Wife of An Alcoholic: Happiness | Loving An Alcoholic | Codependency| Michelle Lisa Anderson
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If you’re the wife of an an alcoholic or substance abuser you are not powerless over his addiction. You don’t need to wait for him to get sober to start to feel happiness. Join us for encouragement, hope and some fun (because recovery doesn’t need to be all depressing).
How to feel love, joy and happiness while loving an alcoholic or substance abuser. If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when he’s been drinking or using drugs and worried this roller coaster ride will never end – we can help.
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Don’t Make These 3 Mistakes When You're Angry
6 days ago
It’s normal to feel angry when he lies to you about how much he’s had to drink or if he’s taken drugs. It’s normal to feel angry after he’s promised you he’ll stop and then you find out he’s started his bad habits again. It’s normal to feel angry even after he’s sober at all the pain and untrust you’re still trying to work though. It’s ok to feel anger. Instead of beating yourself up about it or even worse, letting your anger eat away at you, here are 3 helpful tips how to deal with your anger. 1. Don’t yell or try to have a discussion when you're angry: Put yourself in time out. I know one mom who used to hide herself under a blanket. She had little kids so she couldn’t leave the room but she would just go into her own little world under a blanket and take deep breaths. She would read her bible or listen to music or pray. Whatever it takes, do it. I used to walk away and lock myself in the bathroom. If I could, I would draw a warm bubble bath, put on some good music and think about all the wonderful things I’m grateful for. I refused to let this disease bring me down. 2. Don’t own his hurtful words: Let him have the last word and “think” that he’s won. If he starts giving you excuses or blaming you and you can’t walk away, just keep your mouth shut. You can’t argue with him when he’s the only one doing the talking. Think of something else while he is unloading. Don’t take ownership of any of it. Even if there is some truth to what he’s saying, in order for you to listen, he needs to be kind and respectful in his words and tone. Anything less, should be ignored. Repeat in your head, I’m giving this back to you, I’m not owning this, I’m giving it back to you. 3. Don’t work yourself up even more. Take 15 minutes and make a playlist (a list of songs on your phone or tablet) for when you feel angry. It should be filled with your favorite soothing music. Spend ten dollars on yourself and purchase a few new songs. (If you have a hard time spending money on yourself maybe this will help: 10 dollars is the cost of 3
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Date published: 2015-12-01