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Share this episode with a friend In Episode 17, I interview Jo who is balancing a high-level career and being a single parent to twin girls. We talk about life as a single parent, the real cost of work travel for a parent, and the double-edged guilt sword of carer's leave. The Lowdown - Family of 3 - 1 working parent (0.8) - 2 school-aged children - Grandparents providing after-school care 3:23 Sleep! 4:20 Focusing on children when they are awake 4:38 Buffer at the end of the day before sleep 5:02 Decompressing before sleep 7:18 Important things (like podcast interviews!) done after kids bedtime 7:51 Morning routines 8:16 Pocket money for getting ready on time in the morning 10:40 Rewards that can apply to just one child 11:12 Who are the people in your family 11:22 Single parent with twin 10 year old daughters 11:40 Current workload - paid and unpaid 12:22 School drops offs 12:54 Grandparents cover school pickup and after-school activities 13:16 The 'good' kind of after-school activity 14:02 Autopilot pickup fails 14:46 Grandparent/grandchild relationship 16:19 Having other authority figures involved 17:00 Always have to be the bad cop, grandpa can be the good cop 18:14 Parenting superpower 18:16 Knowing my kids and what drives them 19:33 The 'hangry' child 20: 01 Sense of justice 20:50 Looking at things a different way 22:04 Not just doing everything really slowly 23:50 Can drive you mad but at the same time you don't want them to lose their childlike ways 24:04 Balance between developing a useful adult and breaking them 25:26 Being a twin mum requires you to be more task focused and not always enjoying the moment 26:38 Random supermarket twin mum encounter 27:42 Different stages with twins - separation, getting mobile 28:06 Twin mum a mothers group with mums of singles 29:24 STOP! 30:10 What works well? 30:22 Children on the same page 31:50 Grandparents support 32:18 Side steps the 'management' of OSHC 33:02 Having a manager who has a single mum 33:39 The mummy button 33:52 Attending a work conference as a single parent 34:10 Travel allowance including childcare costs? 35:45 The real cost of work travel to a family 37:36 Is the extra load OK for partners and families 37:48 Be organised 38:36 What doesn't work well 38:44 Doesn't take much to throw things off kilter 39:28 The two types of guilt, maternal guilt and employee guilt 39:56 Employee guilt 'wins' often due to working 0.8 40:50 You don't get a medal either way 41:56 The difficulty of being the driver for change in a workplace 42:26 What is the next step for your family? 42:34 Working full time 42:30 Children looking at future employment options 43:56 Making children aware of finances and implications of choices 44:22 Entitlement in children 45:16 Entitlement in monetary and non-monetary terms 46:36 Pocket money for doing chores around the house? 47:12 That's what our family does 48:16 Life is an adventure 48:58 Is family life what you thought it would be? 49:08 NO! 50:18 Modelling healthy relationships to children problematic 52:12 Having twins 53:27 There are 2 heartbeats! 55:28 Wish people were more honest about life with a newborn 56:24 It is not all a nappy commercial 57:20 Different personality types deal with it better 58:08 Away from all family when having small babies 1:00:20 The expectation that there is a right and wrong with parenting 1:00:44 Comparison between parents 1:01:12 Parenting advice 1:02:20 Teething and wind 1:03:00 Gripe water - who has the gripe? Let me know what you thought of this episode! Leave a comment below, leave a review on iTunes or Stitcher, contact me via Facebook, Twitter or email. Or even better join the Codfish Squad and talk to me there.        

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