Wife of An Alcoholic: Recovery | Loving An Alcoholic | Codependency| Michelle Lisa Anderson
About This Show
If you’re the wife of an an alcoholic or substance abuser you are not powerless over his addiction. You don’t need to wait for him to get sober to start to feel happiness. Join us for encouragement, hope and some fun (because recovery doesn’t need to be all depressing).
How to feel love, joy and happiness while loving an alcoholic or substance abuser. If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when he’s been drinking or using drugs and worried this roller coaster ride will never end – we can help.
Most Recent Episode
What To Do With The Kids When He Drinks
3 days ago
Do you find it difficult to know what to do when the one you love starts drinking in front of your children? Are you a parent of a child who drinks too much or suffers from substance abuse? I often say to my loving Secret Facebook community (filled with some of the most amazing and courageous women on this planet) - you have choices. You don’t need to stick around when they're making bad choices. You CAN ask them to leave the house. If they refuse or they’re too drunk, you can pick up your keys, grab the kids and head out the door. Over the years I have had some women say to me, “Michelle, it’s not that easy. What if they decide to follow me? And start yelling. What if the kids are busy and don’t want to leave the house?” And here’s the loving but hard truth I need you to hear: I had 3 young kids when I was married to my alcoholic and addicted husband. And I get that it’s not easy. But sometimes this disease requires us to do things that are not easy. There were moments I had to wake up my baby from a nap and get the older ones out of the house. After we were divorced, there was an evening I had to drive until 3:00 a.m. from another state to rescue my kids from his house because he was drunk and out of control and my kids were scared and hiding in the bathroom. If you know they follow you to the car and will try to prevent you from leaving - you can call the police. I had to call them 3 separate times. Having the police show up at my house was embarrassing but it showed addiction - I mean what I say. Take me seriously when I say leave the house or leave me alone. We HAVE to be willing to teach this disease we mean business and courageously stand up to addiction. We CAN do it. I am cheering you on every minute. You are more courageous than you think. I hope you found this helpful and will consider joining one of the 3 programs we offer. I would love to get to know you better inside the Secret Facebook Group filled with hundreds of women just like you (you will receive a private invitation after you join one of the programs). P.S. Speaking of our Secret Facebook Group - one of the very wise women shared this comment when I asked the group this question: what do you do when you think your loved one might drink this weekend? This is what she wrote: My new thing to say i
Rated 5 out of
Wife of an alcoholic 12
I have spent past year watching my spouse fall apart in this disease, but frankly it is me whom has lost herself, i have health problems, anxiety now and so much more. Our marriage is in shambles i have tried pastor, friends, books recently but still struggle to find the strength inside to move on. Afraid i am doing the right thing or worried about him despite horrible way he treats me!! I have listened to you for 2 days straight and cried like a baby. I finally feel like someone undestands. Thank you!! I have felt so hopeless, you are giving me strength. Thank you so much
Date published: 2016-12-28
Rated 5 out of
I needed this !!! Thank You! Thank You!!!!!
I love this podcast. I surrender today, tonight and always. Its nice how I can listen once he's passed out.
Date published: 2015-12-01
Rated 5 out of
So glad to stumble onto your website!
I was at the end of my rope, literally. Every time he fell off the wagon I would fall into despair, anxiety, and panic. There would be a huge blow up, tears and blame. He would always insist that I take blame, partial blame as he called it, for his drinking or the aftermath that ensued afterwards. I was suicadal, wanting it to stop, just stop feeling and dealing. Now I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel with no antidepressants, anxiety and panic attack pills. Just listening has motivated me to stop focusing on him, focus on me, my wants, my dreams, my hopes and my happiness. Thank you! I am reaching out to the right people and getting the help I needed for ME!
Date published: 2017-01-28
Rated 5 out of
So glad I found this podcast
As a wife of an alcoholic who happens to be in the helping professions as a career; I find this podcast to be helpful for women because it is simple to follow and and provides very good guidelines in how to help oneself when living with a husband who has this disease. I really enjoyed today's podcast because it reminded me that women who love a person who is in addiction cannot follow the same relationship advice as couples who are not dealing with addiction in their relationship. Like Lisa, I have studied a lot of material on alcohol abuse/alcoholism personally and professionally and I truly have realized that this type of relationship has it's own rules and guidelines that need to be followed if one wants to get better- regardless whether or not the husband/partner gets better or not. For those professional women out there like myself who has found themselves in an addictive relationship- do not be ashamed to ask for help. As professionals- we are the ultimate fixers,; but often to the detriment of ourselves. We have to love ourselves first! Michelle Lisa, you have reminded me that it is okay to seek help too! I am definitely considering joining your program for myself and so I can refer your program to my clients who may be going through similar issues. Thanks for being brave enough to start this movement.
Date published: 2017-01-08