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This week, Kate talks about Madi Prew & her husband’s purity culture-tastic video, then she feels the need to snorkel her issues with golf culture, talks about her affinity for “Dad Stuff,” then, she needs a pal to chat with so Kelly dials in, and they discuss taking on snow sports in your 30s, lift ticket couture, California culture, some more thoughts on Spare (e.g. lip gloss and Easter presents), school fundraisers with prizes like limo rides to a Pizza Hut (!!), the joy of a woman’s right to choose at a Panera with You Pick Two, among other things. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: Just go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. That’s Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE. Don’t forget to use our link, so they know we sent you. Get glasses that stay as fresh as your unique style with Pair. Go to paireyewear.com/BETHEREINFIVE for 15% off your first purchase. Great news—Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today. Go to Zocdoc.com/BETHEREINFIVE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.

This week, Kate’s snorkeling (AKA mini deep dives) the week’s pressing pop culture topics, according to her IG Q&A box that keeps her in the know while she’s still slightly off the grid, like discussing the economics and backlash associated with the Tarte Dubai Influencer trip, the continued skyrocketing of Alix Earle (and else what’s on Kate’s FYP, like scar girl?). She talks about the rumors surrounding Miley Cyrus’ new song Flowers and the barrage of super-specific rumors that came out about her and Liam Hemsworth’s relationship out of nowhere. She also goes into a quick rant about Girl Scout cookies, talks TS Eras tour setlist chatter, followed by her formal compilation of every season, month, and aspect of creation that Taylor Swift has successfully co-opted  with lyrics, forever making people think an album is dropping when she or Taylor Nation are existing and/or run-of-the-mill tweeting, while we’re perennially promoting and speculating over nothing. The last hour, because everyone’s totally not burnt out of this topic by now, Kate shares her core takeaways she believes are in need of more airtime from Prince Harry’s memoir, Spare, e.g. the EASTER PRESENTS of it all (???), the love story that reads as Lonestar’s “Amazed,” the whiplash in the descriptions of Kate, and the irritating times Harry forgoes details that are like, the only times she wanted more details. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Get the New Year bundle for free plus $10 off when you sign up today. That’s a 14 oz pork tenderloin, 2 lbs of ground turkey, and 4 top sirloin steaks free in your first box. Sign up at ButcherBox.com/BETHEREINFIVE and use code BETHEREINFIVE to claim this offer! Find your forever pieces @jennikayne and get 15% off with promo code BETHEREINFIVE at jennikayne.com/BETHEREINFIVE! #jennikaynepartner Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk nationwide at Costco or you can get 20% off when you go to LIQUIDIV.COM and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. That’s 20% off ANYTHING you order when you shop better hydration today using promo code BETHEREINFIVE at LIQUIDIV.COM. We worked out a special deal for our dog-loving listeners. Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BETHEREINFIVE or use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Upgrade your pup to Sundays and feel good about the food you feed your dog.

This week, Kate is solo (and has the plague!) as we kick off 2023 with a Katelilah episode where she answers listener voicemails and is thrilled to have someone to talk to in isolation. Topics include discussing the trend of having style “words,” personal style evolution, the Tiktok trend of dressing your mom, top internet sleuthing tips, Kate’s thoughts about internet detectives going too far, the evolution of celeb paparazzi shots, Taylor Swift being driven by accolades/success metrics and guessing her Enneagram, some thoughts on how vanity metrics drive people in general after we no longer have grades for institutional validation, she also talks about “nice guy” syndrome in response to a listener being treated transactionally on a date, among other things. Enjoy and Happy New Year! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Helix is offering up to 200 dollars off all mattress orders AND two free pillows for our listeners! Go to HelixSleep.com/bethereinfive. With Helix, better sleep starts now. Right now, Hungryroot is offering Be There In Five listeners 30% off your first delivery and free veggies for life. Just go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies.  Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code BETHEREINFIVE at OSEAMalibu.com. You’ll get free samples with every order, and free shipping on orders over $50. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.

