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Tune in as Bougie Girl lays it down about the 5 types of people whom you need  in your life...as well as the 5 types to avoid.

One of the toughest things we will ever have to do is overcome the pull of the Loser Spirit. In this episode Bougie Girl discusses ways to evict the Loser Spirit from your life. Below are 17 steps towards healing from the Loser Spirit: Making the decision to healBuilding self-awarenessTaking ownershipMaking peace with the pastLetting go of the pastSelf-forgiveness (This is part of an ongoing series.) How has the Loser Spirit affected your life?

The Loser Spirit follows us into adulthood  through the following behaviors: 1. Making poor life choices to get back at our family.2. Sacrificing our own happiness in order to prove our family  wrong. 3. Blaming our parents for everything that went wrong in our lives. 4. Constantly seeking approval and validation from our parents.  5. Continuously expecting our  parents to bail us out of trouble.

The Loser Spirit loves bringing toxic folks together to form a very unholy union. This really applies to the joining of the self-loather and the scapegoat. In my observation, the self-loather and the scapegoat are two sides of the same coin.  Both of them are carrying a truckload of self-hate towards themselves. They just express it in distinctly different ways.

Women use hem-up tactics  as a way of controlling the overall course of a relationship. (Now, to be fair there are a lot of men out there trying to hem up women as well, but that is a subject for another blogpost.) Hemmers use threads of manipulation, mind gaming, and guilt to draw the other person aka the Target closer to them. A majority of the time, Targets are not innocent parties in this situation. They actually hold a majority of control in this type of relationship.  A hem-up relationship for the Target is a way to kill time while they are getting established in the world. Once, the Target gets himself together, usually he leaves the Hemmer high and dry for someone on his same vibrational level.

11 characteristics found in Loser Spirit Relationships:   1. The relationship inhibits personal evolution and growth 2. Excessive Clinginess/Neediness 3. Lack of Healthy Communication 4. Triangulation 5. Rampant Manipulation/Head Gaming 6. Chemical Dependency 7. Abuse (physical, mental, and/or financial) 8. Insecurity 9. Denial and Delusion 10. Clandestine Aspects 11. Desperation

The Loser Spirit affects us in very many ways, but I have observed that it really beats us down when it comes to our relationships. This is one of the reasons why we have to be so careful about whom we let into our hearts and  lives.  Join Bougie Girl as she discusses the "7 Types of Loser Spirit Relationships".

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