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Your whole life you’ve been taught the importance of having goals. Financial goals, relationship goals, employment goals. But have you ever experienced the feeling of achieving your goals… only to find yourself with an empty feeling? Somehow, the accomplishment wasn’t as fulfilling as you expected it to be. In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss how to experience fulfillment before you achieve your goals, why you are preventing yourself from feeling joy, and a simple method for controlling your emotions when you are angry or stressed out. Show Highlights Include: The “relax and release” method for regaining control of your emotional response (2:43) The valuable lesson that your day-to-day stresses and inconveniences teach you (4:40) A key question to ask yourself when you begin to get irritated with someone else (5:42) How you prevent yourself from experiencing peace, love, and joy (10:18) The secret to enduring all your pain and struggle well (12:38) The truth about why achieving goals leaves you empty (13:56) Why striving for something only pushes it farther away from you (17:27) Doing this is preventing you from moving forward to improve your life (32:46) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

The current situation in the world seems as though it is causing stress and emotional difficulty for a lot of people. However, things may not be as simple as they appear. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by things going on around you, there is good news. You can control how you respond to stressful situations. In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss how you are preventing yourself from experiencing happiness, why challenging circumstances aren’t the cause of your emotional distress, and several little-known benefits of meditation. Show Highlights Include: Doing this is destroying any potential you have for happiness (8:54) The two ways you can choose to respond when the world challenges you (8:35) This is what keeps you from enjoying your life all the time (13:13) Why your current situation is actually NOT what’s causing your emotional distress (14:03) The truth about why your partners see things differently than you (21:10) This little-known meditation benefit can change your life (21:46) Having this response to difficult experiences is the most damaging thing you can do to yourself (27:26) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

The current economic situation is turning the real estate market completely upside down. In case you don’t recognize it, we’ve never seen anything like this before. This is going to be very bad for a lot of people, but it doesn’t have to be bad for YOU. In this episode, Ray gives his best tips for adjusting your mindset to the current situation, what you should really be paying attention to in the news, and the absolute best real estate moves you can make right now. Show Highlights Include: The winner’s mindset you must have to make smart moves when the market is tanking (5:23) This is the single most important thing you can do with your time right now (7:01) Why taking a loss on a property might be the smartest move (16:16) If you’re still making decisions based on this, you may as well start looking for a job now (19:42) This should be your top priority right now if you want to get back into business after the current crisis is over (30:50) This skill is essential to taking advantage of the market TODAY (33:48) Why forgivable loans will not solve your business problems and what to focus on instead (37:23) This GO-TO strategy is the only one you should be using for deals at the moment (46:09) These investments are the only ones that will profit in the current climate (60:00) Be sure to check out the video version of this interview! Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

It’s easy to get caught up in the bad news that seems to get worse and worse every day. So how can you stay a part of the world without letting the negativity drag you down? One way is to consider what the universe is trying to tell you through all this. In this episode, Ray and Christy are joined by Candice Rasa, and they discuss why all this bad news is actually a good sign, how to care for yourself during times of intense stress, and how to position yourself for huge success when we get through this difficult time. Show Highlights Include: Why world events that seem like disasters are actually a good sign (2:10) How embracing the “new normal” will make you more successful no matter what happens next (4:41) Why fluidity and flow are the most important concepts for you to grasp right now (6:30) The secret to unlocking the growth that these emotions are leading you to (7:25) How to optimize your body’s systems for peak performance (9:15) This is one of your most powerful attributes for reshaping your life (12:27) Why failing governments, healthcare systems, and more shouldn’t worry you (13:22) The incredibly powerful question to ask yourself… that just might change the world (14:57) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

