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We’ve got a lot of exciting things cooking at Bawdy Love headquarters, and to get it all done we’ve decided to pause the Bawdy Love Podcast. Don’t fear, though — we’ll be putting up bonus content from time to time, and there are tons of ways to stay in touch with the revolution: Lauren’s Instagram The official Bawdy Love Instagram The #BawdyLove Facebook group Our new Bawdy Building courses (register for Bawdy Building: Warmth by February 7!) The book, Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body Our insider newsletter that gives you weekly doses of love, light and inspiration Connect with Lauren by email at info@laurenmariefleming.com Become a pen pal and send us a postcard Stay in touch, and we’ll let you know when the podcast is back! Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Carry inspiration and positive vibes in your pocket by following the BawdyLove instagram. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren.

Do you love the idea of Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body, but aren’t ready to commit to buying the book? Or, do you love the book and want to share the goodness with your friends? I’ve got your back. This week on the Bawdy Love Podcast: The first chapter of the Bawdy Love Audiobook! Enjoy the taster — I loved writing and recording it for you. Stay tuned for the full audiobook, which will be in the shop soon. Thanks to Ninkasi Brewing Company for letting me use their lovely recording space. Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Carry inspiration and positive vibes in your pocket by following the BawdyLove instagram. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren.

This week’s Bawdy Love Q&A: How do you deal with feeling sad in the gloomy winter months? When you live near the 45th parallel like I do, winter means colder weather and shorter days. Yet while the forests critters around us go into hibernation, we humans try to push through the dark and cold, staying active and checking everything off our to-do lists. But it’s hard, because we’re not too different from those forest critters. The short answer? Remember that you are allowed to hibernate, too. Your best self in the winter might not be the same as your best self in the summer — and that’s totally okay. The long answer? Take a listen to find out. By the way – if you’re looking for more warmth in your gloomy winter months, check out our Bawdy Building course on Warmth. We’re going to work on reclaiming our audacity, accepting darkness and seeking out more light. Enrollment ends February 7. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, show notes and more can be found at our episode archive. Check out the Bawdy Love Instagram for more inspiration. Topics covered in this conversation include: winter, warmth, light, darkness, happiness, seasonal affective disorder, sadness, depression Quotables from this episode: “We worry about our gloominess to the point that it makes our gloominess worse.” –@LaurenMF on #BawdyLove podcast “The more I try to be summer Lauren in winter, the more it just doesn’t work.” –@LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast “The more I push against hibernating, the more I find I’m depressed and my body hurts.” @LaurenMF #BawdyLove podcast “You have no control over the emotions you have. You have control over what you do with them.” @LaurenMF #BawdyLove “What if your depression isn’t something you need to fix? What if it’s something you find empathy for?” @LaurenMF Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Carry inspiration and positive vibes in your pocket by following the BawdyLove instagram. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren.

Making space for chronic illness and reclaiming medical areas on Episode 23 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Karolyn Gehrig is done feeling overlooked in medical institutions. As a person with an invisible disability, she’s in and out of doctor’s offices, and while they’re places made to house patients they rarely are designed with comfort in mind. Karolyn created #Hospitalglam to make a statement: we need to create patient-first care, including spaces that help patients feel like their full identities – not just a body with an illness or disability. In this episode, we talk about discomfort experienced in medical institutions and our ability to reclaim them through photography. We recognize that illness is part of life, but not a complete identity, and we examine some of the life changes that come with experiencing illness or disability. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at our episode archive. Check out the Bawdy Love Instagram for more inspiration. Topics covered in this conversation include: chronic illness, disability, hospitals, doctors, fashion, appropriation, relationships Quotables from this episode: “If you can photograph yourself in a space & exist in it, that space is yours.” -Karolyn Gehrig “When you can take a selfie, you can remain yourself in those environments. You don’t have to perform illness.” -Karolyn Gehrig “Fashion uses a body they’ve decided is right & perfect, and dresses it up as non-normate to be edgy & cool.” -Karolyn Gehrig “When you’re sick and some people leave, you don’t even miss them.” -Lauren Marie Fleming  “My body works better and I am able to do more when I make accommodations for my disabilities.” -Karolyn Gehrig  “If you tell other people you don’t like how you look, it tells other people how to feel about your look.” -Karolyn Gehrig More About Karolyn Gehrig Karolyn Gehrig is a queer disabled artist and writer currently living in Los Angeles. To connect with Andrea:  Website – Hospitalglam.com Twitter – @karolynprg Instagram – @karolynprg Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Carry inspiration and positive vibes in your pocket by following the BawdyLove instagram. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.  

