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Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to talk about love, the necessity of pauses, and to say a GOODBYE FOR NOW. To all of you listening for a short time, or for years: you are GEMS. Keep in touch. Nurture Connection. Have some fun. We love you. Go on a date. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza discuss SECRETS - Is it okay to keep secrets from a partner? When do you tell people things that you consider secret? What is “need to know” with a partner? Do we have a right to privacy even from our partners? How and when do you share secrets? The article we discuss can be found at: https://www.verywellmind.com/secrets-in-marriage-2303980#:~:text=You%20have%20the%20right%20to,reason%20that%20you%20want%20to. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza discuss ULTIMATUMS - do they ever work, have we ever given one, have we ever received one, and wtf is up with that Netflix show? We also discuss this article by Madeline Howard: https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a39642936/do-ultimatums-work-in-relationships/. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza discuss AMBITION and Hannah Orenstein's article in The Cut - "My Ambition Turns Off More Men than it Attracts": https://www.thecut.com/2022/03/ambition-dating-men-turnoff.html. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza discuss FAST-FORWARDING a relationship and break down the good and bad versions of fast forwarding. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza re-think, re-brand, and rant about everyone's favorite holiday to hate-love and love-hate: Valentine's day. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza discuss their least favorite thing in the world - open and clear communication, ugh. They break down communication issues in their own relationships, and then go discuss this Goop article on communication mistakes in relationships: https://goop.com/wellness/relationships/communication-mistakes-in-relationships/ They also discuss if there's ever an excuse for being left on read and what to do if you're feeling some time of way about a sexual dry spell. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Liza is joined by CARLYNNE to discuss one of the deep, spooky, shameful fears - WHAT IF I'M ALONE FOREVER?! But ya know...make it fun. They also do some rapid fire pep talk about how to deal with disliking someone's family, mediocre sex with a good person, and the winter blues. They answer a listener question about apologies to exes. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza do a SOLO episode in which they discuss a dreaded topic: How to get over *THAT* person. They also weigh in on West Elm Caleb, discuss how to handle sooo many friends being in relationships , and do a Grandma-vocab-lesson on hardballing and oystering. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to discuss a very tough and vulnerable topic: body image and how it affects your dating life. They share personal stories about how their body images have shaped their experiences and answer listener questions about body image. If you are struggling with an eating disorder, please seek help. A great place to start is the National Eating Disorders Association https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza talk all things NEW YEAR - walking through the negativity forest, reaching out to the person you went on a date with pre-holidays, resolutions and anti-resolutions, saying NO to mixed signals, and reflecting on 2021 with this twitter list: https://twitter.com/Shane___Martin/status/1476597909965590533. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE. They answer some rapid fire questions, lay out a last minute gift guide, and recap some potential trends in 2022 dating as predicted by OkCupid Data! The article we reference can be found here: https://theblog.okcupid.com/2022-will-be-the-year-of-exploration-in-dating-696d6385372a. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza do their annual HOLIDATING episode, with a focus on loneliness. What it means and what to do when it rears its head. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza do a SOLO EP where they do a deep dive on FIGHTING. They also answer some rapid fire questions about non-cheesy holidates, professional photos on apps, and dating someone with no social media. Then they discuss Esther Perel and Mary Alice Miller's article 'The 3 Types of Relationship Fights You Keep Having - And What to do About Them.' https://www.estherperel.com/blog/the-relationship-fights-you-keep-having. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Liza and Kimmy are joined by CARLYNNE, for a live and in person recording for the first time since February of 2020! They do a quick hits question corner, talk about the dos and don'ts of Thanksgiving hometown hookups, and recap Kimmy and Carlynne's first date. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Liza and Kimmy are joined by DR. DARCY STERLING, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the host of E! Network’s Famously Single. They discuss what Dr. Darcy's shocking worst first date story, the pressure that the pandemic put on relationships and dating, and jealousy - why we feel it, where it comes from, and what to do with it. Follow Dr. Darcy on social @DrDarcySterling and check out her blog, www.askdrdarcy.com. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza do a solo ep! They discuss they pros and cons of voice prompts on apps (and pitch what their answers would be!) , and make some uneducated guesses on dating data. They also answer a listener question on double texting and read a Redditship about spiritual poetry. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! We're in the top 15 podcasts on Feedspot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to discuss a virtual first date! They also take turns pitching and answering questions to ask yourself to figure out what you want in a relationship. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! We're in the top 15 podcasts on Feedspot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kimmy and Liza do a solo ep! They discuss 5 controversial questions for early-stage dating, and how to turn a spark into a flame, based on this article from Esther Perel and Mary Alice Miller: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/dating-advice-for-turning-a-spark-into-a-flame. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! We're in the top 15 podcasts on Feedspot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

**RE-RELEASE** This week, Kimmy and Liza are joined by KENNY!! They give some relationship updates and then debunk the 1995 book 'The Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right'. Follow us @51FirstDates on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices