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Awaken The Rebel
13 minutes | 11 days ago
#58 - KUWTK & Standing Up To Bullies
At its core, reality TV shows are just about people fighting. While it’s great to watch when you want to decompress, series like Keeping Up With The Kardashians can actually teach us a few critical things about conflict and bullying. This week, I’m breaking down a particularly disturbing episode I watched recently and how it highlights the importance of giving yourself permission to do what you want in the face of bullies, shame, and societal pressure. In this episode, you will hear: A lesson in group dynamics (and which one the Kardashian sisters are experiencing) The importance of respecting others’ values and how they choose to live their lives What can happen when you let people dictate the narrative of your life for too long A case for living your truth and owning your desires (and how not doing so can impact your relationships) How to handle the bullies in your life before you snap like a maniac and draw blood Coaching Questions & Thoughts: Where in your life are you disrespecting your own boundaries in an effort to make someone else happy? Where in your life are you honoring someone else's needs over your own? Could you honor yourself more and give yourself what you need and want more than you currently are? Quotes: “Life will be better if you accept me for who I am and what I choose and if I accept you for who you are and what you choose.” - Shereen Thor “Let's not be a bully who shames and blames and outcasts people for not falling in line.” - Shereen Thor “There will be the bullies out there who try to force you to be who they want you to be. It's up to you to not contort so long that you snap like a maniac and draw blood.” - Shereen Thor Resources: A deeper dive into group dynamics The disturbing fight between Kim and Kourtney Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at www.awakentherebel.com.
30 minutes | 18 days ago
#57 - Building Confidence Through Movement With Lauren Glick
This week, we have retired firefighter turned women’s empowerment coach Lauren Glick on the podcast to talk all things confidence — and how movement is the key to self-esteem. Through her community BadassBods, Lauren is on a mission to take the work out of working out and make exercise fun again. In this episode, you will hear: Her personal experience with how a stressful environment can lead to serious autoimmune issues (not to mention stubborn weight) Her transition from retiring early from her dream job to becoming a Tony Robbins coach How weight loss is just a byproduct of building confidence Ways to ground yourself in the present moment What “signs” really look like (and what it truly means to be “ready” for the next step) The vital role community plays in our motivation And how healing your relationship with your body can help you uncover your true power Coaching Questions & Thoughts: How would you describe your relationship with your body and movement? Do you see exercise as a form of punishment or self-care? Describe your current work and home environment. Are there any stressful or toxic situations that could be impacting your health? When was the last time you felt confident? What was it that contributed to that? If you want to lose weight or change your body in some way, what’s the underlying reason? Is there any way you could make that reason a reality without a physical change? Quotes: “You are what you become, and I became that stress.” — Lauren Glick “The scary things are the things you must do to grow in life.” — Lauren Glick “The people who are ‘ready’ are the ones who go after it.” — Lauren Glick “Helping women lose weight is just a byproduct of helping women gain their confidence.” — Lauren Glick “Let’s ground ourselves in movement. Let’s feel good in our bodies.” — Lauren Glick “When you get down to somebody’s reason why they want to lose the weight, most of the time it has something to do with how they’re feeling about themselves.” — Lauren Glick Resources: @thelaurenglick on Instagram BadassBods.com The BadassBods Facebook Group Heal, a Netflix documentary about the power of the mind Untamed By Glennon Doyle Fast Foundations Mastermind Group Lindsey Schwartz of Powerhouse Women Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at www.awakentherebel.com.
43 minutes | 25 days ago
#56 - How To Find True Freedom With Jason Stapleton
This week, I wanted to introduce you to one of the coolest guys I know. Jason Stapleton is an entrepreneur, business coach, and host of “Wealth, Power & Influence with Jason Stapleton," which became the number one libertarian podcast on iTunes within 18 months of launching and currently has over 30,000 daily listeners. In this episode, Jason takes us to church and goes deep on how he grew a multi-million dollar brand and found his definition of true freedom. In this episode, you will hear: How Jason went from being a veteran struggling to find satisfaction in his post-military career to building the “perfect business” The philosophy behind his new book, “The Nomadic Wealth Formula” What three things we must acquire if we want to achieve true freedom Why we’re much more in control of our lives (and our income) than we think What it means to improve your human capital How to maintain your voice while still changing the world Easy ways to start adopting a winner’s mindset (even when you feel like a total failure) Coaching Questions & Thoughts: How much control do you have over your income right now? Are all your eggs in one basket, or are they more spread out? How could you reorganize your life so that your income was more secure and in your control? What experience or skill do you possess that other people could benefit from learning? How close are you to true freedom right now? What’s one thing you could do to bring yourself closer? What “little wins” can you be grateful for? Quotes: “Controlling the source of your income, being able to choose how and when your money comes to you, who you work with, who you're going to take money from is a necessity in order for us to be free.” - Jason Stapleton “It’s not the government, it’s not the election, it's not the Constitution that gives you your freedoms. It's you.” - Jason Stapleton “Whether you're whether you're on the mountain and everything is going good, or you're down in the gutter, if you accept the fact that you're responsible for where you are, then that means you can change.” - Jason Stapleton “It's about creating converts, not winning arguments.” - Jason Stapleton “The best thing you can do if you're trying to sell somebody something is to enter the conversation they're already having in their own heads.” - Jason Stapleton Resources: Jason Stapleton’s Website Wealth, Power & Influence with Jason Stapleton The Nomadic Wealth Formula Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at www.awakentherebel.com.