What do you worry about most? Fear, stress, and material concerns affect many people. So how do you overcome these fears to lead a happier and more fulfilling life? One tool that can be extremely helpful is the Akashic Record. In this episode, Ray and Christy are joined by spiritual coach Candace Rossa, and they discuss how to grow in your spiritual life, the habits that are keeping you stuck where you are, and how to relate to those around you who are stuck in lower spiritual dimensions. Show Highlights Include: What the Akashic Record is and how it directly impacts your life (2:27) The dimension you currently exist in and where you ultimately want to be (4:03) How to align this spiritual reality with your current religious beliefs, even if they seem incompatible (8:56) Doing this is preventing you from reaching your spiritual AND material goals (12:50) How to transition to a more holistic view of your life (13:45) This energy is the most difficult to work with and is holding you back from the life you desire (14:11) The secret to embracing greater spirituality when you feel stuck (19:15) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

In light of widespread panic over recent events, many people are looking for answers on how to deal with difficult times. Fortunately, there are a number of ways you can bring light to the world in a dark time, and they begin with shifting your mindset on what reality truly is. In this episode, Ray and Dr Kirby Hotchner discuss the importance of vision, why forgiveness is essential, and spiritual practices to help calm and refocus your mind. Show Highlights Include: The life-changing difference between vision and sight (1:32) Why everything you’ve been taught about loss and gain is a lie (2:50) The most important act you can commit for yourself and others (5:56) This powerful transformation can only come through forgiveness (8:27) Why loving your neighbor is essential to your own well-being (9:15) The easy way to begin a meditation practice, even if you’ve failed in the past (12:39) How to use the “one monkey effect” to change the world (15:15) Why science and spirituality must be connected to function properly (18:20) How to surrender to God without abandoning your responsibilities (21:23) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

It is easy to get wrapped up in the emotions of other people when it seems as though the entire world has descended into panic and chaos. But it doesn’t have to be that way. What should you do when everyone around you has given in to fear? In this episode, Ray and Dr. Kirby Hotchner discuss the best way to gain perspective in times of panic, individual practices that can help center you, and how to come out of difficult times stronger and more balanced. Show Highlights Include: This is the #1 skill to develop for a happy and fulfilled life (2:44) The surprising source of all the fear in the world (4:12) Why the current stressful situation can actually benefit anyone who takes this approach (7:00) There is no power outside of this one source (8:34) The one daily practice that can help you eradicate fear from your life (9:10) The one powerful thing you must realize about fear that can free you (16:49) Doing this only prolongs the suffering that you experience in a negative situation (19:43) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

If you’ve ever experienced a lack of money, or recognized that your relationship with money was always based in fear or lack, listen up. Whether you realize it or not, your internal thoughts and feelings about money can affect external wealth.  In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss why money along can’t make you happy, how to increase your internal feeling of abundance, and how to crush your limiting beliefs to experience your own wealth breakthrough. Show Highlights Include: Why chasing money ultimately leaves you wealthy but unfulfilled (7:27) This uncommon definition will help you keep money in proper perspective (7:51) This single word is the key to unlocking all the abundance you ever desired (9:14) If you constantly feel like there’s never enough money, this perspective shift will get you back on track (12:27) If you rely on this one thing for security, you’ll always feel vulnerable (14:22) You must address this specific shortcoming in order to attain true, abundant wealth (16:27) Feelings of abundance must begin here or you’ll always experience lack (22:25) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

How do you define prosperity? Many of us have related prosperity directly to money, and how much of it we have (or don’t have). But when you get right down to it, there’s more to living a prosperous life than money. In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss the real meaning of prosperity, and how you can lead a prosperous life regardless of your financial situation. Plus you'll see how to focus your mind and spirit on financial success Show Highlights Include: Why money is not the root of prosperity and what you should be focusing on instead (6:28) How the current use of the word prosperity has changed from the “old English” definition, and why this could be ruining your life (10:08)  Chasing this form of prosperity will leave you empty, and perpetually unfulfilled (11:56) Take this approach to set yourself up for prosperity in both your finances and your soul (14:11) You must eliminate these prosperity killers from your life in order to achieve your dreams (15:00) The not-so-subtle way awareness influences prosperity and how to achieve it (21:03) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