This week, Kate has Carmen James (@thegoodcarmablog) on the podcast to talk about the 6-part reality docu-series Harry & Meghan. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Let Audible help you discover new ways to laugh, be inspired, or be entertained. New members can try it free for 30 days. Visit Audible.com/bethereinfive or text bethereinfive to 500-500.  For a gift that will impress, check out OSEA’s Bestseller Minis Collection. Right now our listeners get 10% off your first order with promo code BETHEREINFIVE at OSEAMalibu.com. You’ll even get free samples with every order, and orders over $50 get free shipping. Experiment with who you can be in 2023 with Pair. Go to paireyewear.com/BETHEREINFIVE for 15% off your first purchase. Go to Zocdoc.com/BETHEREINFIVE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then start your search for a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.

This week, Kate goes back to the beginning. Back to where (the earth, the stars, the sun all aligned, yes) but also back to the beginning of her fascination with southern California beach culture, thanks to 2004's groundbreaking reality show, Laguna Beach: The Real Orange County. Due to Kristin & Stephen's podcast, the show is experiencing somewhat of a renaissance, and in case you’re adding this to your holiday binge watch schedule, Kate wanted to also revisit the days of side bangs, black and white party group hangs, promposals, and jean skirt/Ugg combos now that this footage is available at our disposal on Netflix. After reminiscing about some of her takeaways upon rewatching episodes, Kate interviews former cast member that was labeled as Stephen's (but more appropriately was America's) "wingman" Dieter Schmitz to talk about seasons 1 & 2. She asks burning questions, e.g. what is his current relationship with feta cheese? Who is he still friends with? When did he feel production went over the line? How does he feel about being a supporting character who was almost in every episode? Were people as hammered as they looked at Fight the Slide 2005? Among other things. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS ButcherBox is offering our listeners Tomahawk steaks FREE in the first box when you join.​ Sign up today at butcherbox.com/BETHEREINFIVE and get Free Tomahawk steak in your first box. Offer valid for one week ONLY.​ Get 20% off when you shop better hydration at LIQUIDIV.COM and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Be the Good Gifter with MVMT. During their Seasonal Sale, get a special discount just in time for the holidays. Join the MVMT today at MVMT.com Sign up for a FREE trial at shopify.com/bethereinfive, ALL LOWERCASE to start selling online today.

This week, Kate starts with a high level first impression of the Harry & Meghan documentary (she’ll cover in full once all eps come out), then she is joined by Caroline Moss (from Gee Thanks Just Bought It) to talk all the hottest trends in pop culture and gift guides. Instead, they get distracted and mostly talk about nothing current and hyper focus on the culture of hand towels and merch in lakefront towns and how the wordplay transcends any and all human reasoning, to the point where Kate laughed so hard she can’t breathe, but maybe that’s because she’s been wearing her new vest too much. They discuss things like people who sign Facebook walls on birthdays, school dance attire, people who catalog Lululemon tags, whataboutism at Christmastime, Kate attempts to pathologize our interest in Alix Earle on Tiktok, then they talk about the culture of Maxine greeting cards and curmudgeon nuns, Christmas gift pop up shops in public schools, the hottest outfits for grades 4-6, and the rest of the episode and gift guide piece will be up on Patreon.com/bethereinfive as a bonus when Kate gets back the audio she had to have professionally edited after shrieking into the mic. Enjoy and follow @geethanksjustboughtit for gift ideas! Allform is offering twenty percent off all orders for our listeners at Allform.com/bethereinfive. Step up your sofa game today. Helix is offering up to 200 dollars off all mattress orders AND two free pillows for our listeners! Go to HelixSleep.com/bethereinfive. With Helix, better sleep starts now. Head to bookofthemonth.com to check out Book of The Month and use code BETHEREINFIVE to get your first book for $5! Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off your first three months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE and turn healthy habits into a Ritual.

