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The Captivatingly Confident Podcast
60 minutes | Nov 19, 2022
Cultivating Compassion, Curiosity and Connection Through Conflict with Tim Ludeman LPC
Episode 127- Cultivating Compassion, Curiosity and Connection Through Conflict with Tim Ludeman LPC How do you feel about conflict?? If you’re like most people, it’s not your favorite and you may even go to great lengths to avoid it. This avoidance or fear robs couples of the opportunity to really connect and grow on a deeper level. In this episode, Licensed Professional Counselor, Tim Ludeman, joins Kim to talk about how conflict can actually create connection and improve intimacy in romantic relationships. Kim and Tim have been married since April 2009 and have learned a lot about conflict in their 15 years together. In this episode, they talk through common pitfalls in conflict and how to shift into curiosity and compassion to increase connection. You can learn more about the work Tim does with couples and individuals on his site, www.lighthousecounselingpdx.com. Mentioned in the show: Marriage and Relationship Experts, The Gottmans- https://www.gottman.com Kim and Tim talking about anxiety- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/captivatingly-confident-podcast/id1436115186?i=1000471425589 Our Guest: Tim Ludeman is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Oregon who sees clients online. He started his practice, Lighthouse Counseling PDX, in 2005. He loves working with couples and individuals to help them utilize tools and feel a sense of empowerment and agency in their relationships and personal lives. He and Kim have been married for 13 years and have two children, ages 8 and 20 months. About the Host, Kim: Kim is a Certified Brainspotting Coach who works with clients all over the world using her unique blend of Brainspotting and Nutrition/Health/Fitness Coaching. She is the creator of Reveal Retreats which creates a safe space to reveal what the real blocks are to loving the life you live utilizing small group expansion Brainspotting. Kim is also the founder of Summit Seekers, a national hiking community committed to empowering women to connect deeply with themselves and others both on and off the trail. She is a mom to two kiddos, Louis 8 and Lucy 20 months. She loves hiking, cooking, shopping and sleeping. Kim discovered a passion for connecting people to tools and support after the loss of her mom in 2004. She thrives on creating safe spaces for women to connect and feel seen. She has been coaching for over 13 years and loves seeing people feel empowered and confident. You can connect with Kim via email (Kim@captivatinglyconfident.com) and Instagram (@kim.ludeman). www.kimludeman.com www.summitseekersllc.com www.revealretreats.com
26 minutes | Oct 29, 2022
Cultivating Empowerment: Swap Your "Can't" for "How"
Do you ever find yourself feeling stuck in a rut? Like you feel like you "can't" get out of it no matter what you do? In this episode, Kim talks about how to cultivate empowerment by swapping "can't" for "how". This pivitol shift can create clarity, spaciousness and curiosity in helping you identify and meet your needs.
38 minutes | Jun 6, 2022
Use Stop, Drop and Roll to Regulate Your Nervous System
It can be really easy to get overwhelmed when you get triggered by others, circumstances or things you feel you can't control. It's so easy to jump into self-soothing behaviors like eating, busyness, shopping, binging, scrolling etc. When that happens, wouldn't it be nice to have a tool that was quick and easy to use that actually helps?? Tune in to learn how to use Stop, Drop and Roll to help you calm down no matter where you are or what you're doing.
29 minutes | Dec 5, 2021
Episode 124- It's Not You, It's Me
Have you ever said "they made me feel____"? Maybe you have felt like people had the power to make you feel a way. The truth is, people are mirrors and reflect back that which we are uncomfortable with in ourselves. In this episode, Kim explores what it looks like to take control back and empower yourself to understand your feelings and communicate them so you feel seen and understood. With practical tools, you can confidently say "It's not you, it's me!".
40 minutes | Nov 5, 2020
Episode 123- Wanting=Resisting
I'M BACK!!!! After an 6 month hiatus from the mic, I finally found inspiration to record this episode all about wanting, lack and abundance. I am sooo excited to be back with you and can't wait to share my thoughts on law of attraction and manifesting with you!!
41 minutes | May 18, 2020
Episode 122- Quarantine Weight Gain & Feeling More In Control
Quarantine weight gain is a real struggle for so many of you right now (and myself included). I wanted to use this episode as a space to share a framework for you for feeling more in control of your body, thoughts and emotions.
25 minutes | May 9, 2020
Episode 121- Guided Nature Meditation
This was my first time leading a guided meditation online, so bear with me in this episode! My heart and intention was to bring nature to you wherever you are. Take a moment for yourself to listen and participate. Fill up your diffuser with some tree oils, grab some crystals or a comfy blanket and let's venture out under the trees together.
55 minutes | Apr 19, 2020
Episode 120- Give Yourself Permission to Just BE with Connie Baker, LPC
I have another fabulous Licensed Professional Counselor joining me on the show today! Connie Baker is an LPC, author, speaker and creator of Dear Survivor, a line of mantras and support for trauma survivors. Her passion is to help people give themselves permission to be, heal and grow. In this episode, we chat about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and how this pyramid can help you find your place of peace and rest as we all navigate the ever changing stressors that this time is bringing. You can find more about Connie and her work at www.Connieabaker.com.
