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In this episode, our guest is Chris Norton. He is a cool individual with a heart for God and loves football. He has been in phases of life where most people shut down, but he was able to pull through. He reached a different moment in his life that changed his entire trajectory. He has used this moment to build success not just for himself but for his family and the rest of the world. He has also appeared on multiple network television shows, and a documentary on Netflix called 7 Yards.   [2:50] Why should I listen to you? I’d say you should listen to me because I’ve got a lot of life experience, and it is always great to hear other people’s perspectives. You should learn things from my experience because it will help your life.   [4:00] Can you give us a quick synopsis of what trends back in your life?  I was just an 18-year-old college boy who was plain and had dreams for himself. I wanted to be a football player, meet my life's love and make a lot of money. But on October 16, 2010, I got injured when I was playing with my teammate. I suffered from a severe spinal cord injury and lost all movement. I had different surgeries, and I was given a 3% chance to be able to move or feel again. I had to do everything in my power to take control of my future, and that was the beginning of my rebirth. [7:00] What were the emotions you felt at that moment? How long did it take you to know that you could move past this? It was a long process, and that was the beginning of being emotionless. I wasn’t in any pain. It just felt like a regular football attack. I was numb, and I could not feel any sensation. Nothing worked, no matter how hard I tried to squeeze my hands. The more I say no when I’m being asked to make a move, the more I feel detached from my entire body. I was afraid, but this part of me reminded me to stay calm. I couldn’t do it, but I gave it time. At that point, I decided to face reality, closed my eyes, and blocked everything I didn't want to see. I told God I wouldn’t play football again if he gave me the chance to be able to walk again. Little did I know that God had a bigger plan for me than I had for myself.   [10:20] Where and how did you get the mentality to be honest with yourself? It’s a gradual step. It is not one day at a time, but one moment at a time. During therapy, I decided to make the most of each hour. I took responsibility. What I call "radical responsibility" is taking responsibility for all the outcomes in your life, such as good and evil, success and failure, and so on. Making excuses for yourself just keeps you stuck. They prevent you from doing what you ought to do. My power lies in my response, and that’s where I channel my energy. I asked myself different questions because I didn’t know what to do or the next step to take. But I decided to get out of that situation, which is the same for everyone. Focusing on what you can’t do is more accessible, but you can make the impossible possible.   [13:17] What are the things that I can use when I face a vessel like this? Every night, I called myself to sleep because I was terrified about my future. At night, when I had nothing to distract my fears from rushing in, it was always my darkest and most challenging moment. I didn’t have anything to work on, so it was hard to distract myself from these fears. At a point, I could distract myself by engaging in things that challenged me physically and mentally. I indulged in so many things, which helped me, and I believe it can help anyone too. I always think there is a way forward, either by deviance, acceptance or so on. There is a way you can get through this, and there are also a lot of solutions. You just need to accept, define and take responsibility for it.   [19:13] Was your faith in God present before the accident, or was it after the accident? I have always been with God. My parents dragged me to church every Sunday. They brought me to church, and I showed up. I was listening but wasn’t living my life to the Christian standard. It was an emergency case kind of faith. I held on to my faith at that moment because I knew that I needed something. When my injury happened, it was a time of complete loss, worry, and uncertainty, and I turned back to my faith. I had always been independent outside of God, but I grew my faith by having a dependence on God. God wasn’t in control of my life when it happened, but I turned to him, trusted him, and believed in every one of his words, which turned things around and helped me move forward.   [22:25] How did the whole thing with your family work?  My wife, Emily, was passionate about kids, especially kame from unloving places. She knew from a very young age that she would do that. It was different because I thought everyone had parents like mine. I grew up without realizing how blessed I was to have a family as I do, but she opened my eyes to see how naive and oblivious I was to the facts. She introduced me to the 17-year-old girl she mentored, and we took her in. She went to school and finished high school while she was with us. She later moved out to stay alone. Her absence in the house made us adopt four more kids. Every time we add a child, we can adapt to it. The more you take on more, the more you realize how much your potential can handle.   [31:15] As you look at the next stage of your life, what are the other stuff you focus on to continue working? I'd say right now. I am doing a lot of reading, reading about philosophy. I think learning never stops, and that is part of the work on how I can be a better dad, husband, and speaker. Being a dad and husband is essential to me, and I pour a lot of love and support even when I'm overwhelmed. As a parent, you just have to show up. No matter how tired you are, you have to make sure that your kids know how special they are and how I also love my wife, who gives them a great example.    [32:50] How does someone strengthen their resilience the way that you have? It is something that you look back and think about. You remember the things that you have overcome, things that you have achieved, and so on. Those are your proud moments. Being able to reflect on those things is essential, and I'm always considering the people counting on me. What you do and what you say matters because people pay attention to every one of your actions. I believe in examples. I know my kids are looking up to me, watching my examples and how I live my life. These things always help me to do my best and never look back.   [35:10] How much has your wife helped you as a team member? I’d say it is a life of impact and positive influence. When Emily and I started dating, she became my toughest trainer. She always pushed me to do better, and I walked better with her after a while. At that point, I knew Emily had to be the one to hold my hands. She is someone that brings out the best in me. She has high self-esteem for everyone. She is also very giving, thoughtful, and caring. She loves people regardless of who you are or where you come from. She encourages people to do more and to be better. Emily is an unbelievable team member.   [40:20] What was the drive for adopting kids? Each time we want to add a family. When we bring them in, we fall in love with them. We wanted them to be part of our lives forever. It was an easy decision because we feel peace in our hearts. We also wanted to be the best in parenting.   [52:14] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? I’d say that it is a life of impact, positive influence, and significance. He created me to live a life of meaning by serving Him and positively impacting others.   Key Quotes [5:30–5:35] If you do nothing, nothing will happen, but if you do something, something will happen.  [11:02–11:06] The more responsibility you can accept, the better your response to adversity will be.   How to connect with Chris Norton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisanorton16/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chrisanorton16 Twitter: https://twitter.com/chrisanorton16?lang=en

In this episode. Our guest is Jessica Zweig. She is an award-winning entrepreneur, personal branding expert, the founder and CEO of SimplyBe Agency, and author of Be- A no Bullsh*t Guide to Increasing Your Self Worth and Your Net Worth by Simply Being Yourself. She is big on how to increase your net worth by being yourself. You are suitable for success when you can figure out how to navigate yourself.  [3:09] Why should I listen to you? Because I genuinely love to know you. I take an interest in who you indeed are. I don't do small talk. I prefer to talk deeply about your trauma and challenges in a soul-to-soul discussion. I create a window for authenticity, so you should listen to me. I don't know if it's a skill, but it has always been my craving. That is what I am attracted to; it has always been a massive shift for me and my life. [7:45] How do you define great success? I can only speak from my experiences and the people I have been reasonable to work with. Success isn't about accolades, numbers of social media followers, or wealth but true fulfillment. It is a feeling of joy that aligns with who you are born to be. But to be who you indeed are to succeed, you have to activate yourself—activating your life, living your life, and performing your roles despite what people say. Living in integrity is essential, and I don't think you can live a life of success without activating that part first. We are into personal branding, but we do more. We permit our clients to be themselves.  [10:15] What journey led you to the person who does this for others? I grew up in a place where I was not cool. I was cocky, but I fell in love with theater. I went for an audition. At age 27, I became an entrepreneur and launched my first online business. For most of my life, I was cocky and gooky. I thought I was someone after starting the business. I was calm and all, but a few years later, the company fell apart, and I became financially broke. No money was in my bank account, and I was in debt. I disassociated myself with the person I was working with for the magazine. I disassociated myself from all and started from scratch and did the work. I had to heal and come to terms with who I am. Long story short, I started doing the work. It was when I was 32 that I figured out what I needed to do. I have always been a spiritual person and started to go on a more spiritual journey. I began to figure out my relationship with the divine, and that is how my life started to change. [13:35] What is the work you are talking about in this conversation? I learned to take radical honesty and accountability for my mistakes, opportunities, trials, and errors. No one can do that for you. For a long time, I did something wrong. I realized that, and I work in that aspect. I took a lot of retreats and figured out that I needed to take responsibility and be accountable for everything that happened in my life. Feedback is essential, but it has to come from people who want the best for you cos they will tell you the truth. I intentionally invested in people and the environment that will give me Feedback, and I still do that. So that is the work I'm talking about.  [20:54] When you go on this journey with people, what are their unexpected experiences? We don't ask them about their trauma first. Asides from giving them what they want, we offer them what they need. People hire my team to do a lot of work depending on their goals. We create a methodology and take them through a process that helps them gain clarity. We are majorly into branding, which is clarity. Talk about who you are in a few sentences. So we aim to achieve a crystal clear point on who the person is and what he can bring to the table. That is where we start, and the only way we can begin is if we ask a series of questions about their expertise, being, and all that have shaped them. We are into building their websites and all that defines the brand, but we start by defining the person's core values. We have to ask those questions to get there. [24:35] What do you truly live for in this whole process? What is your goal? I started my podcast with people that I have worked with. I make a joke with this saying. If you come into our offices for branding and we don't make you cry, then we are not doing our job. We must crack people up, not because we want to make them cry. We have a moment when we make them feel tense when we read to them about their brand after the whole process. I also feel good when a client reaches out to me to tell me how their business tripled after the branding process. That is one of my favorite moments that reminds me of what I do.   [29:45] What would you say to someone in this terrible situation?  It is a couple of different processes. One of the things that I did was activate. It's so noisy, and our brain is wired to adjust. So it's essential to be quiet so that you can hear your thoughts. It would help if you had personal time. It would help if you were alone. That helped me to create a relationship with myself and also gain clarity. Journeying with myself is the most effective therapy. It helped me to be brave and also be myself. I accepted myself, and that's how I navigate these trying times.  [33:50] Who is your book written for, and what should the reader expect to get out of it? The book was written for a specific audience, but I believe everyone can learn from it. A book for figuring out who we are. It is for conscious entrepreneurs and people who want to bring authenticity and more humanity to the value that they create. It is also written for people who wish to discover who they are and what they want to do. The book is about personal branding and empowerment. It talks about my journey also, and I would say that the work begins where the book ends. Everybody wants that, so it's not limited to a particular set of people.  [42:25] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? I have a key in my heart and believe I am here to help people unlock the divinity inside of them. I want to help people reflect on what makes them special, and I'm on that mission.  KEY QUOTES [15:05-15:07] The best thing you can do for yourself is to get Feedback. [17:30-17:32] Feedback is a gift [22:45-22:50]. What makes us who we are is not the rock bottom but the journey.  How to connect with Jessica Zweig Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicazweig/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/simplybe.jessicazweig/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/jessica_zweig?lang=en

