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Today the international players of the BWA crew hit us with some more in-depth thoughts about everyone’s favorite topic....Dat Rona. Then after a trip down a weird rabbit hole of discussions around chest hair and what’s the appropriate level of man hair, the guys kick back up some relationship chat, and Coach Kev hits us with some free game. The question is...are you listening, ready to rock, roll, and be bold without apology? Or are you full of talk, doing the same ol, and full of excuses? We don’t know why most people are great until they have to be great...but we can tell you when the truth hurts, we not afraid to say it! Let’s get it.

Imagine this: You’re single. You want to date but you haven’t had much success in a while. So you decide “I’ll go on this new show where I sit behind a wall and fall in love with a stranger..” Is it possible to truly have a healthy REAL relationship like this? Does the physical matter? Can you fall in love with personality only? Look let’s just get to it....there’s a lot of y’all about love these days. But sit back and listen while we put the REAL in relationship.

This lovely episode is brought to you by the folks at Purell....who knew way back in 1988 that y’all were nasty and weren’t washing your hands! Ok, we aren’t actually sponsored by Purell, but we are sure damn glad we keep that Hand Sanitzer on deck! Especially these days. But when you use hand sanitizer, is it actually effective? Matter of fact, how long are you supposed to wash your hands!? Do you have a sinus infection, or “Dat Rona!?” Sounds like it’s time for a POP QUIZ! After the quiz, kick back and join the conversation as the gents at BWA dig a little deeper into “the desire to want minus the desire to work.” As simple as it sounds, all too often you’ll find people who want the finish line, but don’t want the laps in between start and finish. But WHY? When did we as a society become so spoiled we believed it was okay to get all the honey without getting sting by a worker bee?!?!? Something’s gotta give and the conversation starts here. Let’s get it.

Let’s just cut to the chase....it’s crazy times these days. Da Rona wrecking havoc, the tissue is out in stores, the public is terrified. So what does one do when you got a house full of tissue and you got to self-quarantine for the next two weeks? You chop it up! And that’s exactly what we are doing this episode, trying to figure out exactly where Da Rona originates, how to survive a zombie apocalypse, and if in times of mass chaos can we be the president. And trust me....we might not have THE answer, but there’s definitely AN answer for these questions and so many more. Let’s get it.

Crabs in a bucket Spectator mentality Call it what you want, but just call it like it is....most people take time to minimize, dramatize, and criticize someone else’s journey just because they feel they can. Can we say JUDGMENTAL!? But in today’s episode Coach Kev has had BOUT-ENOUGH-OF-IT. Why? The second you form an opinion about someone else’s journey without truly putting yourself in their full perspective you commit to a couple of fallacies: 1 - you assume every one thinks like you. (Can we just say how egotistical that is) 2 - you kill anyone’s chance to learn and grow (Talk about supportive) 3 - you’re just an asshole. A self-centered, self serving, self focused asshole. You don’t stop to think that critical perspective you have might not be the best way to look at this person’s choices. And yet, here we sit in a society full or rotten tomatoes. The second you make a movie, write a book, post a video, or choose a decision that goes against what someone else believes....you’re instantly outcasted and everything becomes a conflict of “my values are better than yours.” So it’s today that we decree.....fuckth thy haters. You can NOT live your life walking on eggshells hoping you make everybody happy with each choice you have. If that’s the case...you need new friends. Maybe we can be those friends...come join us! As long as you’re willing not to judge us when we are just trying to figure out journey out. Let’s get it.