This week’s Bawdy Love Q&A: How can I be a strong body positive advocate when I am being complimented on my weight loss? The body positive and fat positive communities are safe places for people with othered bodies to support one another. But when a once-fat person loses some weight, she might start to feel disconnected from the community that supported her when she was fat. The short answer? Remember that the body positive community supports all bodies, all shapes and sizes, including yours. You have the power to place the voices and bodies of people who are marginalized ahead of your own in order to continue revolutionary acceptance. The long answer? Take a listen to find out. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: body positivity, fat positivity, marginalized people, activism, advocacy, weight loss Quotables from this episode: “Take time to compliment people on things outside their body. If they do a good job at work, tell them.” @LaurenMF on #BawdyLove “The best way to be an advocate is to lift people up. Encourage their authenticity.” @LaurenMF on #BawdyLove “It sounds so simplistic, but kindness really does fix a whole lot of problems.”  #BawdyLove “When someone says something mean out of jealousy or spite, tell them, ‘Good things are coming your way as well.'” #BawdyLove Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Carry inspiration and positive vibes in your pocket by following the BawdyLove instagram. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Discovering your dreams, chasing your goals, and chasing the stars, on Episode 21 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Monique Malcolm and I have a lot in common. We’re creative entrepreneurs in businesses sparked after the death of a brother. We’re driven to see our dreams come to life. We want to help others realize their potential and move forward. At Keep Chasing the Stars, Monique shares her expertise at propelling clients to the next level and creating clear visions for their lives. In this episode, we turn the classic New Year’s Resolution on its head. We believe that a resolution is temporary, and if you want to achieve your dreams, what you need is a revolution. Our call-to-action: stop waiting to meet your dreams until your body fits the mold. Create a plan of action, organize your thoughts and go forward toward dreams that will be more fulfilling than a number on a scale ever would. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: goal setting, dreams, achievement, journaling, resolutions, revolutions Quotables from this episode: “Vision breathes life into your goals.” @starchaserstv on #BawdyLove “You just don’t know what’s going to happen, so why wait to do things you want to do?” @starchaserstv on #BawdyLove “You have permission to not do something twice just because it was on your list.” @LaurenMF on #BawdyLove  “There are no gatekeepers or prerequisites. You just have to put a plan in place and commit to it.” @starchaserstv on #BawdyLove “Ideas and visions don’t have an expiration date.” @starchaserstv on #BawdyLove “Guard your dreams in infancy. Don’t let someone burst your bubble before you’re able to grow it.” @LaurenMF on #BawdyLove More About Monique Malcolm Monique is a goal coach and implementation strategist who is on a mission to help the world’s dreamers become doers. She believes strongly in the power of creating a vision for your life and setting big goals to match. Monique is also the creator of the Visionary Journal, a goal management system and day planner. It is her dream to inspire a massive community of goal-getters all over the world. In her downtime, you can find Monique lounging at the beach, singing loudly or stuffing her face with one too many cupcakes. To connect with Andrea:  Facebook – Keep Chasing The Stars Twitter – @starchaserstv Instagram – @starchaserstv Website – Keep Chasing The Stars See also: The Awesome List Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Carry inspiration and positive vibes in your pocket by following the BawdyLove instagram. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

The holidays are a time for reflection, family, twinkle lights and hot apple cider. We’re taking 2 weeks off and closing our virtual doors to enjoy the decadence of this time of year. We hope you’ll use this time to do the same. If you miss us, consider re-listening to a favorite episode. My conversations with Dr. Martina Shabram, Steph Jagger and Jenilee Dowling are all great to revisit for New Years’ Revolution inspiration! And, of course, if you’d have a Bawdy Love question you’d like me to answer, get in touch. I’d love to chat. See you on our next episode, coming January 4th!

