I’ve met parents who post a list of rules on the fridge, and expect the kids to fall in line. But more often than not, that piece of paper does nothing more than annoy and embarrass the kids. And frankly, it doesn’t work. In the teen years, nothing’s more important than developing relationships between parents and kids. Because rules without relationship causes rebellion. So here’s what I suggest. Take time to get with your teen over breakfast or dinner or coffee. And do it every week. Regular, intentional time, where you’re lookin’ each other in the eyes and letting your teen talk. It’ll foster the atmosphere where healthy relationships can thrive. Over time, you’ll find this weekly get- together will be a place to share your own stories. Your own faults. Even a place where your teen will talk about deeper concerns, life questions and dreams. You’ll be surprised how rules take care of themselves, once there’s a relationship! If you listen on a mobile phone or tablet, please download our Parenting Today’s Teens app available for Apple or Android. If you listen on a desktop or laptop computer, press the “play” button above to enjoy daily parenting advice.