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Today John is in a loving relationship where he can be his authentic self… but that isn’t how his story started.  In this episode, John shares how he put himself back together after a failed marriage, what he healed in therapy, how to own his sexuality, how he took responsibility for his mistakes, and how to let in deep and powerful love.  John shares the secrets to what is he does differently in his current relationship that keeps the spark of passion alive.  Whether you are wondering how to overcome the fear of abandonment, gain comfort with your own sexuality, take accountability for past behavior, be honest with yourself, or how to fall in love after loss, this episode will have a golden nugget that likely applies to you.  In this episode we discuss: Healing from divorce Being honest with yourself Overcoming fear of abandonment Understanding your sexual needs Taking accountability for bad behavior  Falling in love  What it’s like to find safety in romantic relationships  The impact of getting reassurance from your partner Why to give your partner words of affirmation  Communication Repairing the relationship after breaking rules Great quote “Better communication is on the other side of a mistake” John Romaniello Instagram https://www.instagram.com/johnromaniello/?hl=en or @ johnromaniello website https://johnromaniello.com/  This podcast is for informational purposes only. 

Do you want to stop feeling disrespected and unheard in conversations with your partner? Whether it’s repeat disagreements about your in-laws, sexual intimacy, different personal goals, preferences in housecleaning or the budget, I know it can make your heart pound, your face hot, and your jaw clench. In this episode, we talk about why bother fighting fair. We cover the impact of destructive conflict, the desire to be heard and understood, and how to prevent things from getting worse. A key idea we talk about is being willing to fight fairly. Because before you can fight fair, you have to be willing to try. Do you have beliefs about conflict that get in way of changing? I know I did. Listen up to hear what they were and how come I changed them. If you know you want some help fighting fair, and you need a strategy, get on the waiting list for the online course Communication Cures. Registration will be open for a week at the start of March. By joining the waiting list, you will also get $100 off the regular price. The link to join the waiting list. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.ca/communication-cures-waiting-list-2022 This podcast is for informational purposes only.

If you want to have clarity and purpose in 2022 and feel confident that you can achieve your goals this year, then this episode is for you. Do you relate to this? · Have you ever had your soul whisper to you about something you might like to achieve in the new year? · You started off the new year working towards a goal, but as the days passed by you lost your motivation, or maybe · You feel spread thin like you have too many goals, too much to achieve, and you look at your year and wonder how on earth you are going to get it all done. If you relate to any of these or all 3, listen up. We are going to talk about 3 tips to set goals you feel confident can achieve. If you want more help with goal setting, check out the FREE video series, Goals Guide. You get 3 videos to help you discover your big picture values, get clear on what you really want, set meaningful goals, and make a realistic plan to achieve them. Click here to get GOALS GUIDE.  https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.ca/goalsguidesignup This episode is for informational purposes only.

Understand how sexuality drives us, how our sexuality becomes problematic or even addictive. In this episode, we especially look at what leads to problematic sexual behaviors, compulsive sexual behaviors or addiction. Topics covered include: ● What is the role of attachment and sexuality? ● When do sexual intimacy problems develop? ● How can attachment heal sexual intimacy problems? ● How to change sexually compulsive behaviors? ● What happens to children sexually when their emotional needs are not met? ● What is sex addiction? ● How to determine the difference between infidelity and sexual addiction. ● How partners typically react when learning about their partner’s problematic sexual behavior. ● How the pandemic and COVID may have led to situations for someone to be unfaithful. ● What gets in the way of changing compulsive sexual behavior? Elizabeth (Liz) Lacey is a licensed clinical social worker, advanced certified schema therapist, trainer, clinical supervisor, member of the Sexuality Attachment and Trauma Network in NYC and trains internationally on addictions. She has been working in sexual addictions and personality disorders since the mid-1990s. Liz Lacey website: http://www.elizabethlacy.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only.

When couples are feeling unseen, unheard, resentful or unloved they commonly wonder if they are compatible. In this episode, we cover 4 key ideas to consider when you are thinking about your compatibility. 1. Do you have the same beliefs and values about what a relationship is? 2. Are you facing a deal-breaker? 3. Are you willing to learn how to do conflict together? 4. Are you willing to accept/tolerate your partner’s flaws? This podcast is for informational purposes only.

