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54 minutes | 2 months ago
EP 28: Confronting An Abuser + Being A Male Survivor
In this episode, we talk about Jeremy's story, how he confronted his abuser, what happened when he did, what it led to, and how that experience has moved him to continue being an advocate.Jeremy's story is one of courage and defiance. It's a story of how we can look at our toxic masculinity culture and challenge it to dismantle it.This episode is not just for male survivors, but for parents of children of all genders so we can all better understand how abuse can happen and how to protect ALL children.I highly encourage you to check out all of Jeremy's work.ABOUT JEREMY:Jeremy is a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse. He spoke out for the first time when he was 27 years old, which was just short of 20 years after the abuse happened. He now speaks publicly and creates content online using film, photography and illustration, in an attempt to bring more attention to the subject. He truly believes the silence can be broken'FIND JEREMY ON:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeM5j3x68j8gq3MHPSLzjmQ Additional Websites:1in6: https://1in6.org/
52 minutes | 2 months ago
EP 27 Ending Sexual Violence For All
In this episode, you'll be inspired and motivated to take action! There are so many ways we can all help end sexual violence and how we, as survivors, can overcome our challenges and thrive!We talked about Daniela's journey from survivor to thriver to warrior.Daniela shared the many ways that Together for Girls is making a difference all around the world.We discussed the different strategies we can all apply in our lives on micro and macro levels to end sexual violence.We talked about what kind of support we all need to develop our own resiliency and determination to thrive and help prevent abuse for others.And we spoke about what the future looks like when we all band together. Collectively, as a global community, we can all make an impact.Let me be clear- this is not a Hallmark card statement- this is truth and a statement for action! ABOUT DR. DANIELA LIGIERODr. DanielaLigiero is the Executive Director and Chief Executive Officer of Together for Girls, a global, public-private partnership dedicated to ending violence against children, especially sexual violence against girls. The partnership includes five UN agencies, the governments of the United States and Canada, several private sector organizations and more than 20 country governments in Africa, Asia, Latin America and the Caribbean, working together to generate comprehensive data and solutions to this public health and human rights epidemic. Dr. Ligiero also serves as a member of the Executive Committee of the Global Partnership to End Violence Against Children.WEBSITE:http://togetherforgirls.org/FACEBOOK:https://www.facebook.com/togetherforgirlsTwitter:https://twitter.com/together4girls Also mentioned in the episode:http://www.metoomvmt.orgTHIS EPISODE WAS SPONSORED BY:CONSENTwear™ and CONSENTparenting™
40 minutes | 3 months ago
EP 26 Porn Literacy & Parenting
In this informative and important episode, Amy and I talk about: • At what age do you start teaching sex ed to your child• At what age to start talking to your kids about porn exposure• How to talk to kids about porn and help them stay safe• Ways to stay on top of their internet usage• How often to have these conversations• What to do if kids do get exposed to it• What to do if a child/teen find they can't stop consuming it We'd love to know what your biggest takeaways were and what actions steps you're going to take regarding teaching your kids about porn literacy.Screenshot this episode and tag Amy and me in your Instagram stories and let us know! This episode was brought to you by CONSENTparenting™ ABOUT AMY LANG, MA:Amy Lang, MA has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. With her lively, engaging and down-to-earth style she helps parents become their kid’s go-to birds and bees source. Amy’s books, online solutions center and podcast show parents that talking about sexuality doesn’t need to be totally uncomfortable and really can be fun. She also works with early childhood educators providing childhood sexuality and sexual abuse prevention training. Amy is still married to her first husband and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle, WA and you can learn more about Amy and her work at BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com RECOMMENDED BOOKS + RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE: Books -Birds & Bees & Kids Bookstore- Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.- Good Pictures Bad Pictures- It’s SO Amazing- It’s Perfectly Normal- Every Body Book Amaze.org - great videos for kidsCircle.com - monitoring and parental controls Solutions Center- one-stop-shop with everything you need to rock the sex talks: help to get you started; age-appropriate topics; porn prevention video; and vetted, age-appropriate videos and books for kids. Use code CONSENT for 15% off.