15 minutes | a month ago
#55 — Conspiracy Theories
Don’t worry — I’m not about to become another true crime podcast. Conspiracy theories and tragic news stories are almost a form of entertainment in today’s society. And in this episode, I want to dissect how giving our attention to things like conspiracy theories can impact our energy and prevent us from living a life on purpose. In this episode, you will hear: Why you should be aware of the type of information you consume and how it makes you feel How to be a good steward of your attention and energy What it means to live your life on purpose and how negative things like conspiracy theories can distract you from that Why searching for darkness and corruption is a waste of your life force (and what to focus on instead) The beautiful magic that happens when we process our own pain and learn to have compassion for ourselves Coaching Questions & Thoughts: How does reading the news or following conspiracy theories make you feel? In what ways are you allowing negative information to take up your time and energy? How can you set filters around the information you allow in? What are some of the ways you can better protect your energy? What are you giving your attention to? Quotes: “As the leader of your life, it's very important for you to be careful about the information you are consuming.” - Shereen Thor “If you’re living your life on purpose, you’re not going to go searching for darkness and corruption.” - Shereen Thor “We need to quiet the noise of life in order to tune into our soul’s unique path, contribution and purpose.” - Shereen Thor ”What you give attention to and what you give energy to will grow.” - Shereen Thor Resources: Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com.
5 minutes | a month ago
#54 - Fighting Fair: Setting Boundaries In Conflict
As human beings with trauma and triggers, fighting is inevitable. But how you fight can be the difference between learning from a situation and just stirring up old wounds. In this short episode, I’ll teach you the art of setting conflict boundaries so you can fight fair, every time. In this episode, you will hear: How having no set rules for conflict can lead to messy, triggering situations (and how boundaries prevent fights from getting gnarly) What to do when someone crosses a boundary you’ve set in place How to honor the other person and yourself while you’re working out a disagreement Why setting boundaries and enforcing boundaries are two totally different things The role a neutral third party can play in conflict resolution (and when to use one) Coaching Questions & Thoughts: Have you ever set any conflict boundaries? If so, did you enforce them? Is there a conflict boundary you often have trouble enforcing? Why? When your conflicts go south, what happens? Do things get mean? Do you shut down? Get specific. What is one or two conflict boundaries you’d like to set for future conflicts? What’s important to you when it comes to fighting fair? Think about a recent conflict you had. How could the boundary you’ve chosen to set help resolve that situation? Quotes: “We often have no rulebooks to subscribe to that help us manage those conflicts in a way that honors the other person and yourself while you're working out a disagreement.” - Shereen Thor “Boundaries are nothing if they are not enforced.” - Shereen Thor “We got pain points from the past, and when they get pushed, we can pop off.” - Shereen Thor Resources: Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com.
17 minutes | a month ago
#53 - What To Do When Someone Pisses You Off
People have a funny way of getting under our skin. While it can be momentarily cathartic to send that angry text or blow up on the spot, reactive actions get us nowhere — and they can even prevent us from some major opportunities. In this episode, I’ll teach you the two types of triggers we experience and how to use them to improve your life. In this episode, you will hear: The two types of triggers we face (and what they really mean) How triggers are a body response that signals us to what still needs healing so we can self-actualize Why the way we handle triggers can be major opportunities for inner and outer growth How codependents often need their boundaries pushed to the absolute limit before they realize something’s wrong My personal experience dealing with triggers as a codependent The different ways to handle each type of trigger to get the most out of it Coaching Questions & Thoughts: When was the last time you felt a trauma trigger? How did you handle it? What is one way you can use a known trauma trigger of yours for personal growth? Where can you get support for healing when facing a trigger that keeps coming up? When was the last time you experienced a righteous indignation trigger? How did you react? What area of your life do you think that trigger was signaling to you to change? What’s one way you can use that experience for outer growth? Quotes: “When the punishment doesn’t fit the crime, you know you have baggage.” - Shereen Thor “The trauma response trigger is really an opportunity for inner work.” - Shereen Thor “The trigger that is more of the righteous indignation response is actually an opportunity for outer work.” - Shereen Thor “I wouldn't even notice that I was being disrespected because I was so tuned in to what somebody else needed.” - Shereen Thor “We can often have these relationships with amazing humans that trigger us. And it's not necessarily a bad thing.” - Shereen Thor “Triggers are an opportunity for growth.” - Shereen Thor Resources:Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com.