In this episode we are bringing to light the hidden mental load that exists in relationships. Whether it’s remembering doctor’s appointments, booking the dog in for it’s vaccines, or cleaning up the kitchen, there is a way to restore fairness and respect in your relationship. · How to work better as a team. · What mental load is in a relationship. · Tips to explain mental load to your partner. · How mental load could be impacting your relationship. · How to ask for what you need without blaming your partner. · What it takes to make your relationship fairer. · That willingness is key to making your relationship work. · Why it is important to change, even if, you partner doesn’t change first. Tag a friend in the tile of Liz and I and be entered to win 1 of 6 books. @emberrelationshippsychology https://www.instagram.com/emberrelationshippsychology/?hl=en  Liz’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/?hl=en Book I Want This to Work https://www.amazon.com/Want-This-Work-Navigating-Relationship/dp/1683647955 This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Conflict is hard, and here are some tools to help you have a peaceful conversation, even when you are angry. 1. Remember you’re a team 2. Soften each other 3. Repair 4. Take breaks 5. Come back and talk without fighting This podcast is for informational purposes only. See a relationship professional in your area for advice for your specific problem. Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

How dance movement therapy can help you break free from unhealthy relationship patterns so you can find healthy and loving relationships. In this episode we cover: How dance can help you heal from trauma. How trauma gets stuck in the body. Why talk therapy doesn’t always work and other therapeutic methods to help you stop sabotaging relationship patterns. How to start feeling to love you want and deserve. To learn more about Orit and her programs, click below: Website: https://oritkrug.com/ 3 Secrets to Lasting Love: Website: https://oritkrug.com/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lastinglovemovement/

If you have ever wondered “what is narcissism?” or “does my partner have narcissism?”, then this podcast is for you. In this episode we cover: What narcissism means Different kinds of narcissism How common narcissism is Where narcissism comes from The impact of narcissism on relationships What kind of people are more likely to attract partners with narcissistic qualities How to speak to someone who does have narcissistic tendencies To learn more about Wendy Behary and the book Disarming the Narcissist check out these links: https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/ The book: https://www.amazon.ca/Disarming-Narcissist-Surviving-Thriving-Self-Absorbed/dp/1684037700/ref=asc_df_1684037700/?tag=googleshopc0c-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=459263674062&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17782327393863818313&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9000815&hvtargid=pla-1289331927350&psc=1 This podcast is for informational purposes only.

How to make your relationship happy again. We are going to go over some steps to make your relationship better and two common mistakes that will get in the way. In this episode we talk about: Your relationship goals The actions you need to take to reach your relationship goals Mistakes getting in the way of actually creating a happier relationship Get the Course Communication Cures by clicking here. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures This episode is for informational purposes only.

Most couples don’t want fights to become huge blow outs that hurt their relationship. They want a way to successfully resolve pains between them. Like a washing machine, sometimes a problem might spin you around or twist you for a short while, but then you come out cleaner and even brighter than before. Conflict is normal in relationships. But how we do conflict can be so destructive. It can turn a good relationship toxic and leave a good intentioned couple headed for divorce. In this episode we are going to talk about the most common mistakes I see couples do when they talk about a fight that prevents them from processing the pain and coming out brighter than before. Instead, they get spun around, or twisted and come out looking drained, tired, and hopeless. Link to Communication Cures https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Save your communication with simple frameworks We get into a relationship to have big smile greet us when we get home at the end of a day, a warm body to curl up next to in bed, a listening ear when we need to vent, an adventure companion to explore with on weekends, and a teammate to tackle housework. And why shouldn’t you have that. But tell me if this has ever been you? As you walk into your front door there is no greeting smile, in bed there is another body hugging the edge of the bed and the gap between you is cool and distant, when you go to vent your not even sure the sound of your voice hits your partner’s ears, you stop spending time together, and you are in never ending power struggle about housework. You might relate to some or all of that. In my last 10+ years as a psychologist and couples therapist, I’ve heard of many couples going through just this. They try to connect but they don’t know what to do when communication breaks down. They have no framework for healthy relationship communication, and their efforts fail. In this episode we cover: · The secret to reconnecting with your partner, and no, it’s not buying a new dress or matching lingerie. · What you can do in the next 2.5 months to walk into 2022 confident in your relationship. · A tool to help you get to the heart of an issue without long drawn-out conversations.  Get Communication Cures, the new online course click here https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Discover what causes 95% of divorces, and tools you can use today so can create a loving and long-lasting relationship. Whether your relationship is struggling with difficulties feeling seen and heard, lack of intimacy, or the same problems over and over, Dr. Fackrell shares some practical tools couples can use to increase their connection. In this episode we cover: · What gender is filing two thirds of divorces and why. · How to handle it when the same problems come up over and over. · What is means to actually show your partner love in a meaningful way, so you actually hit the bulls eye. · Why bother working on your relationship. · Strategies to improve your relationship. Dr. Tamara Fackrell loves good marriages. After practicing as an attorney mediator who works with divorce and other family matters for ten years she decided to get her PhD in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. Dr. Fackrell has been active attorney mediator for over 20 years now and she also does prevention by speaking and helping married couples with Mediation Marital Strategy Sessions. She is an international speaker and the author of over 15 books. She has seen firsthand what does and does not make marriage work. Website: https://mindfulmarriage.love/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindful_marriage/?hl=en This episode is for informational purposes only.