It seems that the whole world is in a state of panic. Right now it’s over the Corona Virus, but this isn’t the first time something like this has happened, and it certainly won’t be the last. It’s so easy to get swept up in the storm of negative news reports, doom and gloom social media posts, and the panic of empty store shelves. But it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss how to center yourself and keep the proper perspective when it seems that the rest of the world is losing its mind.  Show Highlights Include: This is the secret to maintaining your zen, even when things are falling apart all around you (10:30) To turn a bad situation around, ask yourself this one important question (13:08) The real reason getting prepared when things are going well is the key to your survival (14:11) Take these steps now and you’ll be strong enough to face whatever the future holds (15:15) Do this work on yourself and the hard times will create growth instead of destruction (21:25) Defuse any citation by asking yourself this surprisingly powerful question (24:35) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Working well with your spouse can often be enough of a challenge, but what happens when you try to offer them advice as well? Have you ever been in a situation where your partner resented the coaching that you tried to give them? There’s a good chance that it’s because you made some small but significant mistakes in your approach. In this episode, Ray and Christy go over the tactics and techniques that will help you be more effective when trying to coach your spouse or significant other, while still maintaining your relationship. Show Highlights Include: Why the small difference between being a good coach and a great coach can save your marriage from disaster (8:55) Avoid marital catastrophe by not attempting to coach your spouse in these specific areas (10:14) Before you lash out, ask yourself this question when you begin to get frustrated at your partner’s decisions (15:40) The subtle way you strangle your spouse’s potential even though you think you’re helping (17:58) This simple question will help you reveal the right time to take that next step you’ve been considering (19:37) To be a good coach to your partner, avoiding this one relationship-killing mistake is crucial (29:21) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Have you ever been in a situation where someone else “triggered” you? It probably left you feeling angry or frustrated for the rest of the day. The problem with that is, when it happens, it winds up stealing all your time and energy from more productive tasks. In this episode, Ray and Christy dive deep into what causes you to be triggered, questions to help refocus your emotions and the best ways to overcome that anger.   Show Highlights Include: The surprising way that triggering events are actually the best thing that could happen to you (4:46) Make this one quick mindset shift when you are angry, and you’ll never be frustrated with other people ever again (5:58) Why being quick to label situations as “wrong” is keeping you from reaching your full potential (10:05) How the judgments you make about other people reveal your own shortcomings and insecurities (15:18) When someone sends you into a blind rage, defuse the situation by asking this one simple question (15:54)  The astonishing reason you can’t stop projecting your emotions on to other people, and how to break the cycle (17:43) 5 steps you can take to show compassion to others and stop living your life in fear (28:40) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

When two people come together for anything, be it a relationship or a business, things can get complicated. You have different personalities, different ideas, and different opinions. If you’ve ever felt out of sync with your partner, you know how bad things can get as a result. In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss what it means to be “Both on Board.” They talk about why the differences you and your partner have can actually make you stronger, the first step you MUST take to get your partner on board, and more... Show Highlights Include: The #1 way you can be “on board” with your spouse in your life and business, and put a stop to the tension and fighting (6:14) The secret to challenging your partner to make sure you are not being left behind or steamrolled (9:45) The commonly overlooked way disagreement can help prevent future disasters from occurring (10:50) How to break free of the cycle of problems looping in your head and stop wasting time and money (14:21) Why discussing difficult things can help you push through your lowest moments together (17:02) The almost magical technique for getting your spouse on board with you, even when they think you’re dead wrong (21:07) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Have you ever felt like you would be far more successful in your business (and personal) life if your spouse just supported you more? If they understood you better? Chances are, you’re making some critical mistakes in the way you are trying to involve them. In this episode, Ray and Christy are interviewed by Tim Bratz and go into the best ways to reassure a skeptical spouse, ease your partner into your business and more.  Show Highlights Include: How to broaden the entrepreneurial mindset of a worrying spouse to reduce conflict and get unstuck (11:43) Is your spouse skeptical of your entrepreneurial adventures? Instead of trying to change them, do this instead and end the fighting (12:07) If you’re feeling disconnected from your spouse, you can do this activity together to bridge the gap and become close again (14:34) Do you need to “burn the ships?” Here’s one way to find out (16:08) The secret to building a successful entrepreneurial partnership with your significant other (22:03) The absolute WORST thing you can do when trying to get your partner involved in your business (23:50) This productivity technique could be the secret to a smoothly running business… and relationship (31:20) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