9 minutes | 2 months ago
#52 - The #1 Mistake Women Make in the Dating Game
In relationships, it’s common for one partner (usually the woman) to take on the role of the mother. We wash dishes, do laundry, and cook dinner in an effort to serve and attract a partner. In this episode, I’m dissecting how mothering is actually masculine energy, and how it repels your partner and keeps you from the relationship you really want. In this episode, you’ll hear: What masculine (yang) and feminine (yin) energy looks like, specifically in dating, love, and relationships The key principles you need to follow to find success in love How mothering your partner pushes away really good masculine humans (especially in the initial stages of dating) Why learning to receive will completely change your love life The resources and books that taught me how to shift my natural masculine energy How being feminine will attract masculine partners Coaching Questions & Thoughts: Do you naturally exhibit masculine or feminine energy? In what ways does that typically show up in your relationships? In both your current and past relationships, in what ways have you mothered your partner? What was the result? Can you think of a time where you embodied more feminine energy in a relationship? If so, what was the result? What’s one way you can start to exhibit more feminine energy? What’s one masculine behavior you can let go of starting today? Quotes: “Masculine is yang energy. It knows it needs to give, protect, and cherish.” - Shereen Thor “Yin energy is supposed to be more focused on the self.” - Shereen Thor “Mothering is masculine.” - Shereen Thor “If you mother a masculine person, you will repel them.” - Shereen Thor “Masculine and feminine energy is kind of like magnets; you need positive and negative ions to have that connection.” - Shereen Thor “Be feminine so you can attract the masculine.” - Shereen Thor Resources: Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com - stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy. ❤️
12 minutes | 2 months ago
#51 – 5 Steps To Making Triggers Beautiful
When you’re in the process of expanding and growing as a stellar human being trying to live out their purpose, you’re inevitably going to ruffle a few feathers. I’m a big believer that conflict is change just trying to come through. So Instead of rattling off an angry text message or shrinking down to make the other person feel better, listen to this episode to learn my five steps to productive conflict resolution. In this episode, you’ll hear: What it means when you trigger someone and why it’s so confusing when you do What you should (and shouldn’t) do when someone’s made up an inaccurate story about you inside their head How to turn a triggering moment into a moment of healing What co-dependent people need to look out for specifically when it comes to conflict resolution Why you should seek to understand during conflict, but not assume full responsibility for it My 5-Step Productive Conflict Resolution Process (including the ONE step almost everyone forgets to do) How avoiding conflict will keep you from experiencing peace, happiness, and joy And my favorite style of relationship therapy that I’ve used to heal many conflicts in my life Coaching Questions & Thoughts:Is there anyone in your life right now who might be triggered by you changing? If so, how is that conflict showing up, and what could it be a call to heal? In this conflict (or a past, recent conflict), did you allow yourself to speak authentically about how you were affected? If you didn’t, how would you now? Have you ever experienced what it was like to “make it right” after a conflict was resolved? If so, what did that look like? What are some ways you could close the loop on a current or recent conflict? Quotes: “When somebody’s triggered, there’s not much reasoning to it.” - Shereen Thor “When you’ve triggered someone, it’s likely triggering their past trauma. So they’re seeing you through the lens of their past trauma.” - Shereen Thor “It’s always a good idea in conflict to seek to understand and to seek to listen.” - Shereen Thor “If you do it right, triggers can be really beautiful because you can trigger healing.” - Shereen Thor “When you cut yourself off from sad, you also cut yourself off from glad. They’re two sides of the same coin.” - Shereen Thor “Things are not black and white. Things are not right and wrong. Things are more gray than we’d like to admit when you’re navigating through conflicts.” - Shereen Thor Resources: Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com - stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy. ❤️
13 minutes | 2 months ago
#50 – How to Win the Marriage Game
Today’s episode celebrates the 7 year anniversary of when my hot hubs proposed to me. So in lieu of a celebration I will roast the hell out of him lol! Get ready for a hilarious and ridiculous story that outlines how insane marriage can be sometimes lol. This is just a peek into the quirks of a long term relationship and all that can come with partnership. Enjoy the hilarity and ridiculousness that is my love life lol. In this episode you will hear: How Kenny proposed and how super sweet it was How we have been fighting about the infamous couches for eight fucking years lol. How to compromise and create a win-win scenario when you and your partner are both at odds How to get what you want in conflict One of the universal truths that effects every area of your life How our interpretations and the meaning we give things can over-complicate your life How surrender is like a little magic trick How to navigate uncertainty and conflict “mo betta” Coaching Questions & Thoughts: What’s one area of your life where you need to surrender? What’s one area of your life where you are in resistance? What’s one area of your life where you would benefit from being more compassionate? Fun Quotes from the Show:“Every long-term relationship has the one or two conflicts that they repeat over and over again. It’s not a big deal, just know what they are and be compassionate with your relationship.” “I am going to drown underneath the weight of all his furniture.” hahaha “What you resist persists.” “This is marriage, you don’t get everything you want.” “Once you stop resisting that shit might resolve itself.” “You need to advocate for your needs in all areas of life even, and especially in your marriage.” “We are celebrating the triumph of Kenny and I sticking through a nagging conflict to get to the other side.” YEAH!!! “If you are in a conflict in any relationship in your life, there is hope.” Resources: Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com - stop keeping up with the Jones’ and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy. ❤️
