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Setting goals is a wonderful step towards achieving them. But how do you ensure you achieve those goals? The 3 main things you need are Desire, Drive and Do. What do you desire? why do you desire it? The why is your Driving force and that facilitates and ensures the Doing. One step at a time, one day at a time, you can achieve and accomplish the goals you set for yourself. This episode outlines the first steps you need to ensure your goal or goals are achieved. And once you believe you can and are willing to work on them, you are already halfway there. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

“Without goals and plans to reach them, you are like a ship that has set sail with no destination.” – Fitzhugh Dodson. One of my favourite quotes highlights the need to take control of your life. Life is filled with the unexpected and you never know what could happen. It's important that you plan and take control of your life. No one should be in control of you. Do not look for validation in others. Validate yourself. you are enough and the only obstacle in your life, stopping you from becoming who you want to be, is yourself.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

The words you write or speak to others can leave a tremendous impact and create a lasting memory, either good or bad. So it's very important to choose them wisely. Be mindful of your words. Words you say without thinking and mean little to you may stick with someone else for a lifetime and alter their destiny. Watch your words and think before you speak. Put yourselves in their shoes because once the words come out of your mouth, you can't take them back. And even when you say sorry, the wounds your words created will still leave everlasting scars.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Sometimes what we want is not what we need. The ability to see things for what they really are rather than what we want them to be, allows us to recognize the good and find peace in our decisions, progressing ourselves to the future that awaits us. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

 "THERE IS NOTHING GOOD OR BAD, THINKING MAKES IT SO". Shakespeare breaks down perspective perfectly. For example, two strands of hair in a glass of milk: that's too many, but two strands of hair on the head: that's too little. Your perspective on life defines your attitude and the way you choose to live your life. If you want to live a fulfilled life, be successful and be happy, you must have a positive perspective. It's time to change your perspective. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

This episode outlines how to live, be happy and have a fulfilled life. Have you ever wondered why you are still unhappy and go through life just existing and not living, despite everything you have achieved? The reality of life is that “Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.” B. Zahoor. For you to live a fulfilled life and Be Happy, you need contentment. Comparing yourself to others makes finding contentment a million times harder, and even if you have everything in the world but lack contentment, you will never be happy. “It’s almost impossible to be satisfied in your own life if you’re constantly looking at what someone else has.” R. Cruze. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

“I do not exist to please the world. I exist to live my life the way that will make me happy. “ R. Bach. This is one of my favourite quotes because it defines how to live and not just exist, Be Happy. Are you going through life, waking up every day and feeling as if you can’t do anything to change your life for the better? Do you feel everything has been decided for you and you don’t have any choice in the matter? You can’t see yourself making a change in your life and feel stuck in one place, unhappy and unfulfilled? Then am sorry to say, you are merely existing. Or are you someone who wakes up every day and regardless of not knowing what the day might bring, you feel happy, fulfilled, know that you decide how the day goes and know that you have control over your life and not someone else? Do you take time out to enjoy, have fun, do the things you want to do that make you happy? Then you are actually living. Todays’s Podcast, ‘Don’t just exist, Live’, outlines the difference between living and existing and suggests steps you need to make to stop merely existing and start living a happy fulfilled life. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Be positive, let go of anger, love yourself and learn to forgive. This will surely make you feel much better about yourself. And begin to see the amazing effect you have on others. Surround yourself with positive people, people who will lift you up. Most importantly, get rid of malice, anger and resentment, and this will improve your self-esteem and increase your chances of reaching goals.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Like I stated in self love 1, No one can love you more than you love yourself. Loving you is the first step to loving another and excelling at what you do. You must believe in You. You can be the original of yourself and not the copy of someone else. Be a leader and let everyone else follow. If someone stops talking to you, let them be , God brings and takes people out of our lives for a reason. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

No one can love you more than you love yourself. Loving you is the first step to loving another and excelling at whatever you do. this brings me to two of my favourite quotes: "Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?" -- Brigham Young" and "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." -- Lucille Ball  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