This week, Kate has on a special guest that you may have known from the world of bridal design, but given an ongoing legal battle with her former employer, she can no longer publicly identify with her given name and was reintroduced to the world as Cheval in August 2022 (and her namesake line of glam footwear @sheischeval was introduced in October 2022).  As the friendly designer and "America’s bridesmaid" on TLC’s, “Say Yes to the Dress,” she brought over 10 bridal product lines to market, dressed noteworthy female icons like Dove Cameron, Chrissy Teigen, and Carrie Underwood, and became one of the most sought-after luxury bridal designers in the world (VOGUE’S TOP TEN). After 9 years of working under a very one-sided employment contract, her former employer sued her in federal court and gained control of what she believed were her personal social media accounts. She resigned in December 2020 and under the current preliminary injunction, she is prevented from using her own birth name in any business or commerce or even to publicly identify herself. She is also not receiving commission for her designs that are still being sold, and she is restricted from identifying herself as a designer to the trade in which her former employer competes until August of 2027. The public support has inspired her next mission in launching a 501 (c) (3) nonprofit foundation that provides resources to better protect the interests of young women and creatives during the formative years of their career. She is currently writing a memoir and rebranding under SHE IS CHEVAL. SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Find your forever pieces at jennikayne.com. And get 15% off your first order when you use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Head to bookofthemonth.com to check out their book picks and use BETHEREINFIVE to get your first book for $5. Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to Prose.com/bethereinfive. To get 15% off your next gift, go to UNCOMMONGOODS.com/BETHEREINFIVE. Don’t miss out on this limited time offer! Uncommon Goods. We’re all out of the ordinary.

This week, Kate reads crowd-sourced stories about holiday hometown romantic rendezvous from BTI5 listeners. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Let Audible help you discover new ways to laugh, be inspired, or be entertained. New members can try it free for 30 days. Visit Audible.com/bethereinfive or text bethereinfive to 500-500 to try Audible free for 30 days. For a gift that will impress, check out OSEA’s Bestseller Minis Collection. Right now our listeners get 10% off your first order with promo code BETHEREINFIVE at OSEAMalibu.com. You’ll even get free samples with every order, and orders over $50 get free shipping. This holiday season, celebrate changing things up whenever you feel like it—with Pair. For a limited time, shop Pair’s holiday sale for 20% off. It’s their biggest sale of the year! Just go to paireyewear.com for 20% off Build your fall wardrobe from the ground up. Visit marcfisherfootwear.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE to receive 20% off your entire purchase, valid until 12/31/22 To get 15% off your next gift, go to UNCOMMONGOODS.com/BETHEREINFIVE. That’s UNCOMMON GOODS dot com slash BETHEREINFIVE, for 15% off!

A Be There in Five Special Report that was recorded uncharacteristically quickly. Details the Ticketmastermind fall out with fans where both Ticketmaster & TaylorNation (allegedly?) poorly planned and forecasted against consumer demand paired with their mutual intentional profit maximizing strategies that instead of dancing in the pit, left us with a pit in our stomach for overpaying because we were underprepared with details TN could have easily released regarding pricing, setup, tiers, VIP perks, etc., or a pit in our stomach for spending multiple days trying to get a seat, only to feel like she took our hand and dragged us head-first, ticketless. This episode may have a poor shelf life; only contains info that Kate was able to find prior to 6 PM on 11/17 and is full of poor mental math and opinions not facts. Enjoy? SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Allform is offering twenty percent off all orders for our listeners at Allform.com/bethereinfive. Step up your sofa game today. Sign up today at butcherbox.com/BETHEREINFIVE and use code BETHEREINFIVE.​ That’s free ribeyes for a year plus $10 off at butcherbox.com/BETHEREINFIVE with code BETHEREINFIVE. Sign up for a FREE trial at SHOPIFY.COM/bethereinfive, ALL LOWERCASE, and start selling online today. Go to Zocdoc.com/BETHEREINFIVE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.

