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Major focus on the episode was inspired by the RedBull event scheduled to happen on 12th December 2021 in Diani, where the team discussed about the balancing act between being in the, moment and being in control - or as Jamal calls it; relinquishing control. The team was graced to have in our new studios: Ken Uduny from Baobab Beach Resort and Chaxy, organizer from RedBull;  mavericks who mastered the dance, in the improvisation world of having fun. They expounded on 'present awareness' which demands that Kenyans should forget all their preconceptions about Why, How and Where to have fun and completely drop their egos as they focused on the beach event at Kongo sands. The most scary of things has so far been the 'new normal', where the discussion took lead by stating the things you can control vs those you cannot; and sticking in between the two extremes, by letting go especially when you are a peoples pleaser. The Village Elder dis shade light on understanding of what we choose to respond to and what we control especially during these emotional times of lockdowns. Experiencing new sensations, breaking routine, enhancing self control capacities and pushing ones limits was seen as one of the elements that are increasingly becoming attractive to those who choose extreme sporting; highlighting on the fact that such sports on the basis of practice, acquires experiences and confidence, which in turn gradually reduces the perception of risk. This subjective assessment by the guests and the team on the risk results in an underestimation of objective risk.  This episode underlined the benefits of extreme sports to be that of psychosocial determinant in influencing decision making, in search for freedom in extreme sports; while also balancing bureaucracy in the tourism sector and manning the egos of those who call the shots in the industry in marketing Diani as a tourism destination. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

These are not normal times; most of people globally are being told to stay at home, avoid unnecessary interactions and, most definitely, avoid intimate moments with someone you haven’t yet met. three-in-ten adults say they have ever used an online dating site or app – including 11% who have done so in the past year, according to a new Pew Research Center survey conducted in 2019. However, the boys on the podcast did talk about masturbation and its effects. JayBlack shared his experiences online and what he is into when it comes to dating, while the VillageElder talked of himself as a serious fellow online... is he? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

For the last half-century, the trend has been toward later – not earlier – marriage. The median age at first marriage is now 29 for men and 26 for women, an age that has risen steadily since the 1950s. Today’s young adults marry a full six years later than their counterparts did. As marriage ages have risen, marriage has also become less common and less stable. However, the rates of sexual activity outside of marriage are higher than ever before, and out-of-wedlock births now represent about 40% of all births. If marrying young would promote happier, healthier marriages, we as a society might do well to encourage people to tie the knot as soon as they can, do you think so? However, couples who cohabit before they get married do tend to be younger, and recent research suggests it is the age of the couple when they began living together – rather than the fact they cohabited – that most strongly predicted an eventual divorce. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

The definition and the ability to create something novel and appropriate, creativity is essential to the entrepreneurship that gets new businesses started and that sustains the best companies after they have reached global scale. The shift to a more innovation-driven economy has been abrupt. Today, execution capabilities are widely shared and the life cycles of new offerings are short. As competition turns into a game of who can generate the best and greatest number of ideas. What does it mean to have a job, to be employed or working? How relevant is it? Does it offer guidance on the decisions that leaders in creativity-dependent businesses have to make? To help make the connections between theory and practice, we recently convened a two-day colloquium at Harvard Business School, inviting business leaders from --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

Young people are making hurried career decisions too early, and it’s detrimental for them as well as employers. What you want to be when you grow up requires careful thought: we need time to learn about and consider all the options. Masika gets to share her lessons from all the opportunities that came her way, as Malenga 001 did underline what creative art is all about. Asira took us through how to appreciate self and realizing value. The rush to get good grades – and the fact that our grades heavily influence what we can and can't do – means that some students make hurried, expedient decisions, which may not be for the best in the long-term. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

This week’s episode, we seek to offer optimistic answers to anyone lookingfor a way forward in this era of political turmoil and confusion. However, most people are pretty decent, but power corrupts; that being a pretty good description of what’s happening in Kenya right now. Our guest this week is from Mwamko Mpya, a political movement seeks equity for the coastal community in the political space in the country. So, are Kenyans fundamentally decent, and, if so, what does this mean for our politics and our political ideologies in 2020 as we head towards 2022? Do you believe the current Coronavirus catastrophe has brought out the best in people? Because alot of people, especially in 2020, would say otherwise. There are very different views of human nature, on how humans interact with one another. JayBlack did underline that Kenyan Youth are entitled yet have not been tested with time and a track record. The Village Elder on the other hand felt government should not be blamed for everything wrong! Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

We are back; Speaking Music! We were graced to have Shirleen Njoroge, an expert on conflict portfolios; solving complex issues in the community, as she shared light on how to cope with all the uncertainty COVID breaths, where many of us use worrying as a tool for trying to predict the future and avoid nasty surprises. The @OfficialVillageElder on the other hand highlight on how people seem to enjoy taking risks and living unpredictable lives, while others find the randomness of life deeply distressing. But all of us have a limit. Jamal on the other end shared about allowing yourself to experience uncertainty which can help you reduce stress, better come to terms with your circumstances, and find a sense of peace as you deal with challenges. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

