Wife of An Alcoholic: Recovery | Loving An Alcoholic | Codependency| Michelle Lisa Anderson
About This Show
If you’re the wife of an an alcoholic or substance abuser you are not powerless over his addiction. You don’t need to wait for him to get sober to start to feel happiness. Join us for encouragement, hope and some fun (because recovery doesn’t need to be all depressing).
How to feel love, joy and happiness while loving an alcoholic or substance abuser. If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when he’s been drinking or using drugs and worried this roller coaster ride will never end – we can help.
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Should You Tell Other People About His Disease?
2 days ago
There is a new movement going on about addiction. The men and women who are in recovery are speaking out about their addiction. They are trying to break the stigma that addiction is a shameful disease and something we need to keep a secret. And I am so amazingly proud of all the ones who are brave enough to publicly declare their victory over addiction. There are so many benefits to claiming your struggles and sharing with the world how you got better and found help. But I am still worried. Because the ones that love them are still suffering in the backgrounds. We are in the shadows quietly waiting for our loved ones to recover. We are hoping with every ounce of our being that one day all this pain, all this rejection and this suffering will bring us closer together with the ones we love. We want a happy ending just as much (and sometimes more than) the ones who are addicted. So where is our moment of public victory? Is it really our victory to claim? THEY are the ones who are not choosing to drink or use drugs anymore - how can we claim any credit for that? And what about if they have no victory to claim? Will we always just be struggling in the shadows? Afraid to tell anyone what’s going on in our family? For how long will we keep smiling when we feel like crying? How long do we act like it’s ok, we’re ok because they were sober 2 days out of the week? It’s a tough place to be… we can’t control their sobriety but we don’t feel it’s our place to share with others since it might shame them. But here’s my truth (and you can decide for yourself): I know, for sure, that addiction THRIVES on secrecy. That way it always remains in control. And the ability for outside influencers to help are very small. If we keep this disease a secret - addiction wins. The other fact that I feel comfortable claiming is that this disease is a FAMILY disease. It’s happening to us just as much as it’s happening to them. When they are trying to hang on for one more day - we can’t stop worrying if they can hang on for one more day. We usually structure our lives around their addiction. Can’t go
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Wife of an alcoholic 12
I have spent past year watching my spouse fall apart in this disease, but frankly it is me whom has lost herself, i have health problems, anxiety now and so much more. Our marriage is in shambles i have tried pastor, friends, books recently but still struggle to find the strength inside to move on. Afraid i am doing the right thing or worried about him despite horrible way he treats me!! I have listened to you for 2 days straight and cried like a baby. I finally feel like someone undestands. Thank you!! I have felt so hopeless, you are giving me strength. Thank you so much
Date published: 2016-12-28
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I needed this !!! Thank You! Thank You!!!!!
I love this podcast. I surrender today, tonight and always. Its nice how I can listen once he's passed out.
Date published: 2015-12-01
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So glad to stumble onto your website!
I was at the end of my rope, literally. Every time he fell off the wagon I would fall into despair, anxiety, and panic. There would be a huge blow up, tears and blame. He would always insist that I take blame, partial blame as he called it, for his drinking or the aftermath that ensued afterwards. I was suicadal, wanting it to stop, just stop feeling and dealing. Now I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel with no antidepressants, anxiety and panic attack pills. Just listening has motivated me to stop focusing on him, focus on me, my wants, my dreams, my hopes and my happiness. Thank you! I am reaching out to the right people and getting the help I needed for ME!
Date published: 2017-01-28
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So glad I found this podcast
As a wife of an alcoholic who happens to be in the helping professions as a career; I find this podcast to be helpful for women because it is simple to follow and and provides very good guidelines in how to help oneself when living with a husband who has this disease. I really enjoyed today's podcast because it reminded me that women who love a person who is in addiction cannot follow the same relationship advice as couples who are not dealing with addiction in their relationship. Like Lisa, I have studied a lot of material on alcohol abuse/alcoholism personally and professionally and I truly have realized that this type of relationship has it's own rules and guidelines that need to be followed if one wants to get better- regardless whether or not the husband/partner gets better or not. For those professional women out there like myself who has found themselves in an addictive relationship- do not be ashamed to ask for help. As professionals- we are the ultimate fixers,; but often to the detriment of ourselves. We have to love ourselves first! Michelle Lisa, you have reminded me that it is okay to seek help too! I am definitely considering joining your program for myself and so I can refer your program to my clients who may be going through similar issues. Thanks for being brave enough to start this movement.
Date published: 2017-01-08