9 minutes | 2 months ago
#49 – Tame The Beast
Today’s episode is weird lol. We talk about taming your inner beast vs. Awakening your inner rebel. Historically I have needed to set myself free from the limitations placed upon me in order to live my best life. But sometimes it’s the opposite. We need to tame our inner beast in some areas of our life in order to live our best life. That’s why it’s so important for you NOT to listen to others or follow a cookie cutter approach. You are unique and ultimately only YOU know what’s best for you, so it’s up to you to make that choice. Get it boo! In this episode I share a bit about an area of my life where I’ve had to tame my inner beast, and how that’s ultimately served my highest good. In this episode you will hear: How I woke my rebel when it came to career and motherhood How everyone in Santa Monica is krunk, but not as krunk as you and I lol About expanding vs. Contracting when it comes to your life How I have turned to food in times of stress How self-calibration and self-coaching will serve you in choosing whether to awaken the rebel or tame the beast Coaching Questions & Thoughts: What’s one area of your life where you need to awaken the rebel? What’s one area of your life where you need to tame the beast? What’s one thing you can do right now that will move you closer to optimal health? Fun Quotes from the Show:“You’re your best coach, you know what’s truly best for you – where do you need to change your behavior to move forward powerfully in your life?” “These are the moments that will actually change your life when you have these conversations with yourself.” “What is it costing you to be reckless in this area of your life?” “What is compromising your integrity in your life? That thing is lowering your self-esteem, and it needs to go. These are the things that drain your personal power.” Resources: Find Shereen at: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and download the free happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️)
7 minutes | 3 months ago
#48– Three Dangerous Thoughts You Should Ditch
We have a lot of noise coming at us and it’s non-stop! If you are like me, you attempt to manage the noise. We already know we can take the time to unsubscribe from emails, but I want you to take it a step further and unsubscribe from ideas that don’t sit right with you. Let’s talk about dangerous thoughts. This is my Coachy hack to help you unsubscribe from the top 3 thoughts that are trippin’ you up day to day. In this episode you will hear: The top 3 thoughts you need to immediately unsubscribe from My biggest fear in coaching How and when to calibrate with truth and perspective A reminder about who is in charge of your great legacy Coaching Questions & Thoughts: What, in your words is are the 3 thoughts you need to unsubscribe from? What do you desire to create in your legacy? If you were to stop right now and listen to your inner voice, what would you need to do today to embark on a life that is your soul’s masterpiece? Fun Quotes from the Show:“Thank you for being here today and entertaining the musings of a rebel girl. We are going to take a jump into my crazy little brain. And hopefully that journey, that adventure inspires you.” “I want you to unsubscribe from the thought that anyone other than you is your master.” “You are always going to have to be your own coach. You know you better than anybody else.” “You get to decide what legacy you want to embark upon, what legacy you want to leave, what mark you want to leave on the world and who you want to be in the world.” “Thank you for giving a sh#t about what this little rebel girl has to say.” Resources: Find Shereen at: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and download the free happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips from Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️)
8 minutes | 3 months ago
#47 – Growing Hurts Oh So Good
Buzz word alert: Quarantine is taking its toll as we face new challenges. Just look at our educational system with school and it’s never ending uncertainty. Will parents will have to homeschool when they weren’t planning to? Will kids be forced to have their entire education through remote schooling? How does that impact our jobs (parents) and ability to work? That is just one slice of the Covid-19 pie. Oh, the gifts of 2020. It’s tough to feel NORMAL or like we’re in control of anything let alone our own PERSONAL REVOLUTION. Whether it’s 2020 or not, and whether we find or way back to normal, growth always creates beautiful things. And we need to grab onto this little bit of hope and positivity. What I’ve learned over the years, and even right now as I go through weird new changes with all of you, is that growth doesn’t always feel very nice but the in the end it’s oh so worth it. Keep your head up rebel, you’re doing great! I’m here to tell you, your personal revolution is on track, because this is a unique time of conflict that will undoubtedly make you ask new questions and come up with new solutions. Just be careful to continue to nourish your soul, and dive into the uncertainty and you will get 10x more out of this than anyone else. It’s human nature to be adverse to growth and change. In this episode you will hear: How to persevere through the pain of growth What growth looks like and what it’s like to be in the midst of it How to navigate uncertainty How to nurture and nourish your soul during times of growth Coaching Questions & Thoughts: How do you manage your