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Become Your Own Best Friend Podcast
33 minutes | a month ago
Ep 42: 8 signs you are a perfectionist
Are you struggling with Perfectionism? In this episode, I talk through 8 signs to be aware of and examples of how they are affecting your life. Brene Brown, who is a shame researcher, describes perfectionism as "the belief that if you look perfect and do everything perfectly, you can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame." If you struggle with people-pleasing and overthinking then this episode is a must! Understanding that perfectionism is simply a set of beliefs and doesn't define who you are completely changed my life! Also, listen to Episode 41: Are you in a Perfectionist Mindset? This will help you understand the Growth Vs Fixed Mindset. Let me know which of the 8 signs affects you the most and what area of your life is it most prominent. Send me a DM @insideouthealthwellness.
32 minutes | 2 months ago
Ep 41: What it means to be in a Perfectionist Mindset
This is a topic very close to my heart! I struggled with this mindset for over 10 years and never really understood what it meant. It has only been in the last few years that I have understood the Growth Vs Fixed Mindset. In this episode, I talk about how the perfectionist mindset keeps you stuck. If you believe your talents and abilities are fixed then this episode is a must! I talk about how it can affect every area of your life - including relationships, exercise, career, and running a business. If you would like to learn more about the Growth Vs Fixed Mindset I highly recommend reading a book call Mindset by Dr. Carol Dweck. If you need help with getting out of the fixed mindset then contact me via email firstname.lastname@example.org and I can show you how your life can dramatically improve! I hope you enjoy this episode :)
36 minutes | 2 months ago
Ep 40: BYOBF is celebrating by going back to where it all began
In this very special episode, I am learning to celebrate the small things and I am encouraging you to do the same! BYOBF is having a makeover! In this episode I talk about why waiting for the perfect time to start something will always keep you stuck. I share my journey on starting this podcast and why I started before I was ready. I also recap on the 1st episode where I talk about Neuro -Linguistic Programming (NLP) and how I use these concepts to help my clients get out of their own way. NLP is like a user's manual for the brain and understanding this is like learning how to become fluent in the language of your mind so that your subconscious mind will finally understand what you actually want out of life. I hope you enjoy this episode :) I would love to hear from you on what you found most helpful, send me a DM @insideouthealthwellness
22 minutes | 2 months ago
Ep 39: Are you feeling guilty for how you feel?
We have all been there! Feeling guilty for resting, eating something we shouldn't, missing a gym session, leaving the kids.. the list is endless! The definition of guilty is culpable of or responsible for specified wrongdoing. No wonder we feel bad about ourselves! Feeling guilty is not a nice feeling, so why do we do it to ourselves? Tune in to this episode where I talk about how to feel your feelings properly, without the guilt! How would your life improve if you no longer felt guilty for the everyday things you do? I hope you enjoy this episode :)
23 minutes | 2 months ago
3 reasons why you have been struggling to change or remove habits permanently
There is so much more t changing a habit than waking on one day and deciding that you have had enough. It's certainly a great starting point though :) One of the biggest reasons why we struggle to make changes is we are doing it backward. We think that simply deciding to take action that it's going to work. Then we get disappointed in ourselves for not maintaining. I talk about the 3 requisites for change that you must do if you want to create or remove a habit permanently. The first one is the most important one! Tune in to hear why. Have you also been making this mistake? Episodes I recommend listening to if you haven't already: - Episode 16: What do you need to let go of? - Episode 19: Are your emotions controlling you? - Episode 24: Empowering Vs Disempowering Beliefs - Episode 26: Are you in a game of tug of war with your mind? I have 5 remaining places for my coaching program in 2020. If you would like to be one of them please send me an email email@example.com a DM @insideouthealthwellness
21 minutes | 3 months ago
Ep 37: Why you must listen to your body!
Welcome to another episode of the BYOBF podcast:) Today I am sharing a recent experience I had where I didn't listen to my body. Two concepts I talk about are: 1. Overindulging and not being consciously aware. 2. Feeling guilt/shame and beating yourself up over what you should be doing. Listen to the following episodes to help with this content: Episode 30: How to get out of a downward spiral of negative emotions. Episode 33: The mindset behind why you emotionally eat If you feel like your body is trying to tell you something but instead, you are beating yourself up then make sure you tune into this episode! Send me a DM @insideouthealthwellness, I would love to hear from you!