I love this quote, “The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”– C. Joybell C. Change can come in so many ways. It might come forcefully like COVID 19 or come finally like the Black lives matter protests. Sometimes it also stems from devastating tragedy, difficult choices, broken relationships, or even new opportunities. Although change can be hard, a lot of times it’s for the best. Significant changes that push us beyond our limits help us to accomplish great things in life Dealing with an unexpected change like the COVID 19 period and its devastating effects is very difficult for most, but from this, we can learn to cope and see the unique opportunities this period provides for us to change our lives. Join my 3 friends and I as we discuss changes the COVID 19 Period as brought into our lives, Part 2 follows shortly, Enjoy. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

From today come along with us, as we highlight, rant and rave, laugh, quarrel and occasionally goof but ultimately make our marriage work, we hope you will be blessed and learn one or two things about what your spouse is thinking but can’t actually say to you. Enjoy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Staying happily married takes commitment, dedication, compromise, trust, love and the grace of God Almighty. The gang and I get together and discuss some of the reasons why we feel a lot of marriages lasted longer years back and nowadays reasons why a lot of marriages don't last that long.. I hope you enjoy and are blessed by our discussion. I leave you with three of my favourite quotes on love and marriage. "There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.”– Ronald Reagan“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”– Dave Meurer. “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Cause all of me loves all of you. Love your curves and all your edges, all your perfect imperfections. Give your all to me, I'll give my all to you. You're my end and my beginning. Even when I lose I'm winning." — John Legend, "All Of Me". One of my favourite love songs. When two people really care about each other, should one day a year determine the direction of their relationship? Is it essential that gifts have to be exchanged on Valentine's Day? Should the measure of love a partner has for you, be weighed on the cost or size of a gift received? So many questions, varying answers. Between Us, we ponder over all these questions and realise that when two people love each other, no matter what, they always find a way to make it work. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Time waits for no one, don't spend your time on earth living for someone else. if you meet an amazing person, regardless of the colour, tribe or religion, hold onto them and don't let go. amazing people don't walk into your life every day. Don't let what others think to make you lose out on marvellous, wonderful, happy and fulfilling. Don't let others peoples voices, silence your own voice and most importantly have the courage to follow your own dreams, not someone else's version of your dream. follow your heart, your feelings, your desires. that's what's important, Mixing it up? Now that's your choice. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Between us, Itodo, Victoria, Agatha, Jude, Tobi, Paul and myself, discuss the myths surrounding virginity. Ponder over the reasons why some want to marry virgins and some decide to abstain after getting some experience. We also look into the question, is it possible to be an experienced virgin?  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Some say you must be sexually attracted to the person you intend to be in a relationship with, but is that enough to sustain the relationship? what do you think? listen to Itodo, Agatha, Isreal and my self talk about this and I pray it blesses you and makes a difference. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

Maya Angelou said, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Most times all you need to do is confide in someone else, share your hurts, worries, concerns. Open up to that person you know will always listen to you and not just hear you. Those tears in your eyes are like words that need to be spoken, tell your story and your experience to someone. Sometimes the best way to heal and excel is to remind yourself that you are not the only one going through this and all you need to do is Share, begin to Heal and then Excel. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

"Don't forget am just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love her" A quote from the film Notting Hill summarises this episode. the questions are, should a lady ask a guy out? should she propose if he doesn't? do men take women who ask them out for granted? Come along with Itodo, Victoria, Agatha, Nsikan and she heals, as they discuss, dissect and delve into opinions, myths and trends of life in the 21st century --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

"When you are trying to talk to your spouse about something, remember one thing. You attract more bees with honey than vinegar. Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is the conversation. Communication to a relationship is like what oxygen is to life'' Anonymous. Be open in your relationship, communicate, share, explore, have fun and live a fulfilled life. if you don't. you leave your relationship open to outside influences. Join My five dear friends, Victoria, Itodo, Agatha, Nsikan and Grace, as we dissect, discuss and share.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message