31 minutes | 3 months ago
EP 25: Sex Trafficking And Your Family
In this episode I talk about:• How I started learning about human trafficking• The Listen Hunnay episode with Jeannie Mai and Tera Hilliard that opened my eyes• Why trafficking IS a problem that will knock at your door in some way, shape or form if you're a parent or are a caring adult for other children in your life.• Ways that kids can be trafficked from infant to teens• How adults can be trafficked through dating sites• Why we all need to band together to solve this problem• Organizations you can support, through donations, volunteering or sharing about them. MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:Forgotten Children Inc.Listen Hunnay Episode with Terra Hilliard ORGANIZATIONS FIGHTING HUMAN TRAFFICKING THAT I SUPPORT:LOVE146.orgSAFEHOUSEPROJECT.orgPOLARISPROJECT.orgUAHT.org LEARN MORE ABOUT ABUSE PREVENTION ATCONSENTPARENTING.com
66 minutes | 4 months ago
EP 24: Abuse Prevention By Way of Grooming Prevention
"Are you willing to feel a little uncomfortable, so your children don't have to. Because when we turn our backs to this crime, children pay the price."-Feather Berkower WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT: • How abuse prevention has changed over the last 30 years and what it looks like now • Feather shared her story for how she got started and why she's so passionate about this work • We talked about child and parent grooming and what parents need to know from a predator/offender perspective • What parents who's children have been abuse should do to help empower their children and prevent revictimization • What she has learned from offenders and what parents should know and do • How parents should respond to a disclosure from a child • Feather also shared what is coming up for her in 2021 and how you can work with her to protect your family ABOUT FEATHER BERKOWER Feather Berkower, Founder of Parenting Safe Children, is a licensed clinical social worker and holds a Master’s of Social Welfare from the University of California, Berkeley. Feather is one of the nation’s leading experts in child sexual assault prevention. She has dedicated her career — which now spans over three decades — to educating parents and youth professionals on how to make their communities “off limits” to child sexual assault.Using her community-based approach, she has trained over 150,000 schoolchildren, parents, and youth professionals across the United States.Feather presents her well-regarded workshop, Parenting Safe Children, in schools, youth organizations, parenting groups, and businesses nation-wide. Now, Feather offers her workshop live via Zoom so people around the world can participate.Feather co-authored Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse, a parenting book that will change the way you think about keeping children safe. She also authored Conversation-Starter Cards that accompany Off Limits to help parents get conversations about body safety started with caregivers. They are both available on her website at parentingsafechildren.com.Feather makes a difficult and sensitive topic less scary, and consistently impresses audiences with her knowledge, commitment, and warmth.Feather is also available for private consultation at an hourly rate. CONNECT WITH FEATHER http://www.parentingsafechildren.com https://www.instagram.com/parentingsafechildren/ https://www.facebook.com/parentingsafechildren/ https://twitter.com/FeatherBerkower
64 minutes | 7 months ago
EP 23 Breaking From + Healing The Cycle of Toxic Masculinity, Stigma and Sexual Abuse
If you're a parent or not, this will help you reflect on how toxic masculinity has shaped your views and how you can break the cycle of toxic masculinity, mental health stigmas and reclaim your power as a child sexual abuse survivor.Quentin shared on how he manages anxiety, what it can look like for others, and why it's important to get to the root of anxiety and not deal with it as a surface symptom.We also talked about equity in communities of color and how this impacts mental health services and more! Shout out to Rebekah Borucki for making the connection for Quentin and me! ABOUT QUENTIN:Quentin Vennie is a celebrated wellness expert, philanthropist, keynote speaker, and author of the bestselling memoir, Strong In The Broken Places. He is the host of the new wellness and social justice podcast, “Freedom to Breathe”. His work has been featured in the Huffington Post, Thrive Global, Entrepreneur, Chicago Tribune, NBC News, Fox News, MindBodyGreen, and others. Quentin has been recognized as one of Black Enterprise magazine’s 100 Modern Men of Distinction and by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention for his contribution in raising awareness for mental health and suicide prevention, as well as appearing as the wellness keynote speaker for Colin Kaepernick’s “Know My Rights” Camp. Quentin is passionate about working with youth in under-resourced communities, helping them understand their traumas and turn them into triumphs, and spearheads initiatives that make yoga and mindfulness accessible among communities and populations that don’t ordinarily have access to them. Having spent years practicing yoga and meditation, Quentin has found a recent passion in gardening and interior design as forms of anxiety management. Website:https://www.quentinvennie.com/Social Media:www.instagram.com/quentinvennieSponsor Links:www.aboutconsent.com/guidewww.consentparenting.com Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you’re loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you!
96 minutes | 8 months ago
EP 22 Former Special Agent on What Parents Need To Know About Child Trafficking and Child Sexual Abuse
Please note there is a TRIGGER WARNING with this episode, so please be sure to take care of your mental health and if you need to pause the video and come back to it later, please do what is best for you! But I do want to let you know that this is an important episode to listen to, not just for the warning that online dangers are real, but because it also sheds light on how it happens, who can do it and what parents can do to be proactive and preventative. Cara Chace is a former Special Agent having conducted countless investigations of internet crimes against children, child exploitation, and child pornography. While she is now an online entrepreneur specializing in Pinterest marketing, her in-depth and unique experience in criminal law enforcement gives her a perspective and dose of real-world knowledge that is so needed. Website:www.carachace.comwww.onlinesafetyabc.ck.page/pdf Social Media:www.instagram.com/carachaceSponsor Links:www.aboutconsent.com/online-safetywww.aboutconsent.com/guide Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you’re loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you!