In today’s episode, our guest is Nathan Chan. He is the CEO of Foundr magazine and is on a mission to create one of the largest brands that support and fuel entrepreneurs worldwide. He also loves to connect with leading entrepreneurs. He also loves to connect with leading entrepreneurs. He believes life is too short to do the work you have today. We will unravel how he made a shift happen and how we can learn from his journey.  [2:48] Why should I listen to you? I love this question. I think I have unique experiences about what it takes to build and grow successful businesses because, for the past eight years, I have been fortunate to meet people who create life-changing products and services that shake the world. That is something I do not take for granted. The fact that I have been able to speak with millionaires and multimillionaires is enough reason for you to want to hear from me.  [4:38] Do you mind sharing how you entered this space? I have been on many journeys. I did a lot of deep work on myself beforehand, especially personal development and growth. I read many books about masculinity, and I discovered that I needed to find my life purpose and what I am passionate about. I went back to university and studied marketing. I did some work, but I didn't find it fulfilling. After completing my studies, I was unable to get a job. I started a magazine at one point, taking it with me to every job interview.  [9:05] What was the thing that you were most curious about? I traveled around the world, and I dreaded going back. I dreaded going back so much; that was where I knew something had to change. I didn’t realize I wanted to start a business. Then I found this thing, I found love with it, and I realized that this is what I am meant to do, and that is the case for curiosity. For me, it is just about finding and doing what you love.  [10:39] Why are so many people living a 9 to 5 role? I was reading an interesting statistic that states that 50% of people in North America have a side hustle, which is a sign. I think the internet has changed the game and you can create things. You can develop products and services that help somebody and also work again. The internet has enabled us to have a voice, build a community, and so on. More than ever, the internet is giving us the ability to be able to change careers if we want to, and that doesn’t mean starting a business. You can create a company with no experience whatsoever, and you can change your life with it.  [13:48] What are some things you experienced that people don't know? In the first year of starting, the magazine wasn’t called Foundr. It was called something else, and we were sued by one of the biggest companies in the United States. That was tough, and I can never forget one of my building mentors in those early days. My mentor asked me what I was worried about and what was the worst thing that could ever happen. It was tough at the beginning. I started to build the brand, which entails the products, great design, and ambassadors. I found out that having successful business owners share their stories in the magazines made the brand credible. That is why we have been able to interview more successful founders over time.  [19:46] What is the progress and stage of the brand right now? I started the business with 2000-3000 USD Dollars, and even in the first 12 months, I used the power of Upwork to work with contractors to fulfill various aspects such as the design. I used to get my mum and dad to help me in their capacities for the magazines. I had a copywriter on Upwork too. I reached out to people who would like to feature in the magazine, write articles, and so on. I didn’t know what I was doing, but I continued. For the team, it happened from gaining more leverage from the content. One interview may be a podcast, blog post, article, or content. We are currently looking to build big brands and relaunch membership products. We started as a small business but have grown into an online educational company.  [25:10] What are you launching, and who is it for? As I was developing the magazine, I read a blog post about how I grew Foundr’s Instagram followers from 0 to 10,000 in two weeks. That post went viral. People started to ask me if I could do consultations for them, which I didn’t. I just want to build something that helps a lot of people out scale. I did a course on Instagram, and the results people got were terrific. We have been able to pull together a community and launch several studies. We will be launching founder plus, which is full membership access. You get access to the former courses and one new course per month. It is ideal for a business that needs a team, knowledge, and growth. [34:08] As you look at the next stage, are there some things that you as a person must grow into before this business can take place? Yes, I agree. Foundr wouldn't have been where it is today if not for the people around me. I have an incredible team, and I am forever grateful to work with them daily. I think people build businesses, and one big area that I need to grow in for me is developing into a great leader. I naturally want to do many things and am moving into the CEO’s role. That is why we want to add leadership into the courses too. I must learn to be a leader, hold people accountable, and delegate things. I think I am good one-on-one, but I am not that good in group settings. This is an area in which I am working hard to grow.  [38:00] What are some of the most recent things you’ve had to adapt to? There is one blessing in the curse of the CEO. If you ask someone to do something, they will take it seriously because of my influence. I’m learning not just the product but the product experience. We are trying to build world-class expertise.  [48:30] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? I would say that I would be a person that cares about others and lives life to the fullest.    Key Quotes [8:38-8:40] Passion is triggered by curiosity. [50:17-50:23] Whatever problem you have is being solved by somebody else, and it’s your job to find that person and learn from him.   How to connect with Nathan Chan. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nathanhchan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nathanchan/?hl=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/nathanhchan  

                           John Lee Dumas - Finding Your Fire In this episode, our guest is John Lee Dumas. He is the host and founder of Entrepreneur on fire. He is a remarkable individual who is one of the most successful entrepreneurs in the world. He shows the entire thing of what he does. He is also living a life that people want to emulate. He is enjoying his life but still maintaining a high level. Today we will unpack how he made it, the values we can extract from him, what he has experienced, and what we should do to succeed.    [1:58] Why should I listen to you? You should listen to me because of the message you passed across in the introduction phase. I am not brilliant, but I'm one of the world's most successful entrepreneurs. I have been a mentee for years, and I have learned a lot of things. I may not have original things to say, but I have much impactful knowledge to share.    [3:40] What things made you feel confident to take the first step of interviewing someone? It has been said that you are an average of the five people you spend the most time with. I surrounded myself with people that I look up to as mentors. I begin to listen to podcast interviews of hosts that I admire. But a question popped: Why can't I be in the room? Being challenged by that question helped me in taking a step forward. I started talking to people, and through that, I gained control. I started my podcast journey in 2012, and here we are in 2022 with a lot of incredible success.    [8:00] How does it feel to be successful at this level? There was no revenue in the first year that I started. I had no experience with entrepreneurship and how it works, but an individual reached out to me. He told me I have a fantastic audience who loves to hear me speak, and he decided to sponsor the entrepreneur shows. He did that because of the podcast's quality and the niche. I picked a place. Then I stuck with it.    [11:00] When did you find out that you are moving fast?  We got to a phase of sponsorship deals, and everything was going well. I had coaches, and I decided to launch a product. I decided to teach people how to grow and monetize their podcasts. I have always believed in investing in mentors, and I still invest in them. My mentor then advised me to write an email list and tell them I was about to launch a product. The strategy was to open the door for this product for $250, and after that, the fee increased to $500. I had it in mind to give 20 people, but 35 signed up over the weekend. It is important to make hay while the sun shines but remember that the sun will not always be shining.    [15:28]How did you think of having a team to support you on this? It was a process. At first, I wanted to do everything alone. I found every guest and did the social media pages' recording, editing, posting, and handling, but I got worn out. I couldn't handle it again, so I sat down and wrote the most important things I should do. I figured out what I'm good at the most and picked a group of professionals at what they do. We have different people with different roles, which helped me push my business forward while my teams do their best to get things done.   [20:30] How do you deal with people’s differences when building a team? That's tough, but a mastermind is okay. People who know and understand what you are doing are critical. They have done it before, bringing in their strength and weakness. They have done it before, so that you can leverage that. If they do not know something, be assured that they know someone who does because they are in that field. You've got to help one another to get things done. I have mentors, and they are significant to me. They give me the information, tips, and answers to questions I can't fathom.    [25:38] Was there a time when you didn't like your successful person? I'd say that in my ten years of building this person I am, there is no point when I regret becoming the person I am. I have no regret. I did get to a point where it was my best year. We had over 5 million revenues for the year, but the expenses were quite much. I had to pay workers, fees, and so on. In all, I never regret being the person that I am.   [36:24] Do you think the journey you've gone through can't allow you to work six days per week? Everything I did was part of the process. It was getting through the fire. I made mistakes, tried again, and I put in the wraps. If you want to be better, you must be consistent. Nobody is good at something the first time, but it gets better with hard work and consistency.   [42:13] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? The ability to choose my destiny is my biggest dream. I want to show people that they can be in control of their lives. You can live a life of your choice.    Key Quotes [10:30–10:37] Doing it right with a bit of risk will be great.   How to connect with John Lee Dumas Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnleedumas/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnleedumas1 Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/johnldumas

In this episode, our guest is Jen Sincero. She is an American writer, speaker, and success coach. She's one of New York's Bestselling authors. She's also known for the "You are a badass book series." Today, we will unravel why she started writing, how her journey was, and ultimately learn from her. [1:35]Why should I listen to you? I believe that certain people resonate with others, so I found that my books have been successful because my readers resonate with how I write.  [3:07]How did you find your voice and confidence? Keep writing. Finding a writer's voice isn’t easy, but you’ve got to keep doing it. If I like something or I find it funny, I put it into writing. I also have a rule that if something is too scary or vulnerable for me to say, then I have to put that into writing. [3:07]How did you find your voice and confidence? Nobody wants to read something from a guru or somebody who is entirely unrelatable. They feel you can relate to the trenches if you’ve been to the channels. They think they can relate to you if you’ve experienced what they are going through. I’m all for privacy as well for the private person, I don’t capture everything, but if it’s something that I’m scared to share because it is so true and makes me look stupid, I put it in too. [5:07]How did you guide people through that? Well, my whole journey started around money because I had a lot of things going on in my life, so I was always broke. So in my 40s, I was living in an alley, a garage, and driving a car. Being broke is boring, and each time, I feel disturbed because I know I can achieve more. Then, I started focusing on making money. Permitting myself to make money was the first step, and I write a lot about that in all my books.  [7:55]How did you come out of the broke mentality because most people don't? The first step was that I made the decision to make money, and I think that is so important. What people do is a fake decision. People make decisions, but when it gets hard, they begin to compile excuses of why they don’t need to do it. An actual decision means you’re looking for ways, not reasons not to do it. So, that was my first decision, and I started to read money books and self-help books even though I was afraid. I started attending money seminars and hired a coach, which was a big piece. [10:12]What were some of the biggest obstacles your coach helped you to overcome mentally to start making money? I returned to the bank to return my credit card, and my coach said, this could be the most essential $7000 I’ve ever spent, and just do everything I say. She promised to stick right by my side to get me where I wanted to be, so it was a financial investment and doing every terrifying thing my coach told me to do. She told me that I had only two options which were broke and cool or rich and cheesy. I still found my marketing voice, so I signed up for classes. My focus was on making money, so the longer I wrote my marketing stuff, the more I found my authentic voice. [13:30]Did your books do well as expected? I was a writer before I was doing any other things. So when I started reading all the self-help books, my write-up was exciting and was like taking all this information and putting it in a different voice but also sharing my journey. If my broke ass can get rich, then other people can. [14:30]In your journey, what were the other kinds of stuff that you uncovered beyond it? I wrote badass habits at the pandemic's peak, and I am today. Your habits create a reality. Your thoughts create your belief. Your belief creates your actions, your action creates your patterns, and your habits create a reality. If you are broke and you keep making brokeass decisions, that is your reality. Most of our habits are unconscious, so wellness is the first step in any transformation. Becoming aware of your bad habits and consciously working on them. It said, "I can't afford it" to "I can do it." When I was intentional about making more money, I had to discard the negative belief about money. What comes out of our life comes into our life. [21:20] What do you say to people scared of not being accepted? A lot of my friends supported me. Some didn't, and I had to let go of them. If they are not ready to support my growth, I should let go of them. [22:50] What should be the next step in finding real friends? Reading books, educating yourself, attending entrepreneurship programs, coaching classes, and so on will help you meet new people. [24:20] What are the anchor points of everything you discuss? Try out crazy and amazing things. Do something crazy in the direction of what you want to create. You are still in your comfort zone if you are not doing crazy things. [30:00] How do you create something that will make you know your infernal values? The truth is you've to be excited. If you are not excited, others won't be excited. When I started my online business, I didn't know what I was doing, but I still did it anyway. Even though I didn't know what to teach or how to teach, I gave it a trial.  [39:22] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? I think God should answer that. Key Quotes [2:43-2:46] If people don't know you enough to dislike you, they will never know you enough to love you. How to connect with Jen Sincero   Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/JenSincero   Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/jensincero/?hl=en   Twitter:https://twitter.com/JenSincero/