emotions and thoughts during uncertainty? What are ways you nourish and nurture your soul? What could you do today to feedback into yourself? Even though things may be painful during a growth season, what are ways you’ve seen yourself change and grow for the better? Fun Quotes from the Show:“When you’re disrupting things it’s like an earthquake. The ground underneath you is cracked and it’s wonderful because it is opening new possibilities, it is giving you more solid ground moving forward. While all the positive energy is there, it feels very disconcerting while you are in it.” “You really can’t create what you want moving forward with what you were doing or who you were being with what you currently have. And you have to let go of who you were being and what you were doing.” “It’s about navigating uncertainty.” “You’re doing great even if you don’t feel super excited, high vibe, and super positive and everything doesn’t seem like it’s going your way. It doesn’t always feel good to grow. It doesn’t always feel happy to progress.” “Even if you are in pain or there is discomfort, it’s all part of the process of growth. Find ways to nurture and nourish your soul while you are expanding into a new version of yourself.” “I hope you feel encouraged and have a little more gas in your rebellious tank to keep on chugging along.” Resources: Find Shereen at: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and download the free happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️)
7 minutes | 3 months ago
#46 – Hey Queen, What if You Were KING OF YOUR LIFE?
Hey Rebels! The $h#t is about to get real. You know you are living your life’s most true purpose when you are running hard after the things that keep you up at night. So here I am, writing the very book that in its unwritten form haunted me late at night to write it, called “Revolutionary Woman” and a thought came to mind about you, and us, as women, choosing to live life as a KING. (pause) Wait what?! In ancient Egypt, believe it or not, women had EQUAL RIGHTS and far more rights than even modern day women today. There were many times in history where a woman, yes a WOMAN operated as a Pharaoh, y’all. Let me say it one more time, a motha f*ckin’ PHARAOH. Does this blow your mind? I’m 100% Egyptian, raised in America and I’m picking my jaw up off the floor. Who would I be today, if this was taught to me in school? I can tell you I would have spent my 20’s completely empowered, building pyramids for my kingdom, instead of asking for the worlds permission at every step. WTF. It made me wonder how differently we would approach life if we did it with the mindset of being a Pharaoh. A modernized female King with permission to rule our own vision, hopes and dreams for our kingdom. We would have kingdoms, that’s for sure. There is enough sunlight for all the Pharaohs to bloom, ladies. In this episode you will hear: History about the role of women in different cultures/societies. How the oppression of women have caused us to lose our power and voice. When to act as King in your life and what areas of life call for it. Coaching Questions & Thoughts: What are ways you give up your rightful power in everyday life or in your career? When was a moment in life where you felt powerful, completely yourself, and feeling like a King? How can you step into the attitude of a King? If you could do anything without hesitation what would it be? Fun Quotes from the Show: “I am a woman’s empowerment crackhead. So, what I am trying to do is make sure you are in command in areas of your life.” “I don’t need to be this [a king] in every area of my life, however when I am coaching a woman, it’s so important to start here because we are so very much socialized to be second in command.” “There is this inference of being second in command to the king – there's so many things about being a Queen, while lovely, that still keeps you second in command in your world.” “We have been oppressed terribly and there’s so much systemic disempowerment towards women. In an effort to bust that up, and buck the system, I am wanting to invite women to really think about what their lives would be like if they were acting like a King.” Resources: Find Shereen at: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’ and download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️ )
38 minutes | 3 months ago
#45 – 6 Powerful Ways to Lead Remote Teams with Bonnie Fahy
I recently sat down with Bonnie Fahy, hiring expert and creator behind Source It, the world’s leading program on hiring and managing remote teams according to Forbes. We talked about finding opportunity in disaster, how to manage yourself, and the importance of creating rules in a world where the only rule is to stay home. Bonnie is funny, wise, smart and deeply insightful – you don’t want to miss this. Quarantine has forced many of us to work remotely and that can come with a lot of challenges. There are many tools a leader and team can use to keep productivity high and teams mentally and emotionally connected. And of course, it wouldn’t be a true Awaken the Rebel episode if we didn’t cover handling conflict – especially in a remote situation. Face those fears y’all! Bonnie is so full of knowledge and wisdom, so I hope you enjoy this episode even if you find yourself unemployed and contemplating what the future holds for you. In this episode you will here: How to embrace your new lifestyle perks How to keep teams engaged when face-to-face communication isn’t as readily available How oxytocin plays into leading teams How to be successful as a remote manager What are the differences between a team in real life and remotely What is the right way to give feedback How to set clear boundaries and expectations How social time contributes to productivity About tools that will help you manage remotely and connected with your team in a personable way so communication stays clear Coaching Questions & Thoughts:What are ways your team’s dynamic has shifted since becoming remote? What are ways you’ve succeeded and/or failed in maintaining clear communication? What could you be doing as a leader or employer to