44 minutes | 10 months ago
EP 21 Sex-Ed As Part Of Abuse Prevention Education
Cue Dr. Nadine Thornhill, sexuality educator and all around awesome human! Nadine is a certified sex educator and Doctor of Education specializing in child and adolescent sexuality. She helps folks access fact-based information, and build strong communication skills so they can teach the kids in their life about for their bodies, building positive relationships, and feeling good about who they are!She strives to work within sex-positive, queer-positive, anti-oppressive, and pro-choice frameworks.In her nearly fifteen years as a sexuality educator, she's worked with thousands of people, and dozens of schools and organizations across North America. She offers regular media commentary on issues related to sex education. She's been featured on networks including CBC, CTV, and CITY TV and in publications such as Today’s Parent, Huffington Post, and Oprah Magazine.In 2018, Ontario government announced the repeal of our province’s sex ed curriculum. In response, she created #SaveSexEd, a YouTube project wherein she taught every sex education module from Ontario’s Health and Phys Ed curriculum. That same year, she was named one of Flare Magazine’s Heroes In The Fight Against Gender-Based Violence. She currently produces and co-hosts the acclaimed web series Every Body Curious . Season two premiered June 1, 2020. You can watch season one here. WEBSITE:www.nadinethornhill.comwww.everybodycurious.com INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/nadinethornhill/https://www.instagram.com/evrybodycurious/ FACEBOOK:https://www.facebook.com/nadine.thornhill/ YOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJqQvHjzDtjLEu9IjpUh68Q
55 minutes | a year ago
EP 20 How Our Anger Can be transformative instead of toxic
In this week's episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Nicole Schiener to talk about the power of anger and how we can use it as transformative energy instead of a toxic one that depletes us.We talked about:The conflicted relationship that many survivors and Black, Indigenous and People of Colour have with anger because of their trauma.Why is it so important for people with trauma to process their anger and not just 'get over it'.What survivors who are afraid of their anger can do, particularly if they're not sure how to express it.What reclaiming and transforming anger into healing looks like on a personal and collective level.How most survivors are told to get over things that happened a long time ago and how one can respond to these kinds of comments?What a humble warrior means and how we can all be a warrior for others.This was most definitely an empowering episode and I can't wait for you to hear it!ABOUT NICOLE SCHIENER:Nicole Schiener is a Registered Psychotherapist in Ontario, Canada, and a published author. Her writing has been featured in the Gottman Blog and Elephant Journal. She provides counseling and supervision at a non-profit organization and sees clients privately at a wellness clinic in St. George, Ontario. Nicole is a member of her region's Sexual Assault Response Team and a mama to a teen son and 10-year-old daughter.Nicole loves helping people connect to their inner expert and learn to dance with their emotions, embracing and celebrating their authentic self and the power of the human spirit to heal and thrive.Currently, she's completing a compilation of short stories, poetry, and reflective questions on the awakening journey for highly sensitive mothers. Nicole believes, "World peace begins with inner peace." CONNECT WITH NICOLE:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PeaceandPossiblityInstagram: @mindfulmama_nsm Linktree with a collection of writing and free offers: http://www.linktr.ee/mindfulmama_nsmFCC: http://www.fcccnd.comSTG FB for booking: https://www.facebook.com/stghealthandwellness Other mentions in the episode is Asha Frost.Find her at www.ashafrost.com SPONSOR:www.consentparenting.com/safetynetwork
50 minutes | a year ago
EP 19 Dismantling Child Sexual Abuse Taboos Through Support
It is for this reason that I invited Trauma Psychotherapist Adriana Alejandre to the podcast.In this episode we talk about the taboo that continues to surround therapy and why it matters that we all shift our perspectives, now more than ever.We also discussed why parents, particularly in the Latinx community, are still reluctant to seek mental health support, and also, how they can take steps to become more receptive to the idea.We dived into what parents, caregivers or any adult can do when a child discloses abuse so that they don't re-traumatize the child, including themselves if they are survivors.We also talked about why it's so important for kids to get the right mental health support after a disclosure so that they can lessen the long term negative effects that abuse can have and begin to heal sooner, which can dramatically improve their ability to live a happier life.There were so many little gems as well that will make you take pause and think about how you can support those in your life who are survivors or if you're a parent and never thought about these topics.I hope you take steps consistently to care for your mental health in these times of crisis so that you can be well, stay well and support your family through this time.ABOUT ADRIANA ALENJANDRE:Adriana Alejandre is a Trauma Psychotherapist and Speaker from Los Angeles, California. She specializes in adults who struggle with PTSD and severe traumas at her own private practice. She has done disaster relief work for Hurricane Harvey and Las Vegas shooting survivors. Adriana’s clinical work has been featured in Univision, LA Times, the New York Times and Buzzfeed.Adriana is also the founder of the internationally recognized, Latinx Therapy, directory and bilingual podcast that destigmatizes mental health & provides education to combat the stigma through technology and actual mental health services. In 2019, she won Hispanizice’s Best Social Good Content award. Her podcast has been featured in iTunes’ Top 200, Spotify’s Top 30 Latin shows, Fierce by Mitu , and has been heard in 112 countries. Adriana’s mission is to create spaces to spark dialogue about mental health struggles and strengths in the Latinx community. CONNECT WITH ADRIANA:Website: https://latinxtherapy.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/latinxtherapyTwitter: https://twitter.com/latinxtherapyInstagram (Latinx Therapy): https://www.instagram.com/latinxtherapy/Instagram (Adriana): https://www.instagram.com/latinxtherapist/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSEQTK3ijZJDTcXb2KsOz5Q