Calm down. Relax. Chill out. Stop tripping. What’s your problem? What’s the matter? All these phrases are not foreign to any of us. We have all literally heard them in some capacity, either in relationships...friendships...at work...or even just when we are spending time with ourselves. These phrases are actually emotional check ins. They work best when served with a healthy dose of honestly and vulnerability. But that comes from MASTERING emotions. Annnnnnnd that’s where things get messy. Very few of us have a mastery of EMOTIONS. ESPECIALLY MEN. Yeah fellas, I’m talking to you. We have mastered “anger.” Or so we thought. Did you know anger is just the fruit of hurt? So most often in times of intense anger, it roots back to being hurt, upset, disappointed. But how often do we as men huddle up and discuss emotions? Probably as often as NEVER. And we end up jumping into relationships left and right. Relationships...vehicles driven and fueled by emotions. That’s essentially jumping in the cockpit of a jet with zero ability to master the craft, then asking someone “hey how do I fly faster?” You know who do have consistent trainings in emotional mastery? Women. Which is what interesting because most men are quick to label women “emotional,” when in reality they are just not afraid to display a range of emotions. How can you copilot a jet if you don’t bring the same level of mastery as your partner? How can you go from dating, to physical connection, to living together, to engagements then marriage without mastering your emotions...and expecting a smooth landing at each destination? Maybe it’s time as men we start having these convos. And the best place to start is here with the fellas at BWA.

There will be some days you wake up and you feel like the world is against you. You’re in the proverbial dog house and you have NO IDEA what you did. Could it be they just don’t understand you? Could it be they just don’t appreciate you? Could it be they just don’t respect you? Or could it be you? When you focus too much on I and me, you forget there’s a whole reason life is about connection with others as well. (They call that the WE part). "We" allows for you to see your blind spots. "We" allows for you to own up to your mistakes and be held accountable. "We" allows for you to get over your ego. You need "we." But don’t get it twisted. You also need "me." Because there’s also times "we" will have you so burned out from carrying the expectations of everybody else. "We" will have you trying to make everybody happy at the expense of yourself. "We" will have you chasing surface level likes on social media platforms to feel good about fake relationships with people you won’t even speak to in person. Oh we we we..... That’s when Me saves you. Humbles you. Grounds your outside focus to an inner perspective. When done right, you always have a center...a place to return to after a day full or We’s. When done wrong....you litter every conversation with “what about Me’s.” The goal....balance. How? Being bold without apology. So come on. Tune in. Let’s turn them Me’s and We’s to Us. “Unshakably Successful.”

So...pop quiz time! What are some of the origins of Valentines Day? Well, here’s an interesting one: Back in the Roman Empire days, they used to have a festival called Lupercalia in the middle of February to celebrate the beginning of spring time. During this festival, all the boys would draw a name from a box with a girl’s name on it. They’d instantly be dubbed boyfriend and girlfriend and sometimes EVEN GET MARRIED. Talk. About. Pressure. No wonder dudes wait until the last minute to buy Valentine’s Day gifts! Could you imagine the looming pressure of having to show your love on one particular day that feels forced and unnaturally yet if you don’t you’ll be judged. Sounds familiar? There seems to be some disconnect between the expectation of love and the appreciation of love. And it’s this very topic where Coach Kev becomes a loose cannon. If you have sensitive feelings towards being loved on Valentine’s Day...you won’t like what Coach has to say. Not to be outdone with Valentines Day debates...Coach Kev has a message for lazy women in relationships (whom he equates to f**kboys, a group he often tries to Coach from a place of passion). To be clear...Coach Kev is only addressing those women who knowingly and intentionally or even recklessly take for granted their significant other on the basis of expectation. Wait wait wait, don’t give me the side eye, I’m just the messenger. If you want to hear the debate live and in full, go ahead and hit play. We love you.

Two questions: 1) If you fail, is it really failure...or is it success dressed up as adversity? 2) If you don’t love somebody....can you just hang in there and the love will eventually grow, like mushrooms or dewy moss? These are the thoughts of The Chop Up session and WE NEED YOUR HELP. But don’t worry, the podcast was saved by the newly dubbed “Bro Bro”...BWA’s secret weapon in relationship coaching. And no, we aren’t taking about Coach Kev.  

