Wife of An Alcoholic: Recovery | Loving An Alcoholic | Codependency| Michelle Lisa Anderson
About This Show
If you’re the wife of an an alcoholic or substance abuser you are not powerless over his addiction. You don’t need to wait for him to get sober to start to feel happiness. Join us for encouragement, hope and some fun (because recovery doesn’t need to be all depressing).
How to feel love, joy and happiness while loving an alcoholic or substance abuser. If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when he’s been drinking or using drugs and worried this roller coaster ride will never end – we can help.
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How To Deal With His Anger
6 days ago
Last week I answered a question from one of our loving, strong women in our Secret Facebook Group. I love this group. I’ll admit being the introvert I am, I’m not much of a group joiner. So when I started adding free access to the group when you join one of our programs, I really wondered - are women really going to find this helpful? And boy do they ever. It’s a safe place (with no judgment) to share what’s REALLY going on in your relationship and be encouraged, embraced and given advice (if requested). Because that’s one of the very things that makes The Love Over community different - we offer specific advice and tools to help YOU - whether he decides to get sober or not. We don’t buy into the theory that we’re powerless over this disease. We don’t just need to sit back and let addiction take over our lives. There are real, tangible things we can do that will help us take back our control and perhaps help them get better. So this week I’m going to answer another great question from one of our women in this group (we will NEVER share names because confidentiality is our priority. Seriously.) Q: I haven’t been able to have a conversation with my AH in years. He takes it over, usually talking non-stop, talking over me, and then getting angry with me, all the while telling me everything I do wrong. I usually cannot get a word in edgewise so I don't know how I can even enforce a boundary as I would not be able to say anything - he won't stop talking long enough to listen. Any suggestions? A: You don't need to enforce a boundary with words, in fact, it's sometimes better if you don't use words. Use your actions. If he won't listen and have a conversation that is respectful when both you and he are listening and sharing - stop the conversation. Shut it down. If he's blaming or disrespecting you - you have permission to walk away. By staying and engaging you giving him the message that it's ok to talk to you like that. Lock yourself in a roo
Rated 5 out of
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I have spent past year watching my spouse fall apart in this disease, but frankly it is me whom has lost herself, i have health problems, anxiety now and so much more. Our marriage is in shambles i have tried pastor, friends, books recently but still struggle to find the strength inside to move on. Afraid i am doing the right thing or worried about him despite horrible way he treats me!! I have listened to you for 2 days straight and cried like a baby. I finally feel like someone undestands. Thank you!! I have felt so hopeless, you are giving me strength. Thank you so much
Date published: 2016-12-28
Rated 5 out of
I needed this !!! Thank You! Thank You!!!!!
I love this podcast. I surrender today, tonight and always. Its nice how I can listen once he's passed out.
Date published: 2015-12-01
Rated 5 out of
So glad to stumble onto your website!
I was at the end of my rope, literally. Every time he fell off the wagon I would fall into despair, anxiety, and panic. There would be a huge blow up, tears and blame. He would always insist that I take blame, partial blame as he called it, for his drinking or the aftermath that ensued afterwards. I was suicadal, wanting it to stop, just stop feeling and dealing. Now I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel with no antidepressants, anxiety and panic attack pills. Just listening has motivated me to stop focusing on him, focus on me, my wants, my dreams, my hopes and my happiness. Thank you! I am reaching out to the right people and getting the help I needed for ME!
Date published: 2017-01-28
Rated 5 out of
So glad I found this podcast
As a wife of an alcoholic who happens to be in the helping professions as a career; I find this podcast to be helpful for women because it is simple to follow and and provides very good guidelines in how to help oneself when living with a husband who has this disease. I really enjoyed today's podcast because it reminded me that women who love a person who is in addiction cannot follow the same relationship advice as couples who are not dealing with addiction in their relationship. Like Lisa, I have studied a lot of material on alcohol abuse/alcoholism personally and professionally and I truly have realized that this type of relationship has it's own rules and guidelines that need to be followed if one wants to get better- regardless whether or not the husband/partner gets better or not. For those professional women out there like myself who has found themselves in an addictive relationship- do not be ashamed to ask for help. As professionals- we are the ultimate fixers,; but often to the detriment of ourselves. We have to love ourselves first! Michelle Lisa, you have reminded me that it is okay to seek help too! I am definitely considering joining your program for myself and so I can refer your program to my clients who may be going through similar issues. Thanks for being brave enough to start this movement.
Date published: 2017-01-08