The Living Experiment: Rethink Your Choices. Reclaim Your Life.
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Join Dallas Hartwig and Pilar Gerasimo for this series of smart, rollicking, no-BS conversations about healthy, happy, conscious living — plus real-life "experiments" to help you discover the practical shifts that work best for you.
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Episode 19: Mansplaining
6 days ago
This week on The Living Experiment, we're talking about "mansplaining" — that dynamic where men sometimes explain things to women in condescending, clueless, or less-than-respectful ways. Perhaps a man persists in explaining something that a woman already knows. Perhaps he talks over her attempts to express her own point of view. Or perhaps he holds forth in some way that generally does not honor his listener as an equal. Mansplaining has become a popular term and a hot topic over the past few years, and because it's such an common source of stress and strife in our world, we also see it as an important and under-recognized health issue. So in this episode, we talk about the origins of the word "mansplaining." We share our personal experiences with it and discuss how increasing our awareness of it can help men and women communicate in more constructive, mutually satisfying ways. Finally, we serve up some experiments to help you notice how mansplaining might be showing up in your life — and what you can do about it. "Mansplaining" Episode Highlights Dallas's eye-opening (and sometimes disturbing) journey through Rebecca Solnit's book, Men Explain Things to Me (4:00) Defining the term "mansplaining" — via examples and Solnit’s own words (9:00) How the mansplaining dynamic can create a chronic, internalized stress that may manifest as physical illness (11:10) Pilar's experiences with mansplaining at work (12:55) and in a dating relationship (15:25) The ways that women's pent-up frustrations may suddenly surface, and why those eruptions tend to have less-than-healthy outcomes (18:15) How mansplaining was modeled and adopted in Dallas's family (20:10) The devaluing of women's experience and knowledge, by both the man doing the mansplaining and the woman being mansplained to (21:25) A recent mansplaining incident in Pilar's current relationship (23:30) Practical solutions for men and women, beginning with awareness (26:10) Pilar's perspective shift transitioning from a women's college to a workplace where men ran the show (26:55) Dallas's key takeaways from his new awareness of mansplaining — the consequences of devaluing the unique and critical perspective of half of the human race (28:35) The intersection of three themes from episodes of The Living Experiment