Wife of An Alcoholic: Recovery | Loving An Alcoholic | Codependency| Michelle Lisa Anderson
About This Show
If you’re the wife of an an alcoholic or substance abuser you are not powerless over his addiction. You don’t need to wait for him to get sober to start to feel happiness. Join us for encouragement, hope and some fun (because recovery doesn’t need to be all depressing).
How to feel love, joy and happiness while loving an alcoholic or substance abuser. If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when he’s been drinking or using drugs and worried this roller coaster ride will never end – we can help.
Most Recent Episode
Why You Might Be Staying in an Unhealthy Relationship
5 days ago
This week we’re going to answer the question: why do I stay in an unhealthy relationship? But... before we get started, I want to make something clear. I will never tell you to stay or leave. There are many women in this community who choose to stay in their marriage and it works for them. And there are women who leave. My goal for this community is to get YOU healthier and happier so you can make the decision that is best for you. The choice is yours and we will NEVER judge you. Ever. There are many reasons we decide to stay in a unhealthy relationship (we love them, we see their potential, we find self worth in helping others, fear of what others will think, fear of breaking up a family, etc). Today we’re going to be covering a reason I’ve never discussed before. Here’s a question I received from a wonderful and strong woman in our Secret Facebook Group that we will use as a great example (I think a lot of you will be able to relate): Q: I have been in a relationship with an alcoholic for over two years. At first I thought he just drank a lot, then his obsession with drinking made me realize he is an alcoholic, a highly functioning one. The whole relationship, I gave and he took. I could see that when something interfered with his drinking he would avoid it. But as soon as I began to put some demands on him, basically just asking him to treat me like I treat him, he began to talk about how our relationship wasn't working. So now we are not together, except to go out to dinner once in awhile, which I am about to put an end to. But why does it hurt so much to let this man go? I loved him like I never loved anyone else. I was so selfless and always thinking of him. I just can't understand why my heart hurts so much but my brain is telling me I am lucky it has ended and g
Rated 5 out of
Wife of an alcoholic 12
I have spent past year watching my spouse fall apart in this disease, but frankly it is me whom has lost herself, i have health problems, anxiety now and so much more. Our marriage is in shambles i have tried pastor, friends, books recently but still struggle to find the strength inside to move on. Afraid i am doing the right thing or worried about him despite horrible way he treats me!! I have listened to you for 2 days straight and cried like a baby. I finally feel like someone undestands. Thank you!! I have felt so hopeless, you are giving me strength. Thank you so much
Date published: 2016-12-28
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I needed this !!! Thank You! Thank You!!!!!
I love this podcast. I surrender today, tonight and always. Its nice how I can listen once he's passed out.
Date published: 2015-12-01
Rated 5 out of
So glad to stumble onto your website!
I was at the end of my rope, literally. Every time he fell off the wagon I would fall into despair, anxiety, and panic. There would be a huge blow up, tears and blame. He would always insist that I take blame, partial blame as he called it, for his drinking or the aftermath that ensued afterwards. I was suicadal, wanting it to stop, just stop feeling and dealing. Now I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel with no antidepressants, anxiety and panic attack pills. Just listening has motivated me to stop focusing on him, focus on me, my wants, my dreams, my hopes and my happiness. Thank you! I am reaching out to the right people and getting the help I needed for ME!
Date published: 2017-01-28
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So glad I found this podcast
As a wife of an alcoholic who happens to be in the helping professions as a career; I find this podcast to be helpful for women because it is simple to follow and and provides very good guidelines in how to help oneself when living with a husband who has this disease. I really enjoyed today's podcast because it reminded me that women who love a person who is in addiction cannot follow the same relationship advice as couples who are not dealing with addiction in their relationship. Like Lisa, I have studied a lot of material on alcohol abuse/alcoholism personally and professionally and I truly have realized that this type of relationship has it's own rules and guidelines that need to be followed if one wants to get better- regardless whether or not the husband/partner gets better or not. For those professional women out there like myself who has found themselves in an addictive relationship- do not be ashamed to ask for help. As professionals- we are the ultimate fixers,; but often to the detriment of ourselves. We have to love ourselves first! Michelle Lisa, you have reminded me that it is okay to seek help too! I am definitely considering joining your program for myself and so I can refer your program to my clients who may be going through similar issues. Thanks for being brave enough to start this movement.
Date published: 2017-01-08