The truth you didn’t know about healing from infidelity, tools you can use to overcome betrayal, and steps to rebuild so you can create a relationship that was even stronger than before. In this episode we cover: What goes wrong in relationships that sets the stage for infidelity. Dos and don’ts after learning about an affair. If affairs are really about sex. Different kinds of people who have affairs. The 3 stages of healing after infidelity. What is an appropriate consequence after infidelity so your partner can trust again. Bio: Mac Stanley Cazeau, LMHC owner and operator of Therapy Is For Everyone Counseling where he specializes in individual counseling, marriage, family, and couples counseling. Mac’s caseload tends to be 70% couples, and 30% individuals/family, of which majority are black men and women. Mr. Cazeau obtained his Undergraduate Degree in B.S Psychology from Queens College and Masters of Mental Health Counseling from Long Island University. Furthermore, Mr. Cazeau obtained 3 certifications from the Gottman Institute & one certification from the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT ) model. Mr. Cazeau’s therapeutic philosophy focuses on a holistic approach, utilizing a variety of techniques, tailoring the therapy to each individual's needs. Mr. Cazeau specializes in the following: Relationship Counseling Improving Communication Skills Conflict Management Increasing Friendship, Intimacy, Admiration, and Fondness within Couples Attachment, Love Addiction Healing from Trauma & Affairs Dating and/or Recovering from A Narcissist Divorce/Separation & Family Dynamics Depression, Anxiety, Anger Management Website: Therapyisforeveryone.org Email: Talk2Mac1on1@gmail.com IG: @Talk2Mac_Therapist This episode is for informational purposes only.

Discover the secrets to good mental health over the lifespan. Even if we keep putting 29 candles on the birthday cake every year, the earth keeps going around the sun, and we age. Tune in to hear about how we can keep fit with our mental health, how we can optimize our mental health, and what to expect as we age. We cover: · The truth about how aging affects mental health · Poking holes in the myths about the psychological effects of aging · How to support the mental health in older adults · Questions to ask your partner so you can create a meaningful life together · How to take care of your mental health as you age · The impact of your social circle on your mental health About Dr. Julie: Dr. Julie Erickson is a clinical psychologist at the Forest Hill Centre for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and an adjunct faculty member in the Department of Applied Psychology and Human Development at the University of Toronto. Her research has focused on understanding the mental health needs of older adults and reducing their barriers to obtaining evidence-based psychological treatment. Dr. Erickson provides cognitive behavioral therapy to adults across the lifespan with a focus on mood and anxiety disorders, OCD, and trauma-related disorders. She also teaches graduate courses and workshops on cognitive behavioral therapy, psychological disorders, and aging & mental health. This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Fix your communication fast- for couples Have you wondered how to fix relationship communication problems? If so, this show is for you. We are going to cover: How to fix communication after it breaks down, why communication matters, and a tool to help you improve your communication as soon as today. Sticks and stones will break your bones and words and meanness will hurt you. My heart started pounding in my chest as my fingertips started to shake, I was reading a comment on one of my reels on Instagram. It said, “this is stupid, if my partner is crazy, I want to say so, and their feelings are their own problem.”. So why do people make dismissing comments like this? That is what this show is all about! This is what we are going to go over: What we learn about emotion in our culture Gender differences in learning emotions and communication The ways people dismiss emotions A strategy to improve communication How perspective taking helps work through difficult issues The use of empathy in communication with your partner Toxic communication mistakes Link to the Emotional Validation Cheat Sheet https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-validation-cheat-sheet This podcast is for informational purposes only.