This week’s Bawdy Love Q&A: How do you choose to eat healthy without shaming your body? Food shame tends to work its way into our psyche quietly but malevolently. Sometimes our drive to eat nutritious food is because we should, and not because we want to indulge in nutritious food that is also delicious and decadent. The short answer? Develop a torrid love affair with a cookbook. Make cooking a joy, not a chore, and savor every bite – whether you’re eating peas or pies. The long answer? Take a listen to find out. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: food, cooking, eating healthy, body shame, motherhood Lauren recommends finding foodie fun at Epicurious.com. Jenn Givhan, this week’s guest and a wonderful poet, can be found at her website JennGivhan.com. Quotables from this episode: “Instead of focusing on your ‘shoulds,’ focus on your ‘wants.’ “ -@LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast. “I can’t always have a nice dish at a restaurant, so I’m going to try to remake it at home.” -@LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast. “Instead of focusing on ‘good for you,’ focus on the texture, sensation, and flavor.” -@LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Talk about food from a perspective of someone who has a love affair with food.” -@LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “I can look in my cupboard & there’s an amazing meal if I get creative, ambitious & daring.” -@LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Facebook – Lauren Marie Fleming Twitter – @LaurenMF Instagram – LaurenMarieFleming Book – Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Using your body’s capabilities to expand the joy of other families, on Episode 19 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Adrienne Black has a passion for family creation. Her own family is beautiful and thriving, for sure, but her enthusiasm extends beyond. She has a professional background as a doula, childbirth educaator and birth assistant, and has delivered five children for Intended Parents of two different families. In this episode, we discuss the process of surrogacy and answer common questions that arise surrounding the topic. We also talk about the emotionally complex relationships between Surrogate, Intended Parents and the new children. Bawdy Love is a loud declaration that no body is shameful and everybody is worthy of love, acceptance and respect. Join the revolution, and we’ll change the world together. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: surrogacy, midwifery, relationship dynamics, family building, body insecurity and trauma Quotables from this episode: “We view pregnancy as a medical issue that needs to be managed. Surrogates are changing that perception.” “Most surrogates think, “I grow babies really well, and I want to help people who can’t.” “Surrogacy is really empowering. It’s accomplishment. It’s thinking, my body is awesome.” “Surrogacy becomes tricky, adding a 3rd person to what is traditionally a 2-person biological function.” More About Adrienne Black Adrienne Black has been an active member of the Assisted Reproductive Technology field since 2003, when she became personally interested in surrogacy. In 2007, Adrienne delivered an amazingly sweet and serious little boy for Intended Parents and in 2009 delivered his boisterous and charming brother and sister. In February of 2012, she delivered darling twin girls for an international family. In addition to her experience with surrogacy and ART, Adrienne also has a professional background in midwifery and birth work. She has worked in the birth community since 1998, as a doula, childbirth educator and birth assistant, and completed the midwifery program at Seattle Midwifery School in 2003. She has extensive training in counseling, communication and facilitation. Adrienne has a deep belief in the beauty and hard work of surrogacy. She is committed to supporting and facilitating loving, strong and cooperative relationships between Intended Parents and Surrogates. To connect with Adrienne:  Facebook – Heart to Hands Surrogacy Pinterest – Heart to Hands Surrogacy Instagram – hearttohandssurrogacy Website – HeartToHandsSurrogacy.com   Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Facebook – Lauren Marie Fleming Twitter – @LaurenMF Instagram – LaurenMarieFleming Book – Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body   Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Achieving life goals, embracing your superhero origin story, and saving your relationship with yourself, on Episode 18 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. It’s here! It’s finally here! Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body is released today, this magical day, my 33rd birthday. To celebrate, we’ve turned the tables: Dr. Martina Shabram did me the honor of interviewing me for this week’s Bawdy Love so I could share my journey. We covered a wide breadth of topics: making the best worst decisions to learn and grow; blooming compassion from a dark hole in your life; and pouring your heart and soul into birthing a text, then watching it toddle off with the hope that it could change a life. Bawdy Love is a loud declaration that no body is shameful and everybody is worthy of love, acceptance and respect. Join the revolution, and we’ll change the world together. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: writing, grief, healing, compassion, relationships, and sparking a revolution. Quotables from this episode: “We treat writing as a disembodied experience, but it’s not. It’s an incredibly physical experience.” -@smartasaurus on the #BawdyLove podcast. “I was addicted to self-hatred behavior, and I couldn’t find a 12-step program. So I decided to make one.” -@LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast. “I created #BawdyLove to go back to every time I needed it – to save my relationship with myself.” -@LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast. “Writing #BawdyLove has taken me even more down the path of radical self-love.” -@LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast. “We’re never healed; we’re always in the process of healing.” -@smartasaurus on the #BawdyLove podcast. “I want us to have more ice cream and less judgment.” -@LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast. “I have chosen to put myself out in the public sphere on a subject that people love to attack you for.” -@LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast. About Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Facebook – Lauren Marie Fleming Twitter – @LaurenMF Instagram – LaurenMarieFleming Book – Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Revealing your truth and laying bare mind, body and soul through spoken word performance, on Episode 17 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. When Andrea Gibson was a child learning to write, they watched their fingers grow with pencil calluses. Andrea was proud; they remember telling their mom, “My hand is changing shape to prove I’m a writer.” That writer has flourished. Today, Andrea has published their fifth book PANSY, headlines spoken-word poetry events and has work featured internationally. In this episode, we discuss taking notice – of love, illness, war, class, capitalism, gender and beyond – and practice healing through writing. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: writing, spoken-word poetry, love, anxiety, chronic illness, and believing one another and in oneself. Quotables from this episode: “I would only write love poems, but the world is crappy so I write other things too.” @AndreaGibson on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Anything you pay attention to is art, and writing it down is a practice of healing.” @AndreaGibson on the Bawdy Love podcast. “I’d love a 5-minute spoken word poem that said ‘I believe you’ over and over.” @AndreaGibson on the Bawdy Love podcast. “I think we often don’t love what we don’t know.” @AndreaGibson on the Bawdy Love podcast. More About Andrea Gibson Andrea Gibson is not gentle with their truths. It is this raw fearlessness that has led them to the forefront of the spoken word movement– the first winner of the Women’s World Poetry Slam –Gibson has headlined prestigious performance venues coast to coast with powerful readings on war, class, gender, bullying, white privilege, sexuality, love, and spirituality. In their most recent book, PANSY, Gibson balances themes of love, gender, politics, sexuality, illness, family and forgiveness with stunning imagery and a fierce willingness to delve into the exploration of what it means to truly heal. Each turn of the page represents both that which as been forgotten and that which is yet to be released. While this book is a rally cry for political action, it is also a celebration of wonder and longing and love. To connect with Andrea:  Facebook – Andrea Gibson Poetry Twitter – @AndreaGibson Instagram – andrewgibby Website – AndreaGibson.org Book – PANSY   Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

This week’s Bawdy Love Q&A: How do you practice compassion for your body when you’re having a really bad day? It’s a nice idea that we can always be kind to our bodies, but it’s very unlikely that any of us love ourselves 100% of the time. When we’re feeling down, it’s hard to give ourselves the compassion we need to thrive. The short answer? Try to reframe the way you think about “good days” and “bad days.” No good day is all-good, nor is any bad day all-bad. Give yourself space to experience your feelings without guilt, and recognize that the bad days are the ones when compassion toward yourself is hardest but most necessary. The long answer? Take a listen to find out. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: compassion, self-care, and daily decadence Quotables from this episode: “It’s rough days when intense work on self-compassion is done.” -@LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “See rough days as the days that compassion is made for.” -@LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Even if I didn’t love myself yesterday or today, I can love myself tomorrow.” -@LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “When you’re in the shower, you feel yourself. You can’t angrily rub wonderful soap on your body.” #BawdyLove “There’s no finish line that you cross when you’ll never feel bad about yourself again.” -@LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast.   Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren.   Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Rejecting fat prejudice, fighting the media’s body shaming, and changing the world by loving your body, on Episode 15 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Tucson native Jes Baker worked in mental health and went to school for art before stumbling upon body activism through a blog. It was a “happy accident,” she says, that inspired her to create her internationally recognized blog, The Militant Baker. Through that medium, she has inspired countless people to leave their perceptions of beauty and worth at the door, and instead value themselves for who they are right now. In this episode, we discuss the many projects Jes has done to disrupt the idea of the acceptable body. We also talk about her new book, Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls, that details Jes’ experiences in body love, as well as those of a diverse group of guest writers. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: body positivity, fat prejudice, the media, intersectionality and privilege Quotables from this episode: “When you ask, ‘Why does it matter if I’m healthy?’ There’s almost a visceral angry reaction from people.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Health is not a determinant of worth. A person’s health is only that person’s business.” @TheMilitantBaker on the Bawdy Love podcast. @TheMilitantBaker on the Bawdy Love podcast: “I am challenging peoples’ investment in their own health.“ “We all have brains, none of them work 100%, and there’s no shame in needing resources.” @TheMilitantBaker on the Bawdy Love podcast. “If our brain is not happy and functioning, our body is quickly going to follow suit.” @TheMilitantBaker on the Bawdy Love podcast. More About Jes Baker Jes Baker is a positive, progressive, and magnificently irreverent force to be reckoned with in the realm of self-love advocacy and mental health. Jes is internationally recognized for her writing on her blog, The Militant Baker, and for the “Attractive and Fat” campaign, a response to Abercrombie and Fitch’s controversial branding efforts. Her extensive body advocacy work has continued to garner attention from hundreds of national and international media networks. When not blogging, Jes spends her time producing the renowned Body Love Conference, speaking at universities, taking pictures in her underwear, writing for several online publications, working with clothing companies to promote more plus size fashion, and trying to convince her cats that they like to wear sweaters and bow ties. To connect with Jes:  Facebook – The Militant Baker Blog – TheMilitantBaker.com Twitter – @TheMilitantBaker Instagram – TheMilitantBaker Book – Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls   Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

This week’s Bawdy Love Q&A: How do you not feel like a failure when you lose weight then gain it back? Society puts a high value on the “success story” of losing weight. When we lose weight, then regain it (and then some), it’s easy to feel like we’ve failed in some way. The short answer? Examine what your goals really are. A lot of the time, the goal isn’t weight loss; it’s the thriving life we imagine we’ll have when the weight is gone. Think about how invest in your own thriving rather than in weight loss specifically. The long answer? Take a listen to find out. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: weight loss, weight gain, the normate, self-confidence, finding joy, thriving Quotables from this episode: “In business, people expect you to try and sometimes fail. In weight loss, it’s personal if you fail.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Every person has their own definition of health. Let’s put our focus on thriving.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “What if every week, you weighed yourself not on the scale, but by the joy in your life?” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Learn in yourself what makes you worthy and focus on that. It’s the most important thing.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast.   Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Exploring kink and connecting to your body and desires, on Episode 13 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Sinclair Sexsmith has come into new realizations of their identity over the years; early on as a queer feminist, later on as a genderqueer, butch top. With every transformation they have gained more and more confidence to express their needs and desires, as well as their identity. In this episode, we discuss Sinclair’s entry into BDSM communities, how to develop a sense of confidence in one’s own sexual and gender identities, and how to create entry points for people new to the BDSM world. We learn that kink is something that can be explored by any consenting partners — and how partners can broach the subject and begin experimenting with kink. