Dear Dougy Podcast: conversations about grief and loss
About This Show
Drawing from over 30 years of stories and wisdom from grieving children, teens, and adults, the Dear Dougy Podcast is opening up the conversation about dying, death, and bereavement. As humans, we all experience loss during our lives, but often find ourselves lost and unsure when it comes to navigating the grief that follows. Whether you’re grieving a death, or wanting to support someone who is, the Dear Dougy Podcast can help explore your questions about grief.
Produced by the staff of The Dougy Center in Portland, Oregon, the Dear Dougy Podcast is a mostly-question-and-answer conversation, and occasionally includes other visitors in the field of dying, death, and bereavement.
Have a question to ask? Send it our way at email@example.com, with the word ‘podcast’ somewhere in the subject line.
Most Recent Episode
E038: What Helps When You're Grieving - Ideas For Body, Mind, and Spirit
Jana is joined by Dougy Center staff member, Heather Dorfman, to talk about what helps (or might help) in grief, outside the realm of more formal support. As you listen to this episode, keep in mind: These ideas may help for some, not others. What’s helpful can be unique for each person and very much informed by culture and other identities (just like grief). Some may have more options around taking care of self and children than others. Support people can focus their efforts on creating opportunities for their grieving loved ones to engage in self-care and compassion. Grief is holistic – involves emotions, body, mind, spirit/heart, community/relationships. Engaging in intentional activities to support each of these dimensions can be helpful. Consider writing down the ideas you’d like to try - it can sometimes be tough to remember them in the moment they’re needed. If accepting help from others is challenging, consider that your acceptance of support is often experienced as such a gift by your friend or loved one – so do it for their sake if necessary! Body/movement – Grief can show up in our bodies as sluggishness, excess energy, stomach and sleep upsets Walking, hiking or otherwise moving and spending time outside Dancing, yoga, swimming Punching pillows/bed Knitting Setting a fitness goal that is safe for you Pay attention to what sorts of foods help with stomach upsets, and activities that help with settling into sleep and staying asleep at night. Mind – May experience a slow/foggy feeling in the brain, inability to concentrate/focus, confusion, rumination. Activities that help with focus, connection, and slowing things down can help. Learning/sharing new facts. Making calculations – concrete activities Reading (grief-related and non-grief books), podcasts, tv shows Meditating Crosswords/word searches/Sudoku/other games Debating Emotional/spiritual/social – Many receive support from a spiritual or other community. Your community might look like being in the trees, at the ocean, in a gym or library, participating in a support group, mosque, temple or church. Here are some other ideas: Meditation Ceremony/ritual, which can offer a sense of control, routine/structure