48 minutes | Nov 26, 2020

The Gift of Adversity

When Samra was 16, she was forced into an arranged marriage with an older man that she did not know. She was shipped to Canada, barely speaking english, and was forced to perform a role of wife and mother that she was not ready for. Although culturally, Samra’s marriage was accepted by her immediate family members and community, she knew that something wasn’t right. She had bigger hopes and dreams to get an education, build a career, and create a life for herself that was free from her family duties. After ten years of enduring abuse, while slowly saving up money from a small babysitting business, Samra was finally able to attend University and things started to change. At the University of Toronto, Samra was celebrated for her intelligence and found the resources and strength to leave her husband. Today, Samra has graduated at the top of her class, been named one of the top 100 most powerful women in Canada, and her book “A Good Wife: Escaping The Life I Never Chose” is a bestseller. Show Notes:2.15 - Samra’s childhood6.45 - The mentality of accepted norms 8.39 - Samra’s arrange marriage9.58 - Samra arrives in Canada with her new husband13.45 - Samra describes her first 5 years in Canada14.27 - Samra tries to end her life17.40 - Amy’s initial reflection to Samra’s story18.19 - How Samra pulled herself out of abuse22.28 - What kept Samra going, Samra started going to school24.48 - Samra finds the on-campus health and wellness center 26.21 - Samra starts to push back, her husband abuses her to the point where she decides to leave29.43 - Samra graduates top of her class with awards30.30 - Cultural backlash of divorce32.11 - Rock bottom moment33.02 - How to capture and listen to your inner voice37.15 - Samra’s kids become her partners38.53 - Amy’s second reflection40.45 - How Samra is doing today, how can people be more inclusive44.53 - Samra dedicates the episode to her younger sister46.33 - Amy’s final conclusion, resources for victims of abuseSupport the show (https://www.amysyed.ca/calmafterthestormpodcast)
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