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We have so many areas of our life when being judgmental can show up. It happens inside families, at work, with your friends, or even strangers on the street. For many, the opportunity to judge is abundant.
But why do we do it and how do we know if we are judgmental?
There are some good things related to the why. It may help keep us safe, avoid bad situations.
Others say we usually judge others in the areas we feel the weakest. Think about it:
“Look at that overweight person” – translation is that I don’t feel great about my own appearance but it makes me feel better to make fun of someone else who looks worse than me”
“Look at that snob in his fancy car” – translation – I am upset I can’t afford that nice of a car”
“That guy can’t control his kids” – Translation – I’m not confident in my own parenting but it makes me feel better to see someone struggling more than me”
How do we know if we are judgmental? If you have to ask, you probably are. Are you judgmental? See if any of these seem familiar
1) You are intolerant of people different from yourself 2) Your first impression is seeing someone’s flaws 3) You judge people on appearance 4) You think everyone is out to get you 5) You do not trust others 6) You gossip about others 7) You have low self-acceptance 8) You judge yourself 9) You have a pessimistic or negative outlook
Let’s discuss how not to be judgmental:
1) Identify and admit you are judgmental. Recognize that you often think negatively of people, maybe even verbalizing it. Also, are you being judgmental and critical of yourself. Acknowledging it is the first step.
2) Practice …