In this episode, our guest is Rabbie Mannis. He is an author, rabbi, philanthropist, public speaker, and philosopher. Philosophy helps us gain clarity in life, and he has gotten vast knowledge not from the schools he attended or what he has done to become a rabbi but from thinking from a great process that allows us to extract great lessons that we apply to the world.    [2:12] Why should I listen to you? There is no way you should listen to me unless you’ve heard something you are interested in. If I say something that has meaning for you, then OK.   [3:11] What is your life, and why are you the one who wrote the book? I happened to be very fortunate. The book for my education wasn’t acidic philosophy. Among observing orthodox and practicing Jews, there are different philosophies. The philosophy I was given and raised with is so unique that I couldn’t wait to share what I learned as a teenager. I can stay more before sharing, but this information is dynamic. I‘ve got to get out there and share. I couldn’t wait to start teaching, talking, and sharing. Before the internet, I never thought it would go worldwide, but the internet is a blessing. For this purpose, it is the greatest. So, philosophy is the major shift.    [5:00] What is unique about your philosophy? Earthquakes shift both religion and psychology. Let’s start with psychology. For all of history, what made people do something is needed. You’ve got to plant, or else you will starve. You have got to make a place safe for you, which makes us do the necessary work.  In recent years, needs have increased dramatically, and in austere times, there was only one need: don’t die. You need to survive, but today’s requirements are so countless. We need it so many times. You have to have a lot of things that cause depression. But psychology comes in and offers a solution to your depression. But what psychology says is pretty simple. You don’t know some of your needs. You have subconscious needs and suppress conditions, which are much more severe than the needs you are depressed about. So out of desperation, I turned to Religion for help but found out that you will still have requirements even after death. So, here is what I think is the future of psychology, and this is the major shift in the philosophy I was raising. If you search deeper within yourself, you will discover that you don’t need anything. You have no needs.   [9:54] How do you reach that phase of getting deep? Reaching isn’t easy, but it is there, and I think that is what we mean when we say, why can’t you just accept me for who I am. But figuring out who we are isn’t an easy task too. You don’t know who you are because it’s not a bunch of needs but a need free of conditions. We are free of markets. We didn’t ask to be born because we don’t need to be in the world. People who are not born do not complain, so all the needs that drove us up to this point are the need to survive. But today, there is more. People want to live. So all of a sudden, death is not the significant threat it used to be. The solution for people who get easily depressed is to help somebody else.   [18:20] How do you live with the mentality that you don’t need a thing if you’ve chosen to stay alive? The other thing we are learning from is a challenging experience. People worried about life and living high would tell you they are still disappointed. The suicide rate among this set of people is very high. So the pleasure that we do get from these things in life. Suppose I’m not here to survive, then why I am here. This question is no more extended philosophy but a desperate question. For thousands of years, every religion has told you that you are in trouble and need God to give you what you need. So you have to beg him, offer sprayers before he gives you what you need, but the truth is he needs nothing. He is God. You don’t need to beg. Don’t threaten people. Just tell them why they should be here.    [21:30] If it is a faith-based thing, then you believe that you need eternity?   The only logical answer is if I don’t need to be here and didn’t ask to be born, then why am I here, and why was I born? I can’t tell my parents because they also reproduce without their consent. I now know it’s not out of my needs, and I have to figure out whose needs. So, here is the second shift, and it is that we get the whole thing backward. Humans are needy, and God needs nothing makes no sense. Only God needs because he is the creator, and how can someone who created the entire universe not need anything. The person who says he needs something acts like God, and only God lives. God is your creator. You are just a guest who can come and go anytime. But the positive side believes that you are not needy but needed. The logical conclusion of why I am here is that someone needs me. I am here for someone else needs. That is the motivation. I can live a meaningful life without satisfying my needs, which is incredible. But religion saying that we’ve got to live a life of service before we can go to heaven is wrong.    [32:30] How do you frame this so that people accept this mentality of not needing anything? It is much better to be needed than to be needy. When I pile up needs that are not true, I become choked, which is wrong. Let me give you an example of when things are bad. We realize something that we’ve known all along. For example, a surgeon who loses a patient. He tried, but the patient died on the table. How does he handle that? The doctor will continue to be a doctor because he will attribute it to forces beyond himself, and if he believes in God, God decides, not him. So when you fail, you will realize that it isn’t your plan, but when you succeed, it’s all your credit. The bottom line is I didn’t create the world, and that is why we always ask the same question over and over again what the purpose of my being is? You say you need a goal, but there is something in humans that can’t be exempted. If I don’t feel needed, I won’t stay here.    [38:08] How do we find purpose, or do we live in pursuit of it? That is what the bible is. Here is the third shift. Everybody thinks the bible is a set of laws to govern lousy behavior and get you to heaven, but it is wrong. God is the name, and he told us what he needs in the bible. It’s all a description of him. What he hates and loves, and the Bible tells us what we can do for him. I don’t need to have needs anymore because I am required. So that is a massive shift in religion and psychology. Psychologically, I don’t have a necessity, but religiously God has needs as a supreme being, and no one else has the right to needs. It’s a divine thing to have a need.    [42:48] How do you operate in this world without being frustrated? It is unfortunate when people I see people cry because they do not have what they need. It is unnecessary suffering, but the fact that I have something to offer to them so that they can light up is much better. That’s why you’ve got to be confident. If God created you, he would provide and give you what to eat. God needs you to eat.    [44:58] How do I differentiate needs from wants? Want comes under the category of freedom of choice. You choose to enjoy, but you decide what to want. Needs imply that you have no choice. Everything in your life is significant. It’s all about God. He needs you to eat, sleep, and so on.   [48:50] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? He made many promises, but the significant one is that if you be with me, you will be mine and make me complete.    Key Quotes [8:35-8:40]If you look inside, you will discover inside needs. [12:15-12:20]It’s not that I am needy, but what makes my life meaningful is that I am needed. [27:20-27:25]When you are serving, and nobody gets the benefits, you are not doing. [47:57-42:00]Anything that is needed of you is divine.   How to connect with Rabbie Mannis  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ManisFriedman/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rabbimanisfriedman/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/manisfriedman Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/manisfriedman

Today, we have two guests and are Mike and Angie Lee. They are brother and sister, and they have been able to build a wellness brand called “SOUL.” In today’s discussion, we will find out the Aww shift moment they have had individually and together and what they have been able to do to put their experiences out in unique ways as influencers, business owners, and impacters.    [4:08]Why should I listen to you? That is an excellent question. I think someone should listen to me because I have interesting perspectives and am inquisitive about many things. This has helped me have some exciting conversations, and I believe my gift is bringing that level of curiosity to others.  Mike said he has a lot of empathy, so he chose to help people for a living. I feel I can relate to a lot of people because I have been through a lot.    [7:00]What are the Aww shift moments you have had in your career? The main thing is the genesis of when we started our awareness company. In 2013, I was on top of the world, young, undefeated, but my body started shutting down. I was sick and in a hospital for almost two years. I started having systemic information and migraine, and I was shutting down. It was one of the darkest times in my life that I still deal with, but I think that moment was a massive shift for me because, to be honest, before that, I was all about the ego. I was doing well. Everything was all about me but getting sick and being knocked down changed my perspective on things that changed me as a human being and set me on a new trajectory in life. I started diving into a lot of work, including mindset, draft working, and outside medication. It changed me into a better person.   [9:50]Tell us about your journey and some of the Aww shift experiences you have learned from? I think the battle I have always been fighting, which has been difficult for me, is my career. Life happens, but my job is what I struggle with. It’s like my gift, but it is also something that I battle with, and maybe that is why I’m so committed to expressing myself and empowering women.    [11:54]What advice would you give people during an emotional battle? That’s a great question. I think for me, the biggest thing is to have fun and laugh. When I was in that state, I was more miserable than ever, so from that, I learned that it’s not about that minute. You have got to have fun, laugh, and find ways to enjoy the moment. We take these experiences seriously and end up being hard on ourselves, making things more difficult. We should wait until something massive happens before we can find or experience joy. We should see joy as a necessity.     [16:55]As siblings in the same business, how do you find a place to keep mutual respect and work ethic? I know what she loves doing and the things that don’t interest her. So, it will be unfair to make her do the things she doesn’t want. We sometimes get annoyed at each other because we want to do things differently. Understanding what each person is good at and keeping them in their lanes. Being honest and thoughtful is very important too.   [19:44]When you have moments when you are not doing so well, how do you communicate things that the other party doesn’t want to hear? There’s no point in using a tool that won’t help the problem. Empathy is needed. You should put your emotions in check and come out with compassion. I think this resonates with people.    [25:00]What is your journey of building a brand together? Our secret is that we still have a lot of personal time. I attend to customers’ messages. I show up as much as I can. These days, companies don’t show the face behind their products, which significantly helps us. People are craving intimacy. They want to know and connect with the owner. People will buy from someone who shows up consistently, shares their story, and so on, and I’m grateful for that. I’ve learned that it is community and customer service first, followed by the product. If you can build a community, it will be easier to sell your products. The mistake most people make is focusing on the products first. They are not getting feedback on what their customers will prefer, which is wrong.    [28:10]Who is the person that you want to help? Our biggest three pinpoints are anxiety, sleep, and stress, and we found out that the people we are trying to help now have a lot of pressure and focus right now, and I think there are so many reasons for that. We know how essential sleep is, but people still find it has to have a good sleep. Those are the three pinpoints that we came in and addressed. I think I was taking CBD because I had anxiety caused by the medications and the tough time I was going through.    [36:20]What are some of the things that have allowed you to build this eight figures business, and how did you feel when you wanted to start? The birth of something is fantastic. Seeing an idea of nothing burst into something that I receive a lot of DMs about is astonishing. We didn’t know if it would work, but we tried it. We weighed out the things we would lose if we didn’t try it. The price of not trying something is tough too. You’ve got to try something out. You might try things and fail, but one thing is that you will learn some lessons. We had no idea of what we were doing, but we continued. Nobody knows what they are doing, but they are just willing to try things out, and I think collaboration is one of our greatest moments.    [48:18]What promise did God make to the world when he created you? According to Mike, God said that he would turn pain into a payment of gift, and he would also be able to help other people get out of pain. Angie said, ‘To give people a pause through laughter regardless of what they are going through.   Key Quotes [26:09-26:11] People will choose to buy from brands that they trust rather than a brand they haven’t heard of. [26:30-26:32] If you can build a community, it will be easier to sell your products.   How to connect with Mike and Angie Lee Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mysoulcbd/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/soulhealthnwellness/posts/