59 minutes | Apr 14, 2020
Episode 119- Tackling Uncertainty with Tim Ludeman, LPC
My very first male guest also happens to be my HUBBY!!! After 40 interviews and 118 episodes, I finally convinced my husband, Tim Ludeman (who wanted to title this episode Ludeman After Dark), who is a therapist/counselor to come on the show!! In this hilarious and real conversation we talk about anxiety, uncertainty and control and how to release control so you can embrace freedom. You can learn more about Tim at www.lighthousecounselingpdx.com.
28 minutes | Mar 25, 2020
Episode 118- Are You Accepting the Invitation?
In this time of uncertainty, stress and anxiety, you are being given an invitation. This invitation is ultimately a chance to connect with yourself on a way different and deep level. Will you accept it?? Let's dive into what you're being invited into and how to feel your feelings but also CHOOSE how you want to feel.
19 minutes | Mar 11, 2020
Episode 117- Say "NO" to Fear and "YES" to Empowerment
I have been sick this week so apologies for my voice. In this episode, we are briefly chatting about how fear doesn't have to be "in the car" so to speak. Fear doesn't have to be present in your process. Join me as we talk about how to choose how you want to feel and how to say YES to more and NO to fear.
26 minutes | Feb 27, 2020
Episode 116- I Think We Should Go In a New Direction
After 115+ episodes of "How To's" and "Do This, Not That" and "Change This" I am ready to switch gears. For this next season of the Captivatingly Confident Podcast, we will be looking at the idea of how BEING and BELIEVING impact confidence. We will move into more of a flow of conversations around raw, authentic living while in pursuit of flow, ease and alignment. I invite you to join me on this new adventure and continuing chapter of the show.
52 minutes | Feb 14, 2020
Episode 115- My Miscarriage Story
I had a miscarriage two weeks ago. I wanted to share my story in hopes of connecting with those who have gone through this. Every woman's experience with miscarriage is different and I don't claim to know how it is for everyone, just for me. I want this episode to help open up the conversation around pregnancy loss because it's still not talked about openly. I want to offer some ideas about how we can talk about it and support one another in grief and loss. *This is raw and unedited and has some tough moments, so I would not listen with kiddos around.
39 minutes | Feb 12, 2020
Episode 114- Sleep Like Never Before with Brittney Stefanic
Sleep is one of the most underrated activities in this culture. Sleep is critical for weight loss, digestive health, hormone balance, nervous system resetting and so much more. In this episode, Sleep Teachers Sleep Consulting founder Brittney Stefanic and I chat about how sleep is misunderstood and what some practical steps you can do to sleep like never before!
27 minutes | Feb 3, 2020
Reveal Series #2: Using Boundaries as Self-Care: Why I Don't Talk to My Dad
Boundaries get a bad rap. They can be used incorrectly and cause you and others pain. In this Reveal episode, I talk about the different kinds of boundaries and how they can be used as self-care and teaching others how to treat you. I also share about a hard boundary line I had to draw in my own life with my father.
32 minutes | Jan 15, 2020
Episode 113- Why It's Easier to Believe the Negative
Do you ever get a complement and then dismiss it? Or when someone says something nice about you, in your head, you think of how it’s not true? Why is it so easy to believe the negative about yourself? Why does it feel like work to accept and receive the positive? What would happen if you started choosing to believe what’s good and true about yourself?? How would your life (and the lives of those around you) shift? In this episode, Kim dives into why it’s easier to believe the negative and how to start choosing what you want to believe about yourself.
30 minutes | Jan 7, 2020
Episode 112- Stop Trying to Be Healthy
I hear it all the time. "I just want to get healthy" Sounds great, right? The problem is that "healthy" is subjective and varies person to person. Diets, food labels and moralization of foods, exercises and behaviors leads to shame, guilt and frustration as being "healthy" looms further out of reach. In this episode, we talk about how the stress of being "healthy" can actually keep you stuck. We talk about how to ditch labels and start making decisions about what you eat and how you move from a place of self and body respect, not from of a place of loathing or unhappiness.
27 minutes | Jan 2, 2020
Episode 111- Put Fear in the Backseat
As a Personal Trainer, Nutrition Coach and Confidence Coach, I have learned a LOT about what my clients fear. It comes out as a desire to lose weight, get healthy or get fit. But what's underneath all of that is a fear that drives the decision making car into the proverbial tree (hello self-sabotage). In this episode, I talk about how to put fear in the backseat instead of letting it drive. We'll take a hard look at making the switch to making decisions from a place of SELF and BODY respect.
27 minutes | Dec 17, 2019
Episode 110- Don't Put Down the Cookie
This time of year is hard for those who struggle with resisting, controlling, restriction and running from sugar and yummy foods. I used to do the same thing. Now, I have the freedom to enjoy whatever food I like no matter what time of year without GUILT!!! Wanna know how? Listen on my friend!!!
64 minutes | Dec 9, 2019
Reveal Series #1: Deconstructing My Christian Faith
Welcome to the first episode of the Reveal Series! I am thrilled to be starting these monthly conversations about the struggles and challenges of tough topics like faith, sex, marriage, parenting, disordered eating, codependency and more! These episodes will be raw and real, so be ready for some unpolished moments! Being a "Christian" has been a major part of my identity for over 30 years. Having spent the last 15 months silently deconstructing, I am ready to start opening up conversations about what that looks like for me and what it means. I know this conversation will be healing for a lot of you and I hope it brings some connection and support to those of you who are searching and wrestling.
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