54 minutes | a year ago
EP 18: From Trauma to Empowerment: Achieving Health & Wellness
TW: This episode contains discussions on domestic and sexual violence and loss. Please take care of your mental wellness. In this episode, Arlene Salcedo talks about her journey from witnessing domestic violence, sexual trauma in her teens, the loss of a child in her 20's, to finally tapping into her own inner wisdom, power, and awakening.Arlene's transcendence from trauma to empowered healer has been a testament to the strength of the human spirit and one that can shine as an example of how we can all step into our own power.I hope you find that you, too, can step into your own power and reclaim the parts of yourself that may feel like they were damaged, taken, broken or lost. You have the power inside you to heal and overcome your past. ABOUT ARLENE SALCEDO:Arlene is a 200 Certified RYT Yoga Instructor, Reiki Practioner, and Human Design Chart Reader. Arlene is the curator of Luna Soul Wellness; she began healing and teaching through yoga and holistic care. Her passion to support others’ healing journey had always been prevalent. She believes healing and change begin with self-love and self-awareness practices. Her principle approach is to encourage women to learn, embrace, and embody the natural lifestyle, Holistic healing, and self-care so they can live a balanced life and be their own healer. CONNECT WITH ARLENE AND HER WORK AT:WEBSITE:https://www.lunasoulwellness.com/INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/lunasoulwellness/ FACEBOOK:https://www.facebook.com/lunasoulwellnessYOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYE6apEhV9hFZiovxrTnqMw?view_as=subscriber EPISODE SPONSOR:CONSENTparenting™Child Predator Protection Class50% Off Code: PODCASTSubscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you’re loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you!
49 minutes | a year ago
BONUS EPISODE: American Dirt Collaboration Project
This week, in this special bonus episode, I'm excited to share the collaboration project!Denise Soler Cox, host of the Self-ish Latina Podcast and co-founder of Project Eñye, plus Rita Bautista, host of the Empowerment and All That Podcast and Nicole Hernandez of The Daring Kind Podcast, joined forces to bring this conversation to the forefront. They invited Linda Garcia, Brenda Gonzales and myself to contribute to the conversation and share our perspectives on this controversy.For me, this was timely, as I am in the process of beginning to write my own book. In fact, I recently was selected as a scholarship winner for the Hay House Diverse Wisdom Initiative Program, that is actively working to support and nurture writers of colour.So this issue, is very close to home for me, because the publishing industry has taken note. In fact, Hay House is in it's second round of this initiative now, and it gives me hope. To me, this issue of diversity, and representation is very important on many levels. And I think these deep dive conversations are necessary so that we can move the needle in the right direction. This podcast was recorded a few weeks ago, before the craziness of COVID-19, and we had hoped to release this episode last week, but waited. We felt it was ok now because we know people are in need of some positivity, reflection and direction to go somewhere from here.In this episode, we talk about: ● Linda (Luz Warrior) discusses what relationships were dampened by this book and how she used her work in journalism to investigate and evaluate the novel. ● Brenda touches on the ways American Dirt is a wake-up call for publishers, book lovers, and allies. ● Rosalia dives into the misrepresented narrative of Latinx culture and exaggerated characters within the novel. ● Rita shares a personal story about how American Dirt had an effect on her own life and speaks on what the controversy will do for Jeanine as an artist. ● As group we discuss our own Latinidad and feelings of “enoughness” within the Latinx community. ● Finally, I give a sneak peek into our next film and how American Dirt raises questions and fears for me during the process. Follow these amazing women on their podcasts here:Denise Soler Cox – The Self-ish LatinaRita Bautista – Empowerment and All ThatNicole Hernandez – The Daring KindBrenda Gonzales – Tamarindo PodcastLinda Garcia aka Luz Warrior – Let There Be Luz Podcast
51 minutes | a year ago
EP 17 How Sleep Impacts Mental Wellness & Healing
Sleep is more valuable than we give credit for. In particular, when it comes to healing our traumas, sleep has the power to restore our mental wellness as a part of our healing process.This is one of the reasons I invited my guest Meredith Louden on to the show. Meredith helps people with insomnia learn how to fall asleep without the use of drugs or tricks. She is the founder of Healing Insomnia from Within. She's developed an effective strategy for regaining the ability to fall asleep easily, quickly, and consistently, using the fundamental understandings of how the brain actually works.I know this episode seems oddly related to CONSENT, but you'll understand the connections when you listen! Enjoy and be sure to share your feedback on your favourite takeaways! You can connect with Meredith and her work at:WEBSITE :https://www.healinsomniafromwithin.com/https://www.healinsomniafromwithin.com/aboutconsentINSTAGRAM:@meredithloudenFACEBOOK:https://www.facebook.com/groups/healinsomniafromwithin/YOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/channel/Meredith LoudenPINTEREST:https://www.pinterest.com/loudenmeredith/EPISODE SPONSOR:CONSENTparenting™Free Guide: 7 Ways To Teach Body Safety, Boundaries and Consent Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you’re loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you!