  In this episode, our guest is Zack Windahl. He has helped thousands of people understand the Bible better and grow closer to God. He runs the brand Sunday and is the author of several books, including the Bible Study, the Bible Study: Youth Edition, and the Sunday Journal. He has gone through a cold journey being a man of faith. He is someone who has been able to use his confidence and also help others in their journey.    [1:50] Why should I listen to you? I think I have a unique perspective about life-based on how I was raised, what happened to my family, the kind of process I went through, questioning many things, questioning my faith, and figuring out what I wanted to do with my life.   [2:20] How were you raised? My mom is a 4-time cancer survivor. When I was four years old, she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and had only a 5% chance of living. When I was 15 years, she had breast cancer. Literally, from 4 to 15 years, I saw my mum on a deathbed, which is years of transformation. She would always look at me and say: "Zack, it could be so worse, and I may not be here today, so you need to appreciate every single day for what it is and always look at how God is moving in your life because that is going to get through anything that comes your way." I had a vast, aww shift moment. God performed miracles after miracles, but I still questioned my faith and tried to figure out what this was about and what I wanted to call myself.   [4:00] Was faith always part of the family? If there was, why did you begin to ask questions about it? Yes, my parents were believers earlier, and when my mum had cancer, they dedicated their lives to God. I experienced God moving in many ways for most of my life, but I still fell out of my faith. Even though I saw God moving in incredible ways, I also cared more about what was happening in the world and what people go through. I tried to figure out what I wanted to do with my life.  [5:00]What called you into curiosity? When I graduated from college, I got involved in many entrepreneurial things. I allowed other people to impact my relationship with him, which I think many people do right now, and that is why people are deconstructing their faith because they allow other people into it. Everything fell apart, and I was at a crossroads in figuring out what I wanted to do with my life. I was a Christian who knew nothing about the Bible, and I went to Australia to study the Bible in-depth as much as possible. I learned until I knew I'd gotten hold of something I could help others with.   [11:09] What was the process of saying that I get this note and I'm going to package them up for people? I think I knew I was going to do some sort of entrepreneurial things. I was leading a small group at a time. I was learning and getting my content set, and I felt like I was supposed to help people because so many people read the Bible but don't understand it. I prayed about it, spent nine months adding to my notes, taking down a lot of opinions, asking questions, helping someone read through the entire Bible, and also figured out what the book means to themselves, and so I had this product, but I don't know what to do with it. I didn't know how to make a book, but people started to give me money I wasn't expecting. I reached out to Christian leaders about my idea but was told not to do it. I made up my mind to do it, and I started. I printed the first thousand copies, but it didn't do well after it came out. I kept pushing forward, ran ads, connected with the right people, started a team, and over the next few years, we grew the business. We've shipped over 300,000 packages and over a million books sold. We did everything independently until recently, when we reached out to distributors to shift to the next level.   [14:35] What were some of the things necessary for you and get your team and have a vision they could buy into? Everything we created was to help people grow their relationship with God and understand their Bible better. When building out this team and getting people behind it, I kept a full-time job I was paying people before paying myself a dollar. Every dollar that I made was mainly for the business. I realized that I knew what was good and bad at some other things. I hire other people who are suitable where I'm evil and always focus on the level I want the business to attend.   [18:00] What do you do at the moment when you feel overwhelmed? That is why it is essential to be surrounded by the right people. My wife is of great help and impact in my life, especially when I'm going through challenging moments.   [19:30] What are the other products in the brand? We have a book called: "The best season planner," a 90-day planner. We also have another book called: "Launch with God." This book helps people to launch their businesses in partnership with God. I'm a massive advocate for mental, physical, and spiritual growth and growth in other areas. We have a new book coming out this year that talks about finding faith, gratitude, and being optimistic every day. [20:50] Where did the book blossom from? Like I said about my mom, she shifted my mindset about life. I posted on my Instagram story and asked if people believe that the world is getting better or worse. 84% of people think that the world is getting worse, and I find that fascinating. Then I asked myself, why the people believe the world is getting worse? Is it becoming harder or easier to become a Christian? What we should focus on is how God is moving instead of focusing on how bad things are.   [28:40] Has leaning on Bible Study helped strengthen your relationship with God by assisting others to maintain theirs? One hundred percent because it gives me hope. It drives me to grow deeper and have better answers to things. The more I see people grow, the more I want to dive deeper. It's cool to see people excited about certain things I lost, and I know I have to come up with something extraordinary every morning.   [38:28] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? He will help you see where I am moving in the world and be hopeful for the future.   Key Quotes [23:20-23:25]If you start following people who share negative things, you will begin to feel negative. [23:26-23:40] If you follow people that are uplifting and hopeful for the future and showing off the incredible things God is doing, you will respond to that and live that way for life.   How to connect with Zach Windahl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zachwindahl/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ZachWindahl/ 

  In this episode, our guest is Cathy Heller. She is a business coach, spiritual coach, and best-selling author. She is also the host of a podcast called: DON'T KEEP YOUR DAY JOB". She is a successful person who has a cool journey of navigating life and doing so much stuff having great business success. This is an individual who has a calling and has been able to do more with it. [1:30] Why should we listen to you? I'm pretty sure that people are going around in VR headsets all day, and it's presenting a false illusion for them that's controlled by 96 percent of our brain, which is our subconscious mind, and it's telling us how limited we are. I want to show you that there is no such thing as thinking beyond the box. The illusion is the box. [2:40] How did we get to the point of not realizing that 95% of this is the base number? I spent years in meditation and learning how to be a witness to what was happening on my path to obtaining the answers that I was looking for. I began my self-discovery journey when I was fifteen years old. It's not just what you think, as you probably know, every thought is accompanied by feelings, and feelings produce chemicals in the brain. What truly happens is that we think something, feel something, and get ahead of ourselves, which leads to stress, and then our cells produce negative things, and we withdraw. As a result, we have people who say they aren't good enough, or that they aren't capable. This is a fake feeling that appears to be genuine. As a result, we must adopt a mindset of overcoming that feeling as quickly as we can each day. [7:25] What is the catalyst that drove you into this area of understanding? My mother had been depressed for a long time. My father married three times throughout his life. There was a lot of disturbance, and I found it to be very depressing. I began my search for happiness and discovered that many individuals believe that happiness is the polar opposite of depression. Happiness has a deeper meaning. It's a place where your soul takes control and you realize you have more potential than you realize. That's what we're looking for. We're all looking for ways to improve ourselves. So, because of my parents, I had to find new ways to feel alive, and now I'm on a mission to help individuals who are walking around with a fake feeling that they believe is genuine. [12:30] How do we unravel this? We unravel it by realizing that we need to start asking new questions. "What do I need to do?" is the question that everyone is asking. "How do I need to be?" is the true question. The question of how must be addressed. Realizing that you don't have to accomplish anything is the gateway to your expansion. The coherent signal is the most powerful force on the planet. We are conditioned to believe that love must be earned, and that is not true love. You don't give love for the sake of giving it. The only thing people/the world asks of us is that we love them. Take a look around you, at your family, your career, and everything else, and you'll notice that everyone just wants to be happy. [15:30] How do you trigger this energy and express it in a way that allows your life to change outside? When I teach someone, 98 percent of what I teach them is energy, and only 2% is physical. Let's take a closer look at this in more detail. There are three solid steps to follow if you have a job and want to start a side hustle like a business. Select it, sell it, and skill it are the three options. You must select. It doesn't matter if you try multiple things; in fact, you should, and once you've chosen one, make sure you give it away for free to people to test before selling it. Most times, what people have is a courage problem, not a business problem. There is no failure. It is rather called feedback. When a customer gives you a rating of 1-7, it's not that impressive but a 9-10 rating means that they'll recommend you to others and that is a pathway to having a successful business. [23:18] What makes a 9-10 rating? There are just two words and they are radical and perceiving. You must be making things, listening to your customers' needs, and making them feel that energy. Why does Amazon do more business than other online stores? It's because they are studying you differently. Business is the bedrock of any relationship and what this means is thinking of what the other person wants. [25:40] How do we get someone to take these concrete steps and apply them? When we look, we look for a greater vision and that is where the energy comes from. If you can't see your business growing to be a successful one, then your customers can't see it. It starts with you. The positive thought and mindset must start from you and this is what gives you the whole energy that you need. The combination of that energy and your vision won't make you lose and it will make you become what you're meant to be. [31:57] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? God said, "She's going to show you a mirror of how amazing you are and you're going to believe it".   Key Quotes [24:32-24:36] The only thing we receive is that which we give away. [28:38-28:41] When someone can see what other people can't see, it moves the world. [29:30-29:35] The power of vision is amazing in such a way that if you have one, other people will get behind you.   How to connect with Cathy Heller Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cathy.heller/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cathyhellerbiz/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/cathyheller?    

  In this episode, our guest is Gabby Bernstein. She is an American author, motivational speaker, international speaker, and podcast host. She genuinely cares about life and other people. She is not just a product of business success but self success, and through that, she has been able to help other people achieve success. She is also the author of nine different books and is the No.1 New York best-selling Author. [1:55] Why should we listen to you? It would help if you listened to me because my presence makes you feel good. My presence enables you to recognize your authenticity and how to stay in your authentic truth. I believe that it is not by my words but by the presence that I bring. [3:30] When you connect with people, do you really open up to them? Whatever the reason may be, I try to connect. I'd love to answer this question with an example. I went for my regular treatment, and I connected with the woman in charge of my treatment. I started asking her questions out of curiosity, and she opened up. Through our conversation, the beautiful truth came through. She talked about her addictions, finances, and her family. She didn't know who I was, but we spent hours discussing how she could navigate her family and her habits. It was a beautiful moment. I'm not recommending that we go about discussing our lives with random people, but I'm recommending that we should be real and share our authenticity with others. [6:58] Where did you get the energy for that?  I energetically decide when I'm going to open my door and when I'll shut it. I choose when to talk and when I'm not going to talk. Sometimes, I'm consistently elevated depending on the kind of connection I get during the conversations. It is not always the hour. It may be a brief encounter of happiness or pleasure that people derive when they meet it. I make sure I reply to every person I meet with kindness and compassion. [10:08] Why is this the right book right now? Happy days: The guided path from trauma to profound freedom and peace, the book is called. Moving from somewhere to Happy days is a journey, and I had the privilege of undergoing the trip and coming out the other side. I went through a series of mental breakdowns and pain. I was doing all the beautiful things in the world but still going through pain inside. At a point, I had a dream, and I remember being a victim of child sexual abuse. When I woke up from the dream, I was tensed and terrified. I was afraid, but that dream opened me up to the journey of freedom. Through the plan, I discovered why I was always scared and went through a series of mental breakdowns. In that moment of undoing the emotional abuse that had caused havoc on me, I knew I would write a book. [14:15] Why don't some people know how to confront this situation? Many people find it hard to shut down those experiences, some do not even remember, and some do not want to talk about them. Unfortunately, your body remembers it. The way you brush your teeth is even a response. People tend it walk over it rather than face it. Pretending to get over it will only cause a wreck rather than healing. [19:05] How many times do you find people punishing themselves because of their trauma? A chapter in that book talks about shame, and it is named: "Speaking the Unspeakable." The reason why people don't talk about their trauma is because of shame. Shame shuts us up and makes us think that we are not good enough. Shame makes people believe that they are a piece of shit, and nobody will accept them for who they are, and in a bid to avoid this, people shut up. A lot of people experience this, and I also did. The trauma makes us believe that we are inadequate and unworthy, and we believe it. Unfortunately, thinking it only leads to self-punishment. [21:20] When can I expect to have any bit of freedom from trauma? It would help if you were willing. When you have even the tiniest willingness, that is when God can enter. That is when you are open to solutions on how to help yourself. Willingness is the first step to happy days. You must be ready to help yourself. Willingness will help you to know that you did it for yourself. Even when the journey is rough, willingness will keep you going. When you are willing to help yourself out of trauma, God will open doors for you. He will give you the time, energy, and resources. You must be ready. [24:13] What keeps you on happy days as you help other people? I feel grateful every day and feel like I have an extraordinary life doing this. Whenever I feel disconnected, I practice the principles I talked about in this book and find peace. I have been able to show up at different times because it is like a mission. When you are on a mission, you are not alone. I know that I am not alone and that God is in me. I know that God is working through me, and I must allow him to work in others through me. People are going through a lot, and the country's situation isn't helping, so I wrote this book to save people. [28:05] Did you talk about skills and practices in the book that will make people believe that it's, is not just a one-way thing? Yes, I talked about practices and behavioral patterns that can help you. The book introduces you to techniques that can help you heal on your own, or you take a step forward by opening up to a therapist. The book also talked about practices for navigating your nervous system.   [32:00] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? The world would be shown in a gentle and softly way.   Key Quotes [17:38-17:50] When you have unresolved trauma, you can't live your entire life running from it, but if you have the tinniest willingness to tap into freedom, you will be set free. [29:40-30:00]  The book gave me the confidence and permission to step into the unknown inside me and also encouraged me.     How to connect with Gabby Bernstein Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gabriellebernstein Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbybernstein/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/GabbyBernstein/