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: BDSM, top/bottom relationships, kink, sexuality, gender identity See also: Sinclair Sexsmith’s BDSM Yes/No/Maybe checklist. Quotables from this episode: “I’m interested in making entry points for people to come into BDSM communities.” -@MrSexsmith on the Bawdy Love podcast. “I think alternative sexuality is a lot less “alternative” than people would have us believe.” -@MrSexsmith on the Bawdy Love podcast. “The answer to most of my inbox questions is ‘more confidence’ or ‘more communication.’” -@MrSexsmith on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Sometimes the ‘easiest’ things to do to feel confident are really some of the hardest things.” -@LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. More About Sinclair Sexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith is a genderqueer kinky butch writer who teaches and performs, specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They’ve written at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the Top Sex Blogs. Sinclair’s gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies and online, and they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, Sinclair’s first collection of short stories, was published in 2014. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself. To connect with Sinclair:  Websites – DSConfidence.com, MrSexsmith.com Blog – SugarButch.net Twitter – @MrSexsmith Facebook – Sinclair Sexsmith Fetlife – MrSexsmith   Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

This week’s Bawdy Love Q&A: What do you do when someone gives you a compliment but it feels more like an insult? This issue is complicated because when people are complimenting you, they are trying to give you a gift. As with all unwanted gifts, a bad compliment can be difficult or uncomfortable to reject. The short answer? Give those close to you a wish list of the compliment gifts you would like to be given. They’re usually happy to oblige. The long answer? Take a listen to find out. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. “You can use an unwanted compliment as an opportunity to bridge the gap between worlds.” @LaurenMF on the #BawdyLove podcast bit.ly/BL-QA1 Topics covered in this conversation include: self-love, compliments, family, loved ones, gifts, being transgender Quotables from this episode: “You can use an unwanted compliment as an opportunity to bridge the gap between worlds.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Femininity and masculinity can exist within each other.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “When people give you a compliment, it’s a gift. Let them know which gifts give you joy.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast.   To connect with James Barnes: Facebook – James Barnes E-mail – ajbarnespdx@gmail.com   Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren.   Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Aging creatively, staying informed on our changing bodies, and having a fulfilling sex life as we get older, on Episode 11 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Joan Price began a spicy love affair with the love of her life — at age 57. Their relationship and eventual marriage was quite the opposite of the dry, sexless stereotype of an older couple. The pair found profound joy in their time together, inspiring Joan to write books on older-life sexuality like Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and Naked At Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. In this episode, we discuss Joan’s growth into becoming an advocate for ageless sexuality. We talk about battling stereotypes about what is and isn’t sexy, learning and appreciating your body as it ages, and giving ourselves permission to have creative, sexy fun as we get older. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: sex, aging, erotica, creativity, self-confidence Quotables from this episode: “Instead of doing everything to seem like you’re not getting older, embrace getting older.” @JoanPrice on the Bawdy Love podcast. “I don’t even like the term ‘getting older gracefully.'” I like ‘getting older creatively.’” @JoanPrice on the Bawdy Love podcast. “So many of us see signs of aging as a downward spiral, but we don’t have to!” @JoanPrice on the Bawdy Love podcast. “One of the blessings of grief is that you can be you fully, and nobody expects anything else.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Recognize that however you look, your look has value.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast.   More About Joan Price Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the beautiful face of senior sex,” and—her favorite—”wrinkly sex kitten.” She is the author of the new Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life; the award-winning self-help book, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex; and the sexy memoir, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty. Joan continues to talk out loud about senior sex — partnered or solo – in speeches and workshops, and on her zesty blog about sex and aging, Naked At Our Age. To connect with Joan:  Website – JoanPrice.com Blog – NakedAtOurAge.com Twitter – @JoanPrice   Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Loving your body for the way it can move, pole dancing, and sweating glitter, on Episode 10 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Roz the Diva was once stuck in the grind of trying to achieve an ideal body through endless cardio. After one pole dancing class piqued her curiosity, she grew to find strength in her body and soul to shed the idea of normative beauty standards and love herself for the sexy athlete she is. Her newfound confidence led to a stint on America’s Got Talent and a career helping others celebrate the amazing ways their bodies can move. In this episode, we discuss Roz’s journey as she quit her job and fulfilled her dreams as a personal trainer. We talk about what people expect of pole dancers and how Roz, as a plus-sized woman of color, more closely resembles the incredibly diverse people who take up the sport than the normate women we typically imagine. