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Episode Info:

Perfectionism means always trying to meet high standards AND not making mistakes or failing as you try to meet those standards. The problem with perfectionism is NOT high standards, but the rules for HOW to meet those standards.

And the rules are: I can NEVER make mistakes, perform at an average or sub-par level, fail, stumble, and not be the best I can be–ALWAYS.

If you try to live by these rules, it’ll cause enormous havoc on your mental health, happiness, and enjoyment of life.

WHY does perfectionism lead to misery and failure? And what is the rational alternative that allows you to have high standards and big dreams, without all the stress, anxiety, and pressure that perfectionists frequently experience?

In today’s episode, I’m going to give you a way to meet super-high standards, achieve really big goals, and also ENJOY your life in the process.

Episode highlights:

  • The FALSE alternative of perfectionism vs. low standards
  • A way you can actually be perfect (without the trap of perfectionism)
  • What a chipped tea cup and pets can teach you about perfection
  • Perfectionists try to meet a standard that’s IMPOSSIBLE for human beings
  • How perfectionists continuously SCREW themselves (and how to avoid this)
  • Why mistakes, setbacks, and failures are MASSIVE THREATS to a perfectionist
  • Why perfectionism leads to a fear of taking risks
  • Why perfectionism causes an enormous amount of anxiety and stress
  • With perfectionists, life becomes a constant test of their self worth
  • Many top performers are perfectionists, but that’s NOT why they succeed (in fact, they would achieve more and with more joy if they weren’t perfectionists)
  • How perfectionism can lead to depression
  • Why mistakes and poor performance are a GIFT that can lead you to excellence
  • The RIGHT standard for high achievement and a joyous life

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” Michael Jordan (from Brainyquote)

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