In this episode, our guest is Ryan Blair. He is a father, husband, and business leader who was able to navigate craziness into impacting millions of lives. He has successfully created something that impacted millions of lives not just from the aspect of the business but from the heart. He is now in the direction of taking what he has experienced, and what he has learned and bringing it to the world of entrepreneurship and humanity. [3:10] Why should we listen to you? I speak from love and when I talk to people, I do it with love. Love is my energy. My energy is love and so when I speak to people, I speak with love. [5:26] What is the story that progressed you to the level that you are right now? I grew up in a household with low vibration. I had a difficult childhood, growing up in an atmosphere where my basic needs were not provided. I last saw my father when I was 13 years old. My mother struggled with alcoholism. I was dissatisfied, but I eventually channeled my urge to be powerful into a street brawl. I was imprisoned for four years. I wrote the judge a letter appealing for mercy when I was 17 years old. The court signed the letter, I was freed, and that was the start of a new progression in my life. [7:38] What was the reason why you wrote the letter? I wasn't a good writer, and I had a hard time spelling, but I was determined to speak with the judge. What I told him was that I accepted responsibility for my mistakes and expressed regret, as well as writing to the judge pleading with him to release the other convicts out of love. He read the letter and agreed to let me go to college, but cautioned me that if he saw me again, I would be sent to prison. I had to adjust my entire life at that time. [9:44] What was the moment you decide to venture into entrepreneurship? I was assigned to a mentor who was a successful entrepreneur. My father came from a working-class family. All three classes had been seen by me. The poor, the wealthy, and the middle class, which was where I started. I made the decision to become an entrepreneur at one time. I understood I didn't need to be a lawyer or a doctor before I can employ others. [11:40] How was your first business and what are some of the things that made you successful later on? My first business wasn't very successful but it taught me a lot. I got it to about a million dollars but it wasn't a scalable business. I was into computer repairs but nobody was ready to invest because it was not scalable. I was so pissed off that I swore to learn what scalability is all about so that one day a venture capitalist will invest in me. My next business was skpe pipeline which failed and I had to start all over again [13:40] Where did the idea for visuals come from and how did you grow it to be such a conglomo impactful business? Sky Pipeline cut the two founders of vice house and nick started calling. Black mullen asked I'd love to help them build their business. I fell in love with the research guy named Dr Michael Seidman and his products and I thought to myself that I could be a part of this project and help them bring it to the marketplace. I brought a venture capitalist and we raised 100 million dollars for the business. We then turned it into a 600 million dollar business. I must say that I was a strategic and conditional partner more than the others. They possessed strong fields in marketing and sales and the combination of all of us is what made that company a special company. [16:23] With this new venture, why was it the next call for you? I went through a major correction in my life. I lost my mother and mentor to the cold hands of death. I channeled all of my energy into success and status-seeking which was a great strategy to get my mind off the pain that I was suffering from. My mother's transition made me look into the corner of my soul, shadow, and psyche, and I looked for every piece of anger, and unhealed trauma. I spent two years of my life reemerging with some new wisdom and a new way of life to share with my fellow entrepreneurs. I went deeper into meditation, and psychology and when I emerged I found out that I could help a lot of people with this newfound knowledge that I've received. [20:40] As you navigate, what do you see are some of the pitfalls that as your work kind of dials in that you're uncovering that most people do not realize they are battling with on this journey? The majority of individuals are unaware that they have a lot of hearing to do. You know, the way most of us were raised didn't meet our needs• We may have had excellent parents, but in many cases, our parents didn't know any different because parenting as a whole is still a relatively new idea. Most people have closed their hearts so the formula I use is to help them heal. I go deep into their healing, they grow through healing and when they grow, they have to heal again. I will tell you that an entrepreneur's job is to solve a problem in the external marketplace and the way you solve that external problem is by solving the internal problems on the inside of your walls.                                                                                               [23:25] How do you reach the people who need it but don't know they need it yet? I resisted it and then my life got to a point where I was open. So, I need someone who is open when they go through a life change. The good news is that we are always going through life changes as individuals so those are the primary people that I work with. Like we always say, execution is everything. Most people I find that have a high degree of confidence know what to do but not how to do it because something inside of them is sabotaging their capacity. So we have to make them realize that it is not the skill that is the issue, it is the fact that they've not developed a vessel capable of acquiring the skill.   [28:27]  How do people not ruin their lives as they start executing? Your primary job in life is to manage and maintain the highest degree of positive energy that you can. I have to make sure that the energy that I bring to my time is the highest quality energy that I can.  Money handles itself because if you have the energy to correct and bring it to the table.                            [37:50] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? I am here to inspire. So God said, "This is my son, Ryan and he's going to go through hell and back and he's going to create quite a story of inspiration along the way".   Key Quotes [24: 20_24:25]  Execution like we always say is everything. Every great leader will tell you that what you look [26:40_26:45] Capacity is a person's physical, and mental ability to power, and produce productivity to the operator   How to connect with Ryan Blair Website - https://altercall.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/realryanblair/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/RyanBlair  

In this episode, I am humbled to have Erin Skye Kelly. She is an award-winning and bestselling author who has helped thousands of people pay off millions of dollars in consumer debt and ultimately change their lives.   Despite her terrible stage fright and general Canadian awkwardness, she has shared the stage with legendary motivational speakers such as Tony Robbins, Phil Town, and Gary John Bishop.   Erin's seminars and workshops are judgment-free zones of equal parts personal growth, rock concert, and love. She is hired to work with ordinary humans who want to achieve extraordinary things. Because of her track record of helping people create a trajectory of success, the phrase she most often hears when people meet her for the first time is, "Wow. I thought you'd be taller."   [03:18] Why should we listen to you?   When it comes to finances, the person you should listen to is yourself. Your instincts will always tell you if the financial decisions are correct. Another thing is to research and find resources that connect with your financial situation. They will help you a lot.   [05:57] How do you deal with people in debt/financial instability? Self-Awareness is the key when you know how to interact with money and how it works all around. It is also essential to understand how the financial systems work and how they are designed to put us in an unhealthy economic environment to make profits. In this case, I make them look a step back, realize how they got into debt, how the system is designed to get them there, and how to face the situation and change their mindset. [08:22] How do you take that kind of thing rooted? Self-awareness is still essential in this part also, knowing what matters more than the other will assist you in staying away from debt. It would help if you also were cautious about what we put on social media because there is no extend to what we can consume. The pressure that comes with social media can highly affect our decisions regarding finances.   [11:00] What is the essential thing that drives your thoughts? When reality hits you, you open your eyes and see what is important to you. It is the core relationships around me, my kids, the things that are aligned with me, and my spending. Many go through horrible experiences to find their worth which is okay. [16:43] What is the tie in the book, and how does it help with debts? The book is about emotional debt that privileged people have on their credit cards, and they don't want to settle, how emotional debt is taking away from life, and when we can reverse engineer it. The book also talks about removing shame, living authentically, living more interesting, and creating your identity. [22:07] Erin explains the four categories of experiences It's basically where you take everything that you do in terms of habit or behavior in a given week. You divide them into four categories. Class four experiences are things that don't feel good, and they're not good for me. Class three experiences are things that feel good, but they're not good for me. Class two experiences are things that might not feel good, but they are suitable for me. Class one experiences are things that feel good and are suitable for me. [33:31] How much do you think accountability matters to someone in debt? Accountability depends on trust. It should always be the person you know and trust. Because laying down your financial status to anyone is not safe. Financial infidelity among partners is normal, and this is because it may not be safe for partners to open up their financials to the other because of their behaviors. And so the accountability. [41:00] When was the book first written, where did it comes from, and who was it for? I wrote the book for the 20-year-old version of me that ought not to have gotten into debt in the first place. So the way the book is divided, it's three phases. The first phase is the financial foundation, Understanding how to pull all the pieces together and everything that I wish I had known when I was younger. Phase two talks about consumer debts and paying off debts aggressively and effectively, and finally, phase three words about wealth building. [47:04] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? Without this question, we all wonder aimlessly, and if you are struggling with money or finances, this question is critical. The promise that God made to the world when He created me is my entire purpose. In the book I have, I say, as I quote, "God, let my life be a love letter to you." The goal is about making everybody feel seen and heard and loved wholly and completely for who they are today and able to call them into who they are created to be. Key Quotes [35:23] "Accountability is critical, but it matters who it is." [38:17] "cutting the expenses is to its lack of mentality and thinking."   How to connect with Erin Skye Kelly Website - https://www.erinskyekelly.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/erinskyekelly/?hl=en Twitter - https://twitter.com/erinskyekelly?lang=en    

In this episode, our guest is Brian Dawkins. He is a coach and also the author of a book titled, “Blessed by the best”.  He has successfully climbed to the top of the success level but the cool thing is we are going to talk about the things that happen behind the scenes, how he became successful, and also pass the message to other people.   [2:48] Why should I listen to you?       My personality is really to listen more than I speak. I know how to be in my workspace and when it’s time for me to speak, I know what to do with it. Being blessed to have had some of the success that I have in life, I understand the significance of framing/reframing a situation and what that situation can bless you within the present to have your future.       The level of success that I have also attained helps me to know that I have wisdom that should be shared with somebody else.   [4:58] What is the moment that shifted you to where you are now?       While growing up, I was the smallest kid in the neighborhood and I always thought I had to fight which I did. I went through diverse of pain and disrespect and at some point, I had to use those things as a platform to grow. The majority of success that I have had in my life has come out of pain and that pain has taken me to different heights that I would never reach if I had not made use of the pain and disrespect to grind and work harder.     I was able to make use of the negative things that happened to me as part of my growth process and that is one of the main ingredients for success.  [8:50] If you think it wasn’t supposed to be you, where did you get the ability to attain the height of success?          I was blessed to have my parents around me. My father not only played the role of a parent but also proved to be a man. One of the things he taught me was that whatever you start, you must finish. He developed in me the mindset that I should always give more than what is expected of me. What I learned from him became a part of me and also a major principle in my life.          My mum also taught me that you don’t start a fight and not finish it. You must fight in a way that they have to pull you off the person. So my dad taught me how to grind and my mum taught me how to fight.   [13:26] How did you show up differently whenever you make a mistake?        I’m extremely hard on myself so I am brutally honest with whatever I see. I wasn’t solely a perfectionist but I expected a whole lot of myself. Whenever I make a mistake, I am extremely hard on myself and I make sure that I get back to practice. So, I always make sure that I never make the same mistakes whenever I recognize them.       I was treated badly by my team and as time pass by, I begin to love them and develop the mindset of never letting them down.    [20:25] Did you ever experience the fear of being judged by people when you want to talk about what you are going through?      What I’m going through is not for everyone. I call it cerebral wellness and it is important to me. First, I can not do it alone. As men, we were made to believe that it is wrong for us to be emotional. We should always bottle up our emotions but at a point, l had to speak up. I begin to talk about what is affecting me without the fear of being judged.         [22:48] How did you navigate to the shift moments especially when you don’t have an outlet?        When you think you don’t have an outlet, you do. There is at least one person you can always communicate with.   [33:05] What are the things that help you get back on track whenever you make mistakes?      If you expect to always have success without a fall, then you are already in the wrong space. You will fall short and you have to pelf to fall short at some point in life. You are not trying to fall but you will at some point. If you fall and it hurts you, you might have to take a count.     I might need to take a little time but I will definitely rise. [36:13] What are the things that work well for you?        The first thing that works for me is the power of the pause. I breathe a little and then explode. During this process, I begin to express gratitude for the things that I’m grateful for. I recognize that the things I fail at don’t make me a failure. With gratitude, I learn that failure is temporary and it shouldn’t last. It is just for a season.        With this, I learn to recognize what I can learn, how I can grow, ad, how I can get better. I recognize that I make mistakes but I do not dwell on them. I make room for it to move on and replace it with powerful thoughts.   [43:45]  How did you know it is time to give back to the world through a book?    I never thought I would write a book. In the book, I talked about how I had speech impairment which is stuttering, and how it got worse. I was emotional and sometimes I go far than my tongue and mess up the whole speech. So I couldn’t think that I would become a public speaker and also write a book.      The book isn’t about football even though it has football in it but it will show you how I developed a positive mindset and principles that helped me. It is my hope tI hope I achieved success and also learn to take time out of your schedule to also apply the same mindset and principle. [57:00] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?     What God said was, “The passion that this smart child would operate in will be something that will bless whosoever comes in contact with him”.    Key Quotes   [4:23-4:28]  There is no meaning to a moment except for the meaning we give to it.   [6:40-7:00] The majority of success that I have had in my life has come out of pain and that pain has taken me to different heights that I would never reach if I had not made use of the pain and disrespect to grind. [24:50-25:05] If the stuff that I have bottled up inside of me is causing me to act the way I am, why would I think I can dump them on another person and not expect them to respond similarly or worst.   [41:56-42:03] If you can control your thoughts, you can control the direction you are going.   You can find Learn more about Brian Dawkins Website - https://briandawkins.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/briandawkinssr Twitter - https://twitter.com/BrianDawkins Linkdin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-dawkins-sr-8a48474a/