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: physical movement, body confidence, strength, entrepreneurship Quotables from this episode: “Pole dancing is an incredibly hard workout physically, but you literally sweat glitter.” @RozTheDiva on the Bawdy Love podcast. “When you’re leaving pole dancing, you’re leaving feeling like a better person yourself.” @RozTheDiva on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Pole dancing has given my body a purpose besides looking good for someone else.” @RozTheDiva on the Bawdy Love podcast. “If you’re going to train, train like Beyoncé. Train like a strong woman.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Trainers have got to be an unrelenting voice of encouragement for your clients.” @RozTheDiva on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Let’s celebrate you right as you are. You don’t have to compensate.” @RozTheDiva on the Bawdy Love podcast. More About Roz “The Diva” Mays NASM-certified Roz “The Diva” Mays has dedicated many late nights at the gym to becoming a stronger athlete. Pole dancing is her sport of choice to teach, followed by TRX, strength & conditioning, flexibility and personal training.  Among her finest contributions to the pole world has been creating Dangerous Curves: A Celebration of Plus Size Pole Dancers.  Her talents have lead to a SAG membership for professional stunt work in Law and Order: SVU, The Big C and an Adam Sandler movie.  She loves to teach obnoxiously loud classes at Body & Pole and Crunch in New York City.  Recently, she was a featured performer on NBC’s America’s Got Talent, Season 10.  When she isn’t half naked and sweaty, Diva’s usual making pancakes with Beyoncé. To connect with Roz:  Facebook – Roz The Diva Instagram – rozthediva Twitter – @RozTheDiva YouTube – Roz Mays Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

Exploring spiritual healing, making space for masculine and feminine energy, and becoming your own goddess, on Episode 9 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Jenilee Dowling’s journey to becoming a therapist and energy healer was fraught with confusion as she questioned her religion, explored her spirituality, and learned to accept herself as a goddess and creatress. Now, Jenilee helps others along their journeys of self-discovery. In this episode, we discuss how Jenilee came to form her identity. We also talk about her relationship with her activist husband Aydian Dowling, and how they make space for and encourage each others’ masculine and feminine energies. Be sure to also check out my interview with Jenilee’s husband Aydian Dowling, the first trans man up for the cover of Men’s Health Magazine. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: religion, spirituality, healing energy, partnerships, and self-love. Also discussed: Qoya, one of Jenilee’s favorite ways to move. Quotables from this episode: “I needed to take care of myself, so I started changing my passwords to ‘I love me!’” @JenileeDowling on the Bawdy Love podcast. “The more I can love myself, the more the people around me will reflect that love.” @JenileeDowling on the Bawdy Love podcast. “I recognize that I can manifest anything I want in my life.” @JenileeDowling on the Bawdy Love podcast. “We all have the same power. I love helping people recognize it.” @JenileeDowling on the Bawdy Love podcast. “I don’t like obligation. I like doing things that make my mind body and soul feel good.” @JenileeDowling on the Bawdy Love podcast. More About Jenilee Dowling Jenilee Dowling is a trained (MSW) Therapist and Energy Healer who believes in creating and living your ideal life. Jenilee has dedicated the last decade of her life to her own self-growth and spiritual journey resulting in her own business, Readings by Jenilee. Jenilee facilitates energy clearing sessions over Skype and FaceTime and in-person to those who want to rise to their true potential in life and somehow keep feeling stuck and blocked from reaching their full potential in their relationships, careers, and overall health and well-being. Jenilee works with clients to identify potential blocks and clears them from their Soul Record with a technique called Spiritual Response Therapy, so that you can live your life fully and stop feeling stuck in the past. Read more about Jenilee and schedule an energy clearing session with her on her website. To connect with Jenilee: Website – ReadingsByJenilee.com Instagram – ReadingsByJenilee Twitter – @JenileeDowling Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.