51 minutes | a year ago
EP 16 Online Abuse & What Parents Need To Know
This is a topic that gets overlooked and shy'd away from because it feels overwhelming. But the good news is that there are ways to help our kids navigate the online space safety. This is why I'm so excited about this week's guest! I had the pleasure of interviewing Titania Joran who is the CMO and Chief Parent Officer of Bark.us, an internet safety solution that helps parents and schools keep children safer across social media, text messaging, and email. As the former host of NBC Atlanta affiliate WXIA’s weekly television show Atlanta Tech Edge, Titania has the honor of covering the latest in tech news and talent across both the city and the globe. Past roles also include serving as the CMO of KidsLink, co-founder and CMO of PRIVET, and Executive Director of Band of Coders Girls Academy. Titania travels the country serving as a tech expert and was named a tech innovator and a mother of invention by The Atlantan in 2015. Titania is mom to a tween son.WEBSITE :www.bark.usINSTAGRAM:@barktechnologiesFACEBOOK:https://www.facebook.com/barktechnologiesTWITTER:https://twitter.com/barktechcoYOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/channel/BarkBARK BLOG:What Online Grooming Looks LikeMEDIUM ARTICLE:I'm a 37 year old mom Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you’re loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you!
23 minutes | a year ago
EP 15 Parenting with PTSD
In this episode I'm talking about how PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) and CPTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder) affect our parenting and the difficulties that survivors find themselves in.I also discuss how it is compounded when it stems from or becomes an intergenerational issue.I shared some of my own story and struggle with anxiety and fear with my oldest child about the possibility of him being abused. And I talked about a specific experience, how I dealt with it, and what the resolution was at the end.In this episode I share the things and ways that I was able to navigate that specific issue and what I recommend for you, my listeners, who have battled with a similar experience.This episode is not a prescription for what to do, but instead a motivation and inspiration for what is possible when you begin to realize that you are worthy of support.If you'd like to learn more about how my resources can help you, I invite you to check out the links below:CONSENTparenting™:http://www.consentparenting.comCHILD PREDATOR PROTECTION MASTERCLASS:http://www.aboutconsent.com/protect(use code PODCAST to receive 50% off this class)7 WAYS TO TEACH BODY SAFETY, BOUNDARIES & CONSENT:http://www.aboutconsent.com/guide
48 minutes | a year ago
EP 14 How Devoting Ourselves To Ourselves Heals
In this episode we cover:Why a natural and holistic approach is important for physical healingHow Ayuvera can help you customize your healingHow hormones and working with your cycles helps your healingHow health and wellness is still very male influenced in studies and how that affects WOCDealing with harassment and stress and how it affects our physical and mental wellnessI know you'll learn so much about how achieving calm, especially if you're a high achiever, can help you reach all your goals faster and with more zen in your life.You can connect with Kayla Nedza and her work at:WEBSITE :https://www.kaylanedza.com/INSTAGRAM:@kaylanedza@wellnessglowuppodcasFACEBOOK:http://facebook.com/kayla.nedzaLINKEDIN:http://linkedin.com/in/kaylanedza Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you’re loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you!
44 minutes | a year ago
EP 13 How Kids Can Learn Body Safety And Why It Matters To Start Early
In this episode we cover:How kids learn about body safetyHow parents can put their fears aside and dive into teaching their kidsHow to help our kids become more assertive when neededWhy and how gender stereotypes need to be broken downWhy teaching/educating the adults in our kids lives is just as importantWe talked about how Jayneed started her publishing company and all the resources it now offers (in many languages!!!). You can connect with Jayneen and her work at:WEBSITE (free resources): https://e2epublishing.info/ PURCHASE HER BOOKS IN THE U.S./CANADA: https://amzn.to/3azEg7B FACEBOOK:https://www.facebook.com/SomeSecretsShouldNeverBeKept/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/jayneensandersauthor/ Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you’re loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you!
