The Work of Byron Katie
About This Show
Byron Katie, founder of The Work, has one job: to teach people how to end their own suffering. As she guides people through the powerful process of inquiry she calls The Work, they find that their stressful beliefs—about life, other people, or themselves—radically shift and their lives are changed forever. Based on Byron Katie's direct experience of how suffering is created and ended, The Work is an astonishingly simple process, accessible to people of all ages and backgrounds, and requires nothing more than a pen, paper, and an open mind. Through this process, anyone can learn to trace unhappiness to its source and deal with it there. Katie (as everyone calls her) not only shows us that all the problems in the world originate in our thinking: she gives us the tool to open our minds and set ourselves free.
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Elise is Ignoring Me—The Work of Byron Katie
Byron Katie does The Work with a French man who believes that his girlfriend is ignoring him. His concept is "I'm angry with Elise because she's ignoring me." He explains that she's passionately interested in another man. Man: The situation is: we are in a dance hall in the countryside and a man comes along. BK: What is she doing in that moment when you say she's ignoring you? Man: I'm sitting down. Two people come in and start talking to the man about dancing. Her eyes light up and she speaks passionately to that man. It's as though there are no other people on earth. BK: Close your eyes and see the scene. She's ignoring you--Is it true? Man: Yes. BK: Look again. Can you absolutely know that it's true? She is looking only at him. She is looking starry eyed. Can you absolutely know that it's true? Man: No. BK: What did you just understand? Man: I felt included in the room with them. BK: Does that feel right? In other words, what you just experienced; was it authentic? Man: Yes. BK: Close your eyes. In that situation in that moment in time, notice what it feels like and notice how you react when you think the thought she's ignoring me? Man: I feel abandoned, nervous, and angry. BK: You see images of past and future before you can feel annoyed or angry. And I love that you all understand how the mind works; the cause of emotion. You see images of the future and past and you're asleep to that. As you witness that dream it's like watching a movie and that's what brings anger. No matter how quickly your temper rises, past-future has to be in place. So close your eyes. You're seeing her with her eyes all lit up talking to him. You think the thought "She's ignoring me." What images of past and future do you see in your mind's eye while you're sitting there? Do you see images of how she used to look at you that way? And then you see pictures in your mind's eye of a future when she'll never look at you that way again. Also, you look at him, and then you have an image of you in your mind's eye. And your mind is comparing him with you. So now you're sure she'll never look at you that way again. She'll always be thinking of him. This is what happened in that moment that you were witnessing her. Man: Laughs [in recognition of his experience that Katie just described]. BK: So you witness this past and future; you don't know it's going on in the moment. If you continue this practice, as you sit in that movie, you can be awake to the cause of the anger and confusion you