An affair is like having a grenade go off in your marriage. Shockwaves stun you, the smoke makes your eyes water, while the shards tear apart your heart. Eventually, the smoke and dust settle, and you are left to pick up the pieces. Sometimes affairs end in healing and healthy relationships if the couple takes the time to clean up their relationship and rebuild. Other times, couples decide there was too much destruction, so they move on. If you’ve wondered if you can heal after an affair, or if your marriage can succeed after an affair, listen to this podcast. Anthony Trucks courageously shares how an affair shattered his marriage, and what he and his wife did that allowed them to build an even better relationship. About Anthony Trucks: Anthony Trucks is a Former Foster Child, NFL Football Player, Competitor on American Ninja Warrior, Author, Life Coach and Entrepreneur. From foster care to the NFL, to successful business owner, Anthony Trucks has accomplished what statistics would say is impossible. As a speaker and success coach, Anthony teaches people how to design and build better lives and businesses by learning how to access the power of their identity to tap into their full potential and Make Shift Happen! IG: https://www.instagram.com/anthonytrucks/?hl=en New Book, Identity Shift: https://identityshiftbook.com/ This is not specific relationship advice and an assessment has not been done, so be sure to see a therapist in your area for specific advice for you. This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Long-distance was the thing that taught me about bitter loneliness, and the thing that taught me about committed love and two imperfect people who refused to give up on each other. In this episode I’m going to share about my 14 month long-distance experience, as well as share some ideas from couples therapy research to help you with your long-distance relationship. 1. Talk about your goals. 2. Establish rituals of connection 3. Use love languages to bolster the connection 4. Soothe difficult emotions. I am also answering some Q and A. This is not specific relationship advice and an assessment has not been done, so be sure to see a therapist in your area for specific advice for you. This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Give us 50 minutes and we will give you meditation tools to reduce anxiety and stress, as well as give you a mediation to use to regulate your nervous system when you are upset with your partner. Have you ever wondered… …how meditation helps people? …why meditation is important? …can meditation help anxiety? If the answer is YES, checked out this episode of Relationship Psych – The Podcast · We cover how to use meditation when you are upset with your partner so you can regulate your nervous system to better work through conflict. · Common misconceptions about meditation and how to overcome them. · We do a 3-minute mediation that you can try for yourself to uncover if it helps you release tension. · How to begin meditation if you don’t know where to get started. In the episode you hear about free guides: Get the FREE GUIDE: 50 Strategies to Calm Anger and Anxiety by clicking here. As well as Jasmine’s FREE MEDITATION: Click here to download your 5-minute mediation. Here are Jasmin’s links: Website: https://www.sustainableblissco.com/ Freebie: https://www.sustainableblissco.com/relax Personal IG: https://www.instagram.com/jasmineirven/ Sustainable Bliss IG: https://www.instagram.com/sustainableblissco/ More about Jasmine: Jasmine Irven is a Certified Meditation Teacher and the founder of the Sustainable Bliss Collective, a community and membership for ambitious women who need reminders to reprioritize their self-care. This podcast is for informational purposes only. This is not therapy. Be sure to be in a safe place, and not driving if choosing to try the mediation.

What causes infidelity? It might not be what you think. In this episode we are going over the early warning signs of infidelity using examples from the TV show Sex Life. We explore things you can do to protect your relationship from infidelity. The difference between influence and choice. We cover John and Julie Gottman’s theory on affairs. Link to the FREE guide: 6 Small Things that Loving and Successful Couples Do. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/6-small-things-that-successful-couples-do This show is for informational purposes only.