24 minutes | a year ago
EP 12 How To Break Cycles Of Generational Trauma
Generational trauma can go undetected by those who continue to pass it on, not realizing that they are passing on negative patterns. When it comes to sexual abuse, these patterns can be passed on because of fear and lack of information or education to change those patterns to positive ones.When we become educated about how to recognize the patterns we can learn how to become self aware and then take the steps to break the patterns that are destructive, not just for ourselves, but for the generations that came before us and the ones ahead of us. I invite you to listen to hear all the ways that you can break the cycles of abuse and create empowering patterns in your life, your family and your community! Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you’re loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you! TRANSCRIPT:Speaker 1: those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. George SantayanaSpeaker 2: Welcom e vm Benny Those two about consent. The podcast that sparks conversations about creating consent, culture, boundary repair, sexual empowerment, orgasm, equality and raising a new, sexually conscious and consent empowered generation. This is a safe shame. Free judgment Free zone. We're both survivors, and those who support survivors are welcome. I'm your host, Russell Rivera.Speaker 1: This episode is brought to you by consent Parenting My online platform for Survivor parents to learn how to keep their kids safe from abuse. Did you know that Children of Survivor parents have a five times higher chance of being abused? Because survivor parents don't know or learn the tools needed to prevent abuse, they tend to over protect instead of empower and prepare. You can change the statistics by becoming an educated parent. Get started by downloading my free guide seven ways to teach your kids about body safety, boundaries and consent by going to about consent dot com forward slash guide. The link will be in the show notes to get your free copy today. Now let's get back to the show. Welcome back to another episode of the about consent podcast. I'm really excited you're here today listening to another episode. I just wantto extend my gratitude to you again because getting your feedback is always so amazing for me. It gives me life. It gives me fuel. And I can't say enough about how important it is, really? To hear the feedback to know what are the things that you are truly resonating with? What you want to hear more about all of that is really just amazing. And so I want to thank you for all of that amazing feedback reviews. And so I wanted to start a weekly shout out of, you know, review spotlight. So if you are the kind of person that loves to give back when you receive something amazing like a review for the podcast, I want to shout you out and thank you and just let others know that it is actually resonating with other people, right? So that Ah, yeah, if you want to post review and a ratings on iTunes, I would most appreciate it, But I also want to shut you out. So I wanted to kick it off with this week, starting off with MelissaMoo87 hosted a five star ratings, and this is her review. Amazing Resource. Rosalia is such a great host and interviewer, and I love that she's willing to provide language. And resource is around a topic that is so often not talked about. More education is needed in this realm for both adults and parents and our Children, and I love that she is fearlessly leading the charge. It must listen for anyone wanting to empower themselves and the Children in their lives. MelissaMoo87 Thank you so much for that review. I truly, truly made me so happy. It made my heart smile because I absolutely agree with you. More education is needed in this realm, and I'm here for it. And I know so many other amazing educators are. So I want to thank everyone who is doing this kind of work in the space and for all of you who are supporting it. So thank you so much. Please keep the reviews coming. So today I'm talking about generational trauma. So what is generational trauma? Well, according to Tamar A. Hill, a licensed therapist and certified trauma professional, she defines intergenerational trauma as a traumatic event that begins years prior to the current generation and has impacted the ways in which individuals within a family understand, cope with and heal from trauma. For example, the patriarch of a family may suffer from an untreated severe mental health disorder, which causes him to engage in harmful behaviors towards his daughter. This daughter, having endured years of emotional and psychological abuse, now has her own family but has not been able to release herself psychologically and emotionally from the torture she endured. And as a result, she begins to exhibit many of the same behaviors of the patriarch, which leads to her own Children exhibiting similar behaviors. These behaviors, including dysfunctional ways of coping, continue for generations. Thes unhealthy behaviors become a quote unquote normal way of raising Children within the family, and that is directly from Tamara Hill explaining how she defines intergenerational trauma. Now, before we dive into this episode, this solo episode, I want to let you know that I will be talking about child sexual abuse and rape trauma. So if at any point this feels too heavy, please stop the episode and take care of your mental wellness. If you need to just take a break and come back to it. That's definitely okay. Or if you feel this is not for you at this time, that's also okay. Please, just make sure that your mental health is the most important thing that you need to care for and come back to this when and if you feel ready. I'm not diving into specific details, but I will be mentioning incidents. And so I just wanted you to be aware of it so that it's a heads up. But with all of that said and done, this episode may also be deeply eye opening and motivational, which is really what my hope is. So why am I talking about this topic? Well, if you heard Episode two of the podcast where I talk about my story and my why of creating this podcast. Well, then you know that as a survivor it didn't just start with me. And unfortunately, everyone in my family has been deeply impacted by trauma to the point that one of the members of my family has CPTSD, which if you're not familiar with that term, that acronym, it stands for complex, post traumatic stress disorder. Most people would know PTSD. That's a more familiar one. But see, PTSD is complex, and essentially what that means is that it was a number of events with different levels of intensity or severity of that particular trauma or of other kinds of traumas, which were all compact ID over a series of time. Now, Michael, on taking on the issues of abuse awareness and prevention. My goal with this is to break generational patterns in cycles. And so I wanted to open up a bit more and share more aspects of my own history with you in Hopes Sig, you may be able to relate you. It may resonate with you in different ways on different levels, Maybe help you connect the dots for yourself. And of course, more importantly for me is for you to find ways to also begin breaking your own generational traumas. So perhaps you are maybe the first in your family to experience sexual violence. You have the ability to end it there instead of it now continuing to become a cycle where passes on so it would end with you where you would not have to pass it down. And that is my hope, really, for everyone listening, no matter what level or type of trauma, no matter