One in 4 women and one in 7 men over 18 years old have been the victim of severe physical violence by their intimate partner.There are several red flags that indicate that you are with a potential batterer: Jealousy, controlling behavior, blaming others for their problems, hypersensitivity, breaking objects, isolating you, cruelty to animals or children are some of the signs. Don't walk unless you're willing to walk out, and DO get support. If need be, get legal help and social support, and know that you are worthy of being in a healthy relationship. The CAUSE of domestic violence patters are laid down during the first few years of life. Watching parents hurt each other and being exposed to abuse can set you up to tolerate it. It is important to identify wounds of childhood, dismantle them, and morph out of old blueprints so that you don't repeat the patterns.