In honor of the legacy of Kobe Bean Bryant, we want you all (including ourselves) to think about your shot clock. In basketball...you only get 24 seconds to make a decision and follow through. Some shots don’t always land. Some games you don’t always win. But no matter the outcome, not making a choice with the time you have will certainly lead to defeat. The same happens in life. You get 24 hrs in a day (if you’re blessed to see the whole day). You decide to spend about 8 hours asleep....now you only have 16. If you work 8....now you’re left with 8 hours to make something of your time. What’s your decision? Waste it on negative people who are fake friends who have selfish motives? Spend it complaining about the SAME thing you complained about last week, last month, and last year? Do you throw it away worrying about what the next man has, so you get so caught up in the rat race of jealousy you don’t appreciate your life? Or do you slow down, look around, and celebrate? Celebrate your real friends while you can? Celebrate your loved ones while they can say they love you back? Celebrate...you? Your clock ticks regardless of how much you “feel like” doing stuff. I suggest you take control of what you can while you still have the chance. Because one day...........it’ll be your last shot. How will they remember you?

The old school will tell you, “if you want to get a date...you gotta go where the dates are.” The new school will tell you, “create a profile on Tinder!” The old school will convince you “don’t move too fast before you get married.” The new school will tell you, “make that thang Facebook official! Like, yesterday!” The old school thinks technology destroys relationships. The new school can’t think of dating without swiping right. Old school: call me on the house phone. New school: Snapchat me that pu...... You get the point. It’s a showdown between generations. But no matter who you are, one thing remains true: if you can’t be yourself, the relationship can’t be itself. So do us a favor: dig deep and lock in on who YOU are. Effectively not emotionally. The effect you have in your relationships won’t always be fueled by emotions, but if you lean on being yourself...it will always be effective.

Apparently Coach Kev was seen in Houston a few days ago driving an Uber on his day off. Sources say he was asked if he “fell off,” and Coach kindly reminded the passengers that he’s just taking care of his responsibilities. Did he really fall off? If a man works a minimum wage job but feeds his family does that make him less of a man? Does Coach Kev listen to Usher’s most famous song while ubering? Was the story even about a Coach Kev...or Yung Joc? If you meet someone in the club, is it going down? Can you truly know when you are 100% ready for marriage? At what point should social media life coaches be careful of the narrative they push to vulnerable people? We got questions...and we are sure y’all have answers! So come join us for the Chop Up Session.... Shoutout to all the Ubers, Lyfts, McDonald’s employees, and anybody else working just to take care of business. This one is for you!

Do you feel love, like a feeling? Or do you DO love, like an action? Does love pay the bills? Does love keep two people together who shouldn’t be together? Does love make coffee taste good? Can you smell love? Why did love cross the road? Would a wood chuck chuck if a would chuck could chuck wood, while in love? If you wanna be her lover, do you first have to be her friend? Did Tekashi snitch on love when he was locked up? Do tea lovers LOVE tea or just love sipping tea? Do you love reading long, random podcast descriptions before just pressing play and enjoying the BWA experience? If you answered yes to that last question, c’mon join the fellas while we chop it up about all things LOVE! Grab your coffee and let’s goooo.  

Great power....great responsibility. We’ve all heard the quote, but how many of us truly realize the amount of responsibility sprinkled throughout our day to day lives? If you’ve got a boss, a job, a significant other, a car, a kid, a friend, a gun, a phone, and damn near anything else....you have some sort of responsibility to mitigate. But that’s exactly it: some of us are more willing to dive head first into positions of responsibilities than others. Whether you’re the president of the free world or the president of the after school glee club, responsibility boils down to leadership and the ability to live with your deductions. While you tune in for this weeks episode...ask yourself if you’re playing small in life to avoid the weight of responsibility, despite the fact that people are counting on your regardless? If you wanna be successful...responsibility will come knocking at your door. Are you bold enough to answer and confident enough to not apologize for making a decision?