if it happened generations before you, maybe many multiple, long, deep generational trauma, which is probably more of a likelihood. Unfortunately, when you look at the statistics, there is a beautiful saying that yes, trauma can be passed down through generations, but healing can also be passed down. So with that, I said the intention for this episode. So it wasn't until about five or six years ago that I found out that my mother had been violently raped at 14 by her teacher, and she had never told anyone except her husband after they had been married. But beyond him, she felt too ashamed to tell anyone else for fear that she would be either ostracised or worse, not believed so. She kept the secret to herself until years ago, and it explained so much when I found out when I heard the news and it wasn't even something that I found out directly, it was through my sibling and they also had a really big eye opening moment of understanding our mother so much better, so much more clarity in an explanation of you know why she couldn't talk about sex, why she was so afraid of her Children looking too, quote unquote provocative, even though it probably wasn't at all because she was afraid of inviting unwanted attention. It explained why she was so overprotective and never let us do things like sleepovers, Which for me was something I always wanted to do because I saw all of my other American friends constantly having sleepovers. It ultimately explained why she was always so strict, especially because she was an immigrant in a new culture that she also considered to be way too liberal. Compared to the way that she grew up and with the religious background that she grew up with, which also demonized sex and sexuality. She was afraid to tell us the deep down reason that she feared boys and men even looking at us once it all explained her anxiety. She had no idea what had happened to my siblings and I because she was very worried about what could happen out in the world, so much so that she couldn't see what was happening in our home, but also because she couldn't talk to us about how to protect ourselves or that we had rights to our bodies because she didn't realize that she had rights to her own body, particularly because they were violated when she was so young. And also the culture that she grew up in, which I think we still have in our culture, is one that our bodies ultimately don't belong to us. So we went out into the world as we got older, without the understanding, without the language or the tools to know how to navigate the rape culture filled world that we live in. So I don't blame her. I understand her. I have compassion much more even now, knowing about her history about her past. I understand her and all the parents like her, who went through similar experiences and lived out their lives in similar ways. For example, this year I met a woman who had not experienced sexual violence. However, her mother is a survivor and exhibited the same kinds of behaviors that my mom did over protectiveness and strictness that almost borders on paranoia and in turn. Although this woman herself was not abused, she now has Children and finds herself exhibiting the same kind of over protectiveness and anxiety about her child's safety. So even if it doesn't get passed on directly through that experience of assault, it can be passed on through psychological and emotional experiences. Most survivors, in fact, live with even higher levels of anxiety when they become parents, especially when their child is nearing the age when the parent had begun to be abused, if it was child sexual abuse or when they had an experience of rape, even if it was just once, which is more than it should ever be. And it becomes a very taxing experience. The child, however, is the one that becomes the bearer of the anxiety until they grow up and have their own. And so the cycle repeats in one way or another. So what do we do? How can we break the cycles? And that's really what it comes down to at the end of the day. How can we stop this from repeating and happening forward? Right? And there are very many ways, and there are so many that it can almost feel overwhelming because you don't know where to begin. How do you even start but it really begins with us learning how to heal ourselves. And when I talk about healing, he can be really scary to think about it. If you are the type who has PTSD or CPTSD. Because it can feel like you've been carrying this really heavy load all your life that you haven't wanted to really look at. But it's really heavy, so you really want to put it down. But you're afraid if you put it down, you now have to look at it. And if you have to look at it, it means that you probably have to examine it. And if you have to examine it, it means that you have to unpack what's there. And that could be a really scary proposition, because what you've been trying to not look at your whole life, you are now being told to look at now. Here's the thing, though, as I've been learning about healing and as I've been going through my own healing journey, there are ups and downs. There are waves that ebb and flow. There are moments that feel really intense and others where it feels like Maybe I'm done healing. Maybe this is it. This is where I can breathe and just take it all in and enjoy life. But to be honest, healing is messy. It's not linear, and it can feel really heavy at times. But when you get through that muck through that heaviness, you feel like you've let go of a piece of it. Finally, and things start to feel later. Now healing is only one part of how we can break the cycles. Healing is a very important part, and it is probably at the foundation of all of the other parts that I'm going to recommend based on my own experience and what I've seen work for others. The next piece that's really important is learning to develop the courage. Two. Ask for support to Ask for help. To take back your voice and share your story. Now that doesn't mean to get on a podcast like I'm doing and share your story with the world. It simply means to find the person or group or therapist that you feel comfortable enough to share your story with, because when we can voice and vocalize, we can finally give less power to the thing that we're so afraid of. And then we realized it's a lot lighter and that's part of the healing. The next part is that once you've developed that courage and you start to realize that you have a lot more strength and courage than you ever believed you had, you can now start to empower others. And by that I mean specifically the offspring, the Children in your lives, the child that you are now responsible to care for, who you don't want to pass down the trauma two and you may feel like, Well, my child is now 12 and is it too late? Have I already done damage? The truth is that it's never too late. We always have an opportunity every single day, every single hour, every single moment is an opportunity and an invitation to break the cycle. So no, it's never too late. And more importantly, it's always important to step into that role of empowering and educating, because not only are we breaking the cycle by empowering and helping our child learn all of the things that we didn't get to learn when we were Children, but now they're going to be carrying on that healing and that empowerment forward, and that is truly exciting. So the ways that we can start is by one realizing that intergenerational trauma is a thing. It is something that we have experienced ourselves potentially, that we don't want to pass on, so that awareness is really important. To become aware