Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast
About This Show
With over 20 years in the BDSM community and the mental health field I have gained a unique understanding and respect for the alternative lifestyle.
As BDSM has become more mainstream it is important that people become informed and educated about truth of the BDSM community instead of letting inaccurate books and movies shape minds, opinions, and lifestyles in a way that is both incorrect and unhealthy. Myself and guests, from porn stars to pastors, will dive deep into all sides of the lifestyle to paint an accurate, informed, and unbiased picture of BDSM and the surprising truth behind the psychology of participants.
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BDSM Consent Counts Pt 1-S01E35
6 days ago
BDSM Consent Counts Pt 1-S01E35 (135)
Recorded December 12th, 2018 / Published January 16, 2018
Consent is an incredibly important topic to both of us, and should be an important topic for everyone out there. The news these days is filled with stories of consent violations and thankfully our society is beginning to crack down on these violators quickly. However we still have a long way to go within the BDSM community.
What is consent exactly?
Consent is what a person has knowingly and willingly agreed to a form of participation in. That form and those activities, behaviors, etc. are what that consent applies to. Legally consent is defined as being able to freely give agreement to participate in a(n) (sexual) activity. Many states in the U.S. have separate definitions as well which also specify who is capable of giving consent; for example a child many not consent, nor may a person who is unconscious. For more information about these laws and what your state defines as legal consent we have included a link that will help clarify many of these points. https://www.rainn.org/news/how-does-your-state-define-consent
What do we consent to within the context of BDSM?
Sexual- including everything from kissing to intercourse of any and every kind. This can even include sexual behaviors using inanimate objects.
Non-sexual- impact play, punishments, rewards, and anything else you can possibly imagine. You can even choose to consent or not to things like writing journals or taking pictures.
Behaviors- kneeling, honouring, or having these behaviors used on you. Dominants need to give their consent too!
Why is consent so important?
The point could be made that in our vanilla lives we don’t ask for explicitly defined consent for every action, or activity we participate in, so why should we have to do that for BDSM?
We have to in BDSM because of the nature of our relationships. Without consent there can be no trust. Without trust there can be no consent. Without both, there can be no relationship of love and respect.
We do things within our lifestyles that present risks which require knowing consent to be able to participate in safely. This includes all forms of safety, mental, emotional, and physical.
A note on knowing consent- Be aware that to give knowing consent you need to be clear and stable of mind. An unconscious or inebriated person, someone who is mentally ill, or someone who is in an altered state of mind i.e