In this episode, our guest is Emmanuel Acho. He is one of New York’s Bestselling Authors and also the creator of Uncomfortable Conversations with the Blackmen.                  Emmanuel Acho is part of the people who don’t set defense. He knows what he stands for and what he stands against. He is not just someone with a strong opinion but with a strong set of experiences that leads to opinions that have weight.   [2:53] WHY SHOULD WE LISTEN TO YOU?   I picked up a football and I made it into the National Football League. I picked up a pen and I became a NO. 1 New York Best Selling Author. I picked up a microphone and I won an army. So, my works and credentials truly speak for me. I barely talk but when I do, then I must be saying something very important.   [6:00] WHERE WAS YOUR IDENTITY CREATED?   While growing up, I watched my parents work hard and progress through their hard work so I can say that is where my identity came from. To me, success is oftentimes a more committed dedication and opportunity while luck is when operation meets opportunity. While luck is relevant without operation, it is also irrelevant without opportunity. I don’t believe my identity is in my athlete. My identity is truly in my character and work ethic.   [11:45]  Whenever things fall apart, why was it one of the most painful moments, and what do you take from it?   I learned that it is important to keep going to work, keep excelling and keep getting better. Sometimes in life, you have to choose not to see what you see. You just have to choose not to believe your eyes in some situations.   [14:13]  I do not believe in it that all your goals kind of fall apart, what is your perception about this?   Chapter 11 of  Illogical, my latest book in partnership with Oprah is called goals are dumb. Goals are stupid. If you set a goal and achieve it, congratulations but what if you could have done more? If you set a goal and do not achieve it, you will ruin your self-esteem and self-efficacy. Instead of setting goals, have an objective with no limitations.     [22:18] Where do you know when to listen to some people?   It takes a lot of discernment. The apple air pod has a transparency function and a noise cancellation function so do we humans too. We have to ultimately live life with both. Sometimes, you have to completely cancel out any form of noise while sometimes you just have to let in some feedback so that you can improve as a human being.   [25:30]  What promise did God make to the world when he created you?   I am not super talented, or super skilled but I’m obedient and I think God’s promise is that he is going to bring forth someone obedient enough to use his skills to try to change the world.   KEY QUOTES   [17:40-17:41] A goal is an end at which energy is aimed while an objective is simply energy aimed in a direction.   [20:35-20:36] All we focus on in life is what we can see and what we can quantify not realizing that some of our biggest hardship moments are unquantifiable.   Learn more about Emmanuel Acho   Twitter - https://twitter.com/EmmanuelAcho YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/Acho/featured Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/emmanuelacho/?hl=en Linkdin- https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmanuel-acho-ba35a2b9/  

In this episode, our guest is Dr. Robbin. She is a Pharmacist, entrepreneur, podcaster, and social media influencer who encourages fitness and full expression through her brand. Robbin uses her knowledge in the medical field to create amazing products for fitness and also add value to others through her social media platforms. Dr. Robbin has successfully combined the medical field and social media to influence lives positively. She has created something great in life and still doing that. Today, she shares her journey of being a pharmacist, social media influencer, and adding value to others.   [3:05] Why should we listen to you?                                                              I am a product of my environment and living has made me gain experience. If I’m going to talk to you or share advice, it is going to be about something that I know. We live in a world where people try many things which I have done too but the most important thing is trying and succeeding and this can only happen with discipline and consistency.   [4:42] Where did Dr. Robbin begin?   I love medicine and have always been good at science so I started working as a pharmacist technician. I was good at graphic design, and website building so social media came naturally to me. There is a difference between being an influencer and being influential so I take my time to give back to students by adding value to them and also mentoring them.   [9:00] Did you know you were going to step out and do socials or did it just happen?                    It's funny I have the same amount of experience and ambitions as a social media influencer and a pharmacist because I did everything at the same time from high school to now. You must have leadership qualities to apply to medical school, which prompted me to launch a business of which I was the owner and which also served as a platform for community development.   [12:33] What are your intentions when bringing up content?   I think it is important to create organic content. Videos are also a way of showing who you are and this is so evident. Your followers want to know you, they want to know what you can offer them and before you can achieve this, you have to put yourself out. I would advise anyone to make use of reels, trending audios, and hashtags, and also have something educational to teach.   [14:08] What was the building of your brand and how do you get to it?    It came to me as a vision. Some people go to pharmacy school to become pharmacists, while others want to use their skills to help the business grow. For me, it's the other way around as I consider how I might use my understanding of medicinal ingredients to create things that can change people's lives. I'm a busy professional who understands that most people don't have time to look out for themselves. So, I created the face wipe product to streamline the routine of skincare and fitness.                                                                 [16:30]  What are the things you’ve gone through to keep this business running?    This is the most difficult for me. All because of what I do, it appears to be a full-time job; I manage everything myself, including social media, advertising, and everything else, but that's something I'd like to change this year. It's also crucial to have someone on your team who believes in you. It's not a good option to hire folks that don't share your vision. You can’t do everything. Work hard, gain new skills, and hire someone to do the work for you.   [18:08] How do you know when it’s time to bring a team on?   I would say when you are into the product business. You need more hands. You will want to add more aspects like a newsletter and this will require a marketing person. How fast you want to go will determine if you need someone or not.   [29:54]  How do you make someone attached to your brand?   It is not about the title but what you represent. If you know a specific field well enough and you educate your followers, they will become attached to you. People are paying attention to great content and they will become attached to you if you can offer that. Add value to them. Be a big supporter of them. Continue creating content so that you can be seen.   [34:00]  What is that abundance you are trying to get for your audience?   The first is to allow people to have the same transformation that I do. When I was in pharmacy school, I took discipline from it and I applied that in everything that I do. So, my mission is not only to create but give people the opportunity to coach them, communicate with them, live calls and all. In short, build a healthy relationship with me.             [42:20] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?                    I believe God made a promise of representation. A lot of young women get scared of their profession because they don’t feel like they can be themselves but it is not that way for me.   I am living on the belief that you can successfully graduate, be a doctor and also live all your dream. You can be anything. You can use all the talents that God has given you. Don’t let anybody put you in the box. You can be whatever you want to be.   Key Quotes  If you want to bring someone to your team, you must have expectations. Make sure you are on the same page and that they believe in your vision. Working with someone that does not believe in you or your business is a disaster. Discipline is something you must apply in every aspect of your life. It is part of having an accountability partner, a mentor, and a coach. Use everything you have and do your thing. Believe in yourself and hold on to the inner power within you. Do your thing differently and stand out Learn more about Dr Robin Website - https://drrobinb.com/ Youtube- https://www.youtube.com/drrobinb Twitter - https://twitter.com/drrobinb Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinb/?hl=en                                                                                                                                                          

In this episode, our guest is Sara Lovestyle. Sara is a Lifestyle Influencer and Social Media Expert who inspires power at the intersection of health, beauty, and consciousness through her “Lovestyle Movement!” She champions The Lovestyle Movement by channeling her fitness goals to elevate as a Lovestyle Warrior in all areas of family, purpose, and play for the everyday modern woman. Sara has crossed many finish lines in ways that most people wouldn't get past and still create something great in life, let alone give it back to the world.  Today, she shares her journey of being a mother and creating an impact on others.   [1:52] Why should we listen to you? I have this strange ability to make you believe that you are the exception because my faith is so important to me. We live in a really tough world right now where people need encouragement, love, and compassion. This is where the lifestyle part of my brand comes from. I love to pour into people. If we're having a conversation, the idea that something is a dream isn't possible. I'll probably bully you into believing that it's real because I am going to challenge you, but also have a conversation that is hopefully enlightening, where we can learn from one another and share experiences. [3:20] How would you explain who you are? Many times, we go into either characteristic, or people will go into their titles. But the reality is who you are at the core. For me, I am compassionate, kind, smart, and brilliant. I believe in doing items every single day. But also, I am faith-filled. I truly believe in everything I tell myself, even if I don't always believe it. Having that conversation about everything I am, even the parts that aren't necessarily the best, is okay, because those are who I am. [4:45] Self-Affirmations My parents are incredible. Very early on, my father would instill in me, “Listen, you are kind, you're smart, you are brilliant. You tell yourself this stuff every single day until you believe it.” Then you become an adult, and you realize life is an interesting journey. I do affirmations every single morning for 10 minutes. It may sound dull, but I have them written on my mirror and my vanity, in my bathroom, and my office. If I ever have moments where I'm not feeling beautiful, I can look up and tell myself I am beautiful. [11:39] What was your journey to getting a message refined that resonated? I started as a beauty influencer because I thought I would like it. That was the cool thing to do six years ago. I realized quickly that the power was in my storytelling. The second I started talking, everything changed. People were receptive. My brand is a lifestyle brand because the fitness element is important because I was overweight and heavy during my heart attack. As a mom, there's the self-care element where I needed to give and give, and I forgot about myself. Then there's the part about telling the story of motherhood and that journey, and talking about my son was hands down the most difficult part for me. Everyone was receptive, and the brand grew quickly because I didn't have to pretend to be something I wasn't. [15:52] Nothing is Impossible I was afraid of imposter syndrome. I was afraid that I would not be accepted if I could be honest because I started as an influencer. The reality is that you can influence one person, or have one follower, and still be identified as an influencer. I want to show people what is possible, truly limitless. [17:49] Journey of investment return What's interesting is it started with the investment of a relationship. There's also an assumption that an investment has to be money, and it's not. I realized quickly that I could use the leverage of my platform to get a board seat. I could leverage a company that maybe did not have the funds to pay me as a creator. But you have some shares, though. There are so many aspects of an influencer that could begin. But there are routes to getting a seat at that table. It was about bringing someone to have a relationship that could be mutually beneficial for the company. [22:02] Allow Yourself to Fail We are so afraid of taking risks. And we're afraid of what people think. We are afraid of what if it doesn't come back? Or what if I don't come back from it? My dad used to ask me as a child, and it used to get on my nerves, and he would ask me, “What did you fail out today?” And it used to make me so mad. But what he knew that I didn't realize at the time is that I never gave myself the opportunity to fail. [26:40] What Shifted Sara The catalyst for my ultimate shift was my divorce. That's the one piece I've never talked about. I know that it is important that I create a stable life for my children. But was I okay with this thing that happened to me? Or am I going to allow it to happen through me? And it's not that it's easy. And it's not that life isn't hard. It's not that there aren't hardships. The scariest element for me is to be at the end of my life and be filled with regrets. I refused to be that person. My option at that point was to continue to dive deep into my faith, build my confidence, do my items, have my prayer time be in my word, and take risks. [32:59] What is “Lovestyle?” It's not the love of clothing. It's not the love of a makeup style. It's how do I choose to live my life every single day? Can I choose to live in love and compassion and kindness, in awareness in the people I'm interacting with, whether that's somebody at Starbucks or wherever at the grocery store? Am I living my lifestyle? Am I living the thing that I call my lifestyle? And it's a daily reminder: have I done an act of kindness today? Or have I been selfish? [34:25] I don't think balance is real. But we do the best that we can. And I hope that people choose their lifestyles when they come to me or when they meet the brand or me or any work that I've done is that they choose their lifestyle. I think it's more important that people have a feeling when they meet you than an actual name. I don't care about titles, but how did I make you feel today? How did the brand make you feel about yourself? Were you encouraged? Do you feel self-love? Do you feel poured into your faith? Do you feel spiritually motivated? Do you feel challenged? Those are all the things that I want people to feel when they meet me or go to the brand. [38:17] What is that abundance you're trying to get for your audience? The first is internal. I'm not a therapist, but I believe in internal work. The second thing is I want to know what monetizing looks like to you because it could be 50,000, 25,000, 100,000, or even seven figures. What does that look like to you? I also want to expand people's ideas of how we get there. The thought that an influencer could become an investor wasn't a thing when I started. [42:07] What promise did God make to the world when He created you? I will make an impact. I will create change and be the mother of all mothers. And that is what I was created to do. That is who I am. I am made to impact. I am made to be a change-maker. I am made to go against the current and show what can be, but also leave the door open. [43:15] I don't want to eat by myself. Life is not meant to be done alone. We fill the table, and we eat together. I cannot be selfish. People need to go and expand that table, and then it continues. So how do I, in my life, expand the impact that's so far beyond me that it has nothing to do with me. And I know that that is that's my purpose. Key Quotes [13:23 – 13:49] “I was struggling, not knowing how to voice how I was feeling about having a special needs child. Now I can because I feel seen and heard because the idea and the perception of who I was and who I am, weren't the same. And people were incredibly accepting the more I shared them, the more real I got.” [21:29 – 21:48] “Failure is a part of the journey. It just is what it is. But every one of those failures was a lesson to teach me what not to do the next time. One thing that all entrepreneurs have in common is we're not afraid to fail. It just is what it is. It's part of the journey.” [31:08 – 31:15] “Don't avoid the feelings, have them. But pick yourself back up. And at some point, you tell yourself, okay, now what? And what is next?” Learn more about Sara: Website: https://www.saralovestyle.com/ Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/saralovestyle Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUUsC0jNry2rNxpqUFgaU2Q    