This week, Kate and her sister maintain tradition and review the recent Love is Blind Prom, I mean reunion, but first go over their week in California, Kelly’s fav on Midnights, the Jen Aniston article, review a celeb sighting involved their favorite plane movie, among other random topics. Then they get into the Love is Blind couples, along with a few side convos, like comparing/contrasting to Married at First Sight. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Get started today—frame your photos or give someone the perfect gift. Go to Framebridge.com and place your order today. Helix is offering up to 200 dollars off all mattress orders AND two free pillows for our listeners! Go to HelixSleep.com/bethereinfive. With Helix, better sleep starts now. Right now, Hungryroot is offering Be There In Five listeners 30% off your first delivery and free veggies for life. Just go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk nationwide at Costco or get 20% off when you shop better hydration at LIQUIDIV.COM and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. During their Black Friday Seasonal Sale, get a special discount of 25% off sitewide with code BF25 just in time for the holidays. Join the MVMT today at MVMT.com. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off your first three months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE and turn healthy habits into a Ritual.

This week, Kate provides very Maroon-forward programming with her high-level review of Taylor Swift’s 10th album Midnights (it's totally different from Patreon reaction videos, btw). Now that we’ve had a couple of weeks to let it sink in that karma is a cat, Kate discusses her streams and skips, bread and butter songs versus jams, muses about parallels between sister tracks, goes more in-depth into a handful of songs she’s still analyzing, and also talks about ancillary topics from the past 2 weeks she hasn’t covered, e.g., Anti-hero controversy, Eras tour announcement, Bejeweled video, etc. The last half hour is a semi-intense review of Would've, Could've, Should've from the lens of predatory age gaps, the fetishization of youth, and the implications of young women's virtues communicated as their value, so just a head's up to skip that part if you don't want to be dragged through Kate's confusing thoughts about her past physical interactions that she would've, could've should've probably spared you of. Long story short, it was a great time. Nothing and everything good happens after Midnights. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Find your forever pieces at jennikayne.com. And get 15% off your first order when you use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout Check out OSEA’s Bestseller Minis Collection. Right now our listeners get 10% off your first order with promo code BETHEREINFIVE at OSEAMalibu.com. You’ll even get free samples with every order, and orders over $50 get free shipping For 20% off your Kindbody at-home fertility test, go to shop.kindbody.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Use this link for $100 off New Patient Assessments (not Pulse), $200 off IUI and $1000 off Egg Freezing or IVF Cycle Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to Prose.com/bethereinfive To get 15% off your next gift, go to UNCOMMONGOODS.com/BETHEREINFIVE. Don’t miss out on this limited time offer! Uncommon Goods. We’re all out of the ordinary

This week, we have a BTI5 book club and Kate interviews friend of the pod (and more importantly, best selling author and host of hit podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking) Nora McInerny about her new essay book Bad Vibes Only. In this episode, they discuss the confusing nature of knowing aging is a privilege but not wanting to look it, the fallacy of elegance, Millennial work ethic, reflecting on disordered eating patterns, the art of the tendril/skank bang, why she opened with a TS quote from "Mirrorball," among other musings from this brilliant collection that invites you to exist in a state of both existential and surface-level wonder without the pressure to self-improve or find resolve in a post #girlboss America. Enjoy! Buy Bad Vibes Only here, book tour tickets here and hope you enjoy the episode! Allform is offering twenty percent off all orders for our listeners at Allform.com/bethereinfive. Step up your sofa game today. Right now, Hungryroot is offering Be There In Five listeners 30% off your first delivery and free veggies for life. Just go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. That’s Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE. Don’t forget to use our link, so they know we sent you. Get 15% off when you go to LIQUIDIV.COM and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. That’s 15% off ANYTHING you order when you shop better hydration today using promo code BETHEREINFIVE at LIQUIDIV.COM. Get glasses as ever-changing as you are, with Pair. Go to paireyewear.com/BETHEREINFIVE for 15% off your first purchase.  For 20% off your Kindbody at-home fertility test, go to shop.kindbody.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Use this link for $100 off New Patient Assessments (not Pulse), and $1000 off cycles at Kindbody clinics!