28 minutes | 3 months ago
Ep 36: 4 ways to practice Self Compassion in everyday life
Are you kind to other people and not returning the favour to yourself? This episode is all about helping you to create more self-compassion in your life. It's hard to do unless you are aware of what's going on. One thing to note is when we begin to practice loving-kindness and self-compassion, sometimes, it's really painful because we are so used to being critical of ourselves and hard with ourselves that we don't even want to allow that love in. It's about pausing and beginning to see ourselves exactly as we are and not get caught up in our strengths and weaknesses. I hope you find this episode helpful. I would love to know which of the 4 tips help you the most. Send me a DM on IG @insideouthealthwellness.
25 minutes | 3 months ago
Ep 35: Do you feel good enough?
We all have the same fear, that deep down we aren't good enough. Now, this isn't true of course. It's a story we tell ourselves. We were born good enough, we didn't have to do anything when we were a baby. Somewhere along the line, something happened in our lives that created a story of not being good enough. As we get older this can manifest into something bigger and we end up self-sabotaging. Here are some questions to ask yourself: Are you confident in your body? Are you confident in yourself? Are you truly able to be who you desire without judgment or comparison? If you answered no to any of these questions, please give this episode a listen. The emotional state around how we feel in our body plays a huge role in what we eat and how we approach exercise. Things can be different, it all starts with awareness. Screenshot this episode and tag me on IG @insideouthealthwellness or send me an email firstname.lastname@example.org I love forward to hearing from you :)
25 minutes | 4 months ago
Ep 34: How your perception of a situation is limited
Our brains have 2 million bits of information coming in every sec. What an overwhelming thought! Imagine if you took on board all of those thoughts, you would be exhausted! In order to filter through the information, your brain will Generalize, Delete, and Distort. This explains why you and someone else can have the exact same experience yet have totally different thoughts about it. And that is why you cannot always believe your thoughts. I help my clients challenge their negative thoughts through an NLP model called the Meta Model. In this episode, I explain real-life examples where your brain is distorting, deleting, and generalizing information. Once you understand how your thoughts are affecting your reality you can start to make a change. Awareness is the first step! When you take a step back you can regain a sense of control over your own life. I hope you enjoy this episode:) You can connect with me on IG @insideouthealthwellness
31 minutes | 4 months ago
Ep 33: The mindset behind why you emotionally eat
Do you feel guilty after you eat something you know you "shouldn't"? Everyone has a reason why they do certain things, it's not that you don't know what to eat. You know what is good for your body, so this episode is not about giving advice on sugar cravings. This is about learning the REAL reason behind why you are craving certain foods/drinks? If you struggle with the guilt/shame cycle around eating then this episode is for you. I would love to connect with you. Send me a DM @insideouthealthwellness or take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in it.
22 minutes | 4 months ago
Ep 32: The real reason why you are exhausted
Do you feel like you are running on adrenaline? Is your mind always working on overtime with worrying about the future? Do you often pretend to be ok when you are not? After years of living life in survival mode, you are exhausted! If you have answered yes to any of these questions tune into this episode where I talk about physical and emotional stress which is leading to exhaustion. I will also give you specific tips on how to fill up your physical and emotional energy tanks. Send me a DM on IG @insideouthealthwellness if you would like to book in a free mindset consultation. I would love to hear from you.
27 minutes | 4 months ago
Ep 31: The real reason why change is so hard and what you must do!
Do you get tempted every Monday, or the 1st day of a new month or new year thinking it will be different this time? And then a few days or weeks go past and you end up returning to old habits. I have good news; it's not you, its your brain! Even better news is that you can overcome this tendency to return to old habits. In this episode I talk about confirmation bias, which is our natural tendency to seek information in line with currently held knowledge or a belief. What are the beliefs holding you back? Previous episodes I mention to listen to: Episode 14 - How to follow through with goals and New Years Resolutions Episode 15 - 3 ways to train your brain to help you stick to habits I hope you enjoy this episode.