Mic check...1, 2, 1, 2....is this thing on? Are y’all ready for another chop up session!!!!? One time long ago, a wise man once said: “Don't judge a man by his car or how much money he has in his bank account. That's a poor way of judging someone. The best way to judge someone's character is by their principles.” It’s interesting these days...people are QUICK to listen or give value to those who have what they want. Power. Money. Fame. Good looks. The picture of success these days tends to be pretty basic. But how often do you see people looking up to someone because of their values? That man with that money...what’s his principle about money? Is he willing to short change his closest friends? Keep tabs on his circle? Hustle his family just to get a buck? That woman with those good looks. What’s her principle about being attractive? Would she leave someone just because they have a dad bod and are soft around the edge? Would she talk shit about her chunky friend, despite that friend having a health issue? All too often, we are quick to look on the surface and fall in love with what we see...but the foundation of everything you look at is built on a principle. While Coach Kev says he tries not to judge another man’s values....he’s made it quite clear: “My principles are non-negotiable. I’m willing to lose friends and make enemies over what I believe.” Are you?  

It’s flu season y’all! And I am willing to bet that you all have been flooded with advice from everybody about flu shots, washing your hands, and a hundred other things to avoid getting sick. Because after all, who enjoys being sick!???? Soooo...why is it when it comes to our emotional health, more specifically our positive and negativity energy, we are so careless. We hang around negative or toxic people, willingly seek out the attention of unhappy people, and set literally NO boundaries to avoid becoming infected. That’s right...”energy is contagious. Someone else’s energy can either affect you or INFECT YOU.” It’s time to take your health serious on all fronts. Because being physically fit doesn’t mean a damn thing if you are sick to the core. You know....like an apple with a worm in it. So let’s shake the parasites in our life and come chop it up with the fellas to get some good energy!

Decisions. Decisions. Decisions. We all have them, but a lot of us (most of us) are afraid to make them. You want to know the scariest part? NOT making a decision is just as much of a decision as going full speed ahead and saying yes. Of course it’s understood...it boils down to fear of failure, fear of making the wrong choice, not having much experience with game time decisions...etc. etc. etc. but regardless, it’s about damn time we ALL stepped up and started owning our decisions. So if you decide to listen to this episode, you’ll also get a chance to rock with us while we ponder the idea of a significant other making food for a coworker. Is she wrong? Is Kyle trying to find a way to eat her.....dessert? Make the right decision and come join us for the chop up session!

No. Nah. Negative. Nope. Uhm hmm. All these count as a solid way to communicate our intentions. But why is it still so hard for us as people to live in our power of No? Is it because we don’t know our no? Is it because we are afraid of disappointing people? Is it because we feel in debt to people (we barely know by the way)? Maybe it’s the fact that we are constantly flooded with everyone else’s expectations, and whenever your truth doesn’t line up with their wants...."no" can cut like a double edged sword. Well on today’s chop up session, it’s time to get to swinging. Maybe you are like many of us who need to cut ties with empty expectations and move back to our power of no. Maybe you have been taught that saying no is “wrong” or that you “have to” oblige people. Whatever it is........NO. NOPE. NEGATIVE. While you listen to this episode, practice your no. That call from that person that irritates you....nope. That text you think you have to respond to....nope. That date you are going on just to be nice. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. You got it? Yup.

Today’s podcast starts off with a bit more grounded conversation around some personal moments in Coach Kev’s life. Between the passing of a family member and witnessing the birth of new life, Kevin comes away with a renewed sense of purpose and perspective. But what about you? Through 100 plus videos, 100 plus podcast episodes, and hours of chop up sessions...Coach Kev wonders if those around him and the few that tune in are truly appreciating their life at the moment? Will it take a death of a loved one to remind you of the blessings? Hopefully not. As we move into the holiday season, this is the chance to truly be thankful....here, now. Fully. Truthfully. Because no matter who you are, we all have our day. So what are YOU doing filling in your life in the dash between life and death? Are you fixating on making money you cant take with you? Are you trying to keep up with friends that don’t like you? Are you holding onto grudges with people who aren’t even thinking about you? Or...are you growing up and seizing the opportunity to live life? Whatever your answer, come tune and get a chop up with the fellas. Don’t worry, all you gotta bring to this table is realness.

This week we're just dropping in to give a quick update on the team and the newest member to the BWA Family! We'll be back next week in full effect with our off the ram topics and juicy questions!