In today’s episode, our guest is Sal Frisella. He is the President of 1st Phorm International, an established premier supplement leading brand in the industry. Their mission is to change the world one person at a time. Built by creating thousands of positive and fun relationships, 1st Phorm strives on being people-focused and helping people become the best version of themselves. Today, Sal talks with us about the importance of building relationships with people.  Why should we listen to you? [2:38] I try to give you an option to not listen to me because I keep pestering until you walk away. I've learned a long time ago that life is about the company you keep in the people you surround yourself with. Having a great conversation never goes out of style. I've met great people in random places that I'm still connected with to this day. I think that's the beauty of today's world. A great opportunity that we all have is social media. Learning to have that conversation and be comfortable getting uncomfortable with another human, you realize is that we're all the same. I'll give you an option to not listen to me. But I do have a good story in relationships. Understanding Others  [6:06] Our stories are all uniquely different. However, they're all strangely the same. What you struggle with is very similar to what I struggle with. I've been fortunate enough to understand how humility plays a great role in having those conversations. I may not have gone through every struggle that everybody has, but I felt insecure, defeated, and felt I was not enough. I understand all of those things that everybody struggles with too.  Helping Others Change their Lives  [8:36] I got through many struggles in my life by having other people listen to me. I realized that I could provide that same service to other people, listening to them and letting them know that they're not alone and let them know that it's okay and we'll get through it. As long as we're willing to put in the work and make an adjustment, we can get through anything. I think that progress in life just steamrolled into what we do for a living now, which is help people change their life. Being a Leader to Others  [11:24] I realized I wasn't giving my life and baseball the respect it deserved because I wasn't paying my dues the correct way. It took the gift from me, and I had to process that. I think that shift allowed me to go through that struggle and realize that I couldn't go through it alone. I needed other people who I talk to and can listen to me. It wasn't some special gift that they gave me other than just the ability to listen to me and help me process some information. It changed my life so drastically that I realized to be a good leader, I had to possess those abilities to listen and help people through struggles. Greatest Gift in Life  [15:21] Experience is the greatest gift in life. In order to have experience, you have to go through some of the things that you don't want to go through. To help an individual go through it; you have to relate to them and tap into what they want to be. Taking the Harder Path  [19:01] We are conditioned to take the lesser path, the easier path. Earning your respect for yourself is by taking a hard path. I have learned that through conditioning myself to take the path less traveled; I've learned to become a little bit harder, more mentally tough, and more sensitive. Lessons for a Man  [21:32] I had to learn about not knowing the answer. And that's a hard thing, and being able to ask somebody and rely upon somebody else, realize that they might have the answer, and be able to express enough humility to ask that question is another shift in life. When you start asking these questions, these are great transitions of life because that's a progression as a man, as a leader, and it's a progression of learning to trust and build those relationships so that you can go through the journey together.  Allowing your Tribe to Grow  [24:23] To allow your tribe or your pack to grow, you have to be willing to relinquish that power to the lead man, and they have rotated it around, and you get a better pack because you're sharpening and building these guys to be better tools in the toolbox. They give you respect because you're giving them the keys to the kingdom for a little while, and they have a deeper respect for you. Now you're getting to test their limits and that ego checks down. Prioritizing what is more Important  [40:08] Your kids don't care if you're rich or not. Your kids care that you're there, your kids care that you're present, that you kick the ball with them and you play catch. I had a hard time transitioning out of that because I wanted to succeed for my family, and I realized that my family needed me to be present. And when I found that internal hole I had to make, I had to adjust. I had to prioritize what was most important to me and I attacked it. [41:21] By prioritizing what's important and attacking that, I'm able to progress faster. I'm able to get where I need to go faster. And so I don't need to be successful. I need to be present, and I need to make sure that I'm giving it a great effort attacking what I need in front of me so. Respecting your and other people’s time  [42:22] The older you get, the more you learn that you're wasting your time. So when somebody disrespects my time, somebody is 10 minutes late to a meeting or a zoom call, I'm out. I'm gone and I won't just keep moving. And when you establish respect for your own time, what you realize is people will start to respect your time. And that's a huge transition. Most Important Lesson Learned  [46:15] The best lesson I learned in life is that you can live a fulfilled life when you learn that life is bigger than you. It's very easy to go through life in a very narcissistic manner and I think that's okay. I believe that we often get shunned from that, but what you realize is that “WE” is better than “ME”. We are better as a team together. We are better than one. I think when you make a friend, you make a community. When you go out, actually be a good human, and be a person of character and value. That together we can live a better life. Together, we can hold each other accountable. What promise did God make to the world when He created you? [49:26] That this man will bring to his friends and family is unlike anything else unmatched. I commit, I believe in leaving this world a better place and I found it. And it's not just with my family. It's not just with our company. It's not financial success. It's making the world a better place. And I feel that obligation to my soul. [50:23] It is not about the legacy of wealth. This man was created as the legacy of change, and I feel deeply connected. I feel a moral responsibility to impact my financial self and change the world truly. [51:06] I feel an obligation and connection to the world. God gifted me with a great gift of talent, and I think success is measured differently for every individual. My talent is people where you could put me in any room, race, religion, color, tuxedo, or overalls, and I can figure it out. I love connecting with people. That's my gift, and I'm going to use the platform that I have, which is social media and I'm going to do the best I can to impact as many of those people. I think there's never a wrong time to do the right thing.  Key Quotes: [3:16 – 3:22] Everybody's story is uniquely ours, which makes it a great story. [6:45 – 6:50] God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason. You can listen to people and help them through their struggles.  [15:21 – 15:28] Experience is the greatest gift in life. In order to have experience, you have to go through some of the things that you don't want to go through. [28:21 – 28:30] In order to be King, you must make your partner the Queen, which means you have to support them, that your life will be insurmountably better because of them.  [53:44 – 53:50] Don’t chase things. Chase People  Learn more about Sal Frisella on: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sal-frisella/ Website: https://1stphorm.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrfrisella/  

In this episode, our guest is Mally Roncal. Mally is a makeup artist, founder, and president of Mally Beauty. She has worked with many A-list celebrities such as Beyoncé, Knowles, Rihanna, Celine Dion, Angelina Jolie, Jennifer Lopez, and many more. She also served as a spokesperson for Sephora before founding her company. Mally regularly appears on The Wendy Williams Show, The View, The Oprah Winfrey Show, Rachael Ray, and today as a beauty expert and pens editorials for the New York Times, Huffington Post, and iVillage. Catch her in this episode as she shares her journey of how she got into the beauty industry and finding her purpose. Why should we listen to you? [3:04] You should listen to me because not everybody feels everything as much as my heart and my soul. I always have this blessing and curse that I feel everything a hundred times more than the regular person. I need to digest all the crazy things that go into this world that we all as humans live in the same string. We all have different life experiences. But we all go through these feelings. How did you get into beauty? [17:24] I originally wanted to be a doctor because that's what my parents were. I realized very soon that that was not going to be my career. My purpose was not to be a doctor because I wanted to do my hair. I fell in love with fashion and beauty and glamour and all that. It's just something that my mother and I shared. What are the aspects you saw that most people didn't see that allowed you to grow? [23:16] There was artistry or people in the fashion and beauty industry. There was always an amazing universe where they had all the actresses, and I could see what they were doing. I became so passionate about transparency in that. [28:46] I love that there is an incredible opportunity right in front of us. Everything that is happening has a reason behind it, and the universe has a reason behind it. What are you trying to do? [33:53] I am no longer worried about everybody's feelings. I realized that I had to take my time. I sometimes think I'm good at telling other people what to do. But I realized that I had to practice what I preach. The premise is that both my husband and I are very similar in that way. The point is you can choose positivity, and you can choose to be happy. You can choose to find joy. You can choose joy. You can cry or get sad. You can do all that, but then you have to get back up and get to work. Finding yourself [47:43] This whole COVID situation has been a terror. All of us are trying to find the silver lining. Personally, it stopped me dead in my tracks. I was on the road working when I realized that I had to learn to accept myself. I wasn’t able to take care of myself spiritually and physically. That made me realize what was more important. What promise to God make to the world when He created you? [50:41] God promised that He would bring the most loving human. And that I strive to show love. Remember that you are what you see. We do what we do, and we do it with heart and passion.   Key Quotes [30:44 – 30:54] “It's not about the time after what it is. I realized how fast it felt. That's where the fear came where it felt like it was a blink of an eye.” [33:19 – 33:26] “The creation process is the only thing that exposes you to the nuances of something new that creates a difference.” [35:15 – 35:36] “You can choose positivity. You can choose to be happy. You can choose to find joy. You can cry or get sad. You can do all that, but then you have to get back up and get to work.” [45:09 – 45:11] “We always have more. The biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.”   Follow Mally Roncal: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mally-roncal-38a5279 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mallyroncal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mallyroncal/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/mallyroncal Website: https://mally.com/        

