The conversation continues as callers seek advice on whether or not to cut ties with family or significant others who have caused psychological injuries by demeaning, devaluing, destroying and discarding. "Hurt people" hurt people, and oftentimes spew their psychological poison on their children and significant others. You don't have to be in the line of fire, and it's OK to put yourself first. How much or little contact you want to have with those who have hurt you is an individual choice. Strong boundaries are necessary, and in some cases, a complete cutoff is therapeutic. Watch out for revengeful behavior, and CYAN (cover your ass) to protect yourself.Remember that narcissistic parents can create negative core beliefs in people such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm worthless and unlovable" as examples. Being around them can easily trigger these negative core beliefs and re-injure. The best intervention is to work on the core of the self, clear out past childhood wounds, and deactivate the triggers.