The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast With Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
About This Show
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby - Psychologist, Marriage Counselor and Life Coach - hosts The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Listen, and learn how to create great relationships, feel happier, and make good things happen in your life.
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How to Repair Your Self Esteem After a Breakup
3 days ago
Has Your Breakup or Divorce Shattered Your Self Esteem? Hands down, one of the most horrible parts about going through a bad breakup or divorce is the way it mangles your self esteem. I know, from so many years as a therapist and life coach, that many people experience post-divorce depression (or post-breakup depression). There are many parts to this experience: Grief and loss, or feeling overwhelmed by all the practical aspects of putting your life back together. However, for most people, the most terrible depression after a breakup comes when it damages your self esteem, and makes you start to feel badly about yourself. If you've been feeling down on yourself since your relationship ended I want you to know something right off the bat, which is that feeling this way does not mean that you're actually "less than." Really: I talk to a LOT of people about the most vulnerable parts of their life. I know for a fact that even the most gorgeous, amazing, successful people second-guess themselves after a divorce or breakup. Even the most naturally confident, strong, and reasonable among us -- in the throes of a devastating break up -- still have these types of horrible, torturous conversations with themselves in their darkest moments: Anxious Thought: "Why did this relationship fail?" Self-Esteem Crushing Answer: Because of all your personal shortcomings and the mistakes you made in this marriage or relationship. Anxious Thought: "Why doesn't the person I love more than anything want to be with me anymore?" Self Esteem Crushing Answer: Because you aren't interesting / fun / sexy / smart / successful enough. Anxious Thought: "Why didn't my Ex care enough about me to treat me better while we were together?" Self Esteem Crushing Answer: Because you're just not that worthy or lovable. Anxious Thought: "Why did my Ex cheat on me or get together with someone new?" Self Esteem Crushing Answer: Because that someone new is much more interesting, attractive, worthy of love and respect. Basically, they're just a better person than you. If you're going through a bad breakup, chances are you're probably nodding to yourself as