What it means to be “The Ultimate Man”, the emotional transformations that accompany physical changes, and creating businesses that give back to your community, on Episode 8 of the Bawdy Love Podcast. Aydian Dowling is an activist, an entrepreneur, and a role model gaining world-wide recognition as the lead contender in Men’s Health Magazine’s search for the “Ultimate Men’s Health Guy” 2015. If selected, he will be the first trans man on the cover of a mainstream men’s magazine. So much of the narrative surrounding Aydian Dowling is about his body, but his emotional transformation has been even more powerful. In this episode, we discuss the journey that Aydian has taken to feel complete within himself and how that has contributed to the wider trans community. We also discuss the ways in which he created his clothing company Point5CC as a way to support other trans people through their transitions. Be sure to also check out next week’s podcast, where we’ll chat with Aydian’s wife, Jenilee Dowling, about the various ways in which she helps people heal their body trauma, and the body-image pressure of being wife to “The Ultimate Guy.” Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast. Topics covered in this conversation include: entrepreneurship, relationships, confidence, trans, FTM, Point5CC clothing company, LGBT rights, trans rights Also discussed: Aydian’s candidacy for Ultimate Men’s Health Guy 2015. Quotables from this episode: “There are many kinds of ultimate man. That’s what I’m hoping I can show.” @AydianDowling on the Bawdy Love podcast. “I decided that I deserve to be happy, and I’m not let anyone get in my way.” @AydianDowling on the Bawdy Love podcast. “The mean things I say to myself I would never say to anyone else. So why do I say it to me?” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. “Point5cc is about more than t-shirts, it’s about pride in your identity.” @AydianDowling on the Bawdy Love podcast. “To feel better in yourself, create something that gives your community the ability to thrive.” @LaurenMF on the Bawdy Love podcast. More About Aydian Dowling Aydian Dowling is an FTM transgender entrepreneur/activist/model from Long Island, New York who is gaining world-wide recognition as the lead contender in Men’s Health Magazines’ search for the “Ultimate Men’s Health Guy” 2015. If chosen, Aydian, will be the first transgender person to be on the cover Men’s Health and break down the stereotypes of what defines a man. Aydian was invited on The Ellen Show to discuss the contest and his transition. He gives an openly candid interview and dedicates his successes to the entire transgender community. Aydian is the cover of FTM Magazines’ April 2015 edition and the feature of a nude photo shoot that has since gone viral. In 2011, Aydian and his wife Jenilee, were featured on the Emmy nominated MTV special It Gets Better Project which highlights the excitement and challenges of planning an LGBT wedding. Aydian has been paving the way for the “T” in the LGBT community since his 2009 launch of Alionsfear, a Youtube documentary and advice channel. Don’t forget to check out Point5cc, his clothing line, that caters to the fashion needs of transgender men and women. Twenty percent of every purchase made goes into The Surgery Fund. In his free time, Aydian enjoys putting his culinary skills to use (he is also a pastry chef) and hiking with Jenilee. To connect with Aydian: YouTube – Alionsfear Instagram – alionsfear Twitter – @AydianDowling Connect more with Lauren and the Bawdy Love revolution: Bawdy Love is a revolution, one full of people audacious enough to stand up and say “I am worthy of love as I am right here, right now, no exceptions. My body deserves to be seen, my voice deserves to be heard. I will not shrink. I will expand and thrive.” Are you in? Join the revolution and get your free Bawdy Love basics video series. Connect with other like-minded Bawdy Lovelies on the Bawdy Love Facebook group. Get personalized tips and tools to boost your self-confidence, incorporate self-care into your daily routine, and profoundly love your body with individual coaching with Lauren. Sign-up for the Bawdy Love Podcast newsletter and get bonus content, exclusive deals, and my secret episode Silencing Your Inner Critic During Sex. Past episodes, longer show notes and more can be found at LaurenMarieFleming.com/Podcast.