24 minutes | 5 months ago
Ep 30: 3 things you must do to help get yourself out of a downward spiral of emotions
Are you feeling guilty for feeling negative emotions because your situation "isn't that bad?" Our emotions are feelings and our way of knowing that something feels comfortable or uncomfortable for us. If you find yourself judging why you are feeling and certain way then this episode is a must. I talk about how a downward spiral of emotions goes from boredom and irritation to guilt and feeling powerless. In this episode I gave you 3 things to try when you feel like you are in a downward spiral.
20 minutes | 5 months ago
Ep 29: Do you fear you will make the wrong decision?
Do you avoid making decisions because the thought of making the wrong decision is crippling? "Successful people make decisions quickly and change them slowly. Unsuccessful people make decisions slowly and change them quickly." Napoleon Hill Do you take a long time to make a decision because you are spending so long over analysing and overthinking? All you can do is make the best decisions you can with the information you have available at the time. Tune into this episode where I talk about how being indecisive is protecting you from discomfort and how to overcome it!
28 minutes | 5 months ago
Ep 28: How to Develop Self Trust
You are the kind of person who can trust yourself. You are the kind of person who follows through with your plans. How does it feel to say those statements out loud? If you're like me you didn't even realise that your self trust was being broken every time you missed an exercise session or you had in your calendar to complete something and you ignored it. Trusting yourself and your decisions is the key to success in life, because when you trust yourself you are listening to your unconscious, which is always protecting you. Tune into this episode where I talk about the ways that helped me develop Self Trust.
18 minutes | 5 months ago
Ep 27: What is your response to perceived threats?
What does your mind do when it perceives danger/threats Vs when there is an actual threat? Did you know that you mind cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is perceived? No matter the situation, whether you are interpreting something as a danger or there is actually one, your mind will still go into a Fight or Flight Response. Our emotions and beliefs will determine how we respond to events and people, and whether we feel safe or threatened. Tune into this episode where I talk about situations where you might perceive a threat based on an internal insecurity. The following episodes are helpful in understanding some of the content I mention: - Episode 19 (out of proportion emotions) - Episode 21 (our values and beliefs) - Episode 23 (comfort zone)
18 minutes | 6 months ago
Ep 26: Are you in a game of tug of war with your mind?
Do you ever feel like you are playing tug of war with our own mind? Constantly going back and forth on decisions, or worse, sitting on the fence? This is known as internal conflicts. If you are in two minds or sitting on the fence about what you want and not fully committing to either one, you will never fully achieve either one. Listen to this episode to discover common signs of potential inner conflict and what to do about it.
20 minutes | 6 months ago
Ep 25: Should you listen to other people's advice?
In today's episode we are talking all things advice! When should you give it and when should you ask for it? We are always so willing to give advice to other people but when do we really stop and listen to our own advice? I talk about some examples of when client's actually achieved better results with typical health and fitness advice. Tune in to find out the best way to handle a friend/colleague/family member when they are wanting advice.
26 minutes | 6 months ago
Ep 24: Empowering Vs Dis Empowering Beliefs
What are beliefs? They are what we wholeheartedly believe; what we know to be true about ourselves, our self image, our abilities, other people, and the world around us. Why is it important that we pay attention to our beliefs? Well beliefs determine our reality. Whatever we believe, whether positive or negative, becomes real, because it affects our thoughts, feelings, and behaviour, and how we respond to people and situations. Tune into this this episode to learn how to change negative beliefs into empowering ones! That way you can be, do and have whatever you want. The only limit is your mind!
23 minutes | 6 months ago
Ep 23: Are you trapped in your comfort zone?
I'm sure you have heard the term "comfort zone" before. You know, if you go outside of it that's where all of the magic happens. But what if you don't know you are stuck? What if you don't want to go outside? In this episode I talk on the mindset around being trapped in your comfort zone. We are creatures of habit after all! If you have dreams, and your fears and self-doubts prevent you from taking action towards them then this episode is for you! Send me a DM @insideouthealthwellness for any questions!
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