If you’re like most of us, you’ve probably found yourself stuck in a situation where it seemed like everything you did was for someone else, yet you still felt bad. No matter how hard you tried to take care of your spouse and your kids, things still weren’t working. In this episode, Ray and Christy take a deep dive into how to be selfish (the right way), how to avoid the devastating results of comparison and how to take care of yourself without neglecting the other parts of your life.  Show Highlights Include: How to release the overwhelming feelings of guilt that go along with putting yourself first, and why it is essential for those who rely on you (4:45) Why taking care of external needs leaves you feeling empty and how to make yourself feel whole again (12:53) The 2 essential steps you must take when you start comparing yourself to others to reclaim your own identity (18:22) How the “unsubscribe” approach can help you crush anxiety and focus only on the things that bring you peace of mind (21:00) Why trying to be the “good mom” is actually making you a worse parent… and person (23:24) The simple method for getting anything you want in life, without taking advantage of your partner (31:53) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Do you ever find yourself frustrated or feeling like you’re out of control of your situation? No matter what the circumstances, how you respond to them can make all the difference. In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss the difference between reacting and responding to a situation, as well as techniques for handling difficult people, rebounding from bad decisions, and more.   Show Highlights Include: How knowing the difference between responding and reacting can lift you from failure to success (2:07) Changing this one element of any situation will make you a better entrepreneur, spouse, and parent (6:20) Try this to bounce back quickly from bad choices that leave you angry with yourself (10:30) Take this game-changing approach to any outcome and end frustration for good (16:28) You can focus on this one simple thing to improve every interaction you have with another person (18:03) The mindset shift that helps you avoid a downward spiral in triggering situations (27:07) Stop using these two words right now to immediately begin repairing broken relationships (36:25) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated trying to run a business with your spouse or partner, this episode is for you. Differences in mindset, goals, or financial priorities are just a few of the many hurdles that must be overcome when working together. In this episode, featuring Corey and Shelley Peterson, Ray and Christy dive deep into these issues and many more, providing advice and solutions for creating a stronger business and relationship. Show Highlights Include: The first and most important mindset shift you must make when beginning your entrepreneurial journey (5:00) The secret to working together successfully as a couple (6:30) How to combine your strengths with your partner’s strengths to exponentially multiply your results (16:11) Is it possible to balance two “alpha” personalities in a partnership? It is if you do this (19:37) The importance of knowing when to turn off the business side of your relationship (23:51) The counterintuitive method to stop failing to meet your goals (27:56) How to share difficult things with your partner without hurting their feelings (43:20) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

If you’ve ever been faced with a major life decision, you know how tough it can be to be certain you’re doing the right thing. And when you add another person (or people) to the mix it becomes even more challenging.  In this episode, Ray and Christy share their methods for working together as partners in making major decisions, how to know when your ego is trying to take over, and opening yourself up to signs from the universe. Show Highlights Include: How to determine what is a coincidence and what is a sign from the universe (13:29) This simple test reveals whether your desire for change is coming from your heart or your ego (14:57) The mind-blowingly obvious way you can tell if a decision is right for you (19:58) Stop asking if you “need” to make a change and ask yourself this question instead (22:46) What “flaming rings” can tell you about your decisions… if you pay attention (26:19) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to our website http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Struggling with the swings between emotional highs and lows? Feel like it’s impossible to balance responsibilities with your family and in your business? In today’s episode, Ray and Christy discuss Lifeonaire, an impactful and highly-recommended book, and share some advice on discussing big decisions with your partner, how to find the stable middle ground in difficult emotional times and much more… Show Highlights Include: How to overcome the limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck (14:53) To-do list causing a feeling of dread in the pit of your stomach? Try this list instead to change it to joy (18:12) The surprising link between your energy and your experiences (22:33) This one thing will create more growth and progress in your life than anything else (26:40) The life-changing magic of being selfish with your time(28:17) How to repair the emotional wreckage caused by “fickleness” (32:34) The misunderstood power of slowing down to get more done (38:30) Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to our website to get your free special report on “7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples” and level up your life, business, and relationship.  

