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Love it or not, we’re always rooting for everybody black. No apologies. This time it’s for Cristina McCarter. She is the owner and operator of City Tasting Tours and her post-COVID pivot(s) City Tasting Box and Feast & Graze. We make no secret about the fact that we love food so this chat and tasting was awesome! Check her out! Feastandgraze.com and Citytastingbox.com.   

Big Beautiful Women. It’s a whole thing and a whole movement. Najla gives us her perspective as our resident (very unapologetic) BBW.

We read an article on Pure Wow by this child psychologist on the things we shouldn’t be saying to our daughters. We’re calling BS on some of it! And of course, the lens through which we see and approach these things changes as black women. It’s just different. Our babies face a different reality in this world. Najla joins KC and Joy alongside professional therapist Victoria Traylor, who provides us with her expert opinion.

First of all, we have to walk back our defense of the monumental F-Boi narcissist that is Derrick "Jaxn." Lawd. But never mind him. We are watching a mental health crisis live and living color and it's no joking matter. (Even though some of the stuff she is saying is indeed ridiculously hilarious). This woman is not well. She's not OK. But beyond that lies a bigger issue, which is the failure of Christian counseling. The church has failed this one by pushing struggle love narratives and Bilble verses instead of pushing her to a licensed therapist with an actual MD and the ability to prescribe good drugs. Joy, KC the Alchemist, Clo (welcome back sista!) and Najla have lots to say on this one.           

So…ummm….yeah. Our bodies ain’t the same. Many of us are doing and looking great. But even so, 3 and 4 hour sessions are not realistic or necessary. And all of that pretzel-y stuff becomes more of a chore does it not? Is it just us? Whatchall think? You still got that a pretzel or two in ya? Joy and KC are joined by Najla,  to discuss.

It would all be so simple. But you’d rather make it hard….The whole situation with Andrew Gillum and the recent GQ article got us to thinking about radical honesty. Wouldn’t life be easier and relationships be so much healthier if we were radically honest? Just tell people what you really want not what you think they want to hear! We have opinions. Pull up a chair.  Victoria and Najla are on deck with KC the Alchemist and Joy.

Sugars. Honey loves. Boos and baes. What we not gone do in the year of our Lord 2021 and in our 40s and beyond is be in these streets not having the Big O. Or even the little o. The French don’t call it petit mort for nothing baby. There are women who still aren’t having orgasms! BUT people are quick to label it dysfunction. But if you pull the cover back (ba-dum-dum! Pun intended), it’s not medical. Pull up for this one and get your minds right ladies!   

Period! PEEEE-REEE-ATT! It is ok for Black women to want, buy, require and have nice things. Why are there so many conditions for us??? When the same prerequisites and subsequent judgement isn’t levied on other women. It’s only an issue because of the lack of parity. Joy, KC the Alchemist and guest host Najla air some thangs out!

More than one man has said something in this vein. WTF does this mean? Is this a slick insult?  Is this akin to people telling educated women to “date down?” It sure feels that way. But maybe we’re missing something. What say you? We ask our friend Uncle Royce to come through and enlighten. He always has some wise words to share. Najla is also on deck with Joy and KC the Alchemist.

Preaching at women, especially black women, about their “failings” and shortcomings is big business. Many-a dating televangelist and pseudo guru have floated to the top with this messaging – Steve Harvey, Kevin Samuels, Iyanla Vanzant, Dr. Phil. However, it’s mostly men telling us what we should do and absolving other men of any culpability, while at the same time exploiting (some) women’s trauma and using it as social/social media currency and comeuppance. Joy and KC the Alchemist are joined by Najla to break this down.

Heads up -- spoiler alerts. There's alot going on!  So much toxic codependence! This movie is a case study! It was not the love story we expected. The way these two decimate each other then come together then go scorched earth then come together...it's exhausting to watch. We unpack it with our guests Uncle Royce and Najla.

We're back with Ro! Pull up as we talk dating, younger men, being called ma'am, being 50+ and FAB and what's next. I mean 50-sum WHERE???

Le sigh. This should be obvious but clearly some of y'all need some direction and guidance. Let’s discuss. Check out the latest episodes of 3BC on the Kudzukian App and Kudzukian.com.

It seems to us that some folks have different ideas about loyalty. Loyalty seems to vary based on the type of relationship and along gender lines. Seems like loyalty is loyalty is loyalty. But not so. We all make these distinctions on some level, at least subconsciously.  

With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, some of yall are losing your mf’n minds. We need you to stop stressing yourselves out. It’s just one day and it’s manufactured. NBD whatsoever. If 2020  and 2020 in a wig (aka 2021) has taught us – or should have – is not to sweat the small stuff and cherish your loved one EVERYDAY. Pull up and catch some of this good #forevermood music and let us talk you through your V-Day psychosis! Just know that You Are Enough. Period.  

This has to be one of the most horrible, incorrect and challenging double standards out here in these single streets. Men get crowned and lionized. Meanwhile women get accused of seeking an insta-family and gold digging, body shamed for their post baby bodies and generally regarded as less desirable EVEN BY MEN WITH KIDS. Since two of the three BC’s are mothers, we had to speak on this matter and set the record straight for what it’s worth. Yall gone cut this BS out!

In case you've forgotten, HIV is still a very real and present danger. Especially for the black community.  Black gay men still up a sizeable percentage of new infections and but guess who's next in line after the gay male population? Yes, us. Black women. In part 2, Joy goes one-on-one with Mia Cotton, VP of Client Health at Friends for Life, to talk about lube, risk reduction, condom negotiation and Black and Latina women.   

In case you've forgotten, HIV is still a very real and present danger. Especially for the black community.  Black gay men still make up a sizeable percentage of new infections, but guess who's next in line after the gay male population? Yes, us. Black women. In part 1, Joy, Clo and KC the Alchemist talk loose views toward condoms, relationship blinders and the basics like wrapping it up, among other things.

Sadly, more women than not have been in this situation, whether they are single, married or dating. It’s not what you want but things take a dark and aggressive turn then the fear response kicks in. You just...acquiesce...to keep from being harmed. You make a snap decision about whether you'd rather physical danger or emotional scars. This one gets personal as we share our own personal experiences.

Ms. Lori has reached the mountaintop with the pulling of, arguably, one of Hollywood’s most eligible bachelors, Michael BAE Jordan. Chiiiiile! Tongues have been wagging since they went public/IG official about a month ago. We MUST talk about how she has managed to pull off thinking like a man AND acting like a man. And subsequently disproved her dad’s whole (one-sided, problematic AF)  theory on dating. She (inadvertently?) kicked the soap box right from under him. Ha!