make sure everyone is still connected and productive? What are workflow challenges you’ve identified since becoming remote? What are solutions or tools that would help fill the gaps or fix the broken systems? When handling conflict while being remote, did you confront the issues face-to-face via Zoom or a call or did you write a lengthy text/email? What was the result of the action you took? Fun Quotes worth entertaining:“Be gentle with yourself, this is a new skill you’re learning in a new world we are all living in.” Bonnie Fahy When you have a best friend at work you will be the most productive - Gallup “Communication is the response that you get.” Eban Pagan “Communication breakdowns break down relationships.” - Bonnie Fahy “You need to look at this from the framework of opportunity. You need to take yourself away from the shit storm of ‘What the F, this sucks so bad’ to ‘oh my god, this tremendous opportunity is here.” - Bonnie “Leading a remote team isn’t any different than driving in the day time vs driving in the dark. Just like you wouldn’t drive in the dark without headlights, you don’t want to lead a remote team without adding back in what you’re missing - i.e. the visual, the non-verbal communication.” - Bonnie “As a leader of a remote team, you're going to want to make sure that you’re taking full responsibility for communicating in the clearest way possible.” - Bonnie “It’s important to establish boundaries – when will you be available and when you won’t be available.” - Bonnie “Email is the best way to waste hours of your day and not keep track of things in an effective way.” - Bonnie “Conflicts are going to come up. From a teamwork perspective, you need to make sure you don’t take the easy way out. If you have a conflict with someone, get on the phone with them or get face-to-face. Do not be that person who writes up a huge email – that is going to breakdown your relationship so fast.” - Bonnie “When you don’t have trust, you don’t have a productive team.” - Bonnie “While it might seem as though it would be unproductive to have a chat room or social bonding time built in, that’s actually the glue that holds everything together. For remote leaders and remote teams, what can you do to create shared rituals?” - Bonnie “In a remote environment, you have to add the socialization back in.” - Bonnie “How am I going to allow this huge pivot of life to be the best thing that ever happened to me and not the worst?” - Bonnie Resources: Find Bonnie Fahy at: www.BonnieFahy.com www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️)
8 minutes | 4 months ago
#44 – Should I Lead with my Head or my Heart?
Today’s episode is all about being a risk taker verses being cautious. Being in your heart rather than in your head. I’ve been watching the musical Hamilton incessantly lately and it’s been inspiring me tons. The characters Alexander Hamilton and Aaron Burr are so different and it’s got me thinking about you, me and what style of life we choose to live. One leads with his head and one leads with his heart. Regardless of which character type you lean towards this podcast will support you in moving closer to who you want to be, stretching yourself and always leaning into that growth edge. As a coach, I help clients find their north star and that vision pulls them towards the goals they want to attain, and the person they want to be. Listen in to have your thoughts provoked and glean some inspiration from these characters in our history. In this episode you will here: How we can change our lives by identifying what our north star is and working towards that How to identify who we are now and who we’d like to be moving forward How coaching can benefit you in moving toward your dream life Coaching Questions & Thoughts Taking into account the characteristics of Alexander Hamilton and Aaron Burr, which archetype do you fall under? Are you scrappy & hungry with nothing to lose or are you cautious, careful, and strategic? How does your archetype help or hurt you? What is one thing you’d like to change about your approach to life? What is your north star? Fun Quotes worth entertaining:“When you’re actually just being real about what is, that’s where you can really see the benefits, the cost, and then make a decision moving forward.” Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale ❤️)
11 minutes | 4 months ago
#43 – I Exploded at my Husband
Today’s episode is all about how much we are all going through as a collective right now. I had my own little civil war with my husband and realized how tough this must be for everyone to be enduring. Luckily he is a man of steel, so we will be okay lol. But there are big topics on everyone’s minds lately, and navigating those conversations when differing opinions are present - can be really difficult. We’re all on edge from having to experience the trauma of a pandemic, the chaos is getting to us, and I wanted to address it. In this episode you will here: How quarantine is making it difficult to manage conflicts that we can usually work around How Shereen herself has experienced conflict due to quarantine and stress How it’s important to embrace the gray areas because wanting to be right can block harmony and understanding Coaching Questions & Thoughts Have you been experiencing more conflict with family members or friends since quarantine started? What area in your life do you experience the most confusion? When talking with someone about your point of view, do you always strive to be right? Or do you seek to understand their point of view too? What is one thing you can do this week that’ll help you manage conflict during quarantine? Fun Quotes worth entertaining: “When we’re quarantining, we’re all stuck together. A lot of the things that we’d normally be coping, normalizing, and rationalizing are sort of in your face. You’re just stuck with this tension and conflict that you’re normally able to manage, but you just can’t manage it anymore.” “I think when you’re trying to be right there isn’t space for listening, there isn’t space for true understanding, and there isn’t space for harmony.” “We’re going to take the right/wrong dynamic out of the picture. We’re going to enter the gray, darling. No more black and white, gray is the way.” Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale ❤️)
16 minutes | 4 months ago
#42 - How to Win at the Dating Game
Today we explore masculine and feminine energy in the dating game. I secretly have an obsession with helping people have healthier relationships and when it comes to the dating phase this is the key to getting to “I do.” I share some pointers from my personal experience, as well as some insights I gleaned from watching Rudy and Matt crash and burn on the show Listen To Your Heart. The bottom-line is that you must feel confident, empowered and secure in your star power when it comes to matters of the heart. Our insecurities can ruin our potential for love and connection if we don’t get them in check, so listen up. I know quarantine is getting in the way of dating, but what better time to adjust your strategy before getting back out there, amiright?! In this episode: Learn about masculine and feminine energy Discover when to lean into your feminine energy to support you in connecting with the masculine Hear how insecurities can block a relationship from coming to fruition Learn how reading your “audience” can help you in your relationships Hear how believing in your worthiness, and raising your self-esteem is everything in the dating game Coaching Thoughts & Questions: What type of energy do you think you give off in general? What type of energy do you give off in a relationship? What insecurities that creep into your mind when dating someone you like? What is the source of those insecurities? When do you feel the most confident in your life? How can you carry that confidence into your dating life? Quotes: “Women need to be secure within themselves, and comfortable in their power – not being overly aggressive with it, but knowing it’s there and that they would be fine with or without a partner.” “You’re it. You are it. If someone isn’t showing you that - that’s on them. You don’t need to do more or be more - you just need to let their ass go!” “When a woman displays masculine energy towards a masculine man she repels him. It’s just like magnets that repel instead of magnetize towards each other. If you have two positives or two negatives they repel each other. You need complimentary energies. This could be in any variation of gender in a relationship - in a same sex marriage you need one who displays the feminine energy and one who displays the masculine energy.” “Part of mastery, as a woman, is knowing where to express your feminine energy and where to express your masculine energy. And when it actually benefits you one way or the other.” Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’! Download my Happiness cheat sheet - get all the science-based tips I learned at Yale!)
10 minutes | 4 months ago
#41 - Do Women Get to be Selfish?
Let me prep you for the insane rant you are about to witness (and hopefully enjoy lol). In this week’s episode I discuss the Martyr Archetype. Women (especially after they become mothers) are viewed as selfish when they prioritize themselves and it’s disgusting. Today I get kind of wild with my cuss words after hearing a friend refer to herself as a C word for establishing and holding her boundaries. She had a coffee date planned with a friend and wouldn’t cancel it when her partner expressed last minute distress (a woman with boundaries – oh the shame!). You’ll also hear a story of when I was called a “narcissist” by a prominent woman in leadership for being enthusiastic about prioritizing my needs at an event in front of 400 other woman lol. This energy of shaming women into martyrdom is disgusting and I gave myself the gift of having a gnarly rebel rant about it today. If you ever feel guilty for prioritizing your health and wellness as a woman, listen up because this rant’s for you sister! Enjoy! In this episode you will here: How society holds women & mothers to an unrealistic standard How guilt is so pervasive amongst women for choosing themselves. How putting yourself last hurts you (and your family) long term How sometimes empowerment means saying “no” How life is meant to be lived and enjoyed on your terms How some women have chosen not to prioritize themselves, but that doesn’t mean you have to follow their lead. Coaching Questions & Thoughts Do you live life on your time making your own priorities? What are some lies you believe about what it means for you to take time for yourself? How do you feel when you put yourself last and don’t prioritize your needs? What are ways you can start prioritizing yourself today? List 3 things you can focus on this coming week. Fun Quotes worth pulling: “Can we just acknowledge how insane it is that a woman feels like a selfish cunt if she says “no” and prioritizes her joy?” “We are women. We are supposed to do it all, right? We’re supposed to look perfect, have the meals cooked, take care of the kids 24/7, not a need to inconvenience anyone else - and do it with a smile.” “If being called a selfish cunt is what needs to happen to me for me to actually have a moment of joy and freedom away from my children, a moment of serenity overlooking the lake having a cappuccino with a girlfriend, I am here for it!” “This life is meant to be lived and enjoyed. I often feel that, as people pleasers and as women, we live life but sort of on everyone else’s terms and make everyone else’s priorities our priorities.” “I am calling into question the racist male patriarchy that even suggests a woman is a selfish cunt if she prioritizes her happiness.” “I 100% rebel against and reject any system that makes a woman feel like a narcissist for being happy, prioritizing her needs and requiring her partner to show up for the family.” “We as women have subscribed to a trash system.” “This paradigm that makes women wrong for prioritizing their needs is so unhealthy. Please, please AWAKEN THE REBEL. Because sometimes when the system is fucked it’s real good to be bad.” Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones’! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale!)
18 minutes | 4 months ago
#40 – Don't Allow Trash Energy in Your Life
In today’s episode I outline what happens when we don’t truly resolve conflicts. I got in a conflict with my mom and some weirdness goes down before I finally grab my lady balls (ovaries) and tell her how I really feel. Definitely don’t miss the point and judge my mom, if you listen to the whole thing you will see that a lot of it was made up in my head. It’s funny, and ridiculous so prepare to laugh, but I also hope you learn from this comedic story that resolving conflict is actually your friend. In this episode you will hear: How holding in your truth negatively impacts you How resentment leads to cancer according to research How to teach your parents to be courageous in conflicts with you How you can be triggered by an unrelated issue if you hold in pain How we can misinterpret other people’s behavior when we are holding in pain How the victim/villain paradigm can often just be in your head When you stomach bad behavior for the sake of harmony you are actually just being inauthentic in that relationship Coaching Questions & Thoughts: Where in your life are you enduring bad treatment personally or professionally? Where in your life can you be more honest about how you really feel? Where in your life are you avoiding a conflict that you know needs to get resolved? Think about what you need from the person. Do you need an apology? Do you need them to do something that will make it up to you or rebuild rapport? Your needs are important, so honor them. Quotes: “When you address conflict by being passive-aggressive, you aren’t addressing it at all.” Shereen Thor “When you hold pain in for the sake of harmony, it doesn’t serve you.” Shereen Thor “An unresolved pain point will rise up in the form of an overreaction to something unrelated.” Shereen Thor “Misinterpretations are inevitable in communication, so the idea that we can go through life avoiding conflict resolution is unreasonable.” Shereen Thor “Research has proven that resentment leads to cancer.” Shereen Thor “When you avoid resolving conflict you avoid honoring your personal boundaries.” Shereen Thor Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale!)
13 minutes | 5 months ago
# 39 – Is Conflict Your Friend?
Today’s episode is all about Conflict. We typically avoid it, but it can be amazing for us if we have the courage to face it. I was born into a world of conflict, and eventually went on to get certified in Conflict Mediation and mediate small and civil claims in court - so I’ve learned to love this subject. Let me invite you into my world where conflict is actually your friend. It’s not the most easy-going friend, nor the most fun friend, but it’s a powerful friend who will lead you to where your soul is ultimately meant to go. So, let’s go! In this episode you will hear: How people pleasing can cost you happiness and health How conflict is actually an opportunity for growth, connection and healing 4 different approaches to addressing conflict and which one is healthy The positive aspects of conflict, and how they can unlock you living your best life Why establishing boundaries can improve your relationships How engaging in conflict resolution can help you be truly alive in your life How research says that building resentment can lead to disease in the body Questions: When I am dishonest with the people in my life about who I truly am and what I truly feel, what does that cost me? Who is going to stand up for you if you are not going to stand up for yourself? What does it cost you to not be truly expressed in your life? Quotes:“We think we are being nice when we avoid conflict, but when someone else wins at your expense it’s actually a lose-lose.” Shereen Thor “Through arising as authentic in the relationship the connection is stronger.” Shereen Thor “Relationships based on the pretense of being who they want you to be are not healthy relationships at all. In those relationships we are lying about who we truly are.” Shereen Thor “Be willing to live on the edge, because then you will live a truly alive life.” Shereen Thor “Research has proven that resentment leads to cancer.” Shereen Thor “If you are willing to be brave and face the discomfort of conflict then you will be rewarded personally and professionally.” Shereen Thor “There are 120,000 preventable deaths in America per year due to stress.” Shereen Thor “Now it’s your time to treat yourself better than your parents treated you. You are your own parent now. Let’s go!” Shereen Thor Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale!)
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