of it and make it part of our mindfulness is the first step. The second step is to determine a path towards healing, to determine how we want to step into that. And when I say that I'm not telling you to rush to a therapist and sign up for 12 sessions with someone or figure out how you're going to, you know, do you buy books or do you take courses or do you do this or do you do that? But it may start with something a simple as learning how to be kinder to yourself, to be more loving towards yourself, to talk kindly to yourself, to take more time, to take care of your whole self. Mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, physically and two make it a priority. And from there, when you gain strength as you gain momentum towards self love, you can then truly move into that next phase of healing, and that can look very different for everyone. It may be at that point that you were willing to share with someone. Maybe at that point you're willing to finally seek a therapist or someone who is specializing in healing of some kind. Maybe it's holistic. Maybe it's energy. Maybe it's some other kind of somatic healing, right? So there's so many different ways that we can step into that. But simultaneously, as we're doing that, as we are starting to care for ourselves as we're starting to heal, that through osmosis starts to affect our relationship with our Children. Because as we're kinder and more loving toe ourselves, we have more compassion, and we begin to see our relationship with our Children differently. And as we become more empowered ourselves, we realize how much more we need to do that for them as well. How much we need to step into that role of educator and protector, not toe over, protect the to empower right, too. Give our Children the tools, and so that is how we ultimately break the cycle. The more we educate ourselves on prevention, education and radically empowering our relationship as a parent and child, the more that we can truly help our Children become their highest Selves and break the cycles. So those are the ways that I would recommend to begin breaking the generational cycles of trauma that have come from abuse in our culture in our family lineage. Maybe we don't have any of that, and we're the first ones. So let's break it right there and not past that forward. So I hope that those ideas those recommendations, those suggestions give you some pause for thought and help you realize the ways that you can start empowering yourself and your family and break the cycles. My name is Rosario Rivera, and it is always my honor, too. Share this time with you. I thank you for spending it with me, and I hope to have you back next week for another amazing episode. Next week I have the joy of interviewing Janeane Sanders. She is an author and publisher of Children's books that are all about helping kids learn about body safety, boundaries, consent, diversity, tolerance, love, compassion and she's just simply amazing. I know you're gonna love the episode, so if you're a parent. You most definitely want to tune in. So thank you again. I look forward to seeing you. And again if you enjoyed this, please do share it with those that you love and tag me screen Share it. Tag me on instagram so I can shut you out Thanks so much. And I will see you next time.Speaker 2: Don't miss the next episode. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast. And I would be so grateful if you took one minute to post a five star rating and reviews on iTunes so that others can also find this information. I will be shouting you out and thanking you on the next episode. If you found this useful, be sure to share it with others as well. Let's continue to create consent Culture One conversation at a time. Stay empowered.
46 minutes | a year ago
EP 11 Taboos & Storytelling To Reclaim Your Voice
It is a human need to be seen and heard, to be acknowledged as a valuable and worthy being for our simple act of being. But trauma can make us feel and think that we don't have worth, and that we should not be seen and that our voice should not be heard. This is where the power of sharing your story, speaking up and voicing your questions, concerns and yes, sometimes, even traumas, can have a profoundly positive impact.Through story telling we can help others connect and realize that they're not alone, that we have common experiences that we thought were 'it's just me' perspectives.Diana, founder of The RAWW Network and Your Story To Tell Academy joins me to talk about: - How we can shift our conversations about mental health in the Latinx community - How anxiety, depression and other expressions of our mental health can be rooted in trauma - How RAWW got started and has evolved to support women through it's 5 pillars - Motherhood and postpartum challenges, including triggers, and how talking about the struggles is important - How cracking open tough taboo topics lead to supportive community + healing- How storytelling can help us reclaim our voice - How public speaking allows women to represent and become more visible, particularly for BIPOC, to be seen and heard in the mainstream. - How support comes from the most unlikely of places.- What it takes to go after your dreams.I hope this episode inspires and motivates you to take action in your life to step into your healing and to begin thriving through reclaiming your VOICE!WEBSITES:https://rawwnetwork.com/ https://yourstorytotell.org/ SOCIAL MEDIA:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/therawwnetwork/ https://www.instagram.com/ysttacademy/ Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today! I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding Spanish bonus episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you're loving the podcast and want to express your love for it, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! Your review helps other people find my podcast and they also fuel me. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. I appreciate you!
46 minutes | a year ago
EP 10 Decolonizing Rape Culture
You know how I roll by now... I like to go deep! And in this episode we definitely dive into all the things!There are so many parts of this podcast that will open your eyes and I can't wait to hear your feedback! In this episode Dr. Rocio Rosales Meza and I talk about:What colonial mentality isHow it influences the way we parentHow it relates directly to consentHow it infiltrates our current language and cultureThe ways that it can affect our mental wellnessHow tapping into our intuition can be liberatingThe connections that colonial history and colonial mentality have deep roots in rape cultureWhat we can begin to do to decolonize our mindsThings we can begin to do to take back our powerWhy this all matters to women's rights and WOCLinks Mentioned In The EpisodeWebsite:https://www.drrosalesmeza.com/https://www.patreon.com/DrrosalesmezaSocial:https://www.instagram.com/dr.rosalesmeza/https://www.facebook.com/drrosalesmeza Subscribe & Review in iTunesAre you subscribed to the AboutCONSENT™ podcast? If you’re not, I invite you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss any episodes. I’m adding Spanish episodes to the mix this year and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!If you love any of the episodes, I would be super grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too! your review helps others find my podcast (plus reading them gives me life!). Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favourite part or takeaway of the podcast is. Thank you y gracias!
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