We all dwell on success. We are thrilled when we succeed, and we love to hear or read about stories of sucess or of successful people. But we usually forget that behind every story of success there are hundreds of instances of failure, stories of stumbling, falling and bouncing back. Joy is only the epitome of a long process of pain, sadness, and frustration. Those who do it, those who know the secret of success, have had to suffer through the toil of harsh defeat again and again, and sometimes in a state of solitude and total indifference. The world runs away from our failures, but celebrates with us on our successes. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

Have you ever wondered where you would rank in a werewolf pack? In this week’s episode of Relationship Theory, JayBlack, Rophus and Jamal discuss how to manage the characteristics and responsibilities of male vs. female counterparts in a relationship. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

Everyone has a WHY. Do you know yours? This week on this episode we underline the importance of WHY being the purpose, cause or belief that drives every one of us. Unlike animals, which are driven simply to survive, we humans crave more from life than mere survival. Without an answer to the question ‘Survival for the sake of what?,’ we can quickly fall into disillusionment, distraction and a quiet sense of despair. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

Effective communication is about more than just exchanging information. It’s about understanding the emotion and intentions behind the information. As well as being able to clearly convey a message, you need to also listen in a way that gains the full meaning of what’s being said and makes the other person feel heard and understood. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

The primary obstacles stopping you from being and living how you want are: The lack of trust you have from yourself and others; and your emotional intelligence — specifically, your ability to understand and manage your emotions, what psychologists call emotional regulation. Until you can be trusted, first by yourself, and then by others, you’ll never be who you want to be. You’ll always be living a lie. Inside, you’ll never feel clarity, congruence, or conviction. Said Mahatma Gandhi, “To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.” If you don’t have both character and competency, trust will be low. For example, you may have all the right skills, but lack integrity. Or, you may have high integrity, but lack the needed skills for a specific task. This is why confidence must be earned. A price must be paid to have confidence in yourself and others. The price is trust. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

What’s most important to you? Your core values determine how you answer this question. Our core values highlight what we stand for. Core values guide our behaviors, decisions, and action. JayBlack shares that when you know what you value, you can live in accord with those values which leads to greater fulfillment. Shalapamba on this one shared that he had to take a tough path to make changes in his life and explore new values that he lives by. Hamza on the other end, explores his dream-dad-situation, even as an artist, raising kids in future! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

We talk about right to life vs right of choice as we underline, assumptions and stigma on abortion at the Kenyan Coast. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

On this episode, we explore why life gets better when you stop giving a fuck. Sometimes, giving too much of a fuck can put your happiness in danger. And I’m not just speaking from observation, but from experience. We explore afew things once one stops giving a fuck: You’ll Care Less About The Critics, You’ll Become More Self Confident, You’ll Think Independently. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

We discuss the keys to success in life which is instilling good habits. We start the conversation by an electric performance by Hamza and then Jamal shades the reasons why he says humans are creatures of habit. JayBlack inscribes why, you may like to think that your daily actions result from deliberation and willpower. But mostly they are the products of your unconscious habits. Not all habits are good habits as we see from what Ali Shalapamba’s ‘situation’– where he states that you may probably feel trapped by your bad habits at times. On this episode, Rophus also shares how you can re-wire your mind to appreciate and seek out the new routine. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

Too many men are simply economically unattractive. Marriage is still based on love, but it also is fundamentally an economic transaction. Many young men today have little to bring to the marriage bargain, especially as young women's educational levels on average now exceed their male suitors. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

Ken was working in Singapore where he learnt a number of things about himself ... he also did mention that he met Obama while there. Having children was also a thing that made him change alot in his life... Chris joined us on the stream via Skype, and shared his experience in law school and the books and principles that changed his life to rebrand and reinvent himself. Rophus did share the lessons from a TedTalk as Hamza gave us a clear session as he performed two songs on the show... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

Searching for wholeness within yourself means that you stop relying on others to fill you or complete you. Instead of falling into a relationship with a significant other to find meaning, you look for meaning within yourself, within the things you do, within your emotions and perspectives and opinions. Harji and Whitney share what it means to find purpose, how to find ones identity, and how to define oneself... Realizing who you are and who you are capable of becoming teaches you that you are so incredibly strong and resilient. Seeing what you’ve already fought through, and how you will continue to find your footing, even when life gives you turbulence, is inspiring. You have, and will overcome. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support

Attention is an abundant resource available to all of us. And because of its nature of being easily accessible, we tend to take it for granted. We forget that attention is as precious as life itself. We experience life by paying attention to our mind, senses, and emotions. Attention shapes our attitudes, forms beliefs and reinforces our interpretations of events—it is the essence of who we become. Shallapamba joins us and shares his emotional story seeking for attention, as Halima shades her experience in her family as a first born... she got a special treat from Hamza as he sang one of her jams. Rophus spills her wisdom on how he is helping to raise his 12 year old brother. Hamza eventually debuts his new single on the pod. Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jay-fm/support