circle, Amanda Osborne, Associate Director at Organization for Bipolar Affective Disorder and a Mental Health First Aid Canada Instructor discusses mental health and stigma.
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