This week, Kate follows up on some of the themes from last week about the lore and cultural significance of pageantry by bringing on a former pageant contestant & PR insider (and Beth!) named Cori Wallace, who chats with her about a variety of topics that extend beyond the scope of last week’s drama to meander through pageants being both a reflection (and regression) of elements of modern womanhood. From more granular details like what it costs and how people win, to the mental health implications of striving for impossible standards, the ethical grey area of sponsorship cross-pollination, and coaches being pageant producers. They also share some of their own vulnerabilities for chasing validation based off of a reduced version of themselves and wonder if they ever really stopped. All in all, it's like a fireside chat between friends trying to wind through a topic they feel two ways about thoughtfully. First, however, Kate does review some of the judging criteria she forgot to go over last week, but mostly just obsesses over which part of her body is her ‘carriage.'. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS ButcherBox is offering our listeners Free Turkey with their first order. Sign up today at butcherbox.com/BETHEREINFIVE and use code BETHEREINFIVE to get one 10 to 14 pound Turkey FREE in your first box. ​ Frame your photos or send someone the perfect gift today at Framebridge.com promo code BTIF for 15% off Sign up for a FREE trial at SHOPIFY.COM/bethereinfive, to start selling online today. To get 15% off your next gift, go to UNCOMMONGOODS.com/BETHEREINFIVE. Don’t miss out on this limited time offer! Uncommon Goods. We’re all out of the ordinary.

A deep dive Kate put together last minute about the controversy surrounding the Miss USA pageant late last week when contestants claimed the pageant was "rigged" and/or a product of overt favoritism toward Miss Texas. Insisting she was mostly disinterested, Kate dipped her toe in, then managed to spend the whole weekend researching history, and lore, thinking about her own memories watching, all while developing an incredibly lukewarm take on a topic she knows very little about and isn't totally sure if she should support. Kate recalls covering the following: A breakdown of the Miss USA drama An appropriate reading from pop culture scripture: Chapter: Miss SC, Verse 2007 Kate asks questions about the ethics of favoritism, while clearly implying favoritism almost the entire episode Tugboat eats a cup of Ranch by accident Research about the historical context of women’s exploitation for sport that she kind of hates but would’ve wholeheartedly done for validation An overview of the history of pageants in the U.S. and all the many ways we never stood a chance Greg interrupts for more IVF shots, Kate gets in bad mood Then maybe blames Molly McIntyre’s performance in the only pageant that matters (Miss Victory) for the downfall of women Somehow Pretty Pretty Princess gets dragged into it There’s still some leftover anger toward children doing a little too much food prep under age 3 on Tiktok Various catchphrases for influencer pipelines that are the hottest launchpads to stardom Kate imagines (hallucinates?) a Jovani insurrection if the Miss USA vote was stolen And so much more! Fortunately, a much more informative second episode featuring an interview with an incredible BTI5 listener/former pageant participant/former employee (Cori Wallace) in the corporate pageant system will be released in the coming days, likely early released on Patreon, this was a last-minute topic choice so thanks for your patience as we align it with the broadcast calendar! patreon.com/bethereinfive SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Helix is offering up to 200 dollars off all mattress orders AND two free pillows for our listeners! Go to HelixSleep.com/bethereinfive. With Helix, better sleep starts now If you want to elevate your look with style that doesn’t break the bank, then-join the MVMT and get 15% off today — with FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS — by going to MVMT.COM/BETHEREINFIVE Build your fall wardrobe from the ground up. Visit marcfisherfootwear.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE to receive 20% off your entire purchase, valid until 12/31/22 Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off your first three months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE and turn healthy habits into a Ritual