You need to give up control to allow co-creation to happen. Are you trying to force things to happen? Struggling to remain in control at all times and feeling like everything is continually out of grasp? We can actually control very little in our lives and that’s why we need to learn to let go. This episode of Both on Board is all about giving up control, meeting God halfway, and allowing things to happen. Highlights From Our Conversation [0:45] Creating vs. making things happen [3:10] Control something vs. allowing [7:45] Control leaves no room for joy [9:00] Always return to a place of joy [16:20] How do you identify where you’re at? [18:15] Learn to operate out of discernment [22:20] What are you attracting, choosing, and creating? You need to align instead of grind If you’re going out and grinding day-in and day-out and trying to will things into existence, you’re operating out of fear. You need to learn to see when you’re forcing things to happen instead of aligning with what is supposed to. The old adage is God’s delays are not God’s denials. But honestly, sometimes God’s delays ARE his denials.  If you’re trying to force into existence something that isn’t meant to be, maybe God IS saying this isn’t for you. As entrepreneurs, we want to control everything. But the truth is we can only control how we react, and the decisions we make.  Giving up control leaves room for joy Operating out of a place of controlling everything means you’re operating out of fear. Out of scarcity. When I was pregnant, I tried to control every little thing. I read books, I did research, I tried to manage everything I ate and did. I found myself constantly frustrated and was driving myself absolutely crazy. It was honestly hard on us both.  I couldn’t control the pregnancy or how things would go. I was struggling and suffering. As Ray likes to put it, I had to shut-up and allow room for grace. I needed to start to focus on what felt good for me, not on what I think I needed to do. The better you feel, the better you show up—and I needed to show up for my baby. So I signed up for a course to teach Yoga. I did something that would bring me joy and started the process of beginning to let go. I wasn’t going to let my desire to control everything steal my joy.  Set up “control” checkpoints So how do you begin to operate in a place of joy, instead of out of fear? We like to start the day off on a high—meditate, do yoga, etc. Do whatever it is that centers you and starts from a place of gratefulness. Then, you set up checkpoints for yourself throughout the day to reflect on your actions and reactions.  Are you acting from a place of stress? Are you making excuses? Are you allowing external circumstances dictate how you feel? If you take a few moments a day to realign yourself you gain perspective. Perspective allows you to align with the co-creator and take aligned action. Do your part. Give 100% of what you have and allow the creator to meet you. Don’t force or dictate what you want to happen.  Learn to operate from a place of discernment Giving up control doesn’t mean you make decisions hastily. But we believe you need to lead with your heart first, then your head. Your head is analytical and leads from a place of fear. Lead with your heart. Check-in with your “gut” feeling. Why do you feel the way you feel? Where is the feeling coming from? Address how you feel, talk about it, confront it, and then make decisions. Find the truth. Co-creating with each other, with God, and with the universe means making a plan—but don’t become attached to the outcome. Be humble and ask for help when necessary. But remember you don’t have to do it all. That’s not how things were meant to be. Listen to the whole episode of Both on Board for our full thoughts on co-creation, giving up control, and living in a place of peace, love, joy, and abundance. Happy New Year! Resources & People Mentioned The Way of Mastery by the Shanti Christo Foundation Money and the Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks Connect With Ramon and Christy Schedule a meeting with us now! www.BothOnBoard.com Both On Board on Instagram: @BothOnBoard Ray’s Instagram - @OfficialRamonGonzalez Christy’s Instagram - @ChristyRisco Facebook - Ramon Gonzalez Facebook - Christy Risco Subscribe to Both on Boardon Apple Podcasts, TuneIn, RadioPublic, Google Podcasts, Spotify