In this episode, we have Josh Landan joining us today. He is the founder of Saint Archer, a craft brewery sold in 2015, and he is the founder of Ashland Hard Seltzer. Josh started his career telling stories from behind the lens – filming, directing, writing, and producing films and documentaries featuring some of the world’s top surfers, snowboarders, and skateboarders. Today, he shares his journey on building his business without any business knowledge and background!   Why should we listen to you? [1:17] If you’re a sports fan, you’d probably enjoy talking sports, which is what I would probably bring up. The last thing you’d get for me is business talk. [4:23] I don’t want the attention. Just like an athlete, you don’t get to the top level, not needing recognition to compete at the highest level and be the best. I’d be lying if I said that the ego wasn’t there, and I wasn’t trying to get approval in some way. I have those insecurities as everybody does, and I went the other way. I didn’t want to go anywhere and didn’t want to go out, and if anything, I got more introverted. Wanting to Win [8:18] When you come from doing it yourself, and you’re at the speed in which you’re most comfortable, then you go into that corporate structure, you might want to win, but the speed isn’t there. You’re fine with things taking a long time, whereas that wasn’t conducive to my personality. Entrepreneur vs. Business Owner [9:26] There’s a big difference between employees, business owners, and entrepreneurs. Entrepreneur to me means that you have this burning desire to continue to create from scratch. I didn’t know that about myself until I put myself through that. I see people calling themselves entrepreneurs all the time, but they only own a small store or business. But they are a business owner. So there is a big difference. Learning Experiences  [14:27] The way I’ve handled certain situations and looking back, I probably could have dealt with that better. Maybe firing certain people or leaving businesses and the way things are handled and at the moment is always more emotional. Hopefully, when you look back, you learn from that, and the next time, you do it better. I just would have maybe handled it with more maturity and professionalism in some cases. Building a Business [15:43] I just had the idea to do a beer brand. But I knew nothing about beer, and I didn’t even know what a capital raise was. I had no idea about starting a business and somehow raised $3 million, and moved my family to San Diego, and we built a 20,000 square foot brewery. But right before that, I fired three people that weren’t the right fit for me. I would never apologize for that because that was the right thing to do. You can’t beat yourself up for your experiences. You can beat yourself up if you do these things repeatedly, and you never learn from them. [17:35] The biggest key is being self-aware. Many people have a hard time with being self-aware. I’ll be the first to tell you I was not passionate about beer. I was more passionate about getting some approval than I never got when I was young. I just took it to the craziest ridiculous level of building these multimillion-dollar businesses when that’s going overboard. Luckily, the approval was probably the motivating factor that made me do things. I fell in love with building brands. So that worked out. I think where it’s scary is when you’re doing something for approval, then you get it. Work in Progress [25:03] I’m a work in progress like everyone else. What I’m looking for now is more so contentment, and I want to win to the highest level at all times by any means necessary. You can separate that from your personal life. The reality with Managing a Business [28:10] You have people’s money on the line, and you have people’s families that are depending on you that work for you. You have all these things and like you have to look at them. It’s not all rainbows and unicorns, and they make it look like on these magazines or podcasts. I can think of 10 business owners from the top of my head that are on their third marriage and are completely miserable and have no relationship with their kids. I didn’t want to be that man. What People see as Amazing [30:21] You might show up at work, and you can leave everything at the door. If your home life is a tornado, that’s hard to focus on. I can’t focus on the people that I care about most. But society celebrates the asshole. I would turn on this show for the investors where they want you to be, a hard-charging prick who doesn’t care about anything wants to win. It’s funny that that’s the person they see as amazing. [33:30] I would rather be more myself that is more compassionate and warm, and I can be sympathetic to what everybody else wants to write. I’ve found on the all the way around, that’s how you get the best out of people. That’s how you get the best out of the staff. If you’re not great at many things, you hire the best. If they want to be around you and believe in you, you’ll build a successful business. But if you think you can do it all and you will be a hard-charging egomaniac, the chances are that you’re not going to do anything special. Believing in yourself [39:06] When I believe in something and believe in what I’m doing, I can be convincing. As you’re successful, it gets easier. It’s not like that first 3 million every time. But that first 3 million was the authenticity of what I was saying, and people could feel the passion of what I was doing. If you think about it, they’re investing $3 million in a guy that knows nothing about beers and doesn’t know anybody in the beer business. But I think it conveyed my vision and passion for building a great craft beer brand. The Deep End [40:13] People start businesses, and they want to keep doing this on the side, and they want to do this until this starts happening. They want to play it safe. But, if you’re really that passionate and you go all in, there is no escape hatch, and there is no plan B. You are in the deep end. Confidence in Building a Business [41:27] It’s scary. But it wasn’t scary for me because I knew I would be successful. There was no doubt in my mind, not an ounce or a shred of doubt. I know, in my heart, how I was then. My wife felt the same way. There was no doubt in her mind that I would be successful. She’s probably the only one or my mom that ever just believed in me. How to Become Successful in Business [44:09] In my field of alcohol and building these brands, it’s really about innovation. In today’s short attention span society, you constantly need to keep your brand fresh. That’s why many big brands are dying because these smaller brands gravitate towards independent authenticity. But then you constantly need to evolve, and you continuously need to innovate. What Promise did God make to the world when He created you? [48:52] I think what God would say is I’m a spiritual guy. I will give you this work in progress. Stick with him because he’s going to figure it out. And when he figures it out, it’ll be special. But stick with it because it might take a minute. The heart and the humility are in there. So bear with it and have some patience. Key Quotes [8:17 – 8:44] “When you come from doing it yourself, and you’re at the speed in which you’re most comfortable, which for me is foot on the gas, and then you go into that corporate structure, you might want to win, but the speed isn’t there. You are fine with taking a long time, but that wasn’t conducive to my personality.” [16:47 – 16:59] “You can’t beat yourself up for your experiences. You can beat yourself up if you do these things repeatedly, and you never learn from them.”   Learn more about Josh Landan on: Website: https://www.ashlandhardseltzer.com/home Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joshlandan_/    

Life is full of wonders that entice you to stay a little longer—standing up for what you believe in offers you meaning in life and allows you to make your presence felt and known all across the world. Chef Bren Herrera is a dynamic bilingual, award-winning celebrity chef, TV personality, spokeswoman, and host. Today, Chef Bren shares her struggles, how she took the risk of following her heart’s desire, and how she dedicates her presence as a beacon for those who don’t have a voice. [01:58] Why should I listen to you? Because I’m a wacky, entertaining person. I lived by the #liveandlove slogan. You act in love when you live and love yourself. I’m a social butterfly because I find myself talking to people who don’t want to be bothered. It’s always a pleasure for me to make folks happy. [03:02] Many years ago, a buddy of mine taught me the platinum rule: treat people the way you want to be treated. It’s always about getting to know the person you’re spending time with and then pouring yourself into them, whether it’s a stranger like you at a coffee shop, restaurant, or anywhere, my goal is to make you feel like you’re the only person in the room. [04:28] How did the foundation of the heart come about? I believe I spent a few years purposefully going into myself, attempting to unpack why I chose that path. You take stock of your life about who you are, and you understand what has transpired in your life to bring you to this point. I grew up in a family environment that was highly attentive to only the needs, and the primary wants that humans have. [06:19] Simply being exposed to and reared in an environment where my parents continually reminded us not to waste food because others are hungry. Now that I’m an adult, I’m in charge of my own life, and I take those issues seriously because I’ve recognized that not everyone can afford the same things. [07:08] I’m a classic empath, and I sometimes wish I wasn’t an empath because it’s exhausting. Everyone plays a role in the world, and I’ve accepted and owned that that’s just who I am, and that’s fine. [15:31] What deterred you from making choices? I was always self-assured and understood what I wanted as a child. For example, I adored Whitney Houston, and I used to think to myself, “One day, I’m going to be a singer performing on stage.” I adored the way she made me feel. I was insanely motivated. But I didn’t always outperform my peers. So, when I made that decision, I had no finances, and I had no idea where I would go physically. Work-wise, you’re not going to stay in DC because DC was already pricey at the time. [19:11] I started organizing this charity event in Atlanta to benefit the AIDS community there, and it stems from the pro bono work I did in DC when I went to speak. That charity event, dubbed Creative Cause, brought together many creative people for a good cause. [21:32] I lacked the necessary infrastructure. I decided to let life take its course. I didn’t have that advice, and I take full responsibility for it. I didn’t realize I should have gone to someone. [25:05] What was the turning point that led you to this path? Everyone who had something to say and wanted to share it got a blog because it was new. I believe Blogspot was one of the original platforms. People were looking for recipes, and therefore food blogs were becoming extremely popular. They also wanted to use food to connect with family and friends. And it made sense to me because I could continue to share these fascinating cultural stories through cuisine while also introducing people to new foods. I began writing about travel approximately a year and a half before starting the food blog. As a result, I incorporated all of my trip experiences into my culinary blog. [27:00] Blogging wasn’t sustainable. You had to monetize it for it to make sense. And I was seeing and finding that many bloggers had full-time jobs. Thus, blogging was their side hustle that made a few coins off here and there. But I was so determined not to go back to work. I was pressed to make this work. I was doing private events, catering, and writing for some fancy glossy travel magazines. I used to do some food columns for different magazines online. [30:24] What do you create that pushes yourself and keeps moving? In 2012, I returned to DC. Because I was done with that land, I felt like I had tapped out. I had done everything I was going to do, and my music career did not pan out the way I had hoped. Rock Nation approached me twice, offering me the position of a private chef for one of their best players for the Yankees, as well as one of Nike’s top athletes. I discussed it with my team and lawyer, and we discussed the deal. I didn’t like it because the money wasn’t quite right. A family friend who’s a big name in the boxing world told me, “You should have taken the job, Sis. Because although that job didn’t pay you for what you’re worth, it might have opened so many possibilities for you.” [40:15] Were there thoughts of going back to Law? When I talk to my friends about the challenges I’ve faced, I mention how there hasn’t been an infrastructure for me to go to law school and how I had gone down that path or returned to it. That infrastructure would have made it so much easier for me. I would have been able to gather the money and resources I now have and am only beginning to do a tiny bit with, but my heart wasn’t in it every time I’ve considered returning to law school. [42:27] I don’t always choose the easiest path. There isn’t a plan, and there isn’t a schedule. I have quarterly and annual goals. Every day is different, and I don’t report to anyone. It’s challenging because you have to be disciplined and devoted to your art, and you have to make it work. [46:02] If you can impart a message that can carry my life in a great direction, what will you tell me? When you say “Yes,” everything changes. It alters your thinking, movement, response, and it alters your self-esteem and ability to be present for others. To me, it’s critical to just be in tranquil places and areas and thrive in peaceful locations. Therefore, if a scenario does not result in peace or does not thrive in peace, I am saying yes, I desire peace. And I shall extricate myself from that circumstance. [47:16] There is a great deal of power in saying “Yes,” and “No,” and in being able to say, “No, I am not going to do that.” Many people are “people-pleasers,” and they are conflicted about this. However, there is tremendous power in saying “Yes” to yourself.   [51:01] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? That I would be a loyal servant with a servant’s heart. I still have the impression that we’re always fighting, that we’re constantly struggling to be seen, heard, appreciated, and cherished. But you and I are tremendously fortunate because we get to do what we love and share our talents. But there are a lot of people who don’t have it because they simply don’t have it. As a result, I was born to serve. And I eventually embraced it because, while it isn’t a burden, it is certainly weighty. It’s difficult because you wake up thinking, “How can I serve others today?” Key Quotes: [07:22 – 07:30] “The world needs all kinds of people for it to work. Everyone plays a role, and I have owned and accepted that that’s who I am.” [39:21 – 39:30] “The stories and the way I present myself organically and intrinsically represents me. That’s who I am.” Learn more about Bren Herrera on: Website: http://www.brenherrera.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BrenHerrera LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brenherrera/