This week, Kate answers three questions and made it into one episode after having an epiphany about 3-in-1 products and their correlation to the patriarchy, consumerism, and religion in line at a Walgreens (where she has all her best thoughts). This turducken of an episode snorkels the irony of the Dove Campaign for Real Beauty being executed alongside Axe Body Spray’s incredibly sexist mid-aughts advertising and details some thoughts on her own struggles with body image over the past year that she was surprised came back up to the surface (TW: diets, EDs). Then, she does a mini deep dive of the D.A.R.E. program, including “Cartoon All-Stars,” the Real Housewives Ultimate Girls Trip of cartoons and cereal box characters who didn’t want you to smoke dope, discusses the program’s efficacy, then answers a listener’s astute question about the role of “Just Say No” culture contributing to the boundary setting many of our elders find undesirable. Kate also discusses some nuances that may exist between Boomers and Millennials as it relates to employment, the pendulum swinging from purpose-driven employment back to not needing to find identity in employment, and how it should be okay to meet (not *exceed* your employer’s expectations). Then, she goes through a lot of different topics upon being prompted about musical/lyrical pet peeves, from the Pitbull Kodak/Kodak paradigm to her FYP that’s fully comprised of Gaylor Swift theories, to a controversial “Hey Soul Sister” roast that may just leave a stain on the front lobe of your left side brain. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Right now, Hungryroot is offering Be There In Five listeners 30% off your first delivery and free veggies for life. Just go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. That’s Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE. Get glasses as ever-changing as you are, with Pair. Go to paireyewear.com/BETHEREINFIVE for 15% off your first purchase. For 20% off your Kindbody at-home fertility test, go to shop.kindbody.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. https://bit.ly/btifkindbody Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to Prose.com/bethereinfive.

This week, Kate attempts to reclaim the nostalgic magic of fall by detailing her feelings about dystopian Instagram-backdrop businesses and resurrects the fauxliage phenomenon to chat about manufactured coziness and the art of photo taking. She then reminisces about some of her back to school and fall-related longings, like the lore of school supply shopping, how not all spiral notebook manufacturers are created equal, the scholastic book fair, among other things. She discusses her theory about misplaced disdain for early spirited fall decor and PSLs and hypothesizes Millennials’ obsession with cosplaying the coziness of yesteryear and perhaps we’re chasing a time when the seasons were valued for their beauty and not resented for their role in the passage of time. She then answers listener voicemails about sexist college theme parties, talks about when she met her husband at some point, discusses Trisha Paytas naming her kid Malibu Barbie (??) and her issues with modern naming conventions, does some royals & QEII coverage and the misinformation of Nostradamus’ predictions, only to be too long-winded (as usual) and need to go into a part 2 bc of all the great questions this week. Enjoy and call Kate-lilah if you ever have a question or comment (312) 379-9676 SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Get 2 lbs of free-range, organic chicken breasts for free in every order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/BETHEREINFIVE and use code BETHEREINFIVE.Visit OliveandJune.com/BTIF for 20% off your first Mani System! Find your new skincare and body care favorites at OSEAMalibu.com, and get a special discount just for our listeners. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with promo code BETHEREINFIVE. You’ll get free samples with every order, and orders over $50 get free shipping. You’re going to want it all!Get ahead of the holiday chaos this year. Get started with Stamps.com today. Sign up with promo code BETHEREINFIVE for a special offer that includes a 4-week trial, plus free postage and a free digital scale. No long-term commitments or contracts. Just go to Stamps.com, click the microphone at the top of the page, and enter code BETHEREINFIVE.

This week, Kate updates you on the first half of the IVF/egg retrieval process and, in the second half, is fortunate enough to ask Kindbody co-founder Dr. Fahimeh Sasan about your questions regarding egg freezing/embryos/IVF because Kate wished she knew these things but was (and still is honestly) a person who isn’t super into kid-related content. But for those of you that identified with Childless Millennial in 2020, this is kind of an update, where she summarizes how she got here, how she used to feel, the core drivers in changing her mind, her experience with TTC and loss, and what the outcome was of the first embryo retrieval and why she’ll likely do a second. Some of it you've heard before (if you don't want to hear updated thoughts, go to the second hour) but wanted to have one megasode to serve as a one-stop-shop of all that's happened where she's crying considerably less than when she explained it in real-time. Sorry for the departure from fun pop culture or lifestyle stuff, but she dragged you into this mess two years ago and will update you as she navigates what turned out to be a very not straightforward path to motherhood, if anything, so those of you like her, existing amongst a minefield of other people’s best-case scenarios at all times, feel a little less crazy. Enjoy? SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS For 20% off your Kindbody at-home fertility test, go to shop.kindbody.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Check out Kate's IG highlights for how this code works for some in-office visits too - $1000 off IVF, $100 off assessments, $200 off IUI - https://bit.ly/btifkindbody Allform is offering twenty percent off all orders for our listeners at Allform.com/bethereinfive. Step up your sofa game today. Build your fall wardrobe from the ground up. Visit marcfisherfootwear.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE to receive 20% off your entire purchase, valid until 12/31/22 Go to Zocdoc.com/BETHEREINFIVE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then start your search for a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.

