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Episode Info: How do you be a better Friend, Colleague, or for that matter, Mother to your adult children? In the photo above, I’m with the other girls in my family. We are all good friends. I’ve been very intentional about this. Friendship doesn’t “just happen”! I’ve discovered the world has two types of people. And both are quite different. Everyone knows it’s great to have great friends, who can stay with you through life’s sticky moments. There’s even proven health benefits of having good friends! A friend loves at all times (Proverbs 17:17 NIV) Two Different Relationship Types I love doing stuff, making things, and staying on time. My friend prefers talking, catching up, chatting and being in a good relationship with people. Why are we so different? Over the years I’ve learnt how to be a better friend. I’ve spent a lot of time with several great girlfriends. We have adult children about the same age, who attended the same schools, and we’ve gone on family trips together. But we are very different in the way we approach everything relational! And it took me a long time to work out the difference between us. I just couldn’t put my finger on it. Some of my friends looove to chat on the phone. But not everyone is like that. Others of us, like me, avoid phone calls for as long as possible, and when I finally got to them, I usually made them short. One of my friends reminded me lately that one day, years ago, I rang her and happily revealed, “I just rang to let you know I’m pregnant,” I paused, while she gasped and said something. Then I quickly responded: “Okay, see you Sunday!” and hung up. She hardly got a chance to say anything! I’m happy to report that these days I do expect to chat for a bit on the phone. I’ve got much better at calling people. But it took me a long time to learn because I didn’t understand how important it was to simply chat. I didn’t understand the difference between two personality types and how important they are. I didn’t know about “relational” and “tasky”. SHE: Those chatty friends (relational) SHE made a point of talking to the man at the corner shop. Whereas I’d rush in to buy my milk or bread, and rush out again. “Gotta go! Can’t stop!” SHE just had to have a catch up with people during meetings! “How are things?” bubbled out with genuine interest, while I looked at my watch, fidgeting and wondering about starting on time. SHE made sure she arrived at the school gate early, especially to chat to other parents. But I often arrived five minutes late, because it had been a busy afternoon. I’d quickly gather my children, and leave. Building margins into my life was not even a concept for me back then. I was always in a rush. Do these scenarios seem familiar to you? SHE was so chilled . . .  and wasting MY precious time! To be a better friend I had to cut her some slack and realize that SHE is much more relational than me. I found out about “relational and task...
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