This week, Kate has 3 of her friends from college on the podcast following a pilgrimage to the Shania Twain residency to talk about the things that don’t impress them much about Vegas (and all the ways Vegas is no longer impressed with them). Following their trips to Vegas at ages 25 and 30 (now here for Kate’s 35th birthday), they’ve noticed some subtle changes from their party girl days, e.g., getting rejected from a day club for having a breast pump and Kate being checked in to the hotel alongside rogue fertility advice. They discuss their weekend mishaps in restaurants, hotels, and spas, discuss the Shania concert, and then honestly review some overrated hotspots on the strip. Then, they reminisce about things like sorority trauma bonding, Kate & Jasmine’s early rivalry formed at Yearbook camp, and getting sued for downloading Aladdin on Limewire, among other memories, then finish with crowd-sourced listener “don’t impress me” moments. Enjoy!
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Kate shares her hopes & dreams for TS10: Midnights following Taylor Swift's announcement last Sunday. This episode was released early last week on Patreon but Kate added some of her updated thoughts to the beginning (plus some thoughts about the show The Rehearsal she spent the weekend watching). This episode discusses Kate's shock in watching the VMAs (and the Yung Gravy/Sheri Nicole of it all), her thoughts on if Midnights could've been a sister album to Daylight/Lover, explores the Stevie Nicks parallel Kate cut out from her Red (TV) deep dive, and verbosely explores the concept of Midnight, something Kate feels strongly about both literally and concerning the album. It's been about (TS)10 months since we've done a full T. Swift episode, so she figured it was time. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Get 2 lbs of free-range, organic chicken breasts for free in every order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/BETHEREINFIVE Find your forever pieces at jennikayne.com. And get 15% off your first order when you use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout Visit OliveandJune.com/BTIF for 20% off your first Mani System! Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to Prose.com/bethereinfive

This week, Kate starts by sharing her thoughts on how being fashionable in the early aughts meant to try the absolute HARDEST, a revelation that feels as glaring as her patent leather pumps after witnessing the shift in collegiate fashion upon spending "welcome weekend" in a college town. Then, she touches on Selling OC before reminiscing via reading through residual sorority stories that listeners submitted the past two years from when she was going to resuscitate the sorority series (before accidentally spending two hours last week analyzing if it was high camp instead). A variety of topics are covered, from sayings like “we plan and God laughs,” to the lore of one-shoulder tops, reviews the Kingdom Chaser/Clout Chaser/Straight No Chaser Venn Diagram of sorority archetypes, discusses the sorority symbols that had the most hot-girl energy, to lusting after the mystery of a non-Greek suitor who (if you can believe it) attended college to *learn,* to name a few. Kate also discusses the differences between NPC and NPHC and then snorkels the submitted responses for how chapters sugarcoated the reasons for why a girl wasn’t the right “fit” by saying things like she’s “worldly” “cute” or “nice,” among other adjectives that are compliments in real life but death wishes in the Greek system. However, like any true sorority girl, we always end on a positive and Kate promises this will be the last Greek Life-related ep for 2022. Enjoy! - SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Find your new skincare and body care favorites at OSEAMalibu.com, and get a special discount just for our listeners. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with promo code BETHEREINFIVE. You’ll get free samples with every order, and orders over $50 get free shipping Get glasses as ever-changing as you are, with Pair. Go to paireyewear.com/BETHEREINFIVE for 15% off your first purchase For 20% off your Kindbody at-home fertility test, go to shop.kindbody.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout Go to SHOPIFY.COM/bethereinfive, ALL LOWERCASE, for a FREE fourteen-day trial and get full access to Shopify’s entire suite of features. Grow your business with Shopify today Sign up with Stamps.com today. Sign up with promo code BETHEREINFIVE for a special offer that includes a 4-week trial, plus free postage and a digital scale